| 12/17/2009 8:14:11 PM |
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hopein08
Jackson, NJ
age: 43
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well this year again I will be spending Christmas Day afternoon and evening alone. WOuld have been alone last year too but ex made a last minute better choice for the kids and stayed here to give them their gifts. I won't elaborate on the details with all that now.
Anyway, I feel it coming up again the ALONE FOR CHRISTMAS situation and not sure if I am ok with is. Sure I imagine some friends would extend an invite if they find out I will be alone but that's not what I want to intrude on someone else's family time. I don't belong there ya know.
So just not sure how to feel or handle it. Anyone else ever actually "Alone" for christmas ?
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| 12/17/2009 8:17:30 PM |
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richardcollier
Upper Marlboro, MD
age: 52
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I've been alone before on Christmas, it wasn't a very pleasant feeling. My kids are going to be with me in the morning, so that will make my day.
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| 12/17/2009 8:19:31 PM |
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librajason
Towanda, KS
age: 35
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I was alone the last 3 x-mas'....will be on this one too. Y a get used to it. Keep your head up.
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| 12/17/2009 8:29:32 PM |
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twohawks
Bothell, WA
age: 71
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I've been alone on Christmas (and Thanksgiving) more times than I can count. To me it's no big deal anymore.
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| 12/17/2009 8:33:08 PM |
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justpolitics
Janesville, WI
age: 46
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If you believe in Christmas, you are never alone. Some don't get it. But some do. You are never alone. jmo Peace and Merry Christmas.
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| 12/17/2009 8:37:34 PM |
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waterbarer
Lecanto, FL
age: 50
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Been alone for more christmases than i can count has'ent bothered me yet.
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| 12/17/2009 8:38:04 PM |
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twohawks
Bothell, WA
age: 71
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Actually when you are by yourself...you are not alone. You are with yourself.....Right? You are someone.....Right Hence: You are not alone!
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| 12/17/2009 8:39:48 PM |
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crow09
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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On Christmas I will have my bed and my pillows..so I won't be alone 
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| 12/17/2009 8:40:44 PM |
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snhgirl
Scottsboro, AL
age: 80
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I will be with my kids that morning.New Years I have been alone to many years to count.I am use to it now.
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| 12/17/2009 8:54:20 PM |
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justpolitics
Janesville, WI
age: 46
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well this year again I will be spending Christmas Day afternoon and evening alone. Would have been alone last year too but ex made a last minute better choice for the kids and stayed here to give them their gifts. I won't elaborate on the details with all that now.
Anyway, I feel it coming up again the ALONE FOR CHRISTMAS situation and not sure if I am ok with is. Sure I imagine some friends would extend an invite if they find out I will be alone but that's not what I want to intrude on someone Else's family time. I don't belong there ya know.
So just not sure how to feel or handle it. Anyone else ever actually "Alone" for Christmas ?
Then don't be alone. Christmas is about helping those who have nothing. Volunteer at the local food line, or day care center. People that say they are alone at Christmas, usually choose to be alone. There is a whole word of giving needed out there. jmo
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| 12/17/2009 8:57:13 PM |
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snhgirl
Scottsboro, AL
age: 80
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Thanksgiving I volunteered to cook this year,sent my kids to see family in Boston.It was a very satisfying day.Alot of people are alone for the holidays,volunteer and you will feel better.I plan on doing it again.
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| 12/17/2009 8:58:59 PM |
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crow09
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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I am going too Orlando for the Holidays 
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| 12/17/2009 9:03:02 PM |
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snhgirl
Scottsboro, AL
age: 80
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Hey ,you could help me count them hookers! It's a game I picked up down here.And you get extra points for naming which is male or female.
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| 12/17/2009 9:06:47 PM |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 49
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I've been alone on Christmas (and Thanksgiving) more times than I can count. To me it's no big deal anymore.
Hey, TwoHawks. I will be alone too. If there's some place open, and you'd like to chat, send me an email here.
But, it doesn't bother me. My kids will get their gifts on Dec 24., and then they're off to their mother's.
