girls making the first move

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rhoni40	9/8/2010 5:24:37 PM Pent love ya for posting thiis! I think alot of women still have that old fashion mentality one they are use to men making the first move! well Im still old fashion to the sense but hell if I see something I want then Im going after it , I might get hurt but it's well worth it ! good Luck hun P.S. Pentopaper is a great person, I know Under my old name we had many talks and He has a heart of Gold just gotta find the right women for him!!!!
catsmam76	9/8/2010 5:39:34 PM An interesting post....what say you Ladies?
dogfoodman	9/8/2010 6:04:25 PM What can I say, He's right.! I for one like when she makes the first move.. All Im thinking about is a grill cheese..
j_t_o	9/8/2010 6:21:47 PM I don't like being rejected but definitely don't enjoy doing the rejecting either. It's not fun hurting someone's feelings intentionally or not. For me, it has more to do with lack of self confidence when it comes to making the first move.
romeoxsd	9/8/2010 6:36:50 PM I don't think anyone likes to be rejected, but a lady that makes the first move shows she is very confident and personally i find that incredibly attractive. Same thing with guys we are just expected to do it more often and if we get rejected then be a man about it and go for the next one..lol..Ladies man up!!!...lol..jk...Well just have enough confidence to go for what you want.
pentopaper	9/8/2010 6:47:17 PM my point exactally we are expected to take rejection with a grain of salt,,,,,i dont mind a woman saying that she is old school and she expects a man to do it,but to say she wont out of fear of rejection,,,,well ladies welcome to our world....lol
bossyjpm	9/8/2010 7:16:01 PM Hey pen..I am making a move on you..
pentopaper	9/8/2010 7:41:47 PM hey bossy.....i thought you had a boyfriend
jamesbrown40	9/8/2010 8:35:23 PM i agree
cootneedslove	9/8/2010 8:40:54 PM WELL I AM A VERY WITTY PERSON AM NOT SCARED TO MAKE A MOVE ON A MAN I AM INTERESTED IN....SHOULD I ASK HIM OUT TOO????? I HAVE MY BIG GO FOR IT SHOES ON ...THANKS PENTOPAPER FOR THE BLOG SWEETY....
gothichippy	9/8/2010 8:49:35 PM Alot of the time I do make the first move.......and then they run away...........it's like you can't win sometimes. I really think it more depends on the people involved. But it's difficult to judge which way you should go with it.
jandkray2	9/8/2010 8:55:32 PM I'm not afraid either, coot...maybe they should be, but I'm not!!!
torn_n_shatterd	9/8/2010 9:13:56 PM I chased my guy down like a rabbit in heat and got what I wantedNo fear of rejection here
l1020	9/8/2010 9:23:55 PM ok if I am really interested in a guy ill drop a few hints ,see what happens , and eventually build up enough courage to ask him out eventually , knowing he may say yes or no either way , never know until you ask otherwise , , at least theyll know you had an interest in them ,
musicdesign	9/8/2010 10:10:18 PM I tend to be assertive and don't hesitate making the first move. It is nice when he does it first, but not afraid to do it if he doesn't.
bluecougareyes	9/8/2010 10:37:50 PM GOOD BLOG !! Good observation ! ... QUOTE: "due to the fact that they are afraid of the humiliation of being rejected".......Chickens !... "she dosen't want to make the first move out of fear of rejection but dosen't mind being the one who does the rejecting." Double Standards, that what it is ! OR ... Men are Hunters... women are prey ! We are still living in a Cave Man mentality......... Q: Why do guys Bar-B-Q most the time and not the women ? A: They are still CAVE MEN ! Peace !....
harrybyvick	9/9/2010 2:23:50 AM That will work for me
yajusneverkno	9/9/2010 4:59:52 AM I think it's ironic how these double standards exist. For instance, I've seen many women complain about winks saying "read my profile and email me!!!" Then they will send you a wink lol. Personally it's easier for me to take rejection than it is to reject someone for fear of hurting their feelings. But I do like for a woman to make the first move, that way I know she's interested. If I'm not interested, I'll find a tactfull way of saying no without hurting her feelings. However, It would be nice if they would let it end there and not just keep on and on. If a man is interested, he will jump rite then. If he's not, he's not gonna change his mind tomorrow, or at least I don't. Being hit on is very flattering no matter who it is, but rejecting someone over and over isn't a lot of fun
lamac2010	9/9/2010 6:42:56 AM mo double standards here. i am use to making the first move and being the persuer, it would be nice to be the persuee for a change.
