| 3/12/2008 1:58:38 PM |
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wvareb1980
Chagrin Falls, OH
age: 27
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I'm looing at a legal seperation. I've got two kids with one on the way.
We have talked about it and mutually agree and I know it will be civil between us. I just don't want to be taken for a ride.
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| 3/12/2008 4:47:04 PM |
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snides20
Mingo Junction, OH
age: 26
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it is easier on the children if you can do it mutual. My soon to be ex wife and I are going through a full blown divorce because she took off with my children to north carolina now I have to fight her in court for custody if not my kids are going to be 8 hours away from me
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| 3/12/2008 4:57:01 PM |
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wvareb1980
Chagrin Falls, OH
age: 27
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damn man that's a nitemare!
We make better friends now than a couple, there is no anger either way, we are just going different ways, and we both agree that the kids best interest is most important.
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| 3/12/2008 4:58:54 PM |
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snides20
Mingo Junction, OH
age: 26
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my ex and I getalong but I have to fight it out in court if I dont want them to live that far away we were living in akron ohio I told her if she stayed in the house I would continue paying the mortage of the house which was over 800 a month and she still took off to her dads in N.C.
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| 3/12/2008 5:08:33 PM |
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wvareb1980
Chagrin Falls, OH
age: 27
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That's not right that she took the kids that far away. She has to think about the kids seeing their father
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| 3/18/2008 7:41:46 PM |
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diamond_jewel20
Thurman, OH
age: 28
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hi, im single w/2 kids, and i can tell you first hand it will be easier if you can agree, your best bet would be shared parenting, where you both share the responsibility.. but i have to admit i didnt give my ex that chance.. i have sole custody of my two angles.. are you married to her? if not she has legal custody in the state of ohio.. untill a court rules otherwise.. wish you the best.. and be careful..  
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| 3/19/2008 1:49:31 PM |
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wvareb1980
Chagrin Falls, OH
age: 27
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Yes we are married. We agree that custody will be shared. I'm just trying to make sure all my bases are covered.
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| 3/22/2008 1:51:41 PM |
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nodresiak
Versailles, OH
age: 32
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Sorry,to hear your marriage didn't work out.I am a newly divorced father of two boys so I can relate to your situation.I had to deal with this kind of stuff twice as my boys have different mothers.I would do your best to get along with her and get a disillusion if she is a reasonable person,it would be far less emotionally draining on all parties involved.Sit down and make a list of what you think would be fair as far as custody,and dividing your assets and run it by her.If you guys can agree the whole process can be over in a couple of months.As far as custody all I can tell you is do what you think is in your kids best interests.If you are going to be living close together I would entertain the thought of joint custody.If she gets custody you get a minimum of every other weekend and four weeks during the summmer with your kids.One big thing I overlooked with my first son is the ability to claim him on your taxes.I would go with each of you taking turns claiming the kids every other year.If you end up paying child support you will probably need the extra money.In the meantime, take care of yourself and don't go drowning your sorrows in a bottle or taking drugs.As a father your heart gets torn out when your kids aren't there everyday and it would be easy to go down this path.If you have trouble functioning day to day go get some professional help.It may seem that the world has taken a giant crap on your head but trust me it will get better with time.Spend as much time with your kids as you can.
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| 3/28/2008 7:00:37 PM |
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phatnsassy69
Spencerville, OH
age: 38
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If you can be civil and seperate on good terms it is so much better for the children. Do your very best to keep it that way. I will tell you sometimes it can be rough but hang in there, you will be glad you did in the long run. I wish you all the best. I have been there and know what I am talking about. And by the way on here you can meet some good people. Try friendship and go from there don't rush anything. Tammy
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| 3/28/2008 7:02:04 PM |
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garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
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My advice is always cover your behind and get everything in writing. Always do what is in the best interest of the children. good luck
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