| 12/13/2007 12:46:10 AM |
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darkangel53010
Campbellsport, WI
age: 23
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I have kinda a personal question. When is the best time to let your date or who ever you are with that you cannot have children? I know you don't want to say it too soon cause I have had alot of men freak and I wasn't good enough anymore...I'm only 23 and having to deal with this alone...any ideas would help....thanks
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| 12/13/2007 3:58:03 AM |
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michiganfarmer
Kingsley, MI
age: 38
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You dont have to deal with it alone. There are not onnly men out tere who dont want kids, but also men who are big hearted enough to love you no matter what your reproductive capacity is.
I think you need to tell the guy at soon as you feel like he might be something special, even if that means on the first date.
There are many warm sunny days ahead of you. Smile and be happy.
[Edited 12/13/2007 3:59:33 AM]
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| 12/13/2007 4:00:28 AM |
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queenoftheroad
Cuba, MO
age: 43
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hi girl
if your not getting engaged to this date.
I wouldn't think it was their business to know that much into YOU
dating is learning game, that couples play.
wait and save your surprise for guy you are goin to marry.
otherwise, guys run their mouth, it might start stories about you, that you never thought possible
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| 12/13/2007 4:03:26 AM |
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michiganfarmer
Kingsley, MI
age: 38
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Cynical. Nice.
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| 12/13/2007 4:06:29 AM |
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pirate72
Clinton, IN
age: 35
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Um, yeah, I would give queen's advice a miss. Saving a "surprise" like that for your wedding day is up there on the list of all time HUGE deceptions, right underneath "I'm already married." That's not the way you want to start off a union. I agree with farmer...tell him as soon as you think he's more than just a booty call. He has the right to know that, and decide if having kids is more important to him than being with a great gal. To deny him that isn't fair to him, and it isn't fair to you. Besides, there are so many kids out there that need to be adopted!
~Pirate~
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| 12/13/2007 7:55:43 AM |
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skunkbreath
Saint James, MO
age: 88
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Again!!!???..that was word for word what i was going to say..!!!!!!
i gotta get a faster connection!!!.
do i get any credit?..1/4 credit?.
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| 12/13/2007 8:06:30 AM |
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lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
age: 49
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children are a blessing from heaven, true love is a gift as well, if push came to shove, i would select my true love for her and not her ability to have children...adoption is not a bad option.....but dont ever hide it from him...
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| 12/13/2007 8:10:05 AM |
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junkyardhussy2
Chandler, AZ
age: 55 online now!
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ask him straight out(it doesn't matter when) ask him if he has children and how many and how old if his kids and then if he tells u that his kids are teens and/or older he is not going to want any more (most likely) then go from there . sometimes a man If he mentions he would like to have children u need to be right out front with him. Honesty is the best policy.
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| 12/13/2007 9:20:25 AM |
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froggienm
Albuquerque, NM
age: 36
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I feel for you girl! I really do! I have the same problem and have been dealing with it my whole life too and I am quite a bit older than you! that is a hard thing to have to break to someone, but I have found that the more you have to do it, the easier it gets to tell someone. We are a bit alike in this area, you and I....... 
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| 12/13/2007 10:02:31 AM |
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from_scratch
Lewisburg, TN
age: 36
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I would let your partner know as soon as yall' start throwing out the " I LOVE YOU'S ". Dont worry there are plenty of men that do not want children, but if it were me, it be one of the first things i would tell somebody before it got any deeper in the relationship, so they would know up front and not have a bomb dropped on them a year into the relationship....
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| 12/13/2007 10:27:19 AM |
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sherry47r
Gladewater, TX
age: 47
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tell them when your ready & if they flake then they weren't the right one. then just go out & find mr. right. he's out there. don't let someone elses issues make u feel bad. u r worth more
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| 12/13/2007 10:31:26 AM |
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lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
age: 49
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JMO but i dont agree with sherry at all, in a relationship, there should never be anything hidden..and for the he is not right for you because he may flake out, i again disagree, if it was hidden from the beginning, she was a fraud. And if the relationship has a solid foundation, it wont matter..me personally would not want to hear about this a few months into the relationship..but again JMO
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| 12/13/2007 10:37:10 AM |
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sweetromie
Sunderland, MA
age: 46
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I myself can not have children (anymore) and I tell my partner right away or at least I find out what their thought is on having children, I don't think if they say they really want them that you have to break up with them, theres so many other options to having children, my daughter and future son in law, plan on having one of their own and adopting 3 more.
Best of luck to you sweetie.
Hugs 
~Romie~
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| 12/13/2007 10:37:43 AM |
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elfiegirl
Jacksonville, FL
age: 53 online now!
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Put it in your profile. That way...there will NEVER
be any misunderstandings and they men who contact you
will be doing it because they want to know more about
YOU!!!! JMO
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| 12/13/2007 10:43:36 AM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 36
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actually,being there are so many men out there that don't want to have kids,it probably won't be an issue.just be sure to tell before anything serious developes.adoption is a great alternative!
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