| 6/12/2009 9:34:52 PM |
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cowboytrucker
Louisville, KY
age: 52
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| 6/14/2009 10:30:25 AM |
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shady_streets
Wise, VA
age: 46
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if that's your mission, to get every woman to admit they're mentally unstable...you have your work cut out for you  
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| 6/14/2009 10:51:05 AM |
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cowboytrucker
Louisville, KY
age: 52
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Not every woman. Hoping for a sane one along the way.
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| 6/14/2009 10:53:27 AM |
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shady_streets
Wise, VA
age: 46
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that shouldn't be too hard to find 
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| 6/14/2009 10:58:01 AM |
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cowboytrucker
Louisville, KY
age: 52
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It's not hard to find a woman who says she is sane even in the loony bin.
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| 6/14/2009 11:02:16 AM |
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shady_streets
Wise, VA
age: 46
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I guess that would depend on how you define "mentally stable"? 
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| 6/15/2009 9:24:51 PM |
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kittybone
Louisville, KY
age: 35
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Good point!
How about a woman who meets someone who is exactly what she says she wants then bolts.
Someone who asks for you to discuss something rationally and then accelerates to B**** status at the possiblity she might be part of the problem.
How about someone who says or does something to get a guy even though they are unwilling to put the same effort into keeping him
And my personal favorite - someone who tells you they just want to be friends, meaning by definition someone they don't want anything to do with unless they need a favor
yeah hun , thats just plain psycho . ive got paper that says im crazy . truth ! lol but ask lots a people here , ima total sweetheart . not tryin to toot my own horn there or anything lol
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| 6/16/2009 2:27:59 PM |
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pearlsnlace4u
Roundhill, KY
age: 56
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I'm not angry at all, discussion is a good thing. I think every person has unigue qualities otherwise the world would be a boring place. I feel that I am unique in the fact that I can fit into amy situation and be comfortable, from a swap meet to a five star event. I am comfortable in my own skin. I don't have the baggage of a bad relationship because I have never had one. I made a good choice when I married and am only single now because he died. I think it's shallow of anyone to discount another person from there life because of outward appearance, because beauty fades in time but who you are on the inside remains. There is no way of telling for sure on the Internet if a person is emotionally stable. Take for instance I could tell you that I am Cinderella on line but when we met the proof of that would be apparent. Spending time in person and in different situations is the only true way to get to know if someone is stable mentally
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| 6/17/2009 7:05:33 AM |
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cowboytrucker
Louisville, KY
age: 52
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kittybone,
That is one intense profile page you got there. One thing that I can say about it is that it is definitely targeted to the type of guys you'd want to meet.
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| 6/17/2009 7:55:38 AM |
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cowboytrucker
Louisville, KY
age: 52
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I thought about creating a separate for this, but this one seems appropriate.
To those who feel outward appearance shouldn't play a part in dating, I have one obvious question: Do you ever expect to have sex with ANY person you go out with? Even after marrying them theoretically. Don't you want to be the one who turns them on?
Yes, I know drunk people will have sex with anyone, but how can you enjoy sex that you are only there for?
I also understand that your last husband, who you were with for 10 years or more had no trouble satisfying you, but he either grew to love you and passed away (sadly) or grew apart from you looking for greener pastures and now you are looking again.
I do believe that married couples should not split over appearance, because that appearance is a representation of their life together. At the same time, a person should do all in their power to maintain their appearance for their mate.
In short, you should not be surprised if you don't try to look attractive and you don't attract people.
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| 6/20/2009 3:25:05 PM |
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pearlsnlace4u
Roundhill, KY
age: 56
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I do try and present myself well, every day and not just for a prospective date. I am just saying if someone is a little over weight or is bald, or has piercings or tatoo's....those things are easily over looked if the person inside is wonderful. My husband was 350 pounds when we met...I was turned on by the fact that he was such a wonderful person, smart, talented and kind...We lasted 22 years. He was a wonderful lover and friend and everything in between. So I know for a fact that I can over look physical faults, and find love.
