| 5/6/2008 12:47:48 PM |
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havens
Lubbock, TX
age: 25
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I am currently going thru a divorce. We're ok, going to do the "friend" thing. But my question is this: he found an apartment in another state, left me with the house and big rent payment, I can't afford it. So I'm going to move into an apartment, but it still has HIS stuff in it. He told me not to sell them, but he didn't tell me when he was coming back to get them.
Just alittle background my soon-to-be-ex enjoyed spending money. He has a $750 gunsafe, a $1800 plasma tv, a $2500 computer, $1500 refrigerator, etc. All bought with credit that WE are still paying off. What should I do?
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| 5/6/2008 12:52:06 PM |
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beeaboo7267
Denton, TX
age: 26
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Tell him that you are moving and that he has until you move to come get his stuff or its going on Ebay or where ever to pay off the credit card! or put some cash in your pocket
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| 5/6/2008 1:35:25 PM |
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smitty1970
Channelview, TX
age: 37
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I would have to agree with bee. Give him a Date to come and get it by.But leave yourself enough time to sell it so that it does not cut into you moving time and hinder your moving.IF he is not there don't loose any sleep over it you did your best to help out That is all any one can ask.
I hope the friend thing works for you and that he holds up his end of the deal.
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| 5/6/2008 1:50:40 PM |
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jaded75149
Mesquite, TX
age: 47
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You could tell him to wire you the money through Western Union to put it into storage for him. Make sure he has the address so he can make the monthly payments. Or yeah, you could do what the others said.
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| 5/6/2008 2:10:12 PM |
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brunette_beauty
Haslet, TX
age: 36
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I definitely agree with beeaboo..
Make sure you put it in writing. Either email or a certified letter so that if the friends thing doesn't work he doesn't have a leg to stand on. You're not responsible for everything here. You can also try Craigs list.. Sells real fast. Good luck!
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| 5/13/2008 1:59:56 PM |
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elvyra
Conroe, TX
age: 56
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I would NOT store it. They make you put it in YOUR name and you are responsible for it no matter whose stuff it is. I would close those credit cards down right away. Tell him if he is keeping it, he should pay for those debts, not you or sell it to cover the debts. If you cannot close the card down, remove your name if possible. I would not try to sell that stuff myself due to the scammers that will flock to anyone that sells online and in the paper.
[Edited 5/13/2008 2:00:30 PM]
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| 5/13/2008 7:04:16 PM |
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slightlycrazy
Iola, TX
age: 66
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let us know when the garage sale is! 
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| 5/13/2008 7:19:25 PM |
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trucklin
Red Oak, TX
age: 47
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I believe Texas is a "community property" state. So, make sure to get your half, close out the credit cards. There is no such thing as "friends" in a divorce. Get all correspondence certified and in writing for future reference...just in case the "friend" thing doesn't work out. Just my opinion, been there done that.
[Edited 5/13/2008 7:20:20 PM]
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| 5/14/2008 5:58:16 PM |
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goofin_off
Duncanville, TX
age: 38
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Ok, so I understand he LEFT ?? Another STATE?
My advise to you is to sell all his stuff and put the money on the cards you have together.
Because keep in mind, you will be responsible for that credit together, but you will have nothing to show for it.
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| 5/14/2008 6:58:05 PM |
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knightnyte2
Spring, TX
age: 55
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$2500 for a computer? geesh... here's his sign.
we each offer advise and it's up to you to take what you wish from it. from my little experience this is what's gonna happen. he's going to move out of state, they will not show up to repo the safe, tv, computer or refrigerator. so, you are going to have bad marks on your credit history for it. Regardless. I'd keep the stuff, Texas is a community property state, so he cannot say this is yours, this is mine. Nor can you. However, i will assume there is a gun or two in the safe. you decide what you can use, and keep, and when he pays the other stuff off, or gets it out of your name, then he can take what he wishes. as the divorce proceeds, your attorney would say the same thing, if he/she is smart. I should say, if your attorney isnt one of those who looks out for themselves, and you owe everything. You might even call the companies that sold you the stuff, and see if they will take them back. i doubt that is a good avenue anyway. they'll scream and moan until hell freezes over after their money. So, if you are going to pay for the stuff, keep it. Or at least until he pays for what you wish him to have.
I agree with everyone with one change. I would give him a date to come up with the money or get this stuff out of your name. I'm sure the tv and frig were benefiting both of you, so you'll probably lose there. In the end, the court will tell him to pay for the stuff he wants, and you pay for the stuff you want. Whether you pay or not, he probably won't. Fresh and single, out of state, new women to conquer. He won't e able to afford it.
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| 5/14/2008 7:01:30 PM |
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justlaidback
Lubbock, TX
age: 53
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Hello havens I'm from Lubbock too I live across from fourth st. wal-mart near frankfort just saying hello
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| 5/14/2008 11:59:53 PM |
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daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54 online now!
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No matter what you want to do you had better consult a lawyer, as screwy as the law is you had better be covered on this before you get liabel for what happens to this stuff and have to pay for it and not have it.
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| 5/15/2008 9:21:27 AM |
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connie1964
Alice, TX
age: 44
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why give him the benefit of getting his stuff and taking the chance of him NOT paying the cards and then your credit is ruined also????---not worth it sweetie...keep what you need and sell the rest and pay off--it may help his credit also..but you're doing it for yourself...
when i divorced my ex left me with EVERYTHING and at first i was worried about paying the mortgage--of course the good thing was all the belongings were paid for we hated the credit card thing....anyway...when divorce was final I had everything changed to my name and when i did the mortgage--it actually lowered my payment 100 a mo.---he always said i'd NEVER make it on my own--that was 6yrs ago next mo....and honey i'm doing awesome and this year due to making my mortgage payments on time--they lowered my interest rate and my pymts went down another 40 per mo....i have a 2200 sq ft home with nearly 2 lots of land and my mortgage is only 337 per mo.
you can do it--NEVER have a man say you can't...good luck
connie
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| 5/15/2008 10:12:53 AM |
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sitiniraq
Montgomery, TX
age: 48
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Pawn it and send him the ticket. Besides he owes you a little spending money anyway. Just pawn it for 200 or so.
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| 5/16/2008 10:38:33 AM |
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justdancin
Tomball, TX
age: 51
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My brother just went through a "D" here in TX ... said he couldn't close cards until they were paid off without it affecting his credit. Not "up" on TX laws, but, at home there is a 30 day "Right to Cure", whereas, he has 30 days (from notification) to remove it before you can sell it. In my bro's divorce, they had to sell almost everything to cover the debt ... community property ... He had built their house himself 5 yrs. before ... had to give her half of market value ... making it over $100,000 in cash ... he's now living in an RV!
I would send him that notice (registered mail) and if he doesn't come to get it ... sell it & apply it to the debt. Might want to ask a TX lawer, but, I think they'll tell you the same. Keep records of exactly what it was sold for & where it went to.
Good luck!
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