4/1/2008 2:11:19 PM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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looking4u14477
Kent, NY
age: 28
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I am a single mother of 3 kids. I have a 10 yr. old girl, 6 yr old girl and a 3 week old son. I have always and still do have a hjard time finding a decent guy that will accept me and my kids.
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4/1/2008 3:03:25 PM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 49
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sorry looking ..you'll find a guy who isnt afraid of kids
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4/1/2008 5:45:06 PM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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flaws_n_all28
Fulton, NY
age: 28
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because most are too immature to take on responsibility...
i know all about that, don't worry about it girly.
you will be happy sooner or later. don't try so hard to look, let them find you.
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4/1/2008 6:30:47 PM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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laurahn
Hazel Park, MI
age: 26
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I think women are naturally more accepting of someone elses kids than men, its not to say you will not find one. Its also hard to find someone who is not just going to accept them but who will love them too. Good luck, I have been looking for a while but I will not just settle on any man.
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4/1/2008 7:10:28 PM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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impressivetoys
Wells, MN
age: 27
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I love kids. Thats what makes life, life. It dont matter whos they are. They can always make one smile. And the fools that cant see this, well then "F*CK 'EM!!!" cause there are guys out there like me.
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4/1/2008 7:29:59 PM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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easygoin68
Crawford, NE
age: 39
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I take my kids every weekend. I've been told by many women that is a no go. When will you be a role model for my kids? When will you have time for me? You need to only see your kids every other weekend. You don't have time for a relationship. I've heard it all.
Where are the good women who will appreciate a Dad that's never late with the support(money and parental)? That keeps his promises to his kids?
I would suggest learning to be happy alone. I don't even try to date. This is a fun site to socialize. Met a lot of great people on here. Made some great friends also.
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4/1/2008 8:53:20 PM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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blashao19
Cave City, KY
age: 20
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I know exactly where you are coming from b/c I have a 1 yr. old son and every guy I date just wants to use me and they don't want him to be around!
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4/2/2008 5:02:44 AM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 49
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easy--I dont get that..you get your kids every weekend thats wonderful!!
Do you say no other kids allowed? I doubt it
What I am getting at is this - you have kids, she could have kids..all can have GREAT fun on weekends TOGETHER
Its a win win situation
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4/2/2008 11:01:55 AM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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vyper68
Amanda, OH
age: 39
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flaws n all28. i think you hit it on the mark. alot of men look at having kids as a activity and not as a promise. they have kids, dump them on the mommy and then complain about the way some women act. maybe they would act diff if they had someone to remind them how it feels to be treated like a lady. i have raised all three of my daughters by myself. why? because that was my promise upon their birth just this time the mommy skipped out. they are all teens now and one is out on her own.
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4/2/2008 3:49:58 PM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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easygoin68
Crawford, NE
age: 39
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foxy-It was a fight to get the kids that much, it has been worth all the effort. It has killed my social life though. One woman told me that she would never allow her ex to have the kids that much!lol
I understand, it takes time to build a relationship. Maintaining one takes time also. Being a role model for step children does not scare me. Finding someone who respects that....no luck yet.
Yes, having the kids this much has been a deal breaker.
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4/2/2008 4:42:40 PM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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kathy5311
Jackson, GA
age: 40
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Easy, I can kind of understand why that woman might have said that she'd never let her ex have the children that much. I think it would be really hard on me to never have my children on the weekends. It would be difficult for me to have them only during the week when I only get to see them from 5pm to 9pm - at a time when we're busy getting supper on the table, doing homework and getting baths. It would be sad to never get to take them to the park for the day, go camping for the weekend or go to church w/ them.
I can see it working though, if both parents get a long really well and are flexible about the days. For example, are you free to plan something w/ them on a weekday evening and is she free to plan something w/ them on a weekend?
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4/2/2008 4:50:26 PM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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easygoin68
Crawford, NE
age: 39
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kathy-about three weekends per year, she plans 1 wkend with our daughter, 1 wkend with the boy's, and 1 wkend with all 3. Yes, we get along. I do take an occasional wkend for me, 4 to 6 weekends per year. In 2007, only 7 weekends I didn't have the kids.
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4/3/2008 12:47:39 PM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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shyguy222005
Piqua, OH
age: 25
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some guys are just jirks
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4/3/2008 1:08:44 PM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 49
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You're a good man easy!
I can't stay anything good 'bout both my X's in reguards to the kids..One had open visitation and didn't use it. The other isn't here at all..Gone .PooF.
I admire you for giving to your kids as you are doing
*hugs*
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4/5/2008 7:29:55 PM |
Why is it hard to find a man that will be with you if you have kids? |
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adelinesmother
Fremont, NE
age: 37
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I will agree it is hard to find a man who will be with you when you have kids. I am a sole custody single mother. And in 2007, i was only away from my child 4 nights. So yeah, I am looking for someone who wouldnt mind the package deal. And would be understanding if I dont always want to rush my child off to a sitter.
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