| 9/16/2008 8:28:23 PM |
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vale42
Findlay, OH
age: 51
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none for me just met a lot of friends on here,,
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| 9/17/2008 3:56:14 AM |
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tinab0505
Indianapolis, IN
age: 48
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No even any friends
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| 9/17/2008 11:15:08 AM |
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lovestolaugh08
Streamwood, IL
age: 42
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None for me. I think when a man views the profile and sees that your widowed, he keeps moving on. 
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| 9/17/2008 4:45:44 PM |
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pennylane5
Rosedale, MD
age: 59
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I know what you mean. I've been tempted to list myself as "Single", but it feels like a lie to me. A widower friend of mine said that guys avoid widows because they feel they're competing with a ghost. So what are we supposed to do, lie?
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| 9/17/2008 5:53:13 PM |
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judy1958
Conyers, GA
age: 52
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none here and not made any friends either..just seems like that if your not a part of the forums on a regular basis then your not worth knowing..
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| 9/17/2008 8:15:19 PM |
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mystic_heart
Stateline, NV
age: 56
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I have had a few dates...but the problem is that none of them live close. I have made a few friends also.
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| 9/17/2008 8:49:56 PM |
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lonely1023
Selma, NC
age: 68
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Same here,the men seems to be afraid of us as ws are of them
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| 9/17/2008 9:09:44 PM |
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leah724
Jacksonville, FL
age: 68
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I've met a couple of men on here.....We are still friends....I think when you say you are a widow and a Christian lady they pass over you....I've dated a few widowers and they constanly talk about their deceased wife....I fill like I would be competing with them and wouldn't fit in and maybe the widowers feel the same way.
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| 9/17/2008 10:44:38 PM |
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joesmom1986
Redding, CA
age: 56
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Wow! I've had very different experiences from you guys. I've been e-mailing several guys on a regular basis, dated several, and made two really good friends that we started out meeting as dates and realized we would be better friends. I haven't met anyone that was put off by me being a widow.
I would never say I'm single. That to me means I chose to be single. I didn't get a choice.
I hope you guys all hang around here more and you get to meet some wonderful people. 
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| 9/18/2008 9:17:33 AM |
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jazzmin1951
Kansas City, MO
age: 58
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I do believe it's all a frame of mind.
I haven't ever had ANY problem making new friends ...dating...or finding other singles to just hang with ! I'm a member here..and on some local sites in my area ..and if it wasn't for them..I'd be pretty lonely!
BUT...I go into these things with an open mind...I don't have expectations...I take a lot of things with a grain of salt..and I don't take things said or done personally.
I'm not unhappy being alone...I'm secure within myself...I've healed from the death of my spouse...I laugh alot...I smile...and if someone can't handle 'who' I am..then so be it !
I'm a Christian...but I don't beat it into others...I'm widowed...but I don't beat that into others either..
I love me first...
Then others next.
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| 9/19/2008 9:43:47 AM |
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jeep78
Williamstown, VT
age: 58
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Hi not all guys .... we all have ghost and that your ghost
I'm new to the site,and new to the hold thing .
oh my nane is RAE
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| 9/19/2008 1:57:52 PM |
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birdnerd
Big Rapids, MI
age: 45
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Not really. I think it is more than being a widow that keeps guys from wanting to venture into a friendship with me. Besides the "baggage" or "ghost" issue, I have 5 kids at home and am a strong Christ-follower. That tends to narrow prospects quite a bit. Be careful though friends, romance scammers are real. I think some of these people see "widow" or "widower" and think vulnerable, insurance money, easy target. A guy on another site tried to scam me... not fun!
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| 9/19/2008 6:36:24 PM |
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mystic_heart
Stateline, NV
age: 56
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I know what you mean...but since I don't have insurance money, and I am not lonely I try not to worry about that to much. I think that is one of the keys, it not to be lonely enough that a person just jumps into something when they really are not ready. And I tell people that when I chat with them. Of course there are some pretty good people that are good at scamming people here and I try to be extra careful as we all must do. It is a shame that people will see widow/widower and try to scam them.
But I am also a firm believer, what goes around comes around. And I hope all these people that prey on us gets just what they deserve.
