| 1/28/2008 11:15:15 AM |
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jesuschrist999
Rancho Cordova, CA
age: 41
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When my current wife and I got together, it was 6 months after an almost 9 year marriage that I had with a real b*tch. But I have a nice daughter that I have custody of.
So I got married almost 5 years ago. We have a three year old son together.
She was really fat when we got together, about 200 lbs. I broke up with her because of it. She begged and pleaded to get back together. I told her that as long as she promised to lose weight. So she promised. She also wanted a kid really bad and couldn't wait.
So we made an agreement that after her pregnancy, then she would exercise and diet and do what ever it took to lose weight.
So now here it is 3 years later, and she is 5'4" weighs 300 lbs!!!!! I'm holding steady at 190, and 5'6".
I have tried everything that I can think of and I have nearly broken up with her many times to try to get her motivated. NOTHING works!!!
Our love life sucks. She is so fat that she can only do it doggie style. Even that is hell on my back. Does cottage cheese and orange peel thighs bring to mind any visuals???
I gave her an altamadem to get real serious about losing weight by the new year or I will divorce her. (It is tough love.) And she still hasn't got serious at all. She doesn't even seem to care, sorry to say.
What do you think?
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| 1/28/2008 11:47:59 AM |
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drummrboy
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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your jesus, ask your dad!
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| 1/28/2008 12:12:25 PM |
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lonelyinkokomo
Kokomo, IN
age: 35
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come to kokomo,indiana and i'll take care of that big problem between your legs
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| 1/29/2008 2:08:27 AM |
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lostinwyoming
Evanston, WY
age: 50
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ultimatum
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| 1/29/2008 11:22:11 PM |
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fleeting
Smithville, TN
age: 48
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We all change everyday I'd say you have some what to since that promise was made.
my first wife was big, and I never favored that in anyway, but the smile turned many a gray sky to blue. If you love her and she loves you, what else matters? the things in this life we have control over are very few, the way we admit to that, is one of them. If you live you life looking for what you don't have instead of what you do at the end you lost it all. If you lover do it to your fullest If you don't move on. and that all I have to say on that.
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| 2/2/2008 7:47:01 AM |
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maddog561
Boise, ID
age: 24
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everyone is different. being a fat guy myself, when others or me were putting pressure on me, my weight sky-rocketed. taking it easy, just being healthier and doing the excersize i've started losing, but i've been a much happier person.
Sometimes the tough stuff works, but from you it sounds like she's not trying at all. at 300 lbs she's getting close to my weight, and i'm 6'
tough situation, i would consider getting to a psychologist, either by herself or both together.
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| 2/2/2008 8:20:23 AM |
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1ofthegood1s
Bakersfield, CA
age: 50
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I think you need to move on doe not sound like you really are "IN" love anymor have you ever thought about going to the other side ? 
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| 2/2/2008 11:51:16 AM |
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grizz67
Bernville, PA
age: 40
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Not to bust your balls, but why did you get so involved with her in the first place if her size turns you off so much? In your own words she was big when you met her.
You asked for advice and not judgement, so here is my two cents worth. Forget the ultimatum because those things never work out well and just make everyone miserable. Everyone including the child suffers. At this age losing weight is next to impossible for men and even harder for women, I don't see it happening. Let go amicably for the kids sake and keep your weight issue in mind when you hook up the next time. Best of luck.
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| 2/2/2008 3:19:03 PM |
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massagepro
Vernon Rockville, CT
age: 49
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Listen, stop all your Bull talk now.
Just and Only ACCEPT her for who and what she is.
Love her a you love your Dog.
Do not say anything to her about diet and exercise ever again. Tell her she is beautiful after a week or two. If she baits you to tell her about her weight, do not bite.
You watch after a month or so she will start to thin down, she will get help if she needs it.
shut your mouth and keep it shut, love and acceptance will save you Jesus Christ
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| 2/3/2008 5:05:15 PM |
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craigsheart4u
Southington, CT
age: 43
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well, do you really love her? was she thin when you met her? just be careful with what you tell her. some day she may lose the weight and look hot, at the same time you end up with a problem, she leaves you, you regret all the things you said to her. it happened to me, left a girl cause she was a little heavy, 2 years later at the beach, i didnt notice her, she was hot, but didnt want me any more because i broke her heart. be careful, good luck, craig
try to find a way to motivate her without hurting her feelings, talk to her nicely
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| 2/3/2008 5:06:29 PM |
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craigsheart4u
Southington, CT
age: 43
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that was good what you said, good advice from guy above me
[Edited 2/3/2008 5:07:13 PM]
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| 2/13/2008 1:58:41 PM |
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poloman58
Greenlawn, NY
age: 45
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Hey JC read the threads in sex and dating about thick women, you wouldnt believe it , how proud they are to be obese and its whats inside that counts. Its all BS if you cant stand to have sex with her and look at her or be seen in public with her , then get the hell out. That is no life. might as well be in prison. get out and help yourself, count your blessings for your kids. Go live your life.
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