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did i overreact? by debbiemj at 4/1/2013 8:48:22 PM was talking to this dude, seemed like a really nice guy and he was definitly my type physically. we had good conversation and there was obvious chemistry.however during one of our conversations he revealled that he had had sex with an ex a month and a half ago.now this is the back story... they broke up in 2009, she has a child buy him, she lives in florida but she brought their son for a visit and they ended up having sex. Granted he had sex with her long before he and i started talking, but after hearing this warning bells went off in my head. in my mind sex with an ex indicates unressolved feelings. i would have preferred to hear that he had slept with some random chick he met in the club. This is a woman he has history with this is the mother of his child. i cannot believe that emotionless sex can exist in this case so i immediately ended things. My bestie says i overreacted but i really dont think i did. i am at peace with my decision and am thanking my lucky stars that the rlationship wasnt a physical one.but i am curious to hear ur thoughts what would u do if u were me?

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shenaniganlzer	4/1/2013 8:51:23 PM Even if you did "over react" you can't help how you feel. If it makes you uncomfortable enough to end it then that's what needed to happen. I do tend to agree though that someone you have a child with is not just a hookup. I probably would not have wanted to deal with all that either. On the flip side he did admit to it and she does live in another state. You just have to decide if you believe that it will never happen again.
timothycg	4/1/2013 8:56:43 PM All humans react differently in certain situations as the act may be past history it is due to repeat itself again, you trusted a gut feeling for a reason stay with that
jbaby1376	4/1/2013 9:29:31 PM timothycg i agree with him. stick with your gut
hekoolashell	4/1/2013 9:40:29 PM Stick with your gut girl you did the right thing.. Hey there jbaby1376 how you doin.
0101denise	4/1/2013 9:44:02 PM you did the right thing i would have did the same thing
ontheloose69	4/1/2013 9:52:51 PM why ask us? you did what thought and felt was right for you.
k_4real	4/1/2013 10:08:44 PM Usually ur gut feeling is on point, so don't 2nd guess urself. Move on & be happy with someone who is not emotionally & physically attached to someone else. Best wishes.
earldirt	4/1/2013 10:13:25 PM If both had NO commitment with ANYONE at that time,and being single?.it doesn't neccesarily mean he still has deep seated feelings for her as far as renewing the old relationship,or continuing an occasional tryst.I see the possibility of realizing familiar ground at a convenient time with someone you're comfortable with through familiarity and don't hate or feel bitter about because the relationship ended for whatever reason.Both are single,both are horney,it's a visit from out of state to let him spend time with his child.Consentual adult sex maybe??
debbiemj	4/1/2013 11:08:13 PM Thank u all for ur comments, especially u "hekoolashell"
elvissongs	4/2/2013 6:21:01 AM Tough call- follow what you feel inside - if there is hesitation might want to listen to it