| 10/21/2009 10:16:16 PM |
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stoneowl
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 51
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Here is mine:
Perfect?! Hmmmm, thats as subjective as they come, isn't it?
I'm not looking for a 'perfect partner' at all, I'm looking for someone who will simply give life her best shot every day and keep trying win, loose or draw.
Her faults and failings are where she seeks to trun away from falling down because of or in spite of them. Someone who will take her defeats and turn them into positive lessons.
If we have to muggle this up with listing strictly physical attributes, I'd say she is mentally a whole person first, and as long as that is true, what else its there to worry about.
She has a desire to live a healthy life, and a beating heart I can listen to on quiet nights.
She has her own mind and chooses to be with me only, just as I choose her and none other.
She works at being with me through thick and thin rather than just thinning out when things get thick.
For this one lady, I'll do anything for and keep trying to do it better...
That's perfect enough for me...
So...any others have an opinion?
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| 10/21/2009 10:30:54 PM |
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dunewolf
Huntington, OR
age: 64
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How about just honest then no one has to try and change anybody else.
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| 10/21/2009 10:32:20 PM |
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cinthianna01
Goshen, IN
age: 90
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Wow...you're feeling kinda deep tonight...
I'll come back to this later...
Save my place
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| 10/21/2009 10:36:54 PM |
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latestflame
Germantown, TN
age: 33
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For me personally... honest, smiling and cheerful, nice as long as the person is treating her right, expresses emotion, good sense of humor. If she then looks remotely close tow hat I like it would be perfect. Nobody's perfect, but I don't understand why it's hard to find someone remotely like this. Not only one interested in me, but one who fits that type AT ALL.
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| 10/21/2009 10:42:00 PM |
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lonewolf1218
West Palm Beach, FL
age: 46
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someone who loves us even with our flaws. 
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| 10/21/2009 11:17:58 PM |
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surrealone
Overland Park, KS
age: 39
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There's no such thing as a 'perfect partner'. We're all flawed in the eyes of others, if not our own. That said, I tend to prefer individuals whose weaknesses are covered by my strenghs ... and whose strengths cover my weaknesses; someone similar enough to me that we have common ground but different enough that we form a unique whole, together.
-- SR1
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| 10/21/2009 11:23:01 PM |
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3dchocolate
Jonesboro, AR
age: 44 online now!
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There's no such thing as a 'perfect partner'. We're all flawed in the eyes of others, if not our own. That said, I tend to prefer individuals whose weaknesses are covered by my strenghs ... and whose strengths cover my weaknesses; someone similar enough to me that we have common ground but different enough that we form a unique whole, together.
-- SR1
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| 10/22/2009 2:17:41 AM |
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claudius5
Petaluma, CA
age: 60
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There's no such thing as a 'perfect partner'. We're all flawed in the eyes of others, if not our own. That said, I tend to prefer individuals whose weaknesses are covered by my strenghs ... and whose strengths cover my weaknesses; someone similar enough to me that we have common ground but different enough that we form a unique whole, together.
-- SR1
SR1, I like what you have to say.
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| 10/22/2009 9:57:22 AM |
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irresistiblered
Longmont, CO
age: 45
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There is no such a thing as a "Perfect Human"...but there is such a thing as a "Perfect Partner".
It all depends on the expectations of the other partner.
If your expectations matches reality...and the fact that you ACCEPT that no one is perfect, even those tiny bit of flaws become adorable and lovable, AS LONG AS the major characteristics are what you need or want in your partner, in order to create an ideal relationship... (That "Ideal" factor is completely relative to your own standards and perceptions).
By saying that no relationship or no partner is perfect, you are essentially settling for anything which may come your way, without trying to correct your own perceptions of the reality.
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Here is what I mean:
The most important factor for ME is Honesty. I can work with all else, if my lover/partner/best friend is brutally honest with me. Then there are the minor things, such as putting the efforts to connect and to help grow the relationship, which can be very broad subject and varies from person to person.
At that point, I would agree to accept, forgive, and forget the flaws, and learn to live with them or use them to insure a happy, peaceful, passionate, compassionate, easy relationship.
The Not-So-Perfect Human that I am or he is, have no bearing in the quality of our relationship....As long as we both accept and be aware of those flaws.
Therefore, each be a Perfect Partner for EACH OTHER. (and not necessarily for someone else) Just the two of us would manage to be perfect, relative to the other one's standards and needs, with all of our imperfections as a human being.
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| 10/22/2009 10:19:04 AM |
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stoneowl
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 51
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To quote irresistiblered
The most important factor for ME is Honesty. I can work with all else, if my lover/partner/best friend is brutally honest with me. Then there are the minor things, such as putting the efforts to connect and to help grow the relationship, which can be very broad subject and varies from person to person.
At that point, I would agree to accept, forgive, and forget the flaws, and learn to live with them or use them to insure a happy, peaceful, passionate, compassionate, easy relationship.
The Not-So-Perfect Human that I am or he is, have no bearing in the quality of our relationship....As long as we both accept and be aware of those flaws.
Therefore, each be a Perfect Partner for EACH OTHER. (and not necessarily for someone else) Just the two of us would manage to be perfect, relative to the other one's standards and needs, with all of our imperfections as a human being.
That was right on the money! Very well said--more should see things through your eyes and your heart! 
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| 10/22/2009 11:18:34 AM |
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countrycharmer
Litchfield, OH
age: 45
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I thought "perfect" was a dislusional percpective state of mind for lack of factual data
Magic 8 Ball ---- that's funny , and the 8 ball says "try again later"
oh - I remember another one, perfection is equally proposional to the extent of desire
[Edited 10/22/2009 11:27:42 AM ]
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| 10/22/2009 11:21:40 AM |
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metu
Monroe, LA
age: 48
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I think most of us realize that perfection is subjective...all I've really asked out of a partner is that he "gets me"...but sometimes, even that isn't enough...*shrugs* You'd be better off asking the Magic 8 Ball, I think...
