| 8/4/2010 7:54:15 PM |
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kingofnorcal510
Oakland, CA
age: 20
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| 1. Not interested |
| 2. No response |
| 3. No opinion |
On a dating site whenever you send an email to someone you're fancying but the other person isn't interested, would you prefer that person to be upfront about their lack of interest?
Or would you prefer them to not respond at all?
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| 8/4/2010 7:57:39 PM |
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ladyog
Rotterdam
Netherlands
age: 54
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Really could care less..one way or the other....and that is the God's honest truth from me...
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| 8/4/2010 7:58:13 PM |
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ldroftrollops
Goshen, IN
age: 30
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Who actually uses the email on here?
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| 8/4/2010 7:59:50 PM |
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75scott
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 35 online now!
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Who actually uses the email on here?
I know. Like that ever happens.
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| 8/4/2010 8:03:36 PM |
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ldroftrollops
Goshen, IN
age: 30
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I know...my email's been dead for days, I had an influx (can't imagine what caused that LOL) and now it's dead again.
I'm gonna have to write a new profile.
It's going to start with "Calling all future Victims...."
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| 8/4/2010 8:05:17 PM |
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stumppy
Bath, PA
age: 64
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as long as I don't become a trophy
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| 8/4/2010 8:06:09 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 51
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as long as I don't become a trophy
It only hurts if she mounts your head on a wall. Otherwise being the trophy date is kind of fun.
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| 8/4/2010 8:06:47 PM |
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littlerandyinfl
Yalaha, FL
age: 30
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Peachy thinks the best way to get a response is to say, "Sup Sexy" in the subject line. I am sending out random emails to try to authenticate her theory.
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| 8/4/2010 8:08:06 PM |
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toyman98
Red Lion, PA
age: 41
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i would like the not intersted at least i know to move on 
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| 8/4/2010 8:10:37 PM |
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ldroftrollops
Goshen, IN
age: 30
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Really, do you get that attached to a person from sending out an email?
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| 8/4/2010 8:10:58 PM |
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littlerandyinfl
Yalaha, FL
age: 30
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as long as I don't become a trophy
Good looking puppy. Let's butcher and eat it before the meat is tough. Fire up the bbq.
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| 8/4/2010 8:15:30 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 51
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ooohhhh!
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| 8/4/2010 8:20:24 PM |
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milas2010
Philadelphia, PA
age: 28
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Ought as well pick number two. If I decided to email a female on DH again, I'd be subjected to number two more likely than anything else.
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| 8/4/2010 8:21:21 PM |
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rockmancommeth
Toledo, OH
age: 40
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I couldn't care less one way or the other.
You know when I take the time and effort to compose a good hello message I will get a good reply one way or the other. It's the quick shout out types that seem to go unnoticed most of the time.
I also never try the numbers game. I'll send out one nice mail and then give it a few days before I send out the next hello. Just because someone had time to read a mail doesn't mean they have the time to reply to it at the same time. And, not everyone is going to be as committed to or dependant on this site as others seem to be.
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| 8/4/2010 8:25:22 PM |
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torisdad
Louisville, KY
age: 42
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I respond to all emails. I find it very rude when people don't respond. I do, however, understand how some women grow tired of the rude responses. I have gotten a few nasty ones myself.
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| 8/4/2010 8:26:31 PM |
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littlerandyinfl
Yalaha, FL
age: 30
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I used to get 100 emails a day from cactus groupies. With no cactus, I only get on average 5 emails each day. Oh pity me!
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| 8/4/2010 8:34:17 PM |
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broadcaster1
Pacoima, CA
age: 56 online now!
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If I were interested in women for dating purposes then I guess a not interested would have been the polite road to take. As I don't in general Email strangers therefore couldn't care less what they send or if anything at all. My friends can Email me anytime any day. I have all the time of the world for them
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| 8/4/2010 9:06:08 PM |
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sweetcheeks5630
Hope, AR
age: 30
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I'd at least like to know why they weren't interested. I always reply when I get mail.
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| 8/4/2010 10:03:56 PM |
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julymorning07
Saint James, MO
age: 58 online now!
