| 7/17/2010 7:53:13 AM |
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mis2riwoman
Youngtown, AZ
age: 54
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| 1. Intelligence |
| 2. Great Sense of Humour |
| 3. Integrity |
| 4. Kindhearted |
| 5. Spiritual |
| 6. Attentiveness |
yes, putting all physical attributes aside..
which type of personality do you want most in your mate?
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| 7/17/2010 7:56:35 AM |
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fishingmom
Lake Alfred, FL
age: 56 online now!
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# 2 for me.. life is sometimes too stressfull and complicated. So if someone can put all the crap from the day behind them, find humor in that crap, the rest of it will flow. jmo 
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| 7/17/2010 7:57:21 AM |
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shaggyolddog
Ocean Shores, WA
age: 69
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You have it at the top of your list and it's at the top of mine....
Number one.... an I'll take an extra heapin' helpin' please and thank you.... 
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| 7/17/2010 7:59:26 AM |
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shezakeepher_2
Columbia, SC
age: 55
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#4 kindhearted …….
I look to the heart of the person no matter what is showing on the outside. I’ve known men that show anything but kind but when you get to know the REAL heart they have more heart and soul than you could possibly imagine.
And because of his deep down kindness he’s have some of the other qualities like intelligence, integrity and attentiveness.
Just my experience. 
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| 7/17/2010 8:06:04 AM |
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trisha1
Erie, PA
age: 61
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If he has integrity, he also will have the rest.
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| 7/17/2010 8:17:07 AM |
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shari1955
Butler, KY
age: 55
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I keep looking for the "willing to take the blue pill".. Am I missing it somewhere lol..
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| 7/17/2010 8:18:17 AM |
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shaggyolddog
Ocean Shores, WA
age: 69
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If he has integrity, he also will have the rest.
Dunno bout that right there. I've seen sum integritittyfiable ladies that cain't say an intelligiblified, now what?
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| 7/17/2010 8:21:41 AM |
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shezakeepher_2
Columbia, SC
age: 55
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There is Intelligence and common sense.
I'll take common sense over intelligence. Some intelligent people can be real butts.
It was too late to edit my other post as some Kindhearted are not intelligent. I guess that tells you I'm not a 'not a smart woman' (said like Forest Gump)
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| 7/17/2010 8:21:58 AM |
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heatherhoney1
Middlesboro, KY
age: 53
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The man that can keep me laughing has stolen my heart...everytime..
The relationship may not last...but I'll give it a shot...
Great sense of humor..
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| 7/17/2010 8:44:40 AM |
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shaggyolddog
Ocean Shores, WA
age: 69
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There is Intelligence and common sense.
I'll take common sense over intelligence. Some intelligent people can be real butts.
It was too late to edit my other post as some Kindhearted are not intelligent. I guess that tells you I'm not a 'not a smart woman' (said like Forest Gump)
I agree with you 100%, but may I add a word or two? tyvm
Ah, but a truly intelligent individual will not feel the need to be a butt. They will be secure within themselves. I agree, there are some that think because the have a degree, they need to lord it over those that do not. Common sense can correlate very nicely with intelligence and is a very good attribute. There are countless numbers of both men and women that have earned their degree at the school of Hardnocks. Education at a Univercity does not always mean someone is intelligent. I'm jus sayin' is all....
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| 7/17/2010 8:50:06 AM |
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morles
San Antonio, TX
age: 66
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yes, putting all physical attributes aside..
which type of personality do you want most in your mate?
..................................'SORRY"
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| 7/17/2010 8:50:28 AM |
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whidbey
Saint Louis, MO
age: 59
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Intelligence for me as well - intelligence followed by humor and integrity. I agree with Shaggy - the kind of intelligence I find attractive does not come always from a degree, but from learning lessons as life as happened.
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| 7/17/2010 9:01:28 AM |
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shezakeepher_2
Columbia, SC
age: 55
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I agree with you 100%, but may I add a word or two? tyvm
Ah, but a truly intelligent individual will not feel the need to be a butt. They will be secure within themselves. I agree, there are some that think because the have a degree, they need to lord it over those that do not. Common sense can correlate very nicely with intelligence and is a very good attribute. There are countless numbers of both men and women that have earned their degree at the school of Hardnocks. Education at a Univercity does not always mean someone is intelligent. I'm jus sayin' is all....
Yes, I agree ........... that's what I meant!!!! I'm just not smart enough to get it out in those words. 