1942t67	9/9/2010 7:03:03 AM I look around and truly see a double standard, if we persue, then we should expect to be persured, when we block because we don't like him, what can we expect. Times are changeing fast, not long ago i can remember when the female would pick up the ticket also, and many times there was no question, then we have changed again? LADIES, Please tell us what you want and what you expect us guys to do and i am sure 90 percent will comply, the other 10 percent really can't be changed, anyway best of luck and God Bless all of You in your decisions and lasting happiness forever.
baghdaddy_01	9/9/2010 7:55:20 AM Hey Pen, excellent blog! It gets old being told to "man up" and go check out the next one.
fishing4mhb	9/9/2010 8:57:38 AM If i see some man that i feel the need to talk to, just put my big girl panties on and go talk, never know until you make contact with a person!
fuddyduddie	9/9/2010 9:22:45 AM ITs just awkward either way it goes to make the first move, on both male and female, I think. But I will, if I think I want something badly enough. You are right Larry. there is a double standard. But there are stiil double standards that go both ways. Can you think of some? lol
just_ct	9/9/2010 10:23:55 AM Making the first move takes courage and nerves of steel. Being able to withstand the rejection of being turned down requires a good self image and a certainty about your self worth. I've found that most women talk a good game, "If I see a man, I'll go do this and I'll go do that..." When in reality, they simply don't have the nerves it takes to follow through on these boasts. Most will stand around doing nothing and thinking "well I made eye contact with him. Why isn't he coming over here?" Which is ok. It's mostly upbringing. The "I've got the hoohoo and its good. So , I should be pursued and won like a prize" syndrome. The problem with being pursued and won like a prize is that the process turns you from a person into an object. A prize to be chased and won. A challenge to be conquered. The entire process that women happily promote objectifys them and then after they've been chased down and won, they are unhappy that they are viewed as objects. They are unhappy that the hoohoo is seen as a prize and an entity apart from themself. It's a complex world.
bluecougareyes	9/9/2010 10:46:03 AM @ just_ct.... Very good perspective on the topic....and well put ! " Please Pursue beauty and flashing painted eyes " Body language is SO IMPORTANT in the MATING GAME !! Many people can't read Facial or Body language very well ! If we could only observe the body language of animal, we could learn that humans do the same things, subconsciously. .....
dancer70	9/9/2010 11:35:24 AM Having grown up in an era where the gentleman pursued the lady, it's a difficult thing for me to change. I've never learned the art of pursuing and that's probably why I'm still single. I'm working on it and trying to be a little more aggressive.
jandkray2	9/9/2010 11:42:22 AM Me, too, dancer....It's easy to chase here for the guys, I think...a little harder for some of us!
cavelier0101	9/9/2010 12:10:06 PM I like to hunt. I much rather go after what I want rather than be caught by someone that wants me.
sonyad1967	9/9/2010 1:09:56 PM I'm not afraid to make the first move. If I see something I want, I will go for it.
solomomof4	9/9/2010 2:12:42 PM I agree that I women that makes the first move is confident and shows she has a good head on her shoulders. I am not saying we are worried about being rejected but if we have a good self esteem about ourselves that helps. I have recently started to make first moves since I know what I want and go for it.