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I'm going with Not interested, before reading anyone else's replies.
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| 8/4/2010 11:12:18 PM |
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bigbazborn
Buellton, CA
age: 45 online now!
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No response at all? Nah, that will just remind me of sex with the ex.  
<<<=== HE's here all week, folks.
Restraining orders usually get the point across to me. 
Bry 
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| 8/5/2010 12:03:38 AM |
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lala8732
North Hollywood, CA
age: 22
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Just because that's the most direct way to get someone you're "NOT INTERESTED" in to leave you alone.
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| 8/5/2010 12:51:45 AM |
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horace_schitt
Wausau, WI
age: 43 online now!
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If I ever join a dating site, I'll let ya know.
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| 8/5/2010 2:36:28 AM |
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catz0921
North Royalton, OH
age: 51 online now!
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Well i'd rather have a I'm intrested response... But thats not a choice, I'm getting kinda use to the "no respones'.
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| 8/5/2010 2:43:22 AM |
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misslindainkan
Newton, KS
age: 40 online now!
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Doesn't matter to me either way if he likes me then I hope he writes
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| 8/5/2010 3:37:11 AM |
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zuglo65
Albuquerque, NM
age: 44
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I'd at least like to know why they weren't interested. I always reply when I get mail.
That's' my way of thinking..Not that I would change much, but still human curiosity I guess..
If I ever join a dating site, I'll let ya know.
Where do you think you are mister?
Oh, I see..DateHookup..You using the HOOK UP part of this site..Like me..My bad.
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| 8/5/2010 3:53:36 AM |
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stumppy
Bath, PA
age: 64
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Since my emails to strangers are usually a comment about a post they made or if they change their profile pic and it appeals to me at some level, I make the effort to share my thoughts.
If they cannot acknowledge my response, my feeling is they are arrogant and therefore not worth knowing.
I do not make rude, lewd, suggestive, or inane remarks, so I feel the lack of response on their part suggests to me that they have maturity problems.
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| 8/5/2010 4:01:20 AM |
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lakersrock
Springville, UT
age: 43
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some people are smart enough to realize that NO RESPONSE means NOT INTERESTED. 
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| 8/5/2010 4:06:44 AM |
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stumppy
Bath, PA
age: 64
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Lakers,
So If I send you a compliment you have the boorish attitude of not even saying, "thank you" ?
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| 8/5/2010 4:13:16 AM |
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1joyusall
Queensland
Australia
age: 63
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Since my emails to strangers are usually a comment about a post they made or if they change their profile pic and it appeals to me at some level, I make the effort to share my thoughts.
If they cannot acknowledge my response, my feeling is they are arrogant and therefore not worth knowing.
I do not make rude, lewd, suggestive, or inane remarks, so I feel the lack of response on their part suggests to me that they have maturity problems.
just thank you for your email, but no thank u iam sorry u arent my type. polite thats all. its true sometimes u got so many u dont get them all but if they have emailed u a few times,best 2 let them know your position. then they can feel rejected and move on.
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| 8/5/2010 4:15:38 AM |
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lakersrock
Springville, UT
age: 43
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Lakers,
So If I send you a compliment you have the boorish attitude of not even saying, "thank you" ?
i didnt say that. i said no response means not interested. whats so hard about that to figure out.
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| 8/5/2010 4:22:58 AM |
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1joyusall
Queensland
Australia
age: 63
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If I were interested in women for dating purposes then I guess a not interested would have been the polite road to take. As I don't in general Email strangers therefore couldn't care less what they send or if anything at all. My friends can Email me anytime any day. I have all the time of the world for them
 if u only email friends how did they become friends 2 u. in the beginning they were strangers, how did u choose who u would befriend, i will usually befriend anyone who ask to be a friend, and then if they prove totally unworthy and cruel i will end the association becuz lasting friendship proved impossible in my eyes.
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| 8/5/2010 4:27:16 AM |
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grneydsnglmale
Grand Junction, CO
age: 52
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I think it would at least be cordial to say thanks for the email but not interested. I got one just like that from sommeone on here that at least made me feel better about myself. She was respectful enough to tell me she thought I was a nice guy but that the miles were an issue. She has class and tact.