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| 7/17/2010 9:07:57 AM |
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shaggyolddog
Ocean Shores, WA
age: 69
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If'n ya come on down to that there get a hug thread I'll palnt one on ya lil kid. 
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| 7/17/2010 9:08:19 AM |
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missflorida3
Lake Worth, FL
age: 51
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Integrity..it even states it in my profile..if he has that attribute..I would hope the rest of your answers would follow..they are so closely linked together.. 
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| 7/17/2010 9:08:26 AM |
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letusing
Saint Paul, MN
age: 56
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Kindhearted yes sing loves a man with a kindheart!sing
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| 7/17/2010 9:17:37 AM |
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morles
San Antonio, TX
age: 66
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She must'n be a "PRUDE"...the rest follows behind this...
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| 7/17/2010 9:25:17 AM |
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h82w8
Homer City, PA
age: 58
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Dang, Mis, ya didn't put an "All of the above" in the list!! I want it all!!!
Actually, "spiritual" could be #2, but the rest are all tied for first in my book. And intelligence doesn't require a degree, or even a high school ed.
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| 7/17/2010 9:25:23 AM |
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lucidmoments
Orlando, FL
age: 55
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Intelligence.
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| 7/17/2010 9:27:09 AM |
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country_ladybug
Paragould, AR
age: 59
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If he has integrity, he also will have the rest.
I have to agree with Trisha Integrity and the rest will be there too.
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| 7/17/2010 9:27:56 AM |
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dreamninnc
Seven Springs, NC
age: 55
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Intelligence is top of my list because like another said, if they're truly intelligent, the rest is sure to follow. Book learning intelligence ain't what I'm talking about either. I've worked with lots of college educated folks that didn't have enough common sense to get in outta the rain...emotional intelligence is a biggy and if it's not present, I'm not either.
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| 7/17/2010 9:32:19 AM |
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captainbc2
Rockford, IL
age: 56
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Attentiveness, without that all the rest is useless
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| 7/17/2010 9:38:21 AM |
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missflorida3
Lake Worth, FL
age: 51
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Dang, Mis, ya didn't put an "All of the above" in the list!! I want it all!!!
Actually, "spiritual" could be #2, but the rest are all tied for first in my book. And intelligence doesn't require a degree, or even a high school ed.
EDIT: I agree with everything you said..I think they are so closely tied together..there should be all of the above..How can you just choose one.. 
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| 7/17/2010 9:44:42 AM |
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mnsp_iced
Houghton Lake, MI
age: 58
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Well,if I can only pick 1  ...it would have to be a great sense of humor
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| 7/17/2010 11:13:27 AM |
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cali1234
Exeter, CA
age: 62
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Attentiveness! with alot of humor.
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| 7/17/2010 11:24:33 AM |
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shaggyolddog
Ocean Shores, WA
age: 69
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I gotta fess up. I lied before. I'd pick nymphomaniac, but it ain't there. 
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| 7/17/2010 11:35:56 AM |
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mis2riwoman
Youngtown, AZ
age: 54
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EDIT: I agree with everything you said..I think they are so closely tied together..there should be all of the above..How can you just choose one..
hi folks
yes, yes, i think most if not all of us want all of the above
... (i know i do,too..lol)
but i was wondering WHICH ONE of all of the above is most
valued, which is why it's not there.
er...uhm... ..that and ...i ran out of poll choices, lol.
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| 7/17/2010 11:39:22 AM |
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singlelifeok
Mystic, CT
age: 53
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Aw there's a lot to be said for most of these answers. Most of us love a sense of humor. I believe anyone who has read the forums in DH can agree not everyone with a great sense of humor is a nice person. I known people who haven't received a high school education, who are extremely intelligent. I also know more than a couple of people who have a masters degree, who I wouldn't want to be my "contact" person in an emergency. I'd say Integrity, hopefully some of the other qualities fall into place with that pick.
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| 7/17/2010 11:42:55 AM |
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goglo
Crestview, FL
age: 61
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Dang, Mis, ya didn't put an "All of the above" in the list!! I want it all!!!
Actually, "spiritual" could be #2, but the rest are all tied for first in my book. And intelligence doesn't require a degree, or even a high school ed.
I agree!
But I do love a great sense of humor.