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| 12/17/2009 9:58:59 PM |
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lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 40
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You reap what you sow.
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| 12/17/2009 10:11:23 PM |
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crash76446
Dublin, TX
age: 42
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holla
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| 12/18/2009 3:49:25 AM |
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crow09
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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Hey ,you could help me count them hookers! It's a game I picked up down here.And you get extra points for naming which is male or female.
..Kind like slug bug......
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| 12/18/2009 5:08:44 AM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 46
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If you believe in Christmas, you are never alone. Some don't get it. But some do. You are never alone. jmo Peace and Merry Christmas.
I get it.
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| 12/18/2009 5:19:21 AM |
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phina1
Walton, KY
age: 49
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Anyone else ever actually "Alone" for christmas ?
Christmas is the "gift of giving" . . . volunteer ~ it's good for the soul !
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| 12/18/2009 5:36:04 AM |
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badger_of_death
Houston, TX
age: 43
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OP...go out don't sit in the house...plenty of places open in the afternoon. (EDIT: erm at least around here there is).
[Edited 12/18/2009 5:36:17 AM ]
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| 12/18/2009 6:24:57 AM |
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hitman_13
Paris, TN
age: 42
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I was alone the last 3 x-mas'....will be on this one too. Y a get used to it. Keep your head up.
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| 12/18/2009 6:27:49 AM |
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oceandive
Atlanta, GA
age: 53
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we could all have a 'dh lonely hearts' party and console each other....or get drunk....or dance.....or eat very fattening food.....or uhmmmmmmmm.....talk about the first thing that pops up.... .....oh friggit.....we could do them all...... ......my number is BR549 if anyone wants to spend christmas with me....
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| 12/18/2009 8:10:20 AM |
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wolfi
Albuquerque, NM
age: 45
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If you have pets (or even farm animals), you're not alone.
It's just another day, really.
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| 12/18/2009 8:21:09 AM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 46
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If you have pets (or even farm animals), you're not alone.
It's just another day, really.
Got that right. You're only lonely if you choose to be. Even when I am alone I have plenty to keep me busy.
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| 12/18/2009 10:14:01 AM |
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ladyeden
Waynesville, MO
age: 50
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Since it's your first alone it sounds like - either do as some posters have suggested and volunteer to brighten the day for others - it will lift you!
Or......
Plan a spoil yourself day and get decadent doing for you! We often don't take enough time for ourselves. Plan on cooking or noshing out on your favorites. Give yourself a gift of some wonderful soft fluffy thing to wear (or what ever floats yer boat). Buy a couple movies and or some new CD's. Exotic bubblebath and candles anyone? Pamper your azz!
ME days can be awesome!!!!
What you don't want to do is sit, mope and brood on it. That's a bummer. Booze is also not usually a good idea - a depressant you know.
[Edited 12/18/2009 10:14:47 AM ]
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| 12/18/2009 11:30:29 AM |
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valelvet
Boca Raton, FL
age: 47
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I've been home alone for some years now. Like the others said, you get use to it. But pamper yourself! Put on the music and dance, eat and watch movies.. just make the best of the situation. Don't let not having a partner, put you in the blues mood. You are the significant other right? Also try hanging out with other singles. It's just another day. GOD is with you... you're not alone... just a little lonely.
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| 12/18/2009 3:17:11 PM |
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crash76446
Dublin, TX
age: 42
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word
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| 12/18/2009 3:21:53 PM |
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snhgirl
Scottsboro, AL
age: 80
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Wouldn't it been nice if we could all do what Ocean suggested?
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| 12/18/2009 3:23:02 PM |
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crash76446
Dublin, TX
age: 42
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true dat
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| 12/18/2009 5:39:32 PM |
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satinsky2
Charlotte, NC
age: 61
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I have been fortunate, never have I been Alone at Christmas. This year, my kids and their family will be here. I feel so sad for anyone Alone at Christmas
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| 12/18/2009 7:20:53 PM |
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liberallady
Lodi, CA
age: 50
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I'll be working on Christmas Day getting paid overtime. My big family thing is on Xmas Eve. The last couple of years I've woken up on Christmas morning at my sister's house with a bunch of pressies from "Santa", and a wonderful breakfast, it's great.