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| 9/19/2008 7:31:28 PM |
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birdnerd
Big Rapids, MI
age: 45
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But I am also a firm believer, what goes around comes around. And I hope all these people that prey on us gets just what they deserve.
Mystic... I certainly do feel that way sometimes!
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| 9/19/2008 8:23:16 PM |
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montgomerymoose
Arlington, TX
age: 44
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Ah- revenge, Jjst as Christ and a good Christ-follower would have it would have it???????
[Edited 9/19/2008 8:24:03 PM PST]
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| 9/20/2008 11:03:27 AM |
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birdnerd
Big Rapids, MI
age: 45
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moose, I hope you were being tongue-in-cheek and not critical. I was quoting mystic. And even us Christ-followers have feelings that aren't always positive or happy. We are still human. I never said I was perfect - or any better than anyone else. And I get mad, angry and resentful just like anyone else. Am I being held to a different standard because I profess a belief in Christ?
So yes, I often wish people who act cruelly to me or others would receive a "just punishment" according to my will, but then I remember that I am also a sinner and deserve no less punishment than anyone else regardless of the sin. And I remember that the offenders are also children of God and He loves them just as much as He loves me. It is not my place to judge, but it is my place to pray and forgive - just as I am forgiven. It ain't easy. I am practicing to be better at it.
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| 9/20/2008 3:02:27 PM |
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tink520
Calgary, AB
age: 58
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Hi I have talked with a few people then bingo thats it.
I don't know what the problem is but I do know there are good men
out there it just takes time. and Girls don;t give up.
take care and keep smiling
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| 9/21/2008 10:31:06 AM |
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xlibra75x
Gateway, AR
age: 34
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I've met a very special woman and made the greatest friends in the world along the way.
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| 9/21/2008 3:51:45 PM |
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3crosses
Alamogordo, NM
age: 53
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Uh, no. But then again, I've sorta been off line since my puters crashed big time. Got a new one now. Sorta hope that guy sees me someday.
Everyone says watch out what you wish for.
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| 9/21/2008 10:15:37 PM |
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mhil2897
Lake Elsinore, CA
age: 42
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I haven't had any real luck. I am looking for someone in their 40's and I am getting mail from people 1/2 my age or twice my age. Haven't been on here very long though. I have to believe that there is someone out there for me. Hope is eternal.
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| 9/22/2008 7:15:21 PM |
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crazy143
Etoile, TX
age: 42
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no luck but havent really been on long , i wonder sometimes if she was the only one but i hope god couldnt be that cruel . i have looked to try and find friends first and see what happens but not a lot of luck , the one time i thought so on another site i found out later that she was already seeing someone now but hadnt updated her profile and that she had wanted to talk sooner but my name is the same as her deceased husbands, so she didnt feel comfortable talking sooner and she ended up with this other guy, it just seems being a widow and having an 11yr old son does not appeal to them, oh well 
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| 9/23/2008 4:23:15 AM |
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summerbetty
Geneva, OH
age: 53
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no luck here,im not sure if i should change my status.i want too be truthfull.i still need love and happiness just like everyone eles.its been two years im trying too move on
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| 9/23/2008 5:46:59 AM |
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nightowl3130
Lake City, FL
age: 57
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Met some other friends, haven't really looked hard as I have a hard time looking for another woman right now, but I am getting use to it. I wouldn't change my status for the very reason that NO ONE, has felt the loss and pain that we have and it's nice to communicate with others from the same neck of the woods and know what it's all about. We understand each other.
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| 9/23/2008 7:03:48 AM |
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summerbetty
Geneva, OH
age: 53
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your very right...... add me if you like .maybe we can help eachother
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| 9/23/2008 9:35:21 PM |
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heybrad
Battle Mountain, NV
age: 49
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No luck no one close!!!!!! But alot of fun talking to folks.
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| 9/23/2008 10:56:50 PM |
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connier
Nampa, ID
age: 62
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found one and things were going really well and then three months ago he died. I sat at the hospital with him and watched him slip away. double whammy, two in less than two years.. maybe I'll just stick with friends for awhile..
