6/7/2007 3:06:49 PM |
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512bhst
Melrose, NM
age: 50
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guy meets gal A on line. some emails,phone calls. he travels 2 hrs to lunch&movie,2hrs home. next week 2 hrs for lunch&concert.2hrs home. no sex,hugging or kiss from gal A.
guy meets gal B locally. IS HE WRONG to tell gal A he intends to see gal B?
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6/7/2007 3:13:48 PM |
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castertroy
Howell, NJ
age: 38
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Um...A question of morals i presume
Honesty is always the best choice
However...
Unless you see a future with Gal "A"
There is such a thing as providing too much information
In the end its up to you to decide how to approach this situation
Good Luck to ya!

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6/7/2007 3:16:05 PM |
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metu
Dahlonega, GA
age: 46
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If the "guy" hasn't implied exclusivity to "gal A", why not? Dating is dating, gotta be honest & realistic!
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6/7/2007 3:33:10 PM |
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pallyboy
Ramona, CA
age: 47
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metu is right. dating is the thing you do before you commit.
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6/7/2007 4:25:37 PM |
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chinatown_girl
Oyster Bay, NY
age: 18
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yes unless u were talking to A online for an awfully long time and have made promises then its normal to go out with B. i think its a good idea to let A know. but don't get jealous if A goes out with C, haha.
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6/7/2007 4:27:24 PM |
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krupa
Abilene, TX
age: 39
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Knowing that you are putting forth that effort....( I have no doubt she knows too)....Being that standoffish is either inconsiderate or dismissive. If you are fishing and not getting any bites...you switch spots my man!
Allright dude.....go to your pix spot....hit edit pictures....put your arrow on your main photo and RIGHT click once....scroll down to :rotate counter clockwise Left click once......save.........Bam dude! your pic will level out..........Peace
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6/7/2007 4:34:35 PM |
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chinatown_girl
Oyster Bay, NY
age: 18
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i understand its tuff driving for 4 hours but sex, hugs or kisses the first or second time you meet someone because of a meal and a movie..well, i'd rather pay for the meal, movie and gas.
>>>krupa
Knowing that you are putting forth that effort....( I have no doubt she knows too)....Being that standoffish is either inconsiderate or dismissive. If you are fishing and not getting any bites...you switch spots my man!
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6/7/2007 4:47:26 PM |
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krupa
Abilene, TX
age: 39
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What? A HUG would be out of the question? I wouldn't expect sex or even a kiss from someone I have had little social/emotional contact!
Been in those shoes ONE time on this site. Meeting face to face........personally, I knew immediately we wouldn't see each other again. At least I said something about it and she concurred........I am an extrovert...she was an introvert.....no chemestry but, at least was courteous to bring it out in the open. Amazing that simple honesty works.
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6/7/2007 9:19:09 PM |
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512bhst
Melrose, NM
age: 50
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thanks folks. as I am new to the online world I wasn't sure.
what I wanted to know: should I tell gal A that I was going to see gal B? instead of seeing both in seceret; which I thought was wrong. the rest was background. after all does two dates make a relationship?
I thought telling gal A was the proper thing to do; just not leave her in the dark as to why I wasn't going to see her for a while,(if ever).
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6/7/2007 9:24:59 PM |
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sweetnspice
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 43
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I don't think you owe her any explanation at all. It's called Dating, which means she is free to do the same if she met someone else. Unless you have made or implied any promises, you are under no obligation after only 2 dates.
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6/7/2007 9:26:36 PM |
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bendi
Maryville, TN
age: 44
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I would think she'd appreciate your honesty. You should be applauded.
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6/7/2007 9:28:15 PM |
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bevyea
Sanger, TX
age: 55
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You call for a date, she's busy that day. Is she going to tell you she has a date with guy A? Do you really expect her to give you an explaination?
It's nice that you want to be so up front and honest...but do you have tooooo, should she expect you tooooo, will she get upset if you don't tell her and she finds out.....?
no, no, she shouldn't
It works both ways...dating, not an exclusive relationship, dating.
Bev
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6/8/2007 6:40:03 PM |
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512bhst
Melrose, NM
age: 50
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thank you for your insight folks.
when I left gal A after our 2nd date; I wasn't sure she would agree to #3, while the am was good; u know, cold, distant toward the end of the afternoon. so I went out that evening & meet gal B. then I get an email from gal A, so replied and told gal A of gal B; galA went "fatal attraction" on me. she really spooked me. so I was just checking if I had broken a rule. I mean I did not expect the "green eyed monster" to appear after two platonic lunches. I did not see it coming.
best to all of you.
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