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| 12/18/2009 7:52:31 PM |
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jazleen0
Bronx, NY
age: 33
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what about your family?
I dont have a boyfriend but i have my kids, family and friends
Sure I imagine some friends would extend an invite if they find out I will be alone but that's not what I want to intrude on someone else's family time
christmas is all about being with the ones you love, dont have to be a family member
just go out and have fun, good friends are like family
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| 12/18/2009 9:10:30 PM |
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hopein08
Jackson, NJ
age: 43
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Then don't be alone. Christmas is about helping those who have nothing. Volunteer at the local food line, or day care center. People that say they are alone at Christmas, usually choose to be alone. There is a whole word of giving needed out there. jmo
The first Christmas I was alone I did actually reach out to a local food bank to help serve and was told they did NOT need any more help. So that was discouraging. I am very active with my church and have no problem volunteering my time if I could find something to do. I don't have alot of time overall so can reach out to see if they know of any place that would need some help for the hours I will have available but I don't have alot of time now before the holidays to do any major research and digging to find something.
thanks for reminding me though to try again.
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| 12/18/2009 9:12:02 PM |
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hopein08
Jackson, NJ
age: 43
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You reap what you sow.
What is that suppossed to me in relevance to my post ????? Or just a comment to upset me like being alone is ALL my fault ??
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| 12/19/2009 12:59:07 AM |
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crash76446
Dublin, TX
age: 42
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Alone at Christmas is sad........When it is not my year to hav my kid i go out somewhere.....but it is still lonely.......Merry Christmas everybody.......
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| 12/19/2009 4:08:56 AM |
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itsclear
Fort Mohave, AZ
age: 48
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your children are there so you wont be alone
If all you want is a man you could find one in 3 seconds
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| 12/19/2009 4:30:21 AM |
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jerrick1962
Houston, TX
age: 47
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I get it miss hopein08, being alone for christmas is less about wwhether others are there physically as much as it represents aother time when one wishes that he or she had a partner to recognize the holiday for it's blessing & glory but also having the feeling that you have someone once the holiday has ended to share the rest of the year through as well. christmas & new years represent the end of one year & the newness of the next. if leading into this year was not exactly filled with joy, heading onto a new one can be lonely & fearful. I have no words of wisdom to give ya, I can only say keep day-dreaming of how you picture your life to be going. if you stop dreaming i believe you stop living.
CJII
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| 12/19/2009 5:41:17 AM |
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hopein08
Jackson, NJ
age: 43
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OP...go out don't sit in the house...plenty of places open in the afternoon. (EDIT: erm at least around here there is).
Couple years ago when I was alone for the first time and not dealing with it very well I did look for some place open and couldn't find anywhere to go. I should have thought of the movies that year.
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| 12/19/2009 5:50:45 AM |
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hopein08
Jackson, NJ
age: 43
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I have been fortunate, never have I been Alone at Christmas. This year, my kids and their family will be here. I feel so sad for anyone Alone at Christmas
Thanks
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| 12/19/2009 6:48:45 AM |
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chucky_t
Akron, IN
age: 62
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I spent many years traveling and living overseas. I was single and away from family for most Holidays. You do get use to it. Just plan a pleasant day for yourself. Do something you enjoy. Make the day about something you enjoy doing alone. Good meal, bubble bath, good movie or book, etc.
Now I have my daughter it just does not seem natural for me to have someone around for the Holidays. I am getting use to it again, but first few years was kind of uncomfortable for me.
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| 12/19/2009 6:15:20 PM |
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lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 40
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Loneliness can strike at anytime.
its just more likely to happen around holiday time, when we are forced into having fun because thats what society wants us to do.
You need to concentrate on what makes you happy.
Look deep into your mind and find those things that please you without interaction.
[Edited 12/19/2009 6:15:50 PM ]
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| 12/19/2009 6:18:51 PM |
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no_doubt_delish
Beaumont, CA
age: 35
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My first question is;
Are your kids going to be with you?