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| 9/24/2008 3:54:39 PM |
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guymeister
Brevard, NC
age: 62
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Yah, with the loses back to back. Don't give up though. I know someone is waiting to love you. I don't want to be too pessimistic about it, but hope is always calling out to us for the good life once again. I wish I were a million guys all made just to fit you all. It just isn't happening that way, so I am still looking for one myself.
I think it is the distance it takes and well as the pool of widows and othere malfactors is small in this group of ours.
Hey, I'm still here and I am a pretty good guy. No, I am not getting the first chance to prove it either.
Waaa Waaa, Daddy your so good, send me a baby doll.
Be well
[Edited 9/24/2008 3:58:25 PM PST]
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| 9/24/2008 5:55:47 PM |
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tuscan54
Spring Hill, FL
age: 56
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no, you would they would be happy that we haven't been sleeping with hundreds of men. Or that we are faithful wives for how ever many years you were married. I was married for almost 30 yrs.
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| 9/25/2008 3:30:53 PM |
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shelly122367
Minerva, OH
age: 42
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I have been on for a couple of weeks now and met quite a few.I am meeting a couple of them soon.Don't give up though! There is someone out there for all of you,it just takes time.
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| 9/25/2008 4:13:17 PM |
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nightowl64
Fallon, NV
age: 45
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Penny; If it's any consolation .... I've found the same to be true with women. They think there trying to replace my wife's ghost.
Some day the right one will come along. Just hang in there.
I know what you mean. I've been tempted to list myself as "Single", but it feels like a lie to me. A widower friend of mine said that guys avoid widows because they feel they're competing with a ghost. So what are we supposed to do, lie?
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| 9/25/2008 7:06:36 PM |
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bubbajewel
Tabor City, NC
age: 58
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I fit in with the rest no luck 
Been on the site for several months and talked to a few and have a couple of friends that I've not meet. 
I do want to give a big to all our newbie's. 
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| 9/26/2008 2:07:16 AM |
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catsmeow13
Elgin, TX
age: 63
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I have not met anyone special here- yet. Just friends.
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| 9/26/2008 8:27:35 AM |
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massrick
Winchendon, MA
age: 60
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Hey ladies not guys are passing you by. I am a single dad. My wife died in 2001.
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| 9/28/2008 1:58:50 AM |
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altje
Kernersville, NC
age: 69
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I have met a very special man - he is a widower and has also had a first marriage that ended in divorce as I did. We started out as friends and as someone to discuss different topics with and became special to each other because we both were able to talk about our deceased partners and share common feelings. We have a special connection because of this and both feel that our relationship is a compliment to our spouses in that we were so happy with them that we want that kind of relationship again. Neither of us will ever forget our former spouses and will always love them. Our love in no way replaces them or diminishes our love for them. We have plenty of love to go around. We live a long distance away from each other and are working on this problem. He is coming to see me soon and I plan to visit him later. We are so happy and I wish that everyone here will find such happiness again.
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| 9/28/2008 2:39:41 AM |
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connier
Nampa, ID
age: 62
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well good luck to you two. as for the rest of us, hang in there. I am sure God has a plan for us..
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| 9/28/2008 3:01:42 PM |
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kip68
Wamego, KS
age: 42
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I lost my husband and have had a terrible time. I did meet someone on another site; we were head over heels for one another. However he is divorced and has 3 children. I met his children this weekend and they were very vindictive and manipulative to their father. His ex-wife is bi-polar and he left after 18 years; as she just would not take her meds and kept endangering the children. Ever time Michael starts to become happy he says his children joke the joy and happiness out of his life. He has 2 at home a 17 boy and 12 girl. I think the girl runs the show. I think these children seen how the mother treated the father and he feels guilty and they know it. We do love one and other and I am trying to hang in there to be supportive.
After watching my husband die and slow death and stay with him, I feel it built my character. Before he passed he would tell me he wanted me to find someone special as I had to much love to share. Fortunately I have a terrific 17 year old son. He has grown and matured so much since his father's death.
