How to Find the Perfect Man or Woman Online in 5 Easy Steps

Joining an online dating site for the first time can be a bit intimidating. What do I say in my profile? What pictures should I post? What should I say when I email someone? Getting set up on a dating site will be made much easier if you follow our tips here.


1. Post a positive profile and personal essay. Present yourself in a compelling way. Coming off as needy and uninteresting is not attractive. Emphasize your good points, and capture your reader with the first paragraph. Make it something that summarizes your character and personality. Have someone read what you’ve written before posting it in the personals. Your friends are a good judge of who you are and who you are not. You have a small window to work with, so make the essay intriguing but truthful.

2. Post an updated photo and make sure that one is available of the other person. If it is not, request it. Some surprises are nice, and looks are not everything, but it is only fair that each person knows exactly who they are talking to. You want to appear neat and presentable, as well as fully clothed. Use a photo that shows your best qualities, and does not include other people or pets. Select a picture that shows how you look every day, not a glamour shot. You want everyone to see the real you.

3. Be totally upfront and honest from the get go. Do not reveal too much personal information, but the basics are essential. You would want the other person to do the same as well. Honesty is always best.

4. Be prompt in returning emails, and expect the same in return. A first impression, even on the online personals, is very important in finding the perfect man or woman. If the person is a slacker in answering a message, they will probably be a slacker when it comes down to actual dating situations as well.

5. Accept rejection. There is someone for everyone, and the person you talk to this week may not be the right one for you, or vice versa. Online dating, like traditional dating, is a matter of trial and error. Try not to get discouraged if things don’t work out.

Finding the perfect man or woman is not always that easy. Take your time and be patient, and you will find online personals are worth the time.