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| 12/19/2009 7:47:12 PM |
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phina1
Walton, KY
age: 49
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Loneliness can strike at anytime.
its just more likely to happen around holiday time, when we are forced into having fun
because thats what society wants us to do.
You need to concentrate on what makes you happy.
Look deep into your mind and find those things that please you without interaction.
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| 12/19/2009 7:56:20 PM |
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bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
age: 48
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I will be working and unable to visit family. None of whom I've seen in a year. I don't have children, and have spent many holidays alone. Have a pity party if you want, but it really is just another day. If you have things to be grateful for on any of the other 364 days in the year, the 25th day of the 12th month is no different.
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| 12/19/2009 8:07:24 PM |
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lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 40
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The little nativity scenes make you feel lonely too if your single.
even the homeless have someone to love and they even gave birth to the son of God.
[Edited 12/19/2009 8:08:10 PM ]
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| 12/19/2009 8:48:50 PM |
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leftfooted
West Covina, CA
age: 51
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If you truly celebrate Christmas,you'll never be alone.
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| 12/19/2009 8:50:23 PM |
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justpolitics
Janesville, WI
age: 46
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The first Christmas I was alone I did actually reach out to a local food bank to help serve and was told they did NOT need any more help. So that was discouraging. I am very active with my church and have no problem volunteering my time if I could find something to do. I don't have alot of time overall so can reach out to see if they know of any place that would need some help for the hours I will have available but I don't have alot of time now before the holidays to do any major research and digging to find something.
thanks for reminding me though to try again.
This year, plenty of charitable organizations need help. I am surprised your church would not put you to work.
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| 12/19/2009 10:09:56 PM |
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zipperlynn
Porterville, CA
age: 40
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I'm sick of being someone's pity trip for Christmas!!!
My family (back in Minnesota) does not celebrate Christmas - my dad is weird and the rest of the family just follows along.
I have no kids, and no mate...
I have spent Christmas's with friends' families before. Not fun... sitting there while they're all opening gifts having family time.
This year, I'm planning on purchasing a nice prime rib, camping out with Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer and my kitty cats... just relaxing. I tried to get an Orphans Christmas started through my Church - but, the concept didn't take off.
Oh well - least I won't have to share my prime rib!
(Edit for: I'd really like to make Minnesota Vikings, Brett Favre jokes, but am completely familiar with how passionate Packers fans are, so will resist the temptation.)
[Edited 12/19/2009 10:11:00 PM ]
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| 12/20/2009 6:17:44 AM |
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lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 40
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Order presents for yourself online ,pre wrapped to arrive on christmas.
And kiss the mailman.it will be just like old times, only kidding lol
[Edited 12/20/2009 6:19:06 AM ]
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| 12/20/2009 7:02:32 AM |
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rondag
Mount Orab, OH
age: 47
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I have also been alone on Christmas and New years eve alot over the years,I'll be the first one to say it bothers me still.It gives me way to much time to reflect over happier times when I was a kid and when things were so much simpler.I still dislike being alone!
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| 12/20/2009 8:39:07 AM |
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lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 40
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Just a Small town girl living in a lonely world. Awwww
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| 12/20/2009 6:08:52 PM |
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csserenity
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 43
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I've been home alone for some years now. Like the others said, you get use to it. But pamper yourself! Put on the music and dance, eat and watch movies.. just make the best of the situation. Don't let not having a partner, put you in the blues mood. You are the significant other right? Also try hanging out with other singles. It's just another day. GOD is with you... you're not alone... just a little lonely.
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| 1/1/2010 7:10:34 PM |
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hopein08
Jackson, NJ
age: 43
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your children are there so you wont be alone
I was alone from when they left till when they came back though.
yeah, I want a man in general but finding one that I want in 3 seconds is just not possible.
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| 1/4/2010 4:17:33 PM |
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keebler3
Phenix, VA
age: 67
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I've been alone for Christmas for many years--Having NO family, but a cat---I'm fine with it.last year I went to williamsburg for 12 days.
I have a 34 ft.Motorhome, tow a car and see the area.
Keebler3.
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