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| 7/17/2010 11:44:11 AM |
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mis2riwoman
Youngtown, AZ
age: 54
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Intelligence is top of my list because like another said, if they're truly intelligent, the rest is sure to follow. Book learning intelligence ain't what I'm talking about either. I've worked with lots of college educated folks that didn't have enough common sense to get in outta the rain...emotional intelligence is a biggy and if it's not present, I'm not either.
Hi
i thought of putting "intelligence / education" the reason i didn't is because my ex had a PhD.but he was soooooooo underdeveloped spiritually, emotionally, relationship attentiveness, socially... i mean ALL he had was education, but in areas aside from acadamia he was very remedial.
That's why i listed JUST Intelligence instead of Intelligence / Education.
i put emotional intelligence as 'ATTENTIVE',
because i think you have to be somewhat emotionally developed
to apply attentiveness and care what others are feeling.
i tried my best folks.
[Edited 7/17/2010 11:44:50 AM ]
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| 7/17/2010 12:55:29 PM |
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jedi469
Mesa, AZ
age: 57
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At the top of my list is Integrity. I have actually had all of the other things ia a mate before. Unfortunately, integrity issues, or should I say lack of integrity, killed the relationship.
All of the other things are surely important too. The OP did a good job on this one.
Shari, I ain't skeered of any blue pill.
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| 7/17/2010 1:20:34 PM |
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captainbc2
Rockford, IL
age: 56
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1. "Intelligence", is a must though the kind of which is debatable.
2. "Great Sense of Humor" certainly helps especially when it’s palatable. 
3. "Integrity," puts one at ease and this is hardly combatable. 
4. "Kindhearted" though, is truly fine and helps to make one contactable.
5. "Spiritual" people that truly are, have egos not so inflatable.
6. "Attentiveness", with all the above, now that would be nearly unattainable 
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| 7/17/2010 1:27:31 PM |
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rkl50
Elnora, IN
age: 51
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In this day and time you have to have laughter, or just give up!
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| 7/17/2010 1:32:44 PM |
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here4love
Denison, TX
age: 53
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There is Intelligence and common sense.
I'll take common sense over intelligence. Some intelligent people can be real butts.
It was too late to edit my other post as some Kindhearted are not intelligent. I guess that tells you I'm not a 'not a smart woman' (said like Forest Gump)
Ditto
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| 7/17/2010 1:34:28 PM |
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wootnannie
Hot Springs National Park, AR
age: 59
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Sure wish to have all of the above in a mate...I don't think it is impossible.
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| 7/17/2010 1:35:22 PM |
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inaleesgirl
Blanchard, OK
age: 58
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Had to pick just one it would be integrity, but would hopefully have all the above rolled into one.
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| 7/17/2010 1:48:10 PM |
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mis2riwoman
Youngtown, AZ
age: 54
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Sure wish to have all of the above in a mate...I don't think it is impossible.
hi
granted, not impossible, but to what level??, THAT'S the key. lol
i mean, some may be very evolved in one Quality yet have just a smidgeon of another
quality,
but to have ALL of the ABOVE Qualities be VERY Evolved .. now that's a rarity.
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| 7/17/2010 1:52:01 PM |
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dreamninnc
Seven Springs, NC
age: 55
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Hi
i thought of putting "intelligence / education" the reason i didn't is because my ex had a PhD.but he was soooooooo underdeveloped spiritually, emotionally, relationship attentiveness, socially... i mean ALL he had was education, but in areas aside from acadamia he was very remedial.
That's why i listed JUST Intelligence instead of Intelligence / Education.
i put emotional intelligence as 'ATTENTIVE',
because i think you have to be somewhat emotionally developed
to apply attentiveness and care what others are feeling.
i tried my best folks.
Obviously he was related to my husband...  
Then I suppose I should change my answer to attentive - how were we to know?
[Edited 7/17/2010 1:53:19 PM ]
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| 7/17/2010 1:56:43 PM |
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mis2riwoman
Youngtown, AZ
age: 54
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again sorry folks, i tried...
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| 7/17/2010 1:59:06 PM |
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shaggyolddog
Ocean Shores, WA
age: 69
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1. "Intelligence", is a must though the kind of which is debatable.
2. "Great Sense of Humor" certainly helps especially when it’s palatable.
3. "Integrity," puts one at ease and this is hardly combatable.
4. "Kindhearted" though, is truly fine and helps to make one contactable.
5. "Spiritual" people that truly are, have egos not so inflatable.
6. "Attentiveness", with all the above, now that would be nearly unattainable
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| 7/17/2010 2:02:03 PM |
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dreamninnc
Seven Springs, NC
age: 55
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again sorry folks, i tried...
