colorado37
Commerce City, CO
age: 38
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have you ever loved so much that that when you wake up in the morning she or he is on you mind? and you can't get her out all day no matter what?or your in love so much you take you vacation just so you can be at home with her the whole time like staying in bed till noon just so you can hold her?or drive 25 miles just to get a coffee so you can have alone time with her?i have taken time off work when she was sick so i could take care of her.well i have loved like this once and miss it so.i would like to have it again. the question is. is it wrong to want this again?
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easilyshies
Bayfield, CO
age: 57
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Good Morning Colorado37,
I think I know how you feel. Been there done that. BUT I have something for you to think about. Is that love or is it leaning towards obession? My guess is that you might tend to smother the lady and not allow her to have the life she wants. We all need to have time to our self. There is merit to the old adage that if you truly love someone you will set them free, not try to encompass them. In the future try to be very careful of codependency. It will eat you alive......
I know none of this is what you want to hear. I know the pain you are feeling. Eventually the feeling that there is an elephant standing on your chest will go away.
Is it wrong to want this again???? I would guess that depends on if the feelings are mutual. If you allow the other to grow in the direction they need to grow and you still mirror each other then no I would say it not wrong. But if you stiffle the other or try to control the other than I would have to say your going to have a rough journey ahead. No mattrer what....I wish you the best and hope you find a reciprocal relationship that works for you.......................
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colorado37
Commerce City, CO
age: 38
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i never smothered her we had 5 boys and we needed alone time she had 3 boys i have 2 we had 5 year together but i could not let teenager boys have girls in there rooms
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easilyshies
Bayfield, CO
age: 57
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Hi colorado37
OK, I'm a bit confused, but that's normal for me. Was it the lack of alone time, or that you disagreed on having girls in the boys rooms? Or perhaps both? No matter. I guess you hit the wall and there was no way of coming to terms with a solution.
I guess my question is,,,, why do you question if it is "wrong to want that again"? If you were happy, healthy and alive, what is there to question? Don't most want that?? OOP's I let a little Polyanna slip in here. I have to say that my experiences say that I don't have a clue what most want. I'm with you on wanting something wonderful and meaningful. I dont think its wrong to want it. I have found it's a bit naive to expect it to be easy to find. I have found it can be a very frustrating journey. I have been off by myself for 15 years now. I willing to wait for it.....How about you?
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colorado37
Commerce City, CO
age: 38
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well i think a am afraid of the pain
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easilyshies
Bayfield, CO
age: 57
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Afraid of the pain??? Who isnt!!!!! AGAIN with the Pollyanna ideals!! I think some folks thrive on pain. Though, I would venture a guess that its others pain, not their own.
No matter what you do it will involve pain, turmoil, etc. Find out what you want and try to find it. If the pain outweighs the gain change your path. Just do yourself a favor and make all the decisions "yours" alone. I know it may not seem like it, but most of us have journeyed the road you find yourself on. We all have mamaged to carry on. How we did it depends on each individual. There are no easy or patterned answers. Know yourself, and choose wisely..........
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