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| 6/20/2009 4:06:04 PM |
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cowboytrucker
Louisville, KY
age: 52
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I do try and present myself well, every day and not just for a prospective date. I am just saying if someone is a little over weight or is bald, or has piercings or tatoo's....those things are easily over looked if the person inside is wonderful. My husband was 350 pounds when we met...I was turned on by the fact that he was such a wonderful person, smart, talented and kind...We lasted 22 years. He was a wonderful lover and friend and everything in between. So I know for a fact that I can over look physical faults, and find love.
Points taken except in 2 instances:
piercings, tattooes and weight are voluntary, baldness is hereditary at best and accidental at worst.
I did say that the way people look as they grow old together is a reflection of their life together. That is never a reason to split up. Even if one or the other lets themself go, they are still the person the other married (even if they didn't realize it). Still the person who lets themself go should not be surprised if the other is attracted to the same type of person they thought they married. This wasn't your situation, but it happens.
My post was more about playing the odds. What type of person typically fights off the admirers and what type doesn't?
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| 7/2/2009 4:26:00 PM |
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girllooking4
Eubank, KY
age: 56
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 Be on the look out if you see this guy .. he just dated an mentally unstable woman that did not come clean about it. They are easy to recongize. 
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| 7/2/2009 6:57:06 PM |
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cowboytrucker
Louisville, KY
age: 52
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i liked that one thats toooooo cute.:
I miss freebird's humor on the forums.
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| 7/2/2009 9:41:56 PM |
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purtysweet
Louisville, KY
age: 54
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COWBOY Dear ... so so sweet Cowboy I have had my EYES ON YOU       All joking aside I have missed your canter Cowboy and maybe its time a FreeBird came out to play AGAIN! LADIES HES SMART AND A SWEET GUY!
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| 7/10/2009 9:01:56 PM |
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ladyrae85
Beaver Dam, KY
age: 46
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bald is SEXY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| 7/10/2009 9:08:52 PM |
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ladyrae85
Beaver Dam, KY
age: 46
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Cowboy, mentally unstable, or diagnosed and is being treated?
There is a major difference!!!!!
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| 7/11/2009 7:36:48 AM |
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cowboytrucker
Louisville, KY
age: 52
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Cowboy, mentally unstable, or diagnosed and is being treated?
There is a major difference!!!!!
Do tell.
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| 7/15/2009 4:06:44 PM |
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joy617
Chickamauga, GA
age: 47
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Good point!
1. How about a woman who meets someone who is exactly what she says she wants then bolts.
2. Someone who asks for you to discuss something rationally and then accelerates to B**** status at the possiblity she might be part of the problem.
3. How about someone who says or does something to get a guy even though they are unwilling to put the same effort into keeping him
4. And my personal favorite - someone who tells you they just want to be friends, meaning by definition someone they don't want anything to do with unless they need a favor
I added numbers to your statements to clarify my answers.
1. Perhaps she got cold feet or has insecurities. She could be scared of commitment.
2. Defensive mode set in, guilt trip, mood swings, PMS, you hit a nerve, there are so many possibilities.
3. The First few months of a relationship is called, "The Honeymoon Stage". It's when people are on their BEST behavior and they are putting effort into "earning" your love and affection. As soon as you become part of her comfort zone she lets down her defenses and you start to see her true self. It's always best to be honest. You like fish, she hates seafood, but is polite and eats fish for you. WRONG! Be truthful to yourself!
4. Many reasons to "just be friends". They realized you are not the "one" for them. There was something revealed in the "getting to know you stage" that they couldn't handle or would not compromise for a relationship.
Because a person decides you are not the "ONE", does not mean that you are defective or would not make someone else a wonderful boyfriend/husband. Perhaps she was immature in commitment and decided to avoid any future chances of commitment.
Don't take it so personal. Many on here date several people before they finally find the "ONE" they are looking for.
It only means that they concluded that either:
A. The effort it took for your relationship wasn't worth their time. High Maintenance.
B. They didn't share as much common interests in life for them to continue the relationship.
C. They realized they are really happy being single and don't want to be tied down to only one person.
D. They are a player and you were part of their game. SCORE!
E. You didn't share the Chemistry she was looking for.
F. They don't feel the same about you. Move on...
G. None of the Above.
 Jan
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| 7/16/2009 5:38:22 AM |
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justdoit155
Hopkinsville, KY
age: 36
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I Tell Everyone The Truth, I Am Married, No Secret.