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| 8/5/2010 4:28:37 AM |
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tammyc333
Urbandale, IA
age: 44
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I'd rather have no response. I already know they aren't intersted becauese they didn't respond. I don't need to read about it.
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| 8/5/2010 5:45:15 AM |
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smithanady
Sedalia, MO
age: 30
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It not like i've been with. And if dont hear from, that should say it all!
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| 8/5/2010 5:49:10 AM |
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horace_schitt
Wausau, WI
age: 43 online now!
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Where do you think you are mister?
Oh, I see..DateHookup..You using the HOOK UP part of this site..Like me..My bad.
Nah, I just don't get hung up on the semantics of wording, such as the name of a website.
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| 8/5/2010 6:01:39 AM |
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crzyblubttrfly
Fort Smith, AR
age: 51
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Read from the bottom message up. All depends on how I guess they will take it. This one not too bad . It says on my profile . No Pen Pals unless fellow forum buddies.
sorry young adult, what high school,
sorry for the intrusion of your profile,
i can and did read. like you say in your
profile moment from moment, lighten up some
sweet heart,
later...
and really good luck
--------------------Message------------------
Subject: RE: are you really?
Sorry babyboy , didn't mean to be harsh, you seem like a sweetheart . It does say so on my profile and guys should read it first so they won't be misled.
--------------------Message--------------------
WOW.. so sorry to show interest, even at a distance,
what was i thinking ..
--------------------Message--------------------
From: crzyblubttrfly
Sent: 8/4/2010 7:00:19 AM
Subject: RE: are you really?
The missle will miss because you didn't gauge the distance, I am sorry,it is sweet of you but I really don't do penpals type chats. trisha
--------------------Message-------------------
Subject: are you really?
i have aimed a missile at you,shall i launch it and rell you in to my arms. could or would a conversion van count ....???
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| 8/5/2010 6:02:30 AM |
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kissedbutterfly
Greencastle, IN
age: 24
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that shows a little respect. this way you know there not 'blowing' you off.
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| 8/5/2010 6:03:56 AM |
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horace_schitt
Wausau, WI
age: 43 online now!
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You forgot an apostrophe and the letter 'y'.
[Edited 8/5/2010 6:04:07 AM ]
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| 8/5/2010 7:58:09 AM |
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indie1968
Ogden, UT
age: 42 online now!
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I'm for the no response. If someone sends you a message like 'Hey, nice shirt' for example, you have some different options. You can say 'Thanks. You seem nice but I'm not interested'. By which they can follow with 'Well I am not either I was just saying I liked your shirt'. Then you feel like a dumb a** for saying you weren't interested. You can also just say 'Thanks'. Which lets them in the door with more emails to which you now feel obliged to keep responding to because you responded to the first. If you choose to just not respond in the first place, like Laker says, then they get the hint usually and will just leave you alone.
I usually go for the no response but after reading a forum on here about at least saying thanks I received an email on another site from someone I wasn't interested in so I said thanks to his comment about my hair. Well as I expected that led to more emails which I tried to keep short and didn't invoke more questions. Well this kept on for many emails until he finally asked if I would like to get to know him better. I told him though I didn't mind emailing on here I was not romantically interested in him. He read and deleted the message without a comment. So we both wasted that time all because I was trying to be nice and this man who was interested, if he is like me, probably took my response as mutual interest only to find out I was just being nice. I really prefer to just have no response.
A woman above said she would at least like to know why. What do you tell someone when they are local, your age, the correct sex, and no apparent downfalls you just are not attracted to them? I know it is shallow but I think everyone has someone who they are not attracted to. Do you just say you are below my standards? You are not cute enough for me? Your smile isn't as nice as I'd like it to be? I don't like the stains on your shirt? It is true you will get some who will message you again telling you to respond but those are few.
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| 8/5/2010 8:02:58 AM |
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dateable1
Berea, KY
age: 45
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I voted no opinion because they are one in the same to me. If I don't get a response to a message, wink, profile view notification, etc., it tells me they aren't interested.