No need to apologize, you did a dang fine job here - I still vote for intelligence - to me it includes all forms and doesn't require an education - that might be nice, but it's not important if they developed emotionally and spiritually.  
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| 7/17/2010 2:04:01 PM |
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shaggyolddog
Ocean Shores, WA
age: 69
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again sorry folks, i tried...
"You can please all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot please all the people all the time."
And life as we know it does in fact go on regardless....
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| 7/17/2010 2:22:14 PM |
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swifteagle
Elk City, OK
age: 66
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Without a doubt the quality of integrity rates number one for me. I define that as the quality of being of sound moral principle and values.
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| 7/17/2010 2:31:23 PM |
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singlelifeok
Mystic, CT
age: 53
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i tried my best folks.
You did good mis.
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| 7/17/2010 3:25:10 PM |
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sorpstar
Wayne, NJ
age: 58
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problem is there isn't too much quality that stands out for the taking for either sex--more quantity...when we get to this age group--quantity has passed on or still married...all the best quality are happy until the fat lady sings...quality is something that stands out and makes you complete...quantity doesn't cut it...maybe that's why we are all here hoping that the next contestant is the one...
my examples are quality = who's availabe because everyone has something to offer the other
quantity is someone else's former partner
i took my post another way--there is no quality until you find the right person..and it may never happen too...
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| 7/17/2010 3:28:24 PM |
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hogluver55
Statesville, NC
age: 54
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ability to forgive me because i am just human
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| 7/17/2010 3:31:22 PM |
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debbie5
Killeen, TX
age: 53
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Honesty
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| 7/17/2010 3:43:43 PM |
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rkl50
Elnora, IN
age: 51
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Love to laugh with my special mate!
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| 7/17/2010 3:47:20 PM |
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shaggyolddog
Ocean Shores, WA
age: 69
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Honesty
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| 7/17/2010 6:28:11 PM |
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debbie5
Killeen, TX
age: 53
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Thank you Shaggy, that's exactly what I'm looking for and you said it with a song
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| 7/17/2010 6:32:13 PM |
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nor33
Temple, TX
age: 51
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number 2 is first on my list
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| 7/17/2010 6:37:59 PM |
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sweetpotato4
Albion, IN
age: 60
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Pinch of this and a pinch of that and shake it up and serve it with hugs and kisses....
and call the word REAL
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| 7/17/2010 6:48:14 PM |
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blueshortcake2
Nicholasville, KY
age: 60
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Spiritual. The rest will fall into place.
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| 7/17/2010 7:06:08 PM |
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hogluver55
Statesville, NC
age: 54
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that deep look into each others eyes when you speak the words" I love you" that will be the truth. if that look is not there folks, i doubt it is true.
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| 7/17/2010 8:23:38 PM |
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looking4_prince
Twin Falls, ID
age: 57
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integrity...without it there's nothing...
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| 7/18/2010 6:45:19 AM |
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silver454
Hickory, NC
age: 55
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Honesty wasn't on the list or it would have been my first choice. So I will go with integrity. It goes somewhat hand in hand with honesty. You can be dumb as a box of rocks or a rocket scientist, but if you arent' honest and have good morals, I can't deal with you. Some people have a quirky sense of humor, some are very dry so that holds little relevance with me. Kindhearted is not a word that comes to mind when I think about men, I see it more in women. Spiritual doesn't spell Christian so spiritual means nothing to me. Attentive - well if he isn't - there is someone out there who will be sooo....
Those are just my thoughts on the subject. 
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| 7/18/2010 2:29:06 PM |
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rkl50
Elnora, IN
age: 51
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I think kind heartiness goes a long way, that will tell you if he is lovable, especially if he is loving with pets!
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| 7/18/2010 2:56:02 PM |
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clarity101
Aurora, CO
age: 59
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has to have integrity...with that, the rest is close behind,
without it...the rest doesnt matter.
[Edited 7/18/2010 2:57:20 PM ]
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| 7/19/2010 4:34:21 AM |
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missflorida3
Lake Worth, FL
age: 51
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If I could only choose one it would have to be integrity..and I would hope for the others..as I do like all of the above..but I have stated integrity in my profile..
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| 7/19/2010 5:15:56 AM |
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rkl50
Elnora, IN
age: 51
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Still say a great sense of humor goes a long way in a relationship!
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