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Creating your profile |
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What makes a good profile? Well, consider something: You are selling yourself. Although we don't typically like to think of ourselves as 'products', when it comes to online dating, that's exactly what we are. You can't expect people to be clicking on your profile and sending you email just because you want them to. You have to give them a reason. What is it about you that makes you different from everyone else? Why would someone want to date you? Why should someone go through the trouble of writing up an email and sending it to you? Why should someone pay for this site just so they can send you an email (more on costs later)? You are going to have to answer all of these questions, and you can only answer them with your profile. The good news is making a good profile is easy. Most people are just so lazy they don't bother taking any time with it. Use their laziness to your advantage by creating the best profile. The easy part of creating a profile consists of selecting from the many pre-defined questions that a site will have. Like your hair color, your height, favorite activities, etc. Answering these questions is fairly academic and should only take a minute or so. There is definitely no excuse not to fill this stuff out! The hard part of creating a profile? Yes, you have to actually type. Every dating site will have a 'describe yourself' section. This is where you will say stuff about yourself, along with what you are looking for. You can say whatever you want in here, but the trick is to keep it short and sweet. Remember, you are selling yourself. 2 paragraphs should be enough to convince someone that you are worth talking to. Talking about ones self is pretty hard for most people. Just relax and let it flow. Why are you here? What are some interesting things that you like to do? What do you find attractive about a guy/girl? If you just answer those questions you should have at least a paragraph, maybe two. That will suffice. The first time is usually the hardest. After you join a few sites doing your profile will become pretty easy. Remember that people won't be able to read your mind. Men and women see things differently. When you write something, understand that whoever is reading it might be taking something you say differently than you meant it. For example, as a man, if you mention something about sex in your profile, a woman might just think that that's all you are really looking for, or that's all you care about. Or as a woman, if you say things like "I want someone who is honest, and will treat me with respect", a man is thinking "emotional baggage." Remember, people that read your profile don't know you. They don't know your sense of humor, or your writing style. There are a lot of subtle things people read into from looking at what someone writes. Just pretend you are someone else reading your profile. What does it seem like you are saying? Make sure you spell everything correctly, and check your grammar. Bad spelling and/or grammar will make you look like an idiot to most people, and rightfully so. You are certain to have a program on your computer that does spell-check. Use it. Some really good sites, like this one for example, have spell-check built in for your convenience. We review thousands and thousands of profiles on DateHookup.dating. We are amazed at how many people can't even seem to form coherent sentences, let alone spell words correctly. Don't these people realize that no one is going to respond to their profile? It sounds harsh, but the reality is bad spelling and grammar make you look dumb. Lack of intelligence is a big time turn off, especially for women. It doesn't matter if you accidentally spelled something wrong, or were in a hurry and accidentally created some sentences that didn't make any sense. No one knows it was an accident, all they know is what they see. So take 20 minutes and do it right. You only have to do it once, what's the big deal? The personality section is the second most important part of a profile. If you want to have people contacting you, and you want people to respond to your messages, make sure you do this part right.
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