| 11/29/2009 4:01:48 PM |
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dancinvampiress
Scottsdale, AZ
age: 20
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Why do guys constantly get jealous over my guy friends? Its so dumb and it gets so annoying to be talking to a guy i wanna start a relationship with and the moment a guy friend comes up they get all jealous and possessive ?!! what the hell men!
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| 11/29/2009 4:02:36 PM |
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mzchieviousnaz
Phoenix, AZ
age: 58
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maybe 'cause they've been burned before?
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| 11/29/2009 4:03:58 PM |
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dancinvampiress
Scottsdale, AZ
age: 20
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That shouldnt make it to the point that they make it so i need to choose between my friends and them! its just annoying
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| 11/29/2009 4:16:37 PM |
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mzchieviousnaz
Phoenix, AZ
age: 58
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but what do you do, when your bf introduces you to a gal he considers to be his friend?
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| 11/29/2009 4:20:13 PM |
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dancinvampiress
Scottsdale, AZ
age: 20
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if they are just friends then its cool i dont care, its when the guy starts lieing about who they are or what they are going to do when they all hang out that i get mad
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| 11/29/2009 4:41:09 PM |
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mzchieviousnaz
Phoenix, AZ
age: 58
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And you don't think they don't feel the same way?
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| 11/29/2009 4:44:34 PM |
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beachmermaid50
Chandler, AZ
age: 53
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i have had ,and still have, male friends in my life who are completely plantonic and I cannot live without them. A man that I date has to be secure enough with himself and able to trust me in order to accept the male friends in my life. Sometimes it takes a while for people to gain trust and be able to accept what they might not understand. I like to surround myself with both male and female friends who enhance my life and I thiers. The guys you are dating might not have reached the maturity you seem to already possess. Try to be patient with them and allow them to understand the male companionship you need and assure them of the trust they can rely on you for. If they cannot accept the facts that you present, it is unfortunate and probably rather frustrating for you. May you find yourself with both male and female friends who help to make your world go 'round. Good luck.........
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| 11/29/2009 4:58:55 PM |
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ntraserz
Phoenix, AZ
age: 30
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Its because you're after immature boys, real guys know girls rarely have other female friends, they're always in competition with each other.. Only time I have an issue with male friends is when the friend in question is an ex and they still spend a lot of time together cause that's just suspicious..
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| 11/29/2009 5:02:47 PM |
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nicholasm5581
Phoenix, AZ
age: 29
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Women do the same thing when a guy has a lot of female friends. It goes both ways. It is just that a lot of guys I know do not have a lot of female friends.
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| 11/29/2009 5:09:45 PM |
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russsty
Litchfield Park, AZ
age: 36
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the name of this thread says it all... maybe you should look for men instead of boys
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| 11/29/2009 5:15:23 PM |
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nicholasm5581
Phoenix, AZ
age: 29
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Also, a lot of girls are competitive like the previous guy was talking about. A lot of girls get suspicious when a guy has a lot of female friends because they know other girls are competitive. On the other hand, guys are competitive also. So, when a guy sees another guy talking to a girl he likes, he feels threatened. Additionally, I have met a lot of girls and guys who say they wouldn't get jealous if they met someone they liked and they had friends with the opposite sex. Unfortunately, it ends up untrue; especially, in my experience. Girls will tell me that, so I will talk to my female friends, and then they start to get jealous, start counting the ways I don't treat them how I treat my female friends, start keeping score on the time I talk to my female friends versus them, or they judge the quality of the conversation I have with my female friends and start to get insecure about our relationship. In the end, I think if a person really wants a relationship to actually last longer than a couple years, they have to make sacrifices and commitments. People always trade their lovers for their friends. That is probably why a lot of us are single, honestly. I guess it is probably best to get to know someone as a friend first, that way they get to know our friends also, you know?
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| 11/29/2009 5:18:40 PM |
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nicholasm5581
Phoenix, AZ
age: 29
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Ok, I just have to comment on some of the other guys responding to this post. To me they seem like players who don't really have any honest advice, but will say anything just to get with you. I hate to say that, but from knowing guys on a first-hand basis, these guys sound like sweet talkers.
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| 11/29/2009 5:20:14 PM |
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azmommiex2
Mesa, AZ
age: 28 online now!
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Hmmmm....interesting! 
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| 11/29/2009 5:25:05 PM |
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cowboyupphx
Prescott, AZ
age: 44
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Because guy friends want to sleep with girl friends
Unless there "old friends" maybe...are these guys new friend types? Most men could and should be able to deal with old guy friends - its when new / other guys start to pop into the pic....
And dude above me...lot a guys on this site will offer advice and comments, not a bad bunch and don't think I would classify most as players - that a big assumption  on your part...and a little overboard  - as they were just commenting like you
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| 11/29/2009 5:27:13 PM |
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russsty
Litchfield Park, AZ
age: 36
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ahh cowboy i believe you hit the nail on the head with that one
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| 11/29/2009 5:29:57 PM |
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kyle003p
Queen Creek, AZ
age: 27
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I wouldn't worry too much about it. If someone acts like that, it's probably not someone you want to be dating. The right person should know enough to trust you until he's given a reason not to.
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| 11/29/2009 5:32:45 PM |
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azmommiex2
Mesa, AZ
age: 28 online now!
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^ Ooooo....how you doing!?!?!
