gypsiegirly
Provo, UT
age: 43
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My daughter and her boyfriend left for Tennessee today, they both have been living with me for the past year and this is the first time my daughter has left home to live on her own. It was kind of a last minute decision and kind of a shock for me. How long does it take to get use to the kid/kids being gone
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meltingpot
Sandy, UT
age: 49
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Gypsie, to tell you the truth, you never get used to them being gone, or for that matter you dont stop worrying about them either.
I had major issues when my youngest graduated from High School. No more high school sports, parent teacher debacles, calls from the principal etc etc.....and it ends in an instant.
I also sent my oldest off to the Navy.....its a pretty helpless feeling...Thank God for e-mail, texting, phones etc.
It took all this to help me understand that my parents in thier 80's still worry about me??
Good luck, you can only hope all they learned sinks in and they can make it on there own.
Now on the brightside.....Party on dude. No kids....
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gypsiegirly
Provo, UT
age: 43
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I agree you never do stop worrying about them, and whoever said that it gets easier the older they get lied. It sure is quiet thats what I'm having a hard time adjusting to. but Im sure I will get use to that
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mtnmixer
Ogden, UT
age: 49
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I pass the time thinking about them.
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utahgal1
Ogden, UT
age: 49
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I bawled first then I paced like some caged animals for few months. Now........I love it that they are succeeding on their own with their families......and I like my home drama free. lol.........kids tend to overly dramatize their life. lol Hang in there, Gyp......it'll get a bit easier each passing day.
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safetyglrl
Syracuse, UT
age: 50
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I remember the day I helped my cutest youngest move to her apartment. We were putting up a curtain rod and hanging drapes in her bedroom. I had brought down my drill and a few screwdrivers to accomplish the task. When we finished, I turned to her and said, "Ok, I will take the drill, but leave the screwdrivers in case you need them for something else. Just remember to bring them with you when you come home." Then, I caught myself and said, "Wait, you AREN'T coming home." And my eyes welled up immediately. She came over to me and said, "Don't Cry, Mom" and gave me this big hug. It was just such a strange moment, because the reality of the situation did not hit until that very second.
For about a week after she moved out, things seemed odd. It wasn't that we saw each other all that much before because she has a very busy social life and our work day hours were different. But, knowing I wouldn't see that cute, little, familiar face at least once during the day and attempting to turn off the motherly worry was a challenge.
Now, the time we spend together is even more cherished than the time we took somewhat for granted. Yesterday, she and her boyfriend just dropped by for a second to give me a single rose and I got the biggest, tightest hug from her. She is on her way over now so we can go pick up some parts for her car.
I miss my children because they don't live with me anymore. But, I probably see them as much now as I did when they did live with me. It's weird.
I don't know what I would do if they did not live nearby.....
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gypsiegirly
Provo, UT
age: 43
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thanks everyone it helps to talk about it and I know I raised a smart girl so I know she will do alright. I just wish she didn't move so far away, almost 2000 miles, thank god for the net and phones. Funny thing is it doesn't really bother me until I come home after work and its so dam quiet in the house but like you said safety I should really be use to it anyway they were not home a lot when they lived with me anyway. but its the empty bedroom that gets to me . I think I will redo her room so its not so bare. give me something to occupy my mind with.
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