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| 9/28/2008 4:17:47 PM |
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foreveralady
Tioga, PA
age: 69
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Nope---haven't found anyone yet--but haven't been on here too long =either.Have made some wonderful friends...........still praying---fal
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| 9/28/2008 4:59:43 PM |
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bcofdlt
Westminster, MD
age: 56
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not really
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| 9/28/2008 5:32:00 PM |
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funnybird
Biddeford, ME
age: 53
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I would not change my status. I was married to a wonderful man who was killed in a tragic accident 6 1/2 years ago. I have not had any luck on datehookup because I have always been a forthright person. I only started looking a few months ago and as for the previous 6 plus years I didn't, well, I can honestly say I haven't missed a thing! A lot of people don't understand what it is to be a widow/widower, especially if they had a good marriage. Part of your soul gets ripped right out from you when you lose a spouse. It isn't like a cold, you don't get better in a few weeks. People who aren't widowed don't understand the pain we go through. We are not single by choice, whereas divorced people are. We are 'labeled,' especially if we are fairly young when we become widows/widowers. Divorce often involves feeling of bitterness, and thus these people are less apt to trust. Being widowed is like being locked up in solitary confinement waiting for the day you will see your loved one again, you feel robbed of what was most precious to you -- your significant other. I have just gotten another dog. Love comes in all forms, and for a widow/er, our four legged and double finned friends do a lot for us. 
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| 9/28/2008 7:03:31 PM |
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jeep78
Williamstown, VT
age: 58
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Hi rae here
To be a widow is like you are a sick person.
I did meet someone but i was just a handlyman the repairs were finish and then i was finish
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| 9/30/2008 12:40:19 PM |
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luckylouie42
Cedar Grove, WV
age: 67
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I dont know if this applies or not; but since my wife died, i have only dated divorced women (not by choice, just all thats available), well they all seem to still have issues with some man who divorced them. and they bring them into a new relationship. I am not used to women being overly cautious, and a little hostile, and who analize everything, a man says or does. This makes getting to know one another very difficult. Has anyone else experienced this problem ?
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| 9/30/2008 6:53:32 PM |
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luvallnurses
Durant, OK
age: 55
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Ladies as you can see by lucky and rae there are problems on both sides. I have talked to several and hoped to meet two that did not work out unfortunately. I am not sorry for either of them..they were very sweet and though I tried not speak of Darrell too much I know that I tend to do so. I had such a small life insurance that certainly has been no problem...as it was spent bringing up my two sons and provide for them in a way that they would have had if their dad had been alive. As for friends I have met so many and how can I be sorry for that? Have I had a hook-up, no. I do tend to hang out in the threads and mingle so I think that has helped people get to know me. It has certainly given me an opportunity to observe others in their speech and how they handle certain things. Good luck to each of you...we shall find what we are seeking, I just know it.
[Edited 9/30/2008 6:54:22 PM PST]
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| 10/1/2008 5:24:20 AM |
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bcofdlt
Westminster, MD
age: 56
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Just one, so far. But I guess she wasn't into me.
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| 10/1/2008 5:32:55 AM |
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jameylouviere
Newport News, VA
age: 51
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So true. May we have too many other things besides sitting on line typing to what seems like no one !
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| 10/1/2008 6:25:09 AM |
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pisces53
Minersville, PA
age: 55
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Nope, no luck with online dating. Did go on one date, but the gentleman was ready to settle down and I am not there yet, I'd really like to take the time to be friends with a guy first, take our time and get to know each other, then see where it goes from there.
Then again I wonder if I'll ever find another man, maybe I was meant to be single the rest of my life??
Oh well, it'll be a year this month that the husband passed away, so maybe I'm really not ready to move on yet.
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| 10/1/2008 4:05:04 PM |
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enola2007
Madison, WI
age: 66
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freinds are good
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| 10/1/2008 6:28:40 PM |
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kypearlsnlace
Roundhill, KY
age: 56
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I've dated quite a bit, but really haven't met someone who fits what I am looking for. Seems to me that there are alot of people on here who are not really looking for that special someone even though they say they are....Lots of players. But who knows maybe one day....until then you can never have too many friends!
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| 10/2/2008 4:11:49 AM |
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kyblonde42
Middlesboro, KY
age: 49
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Not really
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| 10/2/2008 4:39:45 AM |
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hhrchevyman
Sun Prairie, WI
age: 66
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not yet!!!!
