| 12/20/2007 2:39:08 AM |
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bocky1019
Newark, DE
age: 50
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I started seeing a just divorced woman in Oct.Met on my birtday after emailing for a few months.We hit it off pretty good and started seing each other 2 -3 times a week when ever we could.Now she tells me she is having problems feeling good about herself from her ex always saying she was this or that and is also wanting to contact someone she saw before her marriage.I know she cares about me and I her,but I cant sit around waiting for her to decides what she wants.What to do???
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| 12/20/2007 11:50:37 AM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46
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If you care about this person then patience is needed. I know that after my 1st divorce after been belittled and called names it took some time to love myself again. I still have low confidence in my looks because of that marriage. I know I like to hear from a man that I am with that he thinks I'm beautiful in his eyes for it boost confidence. 
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| 12/20/2007 4:13:59 PM |
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bocky1019
Newark, DE
age: 50
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I have told her she has a wonderful body and is a great looking woman..I guess its just going to take time for her.
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| 12/20/2007 4:21:18 PM |
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angelleyess
Middleboro, MA
age: 35 online now!
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she wants too contact someone as in dating???????????????
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| 12/20/2007 4:25:50 PM |
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bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 48 online now!
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Sounds to me like she just needs time to herself. When I was divorced I rushed right out and started dating as soon as I could. Than I realized it is just too soon. I met a lot of decent women....but I just wasn't ready for them. Perhaps she is feeling the same way. I think you should keep in touch with her but agree to see other people.
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| 12/20/2007 4:37:28 PM |
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angelleyess
Middleboro, MA
age: 35 online now!
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very good advice 
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| 12/20/2007 4:50:51 PM |
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babs218
Brick, NJ
age: 54
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i hope it works out for you...but i say back off a little...women are like men in a way they want you more if you're unavailable
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| 12/20/2007 5:55:02 PM |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 44
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Hey Chopper, You are BEAUTIFUL! Inside and out.
Bocky, I just hope for you that you are not her rebound guy. The first guy after a divorce is usually going to end up in the gutter. She had so much going on during the divorce that she grabbed onto the first person that gave her any support. As time progresses she might think its time to go out and play the field.. To see what's out there. Then she'll want to go out and play the field because she has been "imprisoned" (in her own mind) by marriage and some assh*&%. I hope I'm wrong, but I have seen this happen to me.
Give her some space and remain supportive as she cycles through the stages after her divorce. Maybe she will figure out that you are the one. Don't get too attached, I'm sure it's too late for that, prepare yourself for the fall if that's whats going to happen.
Good luck Bro
[Edited 12/20/2007 5:56:36 PM]
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| 12/20/2007 7:24:43 PM |
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bocky1019
Newark, DE
age: 50
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Thanks all for the advice.Angel..she told me that she started emailing this guy she was with before her divorce,started as small talk and then he sent her an email this past Friday and I think there was more to it.Heck the guy is still married.Ive been thru this with just divorced women before but I didnt think I was the first guy she saw during her separation,maybe the first one she liked.I think I will back off,its kinda pissin" me off anyway about the contacting another man.I can deal with just not wanting to see me as much,but wanting to see someone else,well I can do that too.
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| 12/21/2007 1:07:57 AM |
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crazygal7
Victoria
Australia
age: 40
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Hey bocky sorry 2 hear ur going thru that 2 me its unfair wether she's only newly divorced or not ..... 2 have u & want 2 be in contact with another wether he be frm her past or not is not being at all fair 2 u .. more 2 the point this other guy is still married .. whats wrong with this women? U deserve better bocky my own personal opinion ... start looking 4 a new companion ... 
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| 12/21/2007 4:36:03 PM |
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bocky1019
Newark, DE
age: 50
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Thanks for all the advice gang,I think its a conclusion that I let her have time and space to figure herself out and what she wants.I shouldnt of let myself get too attached with someone just separated and going thru a divorce.But sometimes we let our heart rule our brain.If it was meant to be then it will happen.Thanks again..Ed
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| 12/21/2007 4:51:06 PM |
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steak_king
Whitmore Lake, MI
age: 50
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If she's e-mailing a married guy from the past I think you should pass myself, sorry.
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