missing_out
Farmersville, TX
age: 27
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1. Wallow, But Just a Little
It's important to acknowledge your real feelings, so give yourself permission to wallow a little bit if you're feeling extra sad or lonely. The key words here are "a little bit." Don't allow yourself to dwell or obsess. Confine your wallowing to a certain time period -- say, 15 minutes of self-pity and that's it.
2. Watch "Love Actually"
The movie "Love Actually" (rated R) is great cinematherapy for V-Day because it shows that romantic love is important, but other kinds of love are just as important, such as the love of family and friends. Don't let Valentine's Day be co-opted by couples. Send valentines to all the people you love in your life!
3. Go on a Trip
A new trend for singles is to elude Valentine's Day by taking a short getaway with friends to a place where they are not constantly bombarded with images of hearts and cupids. There is nothing wrong with this trend as long as you are using it as a fun escapade, rather than an escape.
4. Re-energize Your Relationship Search
If you are feeling down at this time of year, channel your negative energy into something positive. Have you been browsing online profiles but never send an email? Have you been using work as an excuse that you are too busy to meet people? Have you been dating the wrong types of men or women for you? Use Valentine's Day as a new start to self-reflect and be proactive.
5. Ask Someone Out
If you really want a date for Valentine's Day, don't wait to be asked -- go ahead and do the asking. Even if it's someone you think of as "just a friend," you'll still have fun going out and celebrating.
6. Cuddle Up to Something Warm and Fuzzy
Warm fuzzies just make you feel good. Those V-day stuffed animals are great. So are warm cozy blankets and floppy slippers. Many would agree that the best warm fuzzies are pets. If you have a pet, get him or her a Valentine's Day treat. If you don't, maybe it's time to consider a dog or cat... now that's unconditional love!
7. Eat Some Dark Chocolate
Dark chocolate is good for our hearts in more ways than one. Besides containing potent antioxidants, it has the power to boost endorphins, the "happy juice" in our brains. The higher the percentage of cacao, the better. On Valentine's Day get your friends together for a chocolate tasting -- including chocolate fondue. Enjoy in moderation!
8. Don't See the World as One Big Happy Couple
"I see happy couples!" And that's all many single people see around V-Day. But it's a trick your mind is playing on you because that's what you are focused on. Not everyone is in a relationship and, certainly, not everyone is in a happy relationship. Keep your focus on the millions of single people out there just like you!
9. Remember This Is Just ONE Valentine's Day
Maybe you've been single for one V-day. Maybe you've been single for ten. Don't get completely discouraged and project into the future that you are going to be single for every Valentine's Day to come. No one has a crystal ball and life has a way of surprising us. Help make a good surprise more likely by keeping a positive attitude and being persistent about finding the healthy, happy relationship you want.
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liferator
Statesville, NC
age: 27
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preach it
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missing_out
Farmersville, TX
age: 27
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 I dont understand why so many people get upset and depressed because they are single on Valentines Day. Everyone has friends, go out and do something together. Being shown love shouldnt have to wait until the one day that happens only once a year, I myself like to be shown love 365 days a year, and I am by my friends, family and everyone around me. How did you feel when you was in a relationship and still didnt get cute little stuffed animals and loads of candy, or even flowers that die in less than a week? The happiest of people dont necessarily have the best of everything, they just make the most of everything that comes their way. 
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newzion
Independence, KS
age: 24
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those are some really great suggestions. Thanks
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sweetynikki
Canyon Country, CA
age: 23
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dude me and all my single girl friends love the big V Day!!!!!!!!! It's our day we go get pampered nails done etc. Get all dressed up and have a girls night out, not looking for guys just have a total girls night out whether we are dancing, going to the beach, or just hanging out..... we always have a ton of fun.
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pooq
Saint Paul, MN
age: 26
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#5 should be #1 and scrap the rest.
I think Im gonna get lit on V day and let someone drive me around for once.
Then Ill call my exes current guy, he used to be a friend of mine, and tell him how I had no hard feelings and understand that we cant be buds anymore, because its really hard to be as two faced as she is. hahaha. oh that'll be fun.
Nah I'll prolly see a movie with all my single buds and cat call at the single ladies to make them feel better that they didn't succum to jerks like us. hehe.
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