| 7/21/2008 12:42:55 PM |
I don`t know who to date? |
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heartfelt1
Harrisville, RI
age: 38
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I`m just starting to date again and the women I`ve been dating never lost anyone and don`t seem to realize how special a partner is.They say I`m so tender hearted and I show my true feelings and that`s rare in most men but then they take advantage of me.I`ve tried to meet other people who have lost someone but there are not to many around my age.I don`t know what to do can somebody give me some input please Thank You.
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| 7/21/2008 5:33:09 PM |
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darlenemi51
Onaway, MI
age: 56
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Just a thought here, Veterns groups.
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| 7/24/2008 5:44:32 PM |
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aprilviolet
New Milford, CT
age: 59
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I feel for you. You are way too young to be widowed. I was widowed at 51 and there were few in my shoes either. I belong to a church singles group but most of the members are divorced and not widowed. It is not the same. I have been alone 8 years next month. Most of those I have dated are divorced. Recently I have dated a couple of widowers and may have finally found someone. Notice that I say may. Try a Christian singles site. You may not be relgious but church may be the best place to find a good match. Good Luck.
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| 7/24/2008 6:50:36 PM |
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beanybabe
Northfield, MN
age: 48
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Im sorry..I dont have any advice. Only can say I understand. I was 39 when I became a widow. Its a whole new world...a whole different life. As you can probably tell, just from my being here..I am still alone. My experience has been men telling me Ill never move on...Ill never be able to love someone again. Of course..this comes from men that arent widowed. Its not their fault..they just dont understand us. Iv dated one very angry divorced man...he took all his anger towards his Ex out on me. But I will never believe that all divorcees are filled with anger. Its just going to take time to find that right someone...and that goes for all of us. I just hope Im not ready to retire to a rocking chair beofre I find someone.
I wish you luck on your search for your new love. Beany
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| 8/20/2008 4:23:35 PM |
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sassynpetite
Cranston, RI
age: 50
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Here are two dating sites strictly for the widowed.
widowsorwidowers.com, free except for a one time payment of @25.00
widowwidowerdating.com by yahoo. This is a free site.
Must have a yahoo ID to join it.
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| 8/20/2008 5:40:55 PM |
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mystic_heart
Stateline, NV
age: 55
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widowwidowerdating.com by yahoo. This is a free site.
Must have a yahoo ID to join it.
I tried to go to this web site and it said not found...any other ideas? Thanks
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| 8/20/2008 7:11:22 PM |
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judy1958
Conyers, GA
age: 50
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i know what you mean..i'm a member of widows & widowers on yahoo groups..its a great site and the people are wonderful and very good listeners...i am a widow of 3 years and i'm afraid that the next guy i get with might not understand what i go through at times unless hes a widower and knows exactly what its like to lose your better half...
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| 8/21/2008 4:43:25 AM |
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sassynpetite
Cranston, RI
age: 50
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Try just typing in Widow and widower dating sites. You will find both sites and others
that are pay sites. I think you can also try www.widow/widowerdating.com.
Neither site is the easiest to navigate The selection of profiles is not as great
as general sites. But who knows what can happen and it will open up a lot of support
groups.
I've talked to some guys who are sensitive and can understand although they have never
experienced it Also the other extreme insensitive people who asked me if I was looking
online for a father replacement for my kids or other stupid remarks. I am not a ditz.
They had a great dad, no one could ever replace that
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| 8/21/2008 4:54:11 AM |
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jazzmin1951
Kansas City, MO
age: 57
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I know what you mean and I was just as frustrated....I swore I was going to enroll in Bytch 101 classes at the local community college...because that seemed to be what men expected !!!
BUT !!!!!!!!!
HANG IN THERE !!!!
I finally decided to stop worrying about it and just be me....I quit 'looking' for another spouse...I began to think differently and go with the flow of the single world.
I made many many great friends on a local singles site...attended local events...began planning some events...invited people to my home for BBQ's...and one evening when I least expected it...at one of those events...I met the most loving man...who has ended up being my best friend in the whole world...he appreciates me for who I am...he puts UP with my inadequacies...AND my sometimes out of control grown kids !!! LOL
Again..as I have said many times in other posts here...he's helping me to build a new past...
