wow, yall are crazy lol..
if people want to have sex on the first date then why the hell not.
i definitely couldnt act like i owned some dude because i had sex with him.
you appearantly meet crazy ladies.
no offense, but in the older years im sure the ladies get desparate!
if im still singe in my 40s.. 50s.. 60s.. man i think that would drive me crazy too.

I am not an angry man at all. Quite the opposite. I get defensive when I run into self rightous, judgemental, close minded, it's my way or nothing type people. It just seems those types fill these sort of places (dating sites). Those that have no comprehension of compromise and discussion to determine what will work for you both. My point being that I would hope we are all some resemblance of adults here with their own minds and mindsets. Looking for someone to enjoy each others company at no matter what level that may be on the 1st, 2nd, 3rd or any other subsequent date, meeting or whatever else you want to call 2 people getting together. Why bring all the drama to any of those meetings? I do not want to hear about how bad your past husband(s) or boyfriend(s) treated you. Or how desperate you are. I don't even want to hear the history of your kids and grandkids. No more then you would want me to talk totally about my service to this country or past lovers. What I want to hear is about you and what you like to do. Find out some things that are of pleasant conversation. Finding out if your the type that can carry on a nice conversation, about things of common interest, or just live in the past with a defensive attitude.

Dealing with the sex on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd date or whenever. Answer me this. Why do you think some women feel that if they do then they have control of you? Why do they think that if they don't you won't have anything more to do with them. If you, as the man, say no, the next comment is "what? I'm not attractive enough for you? Not good enough for you? Not your type?" I would call that low self esteem and desperate. No one wants to grow old alone. But let a potential relationship take its natural course through conversation, dates, over time and not want everything right here, right now. Just because its not going as fast, or as slow, as you would like don't just drop it and feel nothing will ever come of a cautious relationship on the side of one or the other. Not worth your bother because you feel you will find someone who will conform to your pace. I reiterate.....its not all about what you want all the time. Don't you think at our age and life experiences that we no longer need to control someone to be happy? Don't you think that its best left up to the individuals to determine what is best for them in their minds? Is it too much to ask to want to find out at what level makes the other comfortable with you? That it should go both ways.

There just seems to be so many hangups over sex. Two people enjoying each other at a level they determine acceptable and enjoyable for them. They call that recreational sex. Sex, something that is so personal and giving, should never be used as a reward or a punishment. Or a lure. But it is all the time. Society has dictated how we are supposed to regard sex. Dirty and should be hidden from the world. Show a nipple and OMG......what a dirty thing to do. But show someone with a bullet through their head and that's totally acceptable. Society dictates what we can watch and what we can do. Hide all sexual features on TV but flip the channel and you can see vivid details on someone getting murdered. Soft porn movies are X to XXX rated. If a nipple is shown on a movie its deemed Mature audiences only. Like we don't know what one looks like. Your child knows what a nipple looks like. Your child has probably seen yours many times. OMG...thats nasty.....!!!! But war, killing and extreme violence is GP. My point being that many of us have bought these society's rules and have to regard sex of any level as dirty and needs to be censored and controlled. Used as a reward or punishment. Or a lure.

Why do you have to have rules? Who told you, you have to set rules? Why not just go with your gut feelings? Use your own judgement instead of what society, your parents or friends tell you is appropriate. I feel a woman who has sex on the first date is a woman who knows what she wants and not afraid to do what she feels is right for her. Rather then hide behind rules and principals of others. Tell me you have never had the urge but sat on your rules and morals instead of going with your feelings and desires at that moment. As individuals don't we have the right to use our own minds and act upon our desires without being judged by others just because we do, or did, something they wouldn't?

Don't you think that if sex was a lot more open and acceptable that there would be a lot less sexual crimes? Other countries get that concept. This country is made up of a bunch of tight assed morals thumpers that try and succeed in dictating what we should or shouldn't do with our own bodies and desires. Do you find something very wrong with that? My big mistake would be to accept it all and not be myself. To allow someone else to dictate my actions instead of using my own mind and going with my own desires.

This weekend experience. To the one I am talking about, thanks for the sex. Glad it was at your place and not mine. So you have no clue where I live. And stop calling me constantly. Today I am going to get a new cell with a new number. Thanks. I am so happy for throw away cell phones. Makes it so much easier to ignore you when you get this way. Just because you haven't had sex in 2 years doesn't make me you private exclusive stud service at your beckon call. Stick it in my face and what did you expect? You got serviced. There won't be a second time with me when you act like that. Go back to your BOB's.


Just hoping to find companionship and some fun times without all the damn drama. If I wanted that I would still be with my wife.

Hey Harlybadboy,

Your profile states you are "separated" not divorced, yet you are sleeping around. Did you know that this is considered ADULTRY in SC? Legally you are still married. Perhaps you may want to re-think posting your conquests.