| 1/8/2008 5:21:44 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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I started to write a blog about this.. but decided to simpy post it instead. How many of us has become so addicted to " searching for someone" that if we did find the right person ( we clicked, great spark, etc) would we be able to tell? Or would we be suspicious that it couldn't possibly pan out in the end and not pursue it.. and continue to keep searching? It's an interesting concept to think about. Are we not successful because we don't really want to be? Has the search become such a part of our life that we can't imagine NOT searching anymore?
Hummmmmm.... honest replies?
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| 1/8/2008 5:37:48 PM |
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exlaw
Sneads Ferry, NC
age: 51 online now!
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My search is over now, Hellooo ..wolf whistling out loud
LOL......I don't think while in the search mode of mind, it is possible to find a "Right One".....it is possible to look at the candy wrappers, and pick up a few pieces, but the end reuslts will not be known unless we take time to unwrap the candy and savor the flavor......
I know as far as for myself, I look for physical attraction first,read the profiles, and decide whether to wink or not...I do not instantly email any one, unless it is to compliment them on thier verbosity in the profile, and after winking I wait to see if there is a response....if not, they are not interested in communicating and I move on...I generally try to let the woman make the first approach to communicate.....
As I say a man can't do anything right.......
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| 1/8/2008 5:41:43 PM |
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helloeyes
Enfield, NH
age: 52
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I don't think I am addicted to searching. When I find someone that interests me I stop and take the time to learn as much as I can about them, on DH its read the forums, see how they think and how close our opinions are. From there its contacting and learning more. I guess I am probably guilty of thinking it might not pan out in the end, but its the chance I have to take or live with knowing I never did take the chance and maybe passed on something I felt was unattainable. Alot of people say the search is the fun part, but I don't really think it is, I would rather find the one to spend time with and search for the things that make her happy, or the things that we would enjoy doing together. my 2 cents
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| 1/8/2008 5:47:38 PM |
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peregrina
Lumberton, NC
age: 51
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 I know what you mean sweetheart. It's patetic, you know what you searching for but it seams like a wild goose chase...... I'm tired of it, sincerely, I don't want anyone anymore, is too much hassel, I gave up. So, why I'm still searching? Maybe looking for a miracle.... just wishing we could find a perfect fit  Tru, if you find out share it  in a meanwhile there is the comfort of searching just for search
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| 1/8/2008 5:50:07 PM |
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weaimtoplease
Donalsonville, GA
age: 58
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Definitely not addicted to searching. I go into each and every wink, e-mail or phone call with an open mind. Yes, I would like to find the perfect person for me but until then I am making a whole lot of new friends - both men and women. I'm enjoying every minute of every hour of every day of the rest of my life!
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| 1/8/2008 5:50:10 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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I agree.. the search isn't all that fun lol The chasing and being chased is a game I'd rather not become a pro at
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| 1/8/2008 5:52:21 PM |
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whalemstr
Corning, CA
age: 50
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I personally do not like "searching".
I am here to find people to chat with.
I am still hurting from the past - so probably not the best for a woman still.
In the meantime, I am learning about the me I used to be.
If along the way I do find someone - great!
BTW - those that hide behind trees are sooooo cute!
All of this is something I have been missing by being disabled and shy and not into people. It has allowed me to remember that I am worth something! Maybe not a whole lot, but something! I know I have a lot to offer someone - so I will just have fun while chatting.
I have not been on many other sites and if I do it's only for a short time because of the quality of chatting.
I definitely prefer intelligent conversation with someone that will not blow a gasket when they read something I have written.
Get to fine tune my snappy repartee also!
Plus - the flirting helps my confidence!
Searching - I don’t think so - at least for me.
Would rather stumble into
Rather than
Search!
dan
Ps - If it's not too forward of me - what business are you starting?
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| 1/8/2008 5:56:42 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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who has hurt ya whale? I'll zap em wiff my stun gun lol I am selling top of the line pepper sprays, stun guns, tasers, surveillance cams and all those fun toys. I should be in business within the next 2 weeks! If I stay behind the tree.. ya gonna come find me? I do love hide n seek Tag.... you're it! lol
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| 1/8/2008 6:00:10 PM |
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whalemstr
Corning, CA
age: 50
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yes I would
absolutely
search
for
you
damn it 
I just got through saying I didn't like the searching didn't I??? 
See how confused and stumbling a beautiful woman makes me??? 
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| 1/8/2008 6:02:01 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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Searching.. looking.. seeking.. stumbling upon.. not looking but hoping... no matter how ya word it.. the dream is still the same
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| 1/8/2008 6:03:50 PM |
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whalemstr
Corning, CA
age: 50
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| 1/8/2008 6:16:52 PM |
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exlaw
Sneads Ferry, NC
age: 51 online now!
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I use an actual five finger method of searching/dating or whatever chasing and wishing is called.....give each finger a quality in which you desire in a true relationship.....now look at the person you are considering and do they have all five of the qualities you are searching for....is so...go for it......if not, don't waste your time, because something you desire is missing and will always be lacking in the relationship, and you will never be satisfied, but will always be trying to develope that lost quality in the other person
[Edited 1/8/2008 6:17:22 PM]
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| 1/8/2008 6:30:54 PM |
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southfork1
Medford, OR
age: 64
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5ft2 and blu----After 19 years and still looking. I do hope there IS some out there.
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| 1/8/2008 6:32:39 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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south... you are here.. that must be a sign you still believe.. and THAT will get you to the goal you want
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| 1/8/2008 6:37:56 PM |
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mrsmiles4444
Culpeper, VA
age: 51
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truthfully Trish, i have stopped searching, simply because in the area that I do search in, I've seen all the faces, and read most profiles of interest, and there is noone that gives me the fun and adventure that i find when i come into these forums, so call me silly, square, boring, or not focused on searching, but i search no more for a couple of weeks. then maybe there might be one new member with a shadow ,and I'll have to go away again for some time. I just hate seing the same old faces.
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