| 3/9/2008 4:52:51 PM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46
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Started with coffee, then lunch, and a bit of pool.
I broke three of my own first date rules: we hugged, held hands, kissed, and got quite affectionate.
She's an amazing DHer, and I'm so lucky to have spent time with her.
You know who you are... SMOOOCH!.
Can't wait to see her again.
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| 3/9/2008 7:09:02 PM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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eyeswideopened
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 43
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To the one that put a smile on my heart!
Smooches
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| 3/9/2008 9:48:20 PM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46
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See, folks? Nice meetings do happen. Just gotta give things half a chance.
I'm missing her wit, smile (oh lord, what a smile!) and sweet lips already.
[Edited 3/9/2008 9:52:50 PM]
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| 3/10/2008 11:42:36 AM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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clevekid1
Cleveland, OH
age: 39
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nice to hear you had a good time.
You actually have a rule not to hug or hold a girls hand on the 1st date? Are you Amish or just built a time machine from the 14th century?
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| 3/10/2008 12:39:52 PM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46
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I am neither Amish, nor have I built a time machine.
I generally consider any physical contact on a first date disrespectful and presumptuous. In this instance, however, I thought it more important to express a reciprocal physical attraction, than to leave open the ambiguity of whether I was being respectful or uninterested.
It seemed acceptable since our correspondences, and conversations were becoming quite warm and friendly already.
She did jokingly chide me for breaking my rules, however.
[Edited 3/10/2008 12:40:54 PM]
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| 3/11/2008 8:07:30 PM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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easytouch3
Mount Clemens, MI
age: 46
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Speek english dude 
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| 3/12/2008 1:58:58 PM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46
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I'm sorry. What part did I not make clear?
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| 3/17/2008 2:36:24 AM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46
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eyeswideopened and I spent much of this past Saturday together on my "turf" and Sunday on her "turf", and we had a great time.
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| 3/17/2008 7:22:36 PM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
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I am really happy for you!!!
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| 3/20/2008 5:24:19 AM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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virgogidget
Queensland
Australia
age: 53
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Im glad you both had a great time.
Good to see a man with those rules even if you did break them this time.
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| 3/20/2008 1:20:31 PM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46
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Well, it's tough, virgogidget. A gentleman is supposed to be just that: gentle, and thus not overbearing; as well as a man: protective, assertive, and responsive.
When a woman expresses eagerness toward greater physical contact, and the desire is reciprocal, no gentleman wishes to disappoint simply as a matter of dogma. But, neither does he wish to come off as having a false personna, and try to, in actuality, "take whatever he can get".
The gentleman does not "pursue". He "woos" the object of his affections. Unfortunately, many a modern woman sees this as cowardice and hesitation, rather than civility and chivalry.
For example, eyeswideopened and I scheduled an impromptu dinner date yesterday. But, she has an early start to her work day, and it was uncertain weather traffic would make it practical to spend any length of time with her (it was an 80 mile drive one way). We were lucky and did manage to have a great dinner. As is my custom, I brought a bouquet of fresh flowers. Had traffic been too slow, and my arrival too late, I still would driven the 80 miles to her home, and the 80 miles back, just to leave the bouquet on her doorstep.
Some woman would find that desperate, or corny. Others would find the gesture indicative of an interest more than physical (i.e. why bother, if I'd get "nothing in trade"?). Many women start to form an emotional bond when allowing themselves physical attention. Many men do not. The dilema then, for a woman, is to ascertain if the man who is courting her, is likely to desire an emotional bond as well.
Romance is the expression of growing physical and emotional interest. It is an art form, combining subtlety, innuendo, admitted vulnerabilities, surprising strengths, and downright silliness, that I think is lost on many people today. But, I think it's practice is well warranted.
[Edited 3/20/2008 1:31:02 PM]
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| 3/20/2008 5:46:26 PM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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eyeswideopened
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 43
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And what a date it was!
I was floored to see Oldeschool at my door with flowers in a pant suit or what I considered a tuxedo. He was VERY distinguished!
The imprompto dinner turned out superb and romantic as with all our other dates have been. Even though we got a late start, and I was up later than usual, it was a pleasure to be in Oldeschool's company. It's just one of those things that you work out when you are dating. (I still think you left too early)!
Can't wait to see you Saturday! smooches!!
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| 3/20/2008 5:58:49 PM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 46
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Smootches!
I know when you go to sleep so you can work the next day, and it was past your bed time. Also, I had a moderately long drive ahead of me, and didn't want to be sleepy.
Sometimes, the heart has to defer to the head.
Heh, it was just a plain old suit. Though, I did wear a nice shirt, with french cuffs, and my favorite cuff links (which, at one point, snagged on Eyes' top).
Eyes has yet to see me in a tuxedo (and I do own one).
[Edited 3/20/2008 6:06:34 PM]
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| 3/20/2008 9:26:56 PM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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nothing wrong with hugging, holding hands, and kissing if the chemistry is right snd depending upon how long both have been talking before the first date.
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| 3/24/2008 2:54:36 PM |
Well I had a great first date! |
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shenandoahgirl
Harrisonburg, VA
age: 52
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Charm and eyes.I love these stories.Best of luck.
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