I don't have a clue where this is going and I don't really care...I've stopped worrying about being 'alone' for the rest of my life...because I'm not alone...I have a multitude of great friends who are there for me ...and visa versa.
If it's meant for me to be alone for the rest of my life I can accept that...because in the past 11 years since I became a widow...I've learned to love "me" for the first time in my life...and in doing that...I'm finding that OTHERS love me also !
I'm living proof that life after death can and does get better.
My heart goes out to you...
Again...hang in there....
Happiness WILL find you...trust me ...I was once one of the most distraught people in the world and didn't think I was ever going to be ok. 
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| 8/21/2008 5:01:13 PM |
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frank_1046
Naples, FL
age: 61
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I lost my wife in 06.I dated divorced women and they just don't get it.They say there x spouses are dead.At least to them they are.The women should only know how it feels to
really lose a love one.This goes for men to.The women i dated state that i should forget
the past.and get over the loss of my wife.Yes i have moved on.But i will never forget
my 1st true love.PS TO meet new people go to www.meetup.com this is NOT a dating
service.It's people meeting people.
Later Frank
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| 8/22/2008 5:39:12 AM |
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sassynpetite
Cranston, RI
age: 50
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Here is an interesting quote from an old boyfriend "We have both suffered loss, you had a
husband who died a terrible death and I had a good relationship that died a terrible death.
I knew what he meant, both situations require a mourning period. If they have not learned
to forgive and let go of the bitterness and anger they have not really moved on and let go
of the past sither.
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| 8/23/2008 8:24:04 AM |
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rainbow59631
Bloomington, IN
age: 72
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I agree whole heartedly with Jazzman1951. I have been a widow for 38 yrs and raised my 5 children by myself. I would not have asked anyone to share that task but am now 71 and still alone but have had a wonderful life with many friends but never the special one that completes life. I am not interested in getting married at this age but would still like to find someone who wants to get out and do things. I find men at my age are old so am looking a little younger but they all want the younger ones too...it's a no win situation. I joined a square dance club over 30 yrs ago and have traveled to many places with friends that I would never have gotten to go and am still an active dancer. I do a lot of things that a lot of people my age don't do. Most men I am finding want someone who lives next door and I just say good luck why are you on here if she is right in your hometown.
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| 8/23/2008 5:41:49 PM |
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mystic_heart
Stateline, NV
age: 55
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I lost my wife in 06.I dated divorced women and they just don't get it.They say there x spouses are dead.At least to them they are.The women should only know how it feels to
really lose a love one.This goes for men to.The women i dated state that i should forget
the past.and get over the loss of my wife.Yes i have moved on.But i will never forget
my 1st true love.PS TO meet new people go to www.meetup.com this is NOT a dating
service.It's people meeting people.
Later Frank
Frank, as a woman I truly understand what it is to lose the love of your life. I lost my best friend, husband and soulmate that was all rolled into a wonderful man, that I miss dearly and I pity anyone that tries to tell me that I should forget my husband and move on. I lost him 6/07, and I know that I will move on, but I will never forget the one man that loved me more than life it self. Know matter if there is someone that does come into my life there will always be a part of my heart that will be for him. But I do understand what you mean, divorcing someone is not the same as someone dying. Sure they might feel the pain, but if you want to start over with that person, they are still around. We did not ask to lose our spouse, they were taken from us.
Well thank you for the website and I wish you luck in your journey.
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| 8/28/2008 4:46:36 PM |
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tallsweetblonde
Gastonia, NC
age: 37 online now!
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I have that same problem. I am only 37 and have dated mostly divorced men and they are glad to not have their spouse in their life while all I want is for mine to come back. It would be easier if I dated a widower but that does not leave many people in my age group. There should be a young single widow/ers group or something.
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| 8/29/2008 7:47:55 PM |
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sleeplessnms
Greenville, MS
age: 46
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Heartfelt: If you find someone that you are interested in and get passed the first date you may try to find a way to suggest they read articles on widowers. I found a good sight (I'll have to look it up again for the address) that offered advise for marrying a widower. One article was "10 things you need to know before marrying a widower". You may try googling it. It also explained some differences between widowers and widows as for as how they transition.
Have hope. One day you'll find the lady that wants to know your deepest thoughts and will mourn when you mourn and cheer when you cheer.
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