| 10/29/2007 10:58:28 AM |
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susansplace
Los Angeles, CA
age: 43
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I met a man online here who said he was separated but really wasn't. He had no picture, and so I asked him for one. He turned out to be very attractive, and was very successful.
As we chatted more and more, I grew to really like his personality. He was into art, as I am into cinema. We talked about Existentialism, and many other subjects. He was intelligent, observant, and seemed very respectful. I really liked our conversations on the web.
I added him to my messenger list per his request.
Then, he dropped the bomb. He said he was separated, but not literally. That meant to me that he wasn't separated. He said he wasn't good boyfriend material. I then immediately grew furious. and he didn't understand why.
He saw me online here and there, and it was unfortunate because I wanted to really understand his situation. He kept after me, saying he was upfront with me, but he really wasn't. I let him get back on my messenger list, and every time I saw him online, We talked at length sometimes on the IM. I was growing feelings for him. Then the second silent bomb came. The worst kind. No words, just silence.
He disappeared on the weekends, and that was what I guessed to be his time with his wife.
I have been hurt many times in my life, leaving things up to destiny to make my future. Those dumb mistakes of dating an unemotionally available man caused me pain and suffering. I didn't want to go back into that again.
I decided to make a good choice for once in my life and say goodbye. What would have happened if I had let destiny take it's course? I don't know. That's why I believe that I can only make my own choices and those choices shape my future. I would like to date men who are available emotionally. I am hurt-free and loving it!
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| 10/29/2007 11:06:21 AM |
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peter1961
Balearic Islands
Spain
age: 46
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Hi Susan, I hope this has not put you off decent, SINGLE men
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| 10/29/2007 11:10:40 AM |
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soultrynights
San Clemente, CA
age: 38 online now!
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susan , good job in letting it go . but r u gonna stand the fate of time ? can you keep away from him ? married men or women r nothing but problems . they show there real side of being a cheat and a sneak. you can never trust them again in my book . good look to you susan i wish you the best .
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| 10/29/2007 4:53:55 PM |
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thyme4me
Calumet City, IL
age: 54
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so sorry susan. My rule of thumb is NO SEPARATED and no one under 1 year divorced. Hope it doesn't sound harsh, but I have experienced with separated (going back and forth w/the wife) and the div usually want a quick replacement. They knew they messed up and wanted someone near, or...they were looking to prove how sexually attractive they were to the opposite sex.
**I AM NOT GENERALIZING HERE.JUST MY PERSONAL PERFERENCE***
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| 10/29/2007 5:02:36 PM |
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falcon77
Eugene, OR
age: 41
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Susan..I hope you didn't waste to much time with him. Treading through a world of broken immature souls is a tricky endeavor and quite often a painful one. People need to grow up.
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| 10/30/2007 6:23:14 AM |
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susansplace
Los Angeles, CA
age: 43
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Thank u so much. I didn't have a warm and fuzzy feeling with the experience, and luckily I had enough will to say "no" to meeting.
The main thing that got me thinking was "What's in it for me?"
Absolutely nothig.
Have a good one.
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| 10/30/2007 6:24:36 AM |
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susansplace
Los Angeles, CA
age: 43
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You are a sweetheart. Thank you, I am not put off of decent men, there are not enough of you to go around!
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| 10/30/2007 6:26:58 AM |
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susansplace
Los Angeles, CA
age: 43
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That is the question.
Can I not return to him if he says he has moved out?
Hmmm....
If he cheated while living in the extra room downstairs, I have to remember that he will cheat in my house too, "separated", yeah right. If she only knew he was on the internet at work and her husband on the weekends.
Have a great day.
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| 10/30/2007 6:27:39 AM |
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susansplace
Los Angeles, CA
age: 43
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Thank u.
Broken souls are pieces of matter. Not a complete person. Thanks for that analogy.
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| 10/30/2007 6:34:13 AM |
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knightnyte2
Spring, TX
age: 54 online now!
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Susan... if he lied once.. he'll lie again. Get away from him as fast as you can. Folks like that are just like alcoholics.. they need help and not willing to seek it.
good luck
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| 10/30/2007 10:17:55 AM |
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pickaboo2
Deer Park, NY
age: 21
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The key word in you qetion is some
 
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| 10/30/2007 10:19:17 AM |
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crazycajun74
Dallas, TX
age: 33 online now!
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Read the cheating thread...
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| 11/6/2007 7:02:31 AM |
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jennine2
Evansville, IN
age: 32
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Hmmmmmm this sounds very familiar. Do you know where this guy is from?
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| 11/6/2007 4:24:33 PM |
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djv55
Layton, UT
age: 51 online now!
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My Ex And I were married for 15 years, I thought very happily, but one day last year, I got the bomb droped on me, He was leaving me for another woman...
I think for some reason most men always have their feelers out for more opportunities all the time, no matter who gets hurt in the end, as long as it isn't him. I just met a man here on DH. He said he was separated. He deleted his profile saying he wanted to only talk to me from now on, when I told him I wouldn't start a romantic relationship with him until his divorce was final. He stopped contacting me Okay no porblem, but now I see he has posted a new profile stating he is single, with a couple other differences from his orignal profile. Geez What ever happened to honesy?
I think Testostrone must fry part of a mans brain.
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| 11/8/2007 6:37:42 PM |
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susansplace
Los Angeles, CA
age: 43
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He is from California
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