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| 8/5/2010 8:07:33 AM |
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trish2010
Burley, ID
age: 38
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I email everybody back that email me..do I care if anything happens beyond that? no not really.
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| 8/5/2010 8:07:41 AM |
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photoartistguy
Minneapolis, MN
age: 41
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i prefer
whitty responces that are demeaning and littered with insults and sarcasm
any thing that attacks my man hood are the best.
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| 8/5/2010 8:09:18 AM |
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toot_sweet13
Woodbridge, VA
age: 38
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i prefer
whitty responces that are demeaning and littered with insults and sarcasm
any thing that attacks my man hood are the best.
You mean like "Hey, Jackass! It's spelled 'witty responses'!"? 
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| 8/5/2010 8:09:39 AM |
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stumppy
Bath, PA
age: 64
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Indie,
Ya missed my point.
I get emails from women and ladies, that after I review whatever profile they may have, I tell them thanks, in some fashion, but they need to tell me more in the forums. Usually, they disappear. They are the fools and I still behaved like a social person.
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| 8/5/2010 8:10:13 AM |
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peachy4372
Ball Ground, GA
age: 38
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Peachy thinks the best way to get a response is to say, "Sup Sexy" in the subject line. I am sending out random emails to try to authenticate her theory.
Again...I'm kicking your ass!
Don't forget to include the all important penis picture!
[Edited 8/5/2010 8:11:40 AM ]
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| 8/5/2010 8:11:13 AM |
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trish2010
Burley, ID
age: 38
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LOL morning Toots!! 
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| 8/5/2010 8:11:46 AM |
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photoartistguy
Minneapolis, MN
age: 41
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You mean like "Hey, Jackass! It's spelled 'witty responses'!"?
damn that's right
but add some thing about my penis and you've nailed it.
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| 8/5/2010 8:21:13 AM |
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liberallady
Lodi, CA
age: 50
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I guess it would be polite to send a response, yay or nay. But I'd think the no responce and not interested are one and the same. I just don't want to hurt anyones feelings. But if all they say is "babe" in the subject title and their only motivation is to get "lucky" NOW? I won't even dignify THAT with a response, at least try to start a conversation?I don't do any of the approaching, I'm here for the Forums, but "ya never know"...
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| 8/5/2010 8:34:48 AM |
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fuddyduddie
Covington, GA
age: 45
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no response is fine with me. It saids it all anyways.
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| 8/5/2010 8:48:42 AM |
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ciera1023
Boonville, IN
age: 47
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I'm for the no response. If someone sends you a message like 'Hey, nice shirt' for example, you have some different options. You can say 'Thanks. You seem nice but I'm not interested'. By which they can follow with 'Well I am not either I was just saying I liked your shirt'. Then you feel like a dumb a** for saying you weren't interested. You can also just say 'Thanks'. Which lets them in the door with more emails to which you now feel obliged to keep responding to because you responded to the first. If you choose to just not respond in the first place, like Laker says, then they get the hint usually and will just leave you alone.
I usually go for the no response but after reading a forum on here about at least saying thanks I received an email on another site from someone I wasn't interested in so I said thanks to his comment about my hair. Well as I expected that led to more emails which I tried to keep short and didn't invoke more questions. Well this kept on for many emails until he finally asked if I would like to get to know him better. I told him though I didn't mind emailing on here I was not romantically interested in him. He read and deleted the message without a comment. So we both wasted that time all because I was trying to be nice and this man who was interested, if he is like me, probably took my response as mutual interest only to find out I was just being nice. I really prefer to just have no response.
A woman above said she would at least like to know why. What do you tell someone when they are local, your age, the correct sex, and no apparent downfalls you just are not attracted to them? I know it is shallow but I think everyone has someone who they are not attracted to. Do you just say you are below my standards? You are not cute enough for me? Your smile isn't as nice as I'd like it to be? I don't like the stains on your shirt? It is true you will get some who will message you again telling you to respond but those are few.
I know exactly what you mean!!! One time...I said to guy..sorry hun, but I'm just not interested....you know what he did???? HE SENT ME BACK AN EMAIL CALLING ME A B*TCH!!!  so now...I just delete them, if I'm just not interested. I'm just sayin.
