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It was a hard day but I saw someone who is hurting by ablessedlady at 8/25/2010 7:28:21 PM On the 24th was the birthday of my son who I lost 13 years ago. There hasn't been a body, but it is almost certain that he met will ill fate. Every year I spend the day alone as I don't care to put my misery on others. I look at photo's and laugh and cry and get through it. This year the tv was on for background noise and I saw that a family just lost a toodler. The situation was horrible. I felt the pain and I prayed for the people who were hurting. It helped me to be grateful for all the years we had. And Maybe somday he will show up alive. It's doubtful but I have some hope. The family of the brutally slayed toodler have none.

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irishlady855	8/25/2010 7:37:00 PM Sorry for your loss, and you are right....the family has no hope... god bless you.
harrybyvick	8/25/2010 7:48:58 PM I have no answers for you my lady as I deal with same thing only year was 1995. He was a tall good looking kid of only 25 years old and made a poor decision one night that proved fatal. I did get closure if that exist with losing a son but many days I sit at the lake looking out into the water. Best of luck to you
mslaugh online now!	8/25/2010 7:50:18 PM Ablessedlady, I wish you the best. Take care. Lue
jandkray2 online now!	8/25/2010 7:53:10 PM My prayers are with you, hon...God bless you.... Kathy
snugglyangel56	8/25/2010 7:58:50 PM Ablessedlady.....Our prayers are with you.....Hope is a wonderful thing to have.....without hope all is lost.....snuggs
utahgal1	8/25/2010 8:03:08 PM You're such a strong lady......
walksthenight42	8/25/2010 8:06:38 PM There are no words to take away your pain and sometimes a situation like yours is worse than death. I pray that you will find closure soon and with that peace.
airwolf_1	8/25/2010 8:22:16 PM It's good that you've chosen to post this; for those of us who've never suffered such a devastating loss, it forces introspection and consideration of things beyond the scope of what normally might be on one's mind. I wish so much for you to find a miracle--I wish I could give them to those who need it most.
1joyusall	8/25/2010 8:24:31 PM not knowing---is hard u r in suspense will he walk through that door some day-----so much about life we dont know--- my daddy told me the story of his mother when he was a baby-- it was the 1st world war--- they told her her husband (my daddy daddy was dead) but they had no proof-(he was a prisoner of war and escaped, farmers helped him hide)-- she didn't believe them---after 6 years---my daddy remember seeing a man walking toward him and his mother (my-grandmother) with a box of salted herring fish on his shoulder---he knew it was his father because his mother ran 2 him---my father was about 4 0r 5 years old----. this story may not be exact its how i remember my daddy telling me.i hope u see your son again some day if he has left earth--then in what is 2 become---i cant believe we all go through pain 4 nothing--everything has a reason 4 happening-- we just dont know y at present.ablessedlady
tlc_upnorth	8/25/2010 8:44:42 PM We have no way my dear lady to know your pain but as airwolf said it is good that you posted this. Sometimes we think of our pain as terrible but then you hear your heart breaking story and you know it's nothing compared to yours. I pray for a miracle for you. Blessings
strdreamer63	8/25/2010 8:53:03 PM Words can't express how I'm feeling right now after reading your story. You, your son and anyone else who has endured pain like this are in my prayers. You are a strong and beautiful person. God Bless
d_lady	8/25/2010 9:27:51 PM I'm so sorry - I hope he is returned to you one day, safe and sound.
grannytrucker	8/26/2010 3:30:35 AM I pray that you will have closure to your sorrows. I pray the closure is of a good natured one where he is ok, but if not I pray for your continued strength. God Bless
pretty_moonpa	8/26/2010 3:56:21 AM I truly just cant imagine your pain. I also lost a son....he was killed at 16, but I had a body to bury and was able to grieve his loss....Not having proper closure has to be devastating. I pray that somehow, someway you will have the information you need one way or another....my heart aches for you,,,
sweetsugar57	8/26/2010 4:11:00 AM Hi ablessedlady. You have no control over the situation. Evidently he disappeared , no where to be found yet. Might I suggest that on that day, instead of sitting with memories, You volunteer to spend that day helping someone?? Get Involved. There are many lost souls in this world. Make it a very special day. Imagine if and when he returns, all the good things you can tell him you did on that day with him in mind. He will know he wasn't forgotten. A tragedy like this can be made into a day full of good deeds. God will certainly bless you and your son!!
456johnny	8/26/2010 4:32:51 AM My heart goes out to you and all those who have lost a child.. I cant even imagine that feeling..I believe you did the right thing by posting this on a blog since others on here are sharing their sorrows. Good luck to you and my prayers are with you.
pretty_moonpa	8/26/2010 4:39:43 AM I just wanted to say....what she is doing I did for years...did not work or go out on the day of his birth or death....she is entitled to do that.....She will when she is ready celebrate his life, and pray that he is in a better place.....not having closure is something I cant even come close to comprehending...first of all...everyone handles a loss in their own way...so OP..You do whatever you need to do with that day.....I can tell by your profile you have learned to celebrate life in your everyday living.
keebler3	8/26/2010 6:59:20 PM next weekend (my best friend) who lost a son, He,his other sons & I will celebrate the wonderful times we Had with jerry,the child'd mother does not wish to participate,, we had Jerry for 21 great years,on this earth. I grieve his loss too. keebler3 I never had children.
ablessedlady	8/27/2010 12:16:00 AM I am touched beyond belief of the beautiful comments from so many of you. THANX. Wow my eyes are tearing,but with joy. Not use to getting attention. I came here because 1 of you sent me a message but I wasn't sure what it was for. So came to my blogs and well thanx to all. Hope you all see this. As for doing for others, I do volenteer work with people in need and with animals. It has always made me feel good inside. But on Jeremy's B-Day, I prefer to handle it as I have done. For me it is good for my mental health. hugsssss to you all. Coco