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| 10/2/2008 11:20:23 PM |
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jeep78
Williamstown, VT
age: 58
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Hi still looking no one close by
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| 10/3/2008 2:31:38 PM |
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tbear2762
Stedman, NC
age: 48
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found one and things were going really well and then three months ago he died. I sat at the hospital with him and watched him slip away. double whammy, two in less than two years.. maybe I'll just stick with friends for awhile..
Connier big hugs you really need them. I am once divorced and twice widowed so I know where you are at. Often times I wonder if I should even look for love again.
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| 10/3/2008 3:45:00 PM |
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connier
Nampa, ID
age: 62
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thank you. started the grief classes last night. but I feel that if there is another out there for me, God will put me in the right place at the right time. in the meantime, I got a dog to help with my 8 cats. an Italian greyhound.. so hyper! what was I thinking!!
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| 10/4/2008 3:26:44 AM |
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tedhere
Sun City Center, FL
age: 62
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Little here also,
Maybe it's my area.......
And maybe were just a little to picky........
Lot of friends, here.......
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| 10/4/2008 10:32:41 AM |
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connier
Nampa, ID
age: 62
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maybe we are a little picky, but at this age we have earned the right. and most of us have already had the best so why settle? but I do believe there is someone out there for us and it never hurts to look. he/she may be looking also..
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| 10/5/2008 7:25:59 PM |
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biker_ninja
Phoenix, AZ
age: 34
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done quite well actuually, thanks for asking. 9 dates in 3 weeks. who knew????
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| 10/5/2008 10:05:54 PM |
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widow_hatingit
Eastlake, OH
age: 61
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nope, too far away  BB
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| 10/6/2008 5:06:06 PM |
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summerbetty
Geneva, OH
age: 53
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a few here and there.i dont think i know what im looking for at time of my life.its only been 2 years for me. i can always use some more friends.
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| 10/6/2008 5:10:25 PM |
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mygenny
Linden, NC
age: 55
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Not for me no Blessing on anyone just yet. They say put a photo in the profile but I think that made it worse on my part when I added my pictures. I just want to go out once while cause I stay in my home 24/7 except going to Church weekly and go to the store once a month. I do have my own Flower Shop but I run it out my living room of my small trailer. I don't believe there is any one local around were that are on DateHookup.dating if they are they aren't showing up with or without there picture on DateHookup.dating. I like friends also but a friend that like to go out once a while not weekly at less twice a month you know what I mean? But I guest I will have to wait on the LORD to send me person to love if it is in GOD's WILL for me to have one New. It might not happen on DateHookup.dating or it may happen to me someone around were I live who knows. So  stay ::: myGenny on the looking your Blessing will come.
[Edited 10/6/2008 5:12:14 PM PST]
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| 10/10/2008 12:50:04 PM |
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annazzassi
Newport News, VA
age: 59
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yes, i have met the most wonderful man - we have been seeing each other on the weekends for a couple of months now. i feel as if i have known him forever. because he is a widower we have a deep understanding of each other and it has progressed to the point of being love - seems so fast and yet it seems as if this has been waiting for us our whole lives.
but it didn't happen overnight. i dated a lot of men and at the end of every date i just wanted to run away screaming - why am i doing this? it took 2 years before I met the right one so be patient, enjoy life, and love will find you.
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| 10/11/2008 10:40:59 AM |
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outofflordia
Finger, TN
age: 57
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Dont say that. I am a widower also, When I view a ladys profile. It draws interest, Being a widow,Because I know it was not your choice, Unlike a divorced person, what went wrong in their relationship? are or were they a person that caused the breakup, Im not into arguing or fighting,cheating. I you once were in Love than why cant you work your issues out. When taking the Vows till death do us part. I was serious. Why werent they/ a COMMENT IS A COMMENT. i KNOW ITS A TWO SIDED ISSUE AND WHO KNOWS WHOS FT FAULT. aND SOME DIVORCES AR JUSTIFIABLE. i KNOW THE WIDOWED PEOPLE DID NOT HAVE THAT PROBLEM. How did the caps lock get on? So in my openion widowed women are more attractive than divorced. I think a lot of you dont really want to date,just like to talk. And your standard are so high that you are unapproachable. I have contacted a couple of women that were Widowers and I guess I was not good enough for there high standards. I have a steady job. am a christian.I beleive I have good morals..Women are too picky. Again I dont think you want to find anyone
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