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| 8/5/2010 9:02:07 AM |
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horace_schitt
Wausau, WI
age: 43 online now!
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If a guy mails you (supposedly showing interest), and you say Not Interested, and he mails back calling you a b*tch, it really shows how "interested" he was in you, yeah? Now you've seen his true colors, and he's shown them early. Consider yourself fortunate.
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| 8/5/2010 9:03:59 AM |
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stumppy
Bath, PA
age: 64
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I am now concerned about why I responded to this thread, reading most of these responses leave me wondering.
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| 8/5/2010 9:16:08 AM |
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ciera1023
Boonville, IN
age: 47
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If a guy mails you (supposedly showing interest), and you say Not Interested, and he mails back calling you a b*tch, it really shows how "interested" he was in you, yeah? Now you've seen his true colors, and he's shown them early. Consider yourself fortunate.
Very true!!! Cool. Now I won't be thinking that I've "done something mean". I mean, for a few times there, I was actually thinking that I was a b*tch...just for not emailing them back. But I was thinking, like that other girl...what's the point of starting up a conversation, if I'm TRUELY just not interested? right? anyways...Thanks hun.
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| 8/5/2010 9:36:55 AM |
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indie1968
Ogden, UT
age: 42 online now!
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Indie,
Ya missed my point.
I get emails from women and ladies, that after I review whatever profile they may have, I tell them thanks, in some fashion, but they need to tell me more in the forums. Usually, they disappear. They are the fools and I still behaved like a social person.
Stumppy I wasn't responding to yours in particular I was responding to the OPs post. So I wasn't even really reading your post to respond to. But like I said someone agreed after me, why start a conversation with someone you really are not interested in? I am not here for friends. Yes I have ended up with many because I go to the events in my area, but ultimately I am here to find someone for a relationship. If I carried on conversations with everyone who wrote me and whom I was not interested in getting to know on a personal level it would reduce the amount of time I spend on the people I am interested in knowing. If it were me and someone was not interested in me I would just as soon they didn't waste my time with niceties just to be polite. When I have said thank you but I'm not interested I get comments like 'Wow and you haven't even gotten to know me' or the 'what a b*tch'. I prefer to get an occasional rude comment when I ignore them rather than an often rude comment when I say thanks but no thanks.
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| 8/5/2010 9:41:24 AM |
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rosiee35
Hollywood, FL
age: 35
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No response is the same as them emailing you that their no interested- but who really cares it's not like you know them or have to see them every day
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| 8/5/2010 9:54:34 AM |
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stumppy
Bath, PA
age: 64
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Indie,
Initially, my apologies.
It don't always work, but I try to respond by attempting to put myself in the other's shoes. I do blow off a lot, w/o a response, because their post leaves too many answered questions, but when I find one that seems sincere, I try to be civilized.
Got one now, still trying to shed her, but she seems too dense to understand or comprehend.
Errrr, Ms I wasn't looking for you, ...
Response: oh, you just don't appreciate me, yet.
My thought: Oh shit ! I don't want to deal with this crap. Shit !!!
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| 8/5/2010 10:10:45 AM |
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sammysgrammie
Grottoes, VA
age: 56
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I used to get 100 emails a day from cactus groupies. With no cactus, I only get on average 5 emails each day. Oh pity me!
so just grow the cactus back, Randy
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| 8/5/2010 10:20:36 AM |
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smilin72
Brandenburg, KY
age: 37
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Im still single, soooo I operate under the assumption that they are all not interested
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| 8/5/2010 10:22:30 AM |
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latestflame
Germantown, TN
age: 33 online now!
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I dont know. Possibly not at all.
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| 8/5/2010 4:21:03 PM |
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1joyusall
Queensland
Australia
age: 63
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i want to be your friend before i date u, and if young people girls and boys want to be my friends iam happy to do so, maybe i dont belong here, how can u date a stranger is it just looks, they change and stuff, i want to know u, not what your hairdo though maybe i liked your hair, hair is hair its not the person,---- iam so confused-----
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