sensual_latin
Pleasanton, CA
age: 41
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I just don't know where to start.
I've had lots of friends who were married this way where their parents choose their lifelong partners for them and the things this friends of mine tell me just breaks my heart.
These are people that were born and raised in the USA and their beliefs still stands of course!
Speaking from experience, most of my friends with these believes, feel obligated to get married to please their parents and from what they tell me, they never marry for love, and of course they learn to love who they end up with but loving and being in love are two so totally different things.
yes, their divorce rate is very low but from what they tell me, 95% of all my arranged married friends said that even though they learned to love their spouses (no choice)of over 10+ yrs, they are NOT in love with them. WOW!
I've seen some married couples for over 10 yrs and then they fall in true love with someone else, the suffering this brings them is so sad. These are friends of mine and we always talk and that's what they share with me.
Bottom line... I can't even imagine me choosing my son's wife for him as in my opinion, no human could ever know who the right person is for us other than God Himself.
JMO
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kenb5b01
Northport, WA
age: 43
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Wow! Kinda makes a person think doesn't it?
Speaking from experience, most of my friends with these believes, feel obligated to get married to please their parents and from what they tell me, they never marry for love, and of course they learn to love who they end up with but loving and being in love are two so totally different things.
I haven't really read up on arranged marriages and probably know very little by comparison. But it strikes me that people and cultures with beliefs and strong family ties, who would marry because of an obligation to their parents, would also be likely to remain in a marriage for the same beliefs.
I can't imagine feeling forced into a relationship because somebody else thought it was the right person for me. I agree with you, nobody else knows your heart.
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sensual_latin
Pleasanton, CA
age: 41
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But it strikes me that people and cultures with beliefs and strong family ties, who would marry because of an obligation to their parents, would also be likely to remain in a marriage for the same beliefs.
That's why the low divorce rate.
Most of them get to see for the first time who they will marry 24 hours before the wedding to introduce themselves and chat a lil'.. (aka: as the 24 hours dating)
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