| 12/29/2007 9:29:17 PM |
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stylist7
Richmond, KY
age: 39
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Wow, I must say that even though I have not been on Date Hook Up but a few days I am learning quickly that there are extremely high expectations about email response times. I received an email I read it and saved it, I had sent out a wink and the email was in response to that wink. After reading the email I received a call from my son who was at work. He had locked his keys up in his car while on his lunch break and needed me to bring the spare keys to unlock his door. I of course left imediately to help my son. I returned home with in a couple of hours, I checked my email and found a letter from the wink I sent out telling me not to email them back because I had allowed several hours go by and they still had not received a response. I kindly emailed them back and tried to explain that I had to leave for a little while and that I was sorry they felt the way they did. I acknowledged there request as to not responding and wished them a good day. Before I could push the send button I received another email from this person telling me how I had not responded because I was not interested, I believe they felt that I thought they were not good looking enough or young enough and that if I had of been truly interested I would have responded instantly when they sent me an email response. I in return sent a friendly reminder to the person in question that it was I who had sent out the first wink and had I not been interested in them I would not have sent a wink in the first place. I also told them that before they go being so judgemental and falling into the rejection mold that they should allow a person the benefit of the doubt. Give them enough time to respond. I try to respond to everyone who emails me. I believe in respecting people and if I am not interested I will at least acknowledge that person with a thank you. I am not perfect and probally in all actual reality am not able to respond to each and every person; but I am going to try my best to be polite. So tell me what do you think about this situation? what is a valid time to respond to an email? Is there a time limit? What ever happen to the excitement of the unknown? LilRed
[Edited 12/29/2007 9:32:10 PM]
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| 12/29/2007 9:32:34 PM |
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nopretense
Harleysville, PA
age: 47
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There isn't a time limit. Different people have different expectations but you have to do what works for you.
The guy who expressed impatience is high maintenance and you should be glad you found that out without investing any more time in corresponding with him.
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| 12/29/2007 9:34:29 PM |
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lattml
Hazleton, PA
age: 41
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I don't think there is a time limit. I think you're dealing with a psycho. Actually, I don't expect to get a response to an e-mail for a day or two - people do have lives aways from their computers! If your e-mail account has a blocker, use it on this guy and forget about it. I'd think that he's in a small minority; I can't imagine most people expect you to respond within minutes. That's not realistic and definitely psycho!
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| 12/29/2007 9:35:14 PM |
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stylist7
Richmond, KY
age: 39
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Yes, I felt that they might have been something not right, I did see the red flags go up....I was kind and polite but felt that he was a bit pushy. Thanks Nopretense for your thoughts. This is all new for me and your right it is and should be what I am comfortable with. LilRed
[Edited 12/29/2007 9:35:46 PM]
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| 12/29/2007 9:38:20 PM |
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stylist7
Richmond, KY
age: 39
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Thanks for your thoughts and advice lattml. I truly felt inside that this person would hurt someone or atleast the red flags I saw go up made me truly aware that something was not right. LilRed
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| 12/29/2007 9:42:41 PM |
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uh_huh
West Palm Beach, FL
age: 35
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I don't get my shorts in a wad if I don't hear back immediately... People have lives to attend to for pitty sake... Patience, people....
I give it at least a couple days before I write someone off...
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| 12/29/2007 9:42:57 PM |
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stylist7
Richmond, KY
age: 39
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Nopretense you have a great profile. by the way my name is Nancy...and, "it never scared me".
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| 12/29/2007 9:43:12 PM |
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roundhouse
Phoenix, AZ
age: 43
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Just be who you are. You seem very nice and thoughtful..... I don't live "online" and I try to be responsive to emails and winks-when I receive them. They ARE pretty neat when they happen. You did the right thing! First things First!!!!
Roundhouse in Phoenix, Arizona
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| 12/29/2007 9:44:41 PM |
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stylist7
Richmond, KY
age: 39
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I agree uh_huh, I think a couple of days is a nice time for a response. People do have lives and unfortunately not everyone has developed the skill of patience. LilRed
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| 12/29/2007 9:47:48 PM |
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stylist7
Richmond, KY
age: 39
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Awww...thank you roundhouse for saying that, you are attentive. I am learning quickly. It has not scarred me away but I am going to be more aware. LilRed
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