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| 7/16/2009 5:44:39 AM |
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justdoit155
Hopkinsville, KY
age: 36
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This is opened in response to the thread about married men passing themselves off as single. Didn't want to go off topic on that one and I'm curious about the response to this one.
I Tell The Everyone The Truth, I Am Married, No Secrets.
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| 7/16/2009 8:19:39 PM |
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cowboytrucker
Louisville, KY
age: 52
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I added numbers to your statements to clarify my answers.
1. Perhaps she got cold feet or has insecurities. She could be scared of commitment.
2. Defensive mode set in, guilt trip, mood swings, PMS, you hit a nerve, there are so many possibilities.
3. The First few months of a relationship is called, "The Honeymoon Stage". It's when people are on their BEST behavior and they are putting effort into "earning" your love and affection. As soon as you become part of her comfort zone she lets down her defenses and you start to see her true self. It's always best to be honest. You like fish, she hates seafood, but is polite and eats fish for you. WRONG! Be truthful to yourself!
4. Many reasons to "just be friends". They realized you are not the "one" for them. There was something revealed in the "getting to know you stage" that they couldn't handle or would not compromise for a relationship.
Because a person decides you are not the "ONE", does not mean that you are defective or would not make someone else a wonderful boyfriend/husband. Perhaps she was immature in commitment and decided to avoid any future chances of commitment.
Don't take it so personal. Many on here date several people before they finally find the "ONE" they are looking for.
It only means that they concluded that either:
A. The effort it took for your relationship wasn't worth their time. High Maintenance.
B. They didn't share as much common interests in life for them to continue the relationship.
C. They realized they are really happy being single and don't want to be tied down to only one person.
D. They are a player and you were part of their game. SCORE!
E. You didn't share the Chemistry she was looking for.
F. They don't feel the same about you. Move on...
G. None of the Above.
Jan
Option H. They are mentally unstable women.
Answer: H
BING BING BING Correct answer.
Reasons: Your answer to number 3 didn't pertain to number 3. Except where indicated, these unstable behaviors were subject to the infamous 5 minute rule so did not occur over extended periods of time. Number 1 was an actual woman from this site who was very specific in what she wanted and went out her way to say I was what she wanted. If a man did the same things, 'mentally unstable' is the nicest thing would say about him.
[Edited 7/16/2009 8:38:06 PM PST]
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| 7/17/2009 1:54:29 PM |
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joy617
Chickamauga, GA
age: 47
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HE SAID:
3. How about someone who says or does something to get a guy even though they are unwilling to put the same effort into keeping him.
SHE SAID:
3. The First few months of a relationship is called, "The Honeymoon Stage". It's when people are on their BEST behavior and they are putting effort into "earning" your love and affection. As soon as you become part of her comfort zone she lets down her defenses and you start to see her true self. It's always best to be honest. You like fish, she hates seafood, but is polite and eats fish for you. WRONG! Be truthful to yourself!
G. None of the Above. Jan
HE SAID:
Option H. They are mentally unstable women.
Answer: H
BING BING BING Correct answer.
Reasons: Your answer to number 3 didn't pertain to number 3. Except where indicated, these unstable behaviors were subject to the infamous 5 minute rule so did not occur over extended periods of time. Number 1 was an actual woman from this site who was very specific in what she wanted and went out her way to say I was what she wanted. If a man did the same things, 'mentally unstable' is the nicest thing would say about him.
SHE SAID:
IN the beginning of a relationship every one is trying to be NICE and trying to please the one they are dating. (Best behavior) As SOON as they become comfortable in the relationship they drop their GUARD or defenses and become their TRUE SELF.
G. None of the Above. Would have been the correct choice.
I am a Counselor, and I am not quick to diagnose anyone as "Mentally Unstable". I realize that not every person I date is going to be the "ONE" I desire to be in a Long Term Relationship with. JMPO Just My PROFESSIONAL Opinion.
Not every man I have dinner with or go out with that does not want to persue a romantic interest in me is "Mentally Unstable". I would have to be pretty arrogant to think that. JMHO Just My Humble Opinion.