sallybelle494	9/9/2010 2:59:34 PM This afternoon at McDonald's a very attractive gentleman came up on a Harley. He was about my age and I wondered what if I would have walked over and asked if he had need of a passenger lol
ronkan2	9/9/2010 5:11:50 PM Are you Kidding women make the first move. Have you ever heard the words "FEAR FACTOR". Most women on here have the most fear. It is ingrained in there brains. How many times have they said they fear of being stalked. In reality what % have been stalked?
widower47	9/9/2010 5:41:02 PM I love it when a woman makes the first move.It shows me she is really interested in me. But i am not afraid to make the first move either.But sometimes it is like
fiddlefaddle	9/10/2010 10:39:08 AM Well listen to this. I made the first move with my ex boy friend and he told me he felt like I was treating him like a sex object. What do yo think of that?
pattywack923	9/13/2010 2:46:23 PM I say just do it....... Who's gonna know you have been rejected the computer lol....Good luck all
ronster123	9/14/2010 10:56:11 AM who cares who makes the first move. most all men like a woman to show they can go for what they want. i like a woman making a move on me it makes you feel special.
aussies2	9/14/2010 11:32:03 AM I think if you see something you want you should go for it! Life's too short not to!
fobain	9/14/2010 2:56:46 PM I agree with Aussies2. The only person you have to blame for NOT making the move, and being alone because of it, is yourself. I'd rather have loved, and lost, than never to have loved at all. Turn on those winks ladies!
beccasgardens11	9/14/2010 9:40:09 PM i am just old fashioned. thats my main reason.. add to that the ones that i made the first move on all rejected me. except 2. one was nice, and had a good point, the other is still messaging with me.. so fear of rejection? a bit.. but mostly that i was taught you let the man make the moves, and its unladylike to chase a guy..
superprecious	9/14/2010 10:18:31 PM you know wat i think is that guys are starting to like that girls are bein a little braver and makin first move and you know wat i hihgly believe that guys are losing their touch they are gettin scared to make first move... i live in st george and i dont know many guys that have made the first move and when i did they were freakin quiet so if you think bout it guys should grow some and girls need to put on their big girl panties both sexes are capable of makin the first move its just everyone is chicken.
robnall	9/15/2010 3:29:34 AM i love being presued, i dont know there is just some type comfortablity in it.. my be why i am always single
nicole291981	9/15/2010 6:01:31 AM I am a 29 year old woman and I am not afraid to make the first move!! If you get rejected oh well shit happens
tonyalasagna online now!	9/15/2010 8:08:46 AM I really don't think it's a "double standard". If so, then it's also a double standard for a man to open doors for a lady and pull out her chair. It's old fashioned and just how some things are for some people. I do agree with CT that it's about one's upbringing but disagree with his comments about the "prize". At minimum, I will put some feelers out there and find out if a man is interested. If so, I will let him know my thoughts (make the first move) but I will not chase a man. I am old fashioned in the sense that I want to be pursued and courted and there isn't a damn thing wrong with it!
barryw717	9/15/2010 1:41:29 PM Why is it that some women say they want the guy to make the first move but they have the winks turned for? Is sending a wink not a first move?
tonyalasagna online now!	9/15/2010 3:18:04 PM barry, i have my winks turned off because when they are turned on, i get them on a regular basis. it's just too easy to wink at someone. i believe that if someone takes the time to read my profile and they are genuinely interested, they will also take the time to write me and start a conversation based on what they have read. many people click on profiles and wink or send a friend request without reading.
barryw717	9/15/2010 4:10:10 PM tonyalasagna, when you get a message from someone do you take the time to read the message and look at their profile before you write then back or delete the message without writing them back? What is more importent the first message being and good one or the profile being good? What makes a good first message and profile?
pammierose	9/27/2010 8:07:09 PM Well I am definitely female and I have no problem with self-esteem, nor do I have a shy bone in my body. If I see someone I think looks/sounds interesting, I have no problem saying so first..not in the least. However, being a 100% Southern gal, if something does take off, I still like being treated like a lady. Like Tonya said, I will not chase a man. If he's interested he is, if not, he's not. I do know when to back away and will.