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| 11/29/2009 5:35:15 PM |
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cowboyupphx
Prescott, AZ
age: 44
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ahh cowboy i believe you hit the nail on the head with that one
Ya I nailed something...damn just wish it was moving 
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| 11/29/2009 5:35:45 PM |
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russsty
Litchfield Park, AZ
age: 36
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| 11/29/2009 5:37:40 PM |
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nicholasm5581
Phoenix, AZ
age: 29
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cowboyupphx: That is true. I was jumping the gun. I didn't realize this was actually a group of people that knew one another until just a second ago. I was just responding to her post and then went into the forums and figured out a lot of you people know one another. But, I will still say that in my experience the idea is sort of wishful thinking; unless of course people hang-out as groups, which is different. I mean I can see talking on the phone once in awhile, but wanting to go out with a friend of the opposite sex, preferably alone, always makes anyone a little suspicious. Also, some girls are really flirtatious in general. I can see a guy being ok with a girl having guy friends if she isn't all flirty with her guy friend, but a lot of girls don't even realize they are being flirty I guess?
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| 11/29/2009 5:40:06 PM |
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kyle003p
Queen Creek, AZ
age: 27
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^ Ooooo....how you doing!?!?!
eh, up and down
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| 11/29/2009 6:45:07 PM |
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jamesnthe480
Tempe, AZ
age: 25
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it is cause they are immature....
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| 11/29/2009 7:13:45 PM |
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dancinvampiress
Scottsdale, AZ
age: 20
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Thanks for the advice and Cowboy i guess your right and the other dude.. cant remember name one who posted alot.. I agree that going out just one guy and one girl is supspicious but its when i have a guy friend over who i knew for like 4 years and my parents invited and then the guy gets all insecure.... And I know girls are flirty thus why i dont like most females, and i know guys are very competitive and grew up with them which is why i always need my male friends
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| 11/29/2009 7:38:59 PM |
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keeb09
Webb City, MO
age: 19
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dude you are awesome took the words right out of my mouth. But jeliousy is not necesarily a bad thing if someone is jelious that you are hanging out with other guys or guys with girls then it shows either how much they do not want to lose you or it triggers a memory in their minds such as them cheating on you which the result being jeliousy i have seen this many time but i can read body language very well either learn to read when somebody is lying and stick to your guns or invite the guy or girl along with you to hang out with that friend that they are getting jelious about and let them see what your relationship is with them. Man i am good lol jkjk
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| 11/29/2009 7:42:49 PM |
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keeb09
Webb City, MO
age: 19
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girls are a lot like guys whether they want to admit it or not if they see a guy that they think is just sexy and their bf is not with them if he comes up and flirts they will flirt back i do not care what they say they will but theyre are the few of us people (guys/girls) who will not but there is very few.
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| 11/29/2009 7:46:44 PM |
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1krazlatina
Phoenix, AZ
age: 26
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girl dont stress boys!! what you need is a man! a secure one! a boy or a man who is insecure will always trip about u having guy friends just remember your young and love with come to you when its supposed to..until then u have me
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| 11/29/2009 9:05:27 PM |
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6010pilot
Buckeye, AZ
age: 21
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Its all about trust, ur guy dont trust you enough with ur "guy friends" and he don't trust your guy friends with you(which makes it even harder because he knows inside his mind that those guy friends being male most likely if giving the right oppurtunity might steal you from him, because thats what your man would of done if he was one of your guy friends)
So basically you just need to talk to your man about this and prove to him that he dont have anything to worry about.
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| 11/29/2009 9:35:25 PM |
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camilynn
Apache Junction, AZ
age: 57
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Insecurity is a major cause of jealousy in either sex. Many times immaturity goes right along with insecurity. Unless you have solid reasons to be jealous, why bother with that useless emotion. Just something I have learned the hard way over the years..........
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| 11/29/2009 10:09:24 PM |
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aqa540
Laveen, AZ
age: 28
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That shouldnt make it to the point that they make it so i need to choose between my friends and them! its just annoying
not only dudes do that. my ex did that and accused me of cheating. only for me to find out that she was the one cheating. all i got to say is that door swings both ways.
Men can be dogs but so can women.
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| 11/29/2009 11:52:50 PM |
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nicholasm5581
Phoenix, AZ
age: 29
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Ok. Ok. I understand a lot of people here saying it is because guys or girls are "insecure" or "immature", but I think that is an over-generalization. Most of the time it depends on the situation. For example, some people yes, they just are insecure in general. Other times a person is not necessarily insecure with themselves but sometimes they are just suspicious because the person they are dating is very flirtatious with the opposite sex. I mean, if I am suspicious of a girl that I am dating because she is hanging all over other guys then it isn't because I am insecure with myself. It is because I don't feel like I could trust her based on her behavior, and I don't want to waste my time on someone who is questionable. Also, sometimes situations are just uncomfortable. I mean, if I go to a girl's house, the parents invite over her friend, and her friend and her apparently are "very" close, like they like eachother but won't openly admit it, or are in denial, then that is a little uncomfortable. I mean I wouldn't bring it up personally, but I would definitely note it. But, honestly, saying that someone is secure and "mature" just because they are willing to ignore any danger signs, makes it questionable if they are really mature after all. I mean, if I see my girlfriend hugging on some guy and whispering in his ear seductively, I am not going to wait to see him sticking it in her to get the point. Ya know? I just think it depends on the situation. I mean, I don't know how close you are to your guy friends, but I can say that I have met some girls who are in denial or something. Like, they have the guys around because they "like" guys (emphasis on the like), but aren't willing to admit that is the real reason they are around. She says, "oh, he is just a friend," but then when she is dancing on the dance floor she looks like she is seducing him or something. I didn't know friends dance like that for one another! Haha.
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| 11/30/2009 7:53:52 PM |
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azfunsun43
Glendale, AZ
age: 46
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Here's the source of your problem........
What is it about boys
not men
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