Jan
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| 7/17/2009 4:07:47 PM |
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cowboytrucker
Louisville, KY
age: 52
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The reason I disagree with your answer to number 3 is because the woman knows what the guy wants. That's why she knew how to get him. To think a man will change his mind about what attracts him just because she doesn't want to try anymore is just plain crazy!!!
Most of the guys you go out probably aren't crazy. They are dating a professional woman who, I assume, probably cares about her appearance. You probably look for men of similar personality. I doubt you date your more troubled patients. What makes me curious is why a psychologist would ever date someone who they should be able to tell is a little whacked. Wouldn't that be like a psychic not being able to predict winning lottery numbers or the day they die.
You should be aware that what I said in the first post of this thread is that this more of a tongue-in-cheek topic started in response to a similar topic. I have taken the opportunity to bash on some previous women I met, but I hold no ill will to these women. I'm sure they will be old and single in most of the examples long after I'm buried. My ex-wife is one of the examples. She is unhappily married at this time. Kind of poetic justice in my thinking.
In my case, I quit actively searching for a life partner when I turned 50. I don't need the aggravation that serious dating provides. I date just for the company now.
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| 7/18/2009 12:25:49 AM |
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joy617
Chickamauga, GA
age: 47
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 Hi Cowboy,
I believe you are referring to the term "manipulation", doing what she needs to do to get what she wants. The people who manipulate others don't usually consider whether or not he will change his mind. They are too self centered to care about what others think or feel.
LOL, I have went out with some cRaZy guys on here. LOL As you know, we "trust" that their profile is honest and after meeting in person, find out that it is not. The good thing for me is... (You are going to love this...) a rotten date is a potential client. LOL
Yes, I am a HIGH maintenance woman. I take very good care of myself and always look professional. (manicures, pedicures, beauty shop for my hair, etc.) I have not found any professional men on here. Neither am I looking for a "specific" type of man.
My exhusband worked for Turner dairies. His choice of vocation is not important to me as long as he enjoys his job.
I joined DH to monitor a client who insisted on online dating. During monitoring her for a few months I met many new people in my area. I just moved to AL from KY. I now am a hostess for events and put together different get togethers for AL Chat. There is safety in numbers.
Who knows you may find a life partner while enjoying the company of one of these lovely ladies. There is good in everyone, some people you have to look a little harder to find it in them.
I read your profile and found you to be a nice guy from what I read. At first glance I thought you were someone I dated in college at MSU. I was amused. I looked at all of your pics and realized you only look like him. He was a farmer and we were in Biology classes together. He was my lab partner.
He sat me on the lab counter just as the guy on the other side sat a bunsen burner on top and it sat my hair spray on fire. LOL It only singed my hair, but embarrassed Reed. We got in trouble. We were in our early 30's and the professor thought we should be an example to the class. So, Reed says, "Ladies & Gentleman, that was a BAD example of how to catch your girlfriend on fire. Never, ever, do that!" I laughed the whole class. I couldn't even look at him. It was hilarious! Now, I remember why I had short hair at the end of the semester!
I have never been one to judge men by their occupation. If he can accept that I have a degree in Psychology and it would be best not to argue with me, then we will get along just fine. LOL I'm teasing. I rationalize every thing and don't argue. It is a waste of time. However, I do enjoy a good discussion and a good conversation.
Jan
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| 7/20/2009 2:25:58 PM |
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ccherie
Salem, OR
age: 56
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I couldn't resist this... I have tinnitus (ringing in the ears) from meningitis when I was in my teens
Sometimes this can be very loud and distracting... I love the expression on peoples faces when I am having a hard day understanding, and I say " The noises in my head are so loud I can't understand you".... then I tell them " As long as the voices don't tell me what to do, then were OK!!!"
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| 7/29/2009 5:40:13 PM |
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stonerjim
Louisville, KY
age: 53
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Hey I feel yah !!! I had a ex-wife with real despession problems, & think had 2 personallitys LoL .. It was a major factor in our divorice & her cheating was iceing on the cake LoL .. Then meant a girl later that was really out there, She nice except when the voices told her you where scum LoL .. I ran from that girl Ha ! Ha ! Both were good sex but out there .. I feel for any guy gets stuck with a woman like that not knowing going in ..
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