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| 10/22/2009 11:26:18 AM |
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chucky_t
Akron, IN
age: 62
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The one that makes you laugh until your belly hurts.
The one you can always trust.
The one that loves you without fail.
The that gives you peace.
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| 10/22/2009 11:27:47 AM |
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metu
Monroe, LA
age: 48
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Hey Chucky...nice to see you again!
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| 10/22/2009 11:28:19 AM |
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gypsysays
Westbank, BC
age: 44
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I just want a puppy!!
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| 10/22/2009 11:29:53 AM |
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yourfriendbob
Fayette, OH
age: 55
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The perfect partner sees potential in you, that you can't see. And they want to stick around to teach you how to see it too.
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| 10/22/2009 11:31:14 AM |
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metu
Monroe, LA
age: 48
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That's a very nice sentiment, Bob...
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| 10/22/2009 11:31:34 AM |
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dbspecial
Troy, NH
age: 29
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Who ever can fill the needs of the other with equal sincerity.
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| 10/22/2009 11:33:10 AM |
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chucky_t
Akron, IN
age: 62
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Hello Metu... I am around, just don't post that much anymore.
Yes, the perfect mate does sound like a puppy at times...LOL
Maybe that is the secret. Use the KISS method of finding a partner.
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| 10/22/2009 11:59:15 AM |
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gypsysays
Westbank, BC
age: 44
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He must be loyal and eat my bad cooking....bark once for yes and 2 for no.
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| 10/22/2009 12:01:19 PM |
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waterloo_sunset
Coram, NY
age: 51
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There's no such thing as a 'perfect partner'. We're all flawed in the eyes of others, if not our own. That said, I tend to prefer individuals whose weaknesses are covered by my strenghs ... and whose strengths cover my weaknesses; someone similar enough to me that we have common ground but different enough that we form a unique whole, together.
-- SR1
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| 10/22/2009 12:33:31 PM |
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venussmiles
Jacksonville Beach, FL
age: 54
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I agree with irresitblyred & yourfriendbob - perfection is in the eye of the beholder.
I'd describe my perfect partner as simple yet layered. Simple as in unpretentious, layered as a person with true depth of character. That covers honesty, mutual respect, & mutual support.
JMHO
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| 10/22/2009 12:36:04 PM |
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snhgirl
Scottsboro, AL
age: 79
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someone who says,you look just fine,when your having a bad hair day!!
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| 10/22/2009 12:46:05 PM |
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metu
Monroe, LA
age: 48
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And then there are times when perfection is in the eye of the beer-holder...
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| 10/22/2009 12:58:44 PM |
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gator59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 51
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I have none. Being divorced has taught me that you appreciate the one who is with you for
that person loves you as you do them. That is what makes it perfect if you want to use that term. Hey I don't even have one yet so for all those of you that do and are still here cherrish it if it is right for you. 
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| 10/22/2009 12:58:46 PM |
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stoneowl
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 51
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Said Bob:
The perfect partner sees potential in you, that you can't see. And they want to stick around to teach you how to see it too.
Not to disagree with you, because you said a very positive thing there, but...
I am not happy when someone seeks to make me over in their version of who they think I should be, especially once they've made it clear that they've accept me. It comes across as non-acceptance, dissatisfaction and even in some cases, unwarranted criticism.
In the same vein you spoke of Bob, I would add this as caveat to the rule:
Give your partner a positive and uplifting environment that provides the space for them feel accepted for who they actually are, and let them deal with their own issues without pressure and in their own time, as they see fit to. If they cannot manage to rise above their own failings, THEN it is clearly not your problem.
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| 10/22/2009 12:59:03 PM |
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cinthianna01
Goshen, IN
age: 90
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The perfect partner sees potential in you, that you can't see. And they want to stick around to teach you how to see it too.
Wouldn't that make them idiots?
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| 10/22/2009 1:00:22 PM |
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stoneowl
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 51
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Woof-Woof!
I am one hell of a cook, lol, so we can eat what I/we prepare--is that ok?
(Please don't bark for 'yes' or 'no', ok?)
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| 10/22/2009 1:00:57 PM |
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snhgirl
Scottsboro, AL
age: 79
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maybe maybe not!
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| 10/22/2009 1:09:44 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 51
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Not to disagree with you, because you said a very positive thing there, but...
I am not happy when someone seeks to make me over in their version of who they think I should be, especially once they've made it clear that they've accept me. It comes across as non-acceptance, dissatisfaction and even in some cases, unwarranted criticism.
In the same vein you spoke of Bob, I would add this as caveat to the rule:
Give your partner a positive and uplifting environment that provides the space for them feel accepted for who they actually are, and let them deal with their own issues without pressure and in their own time, as they see fit to. If they cannot manage to rise above their own failings, THEN it is clearly not your problem.
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I didn't understand Bob to be saying that. I think there is within all of us qualities and attributes that we don't necessarily know we have. And when someone else sees it and can point it out to us, that's a good thing. It doesn't mean they're trying to make us over or change us in any way, they're just looking at us and seeing that we're more than we think we are, that we're capable of more than we think we are, and that they see those qualities and attributes and really like them.
If I can look at someone and say, my god, he is such a good man, but he doesn't think he's all that good or unusual or different, my being able to show him why I think he is, may just be the catalyst he needs to see that yeah, he is a pretty good man and can accomplish whatever it is he's been contemplating. Isn't it nothing more than having someone who loves you for all your faults and flaws be in your corner?
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| 10/22/2009 1:27:23 PM |
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stoneowl
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 51
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lovethelake17 said (and your point is well-taken!):
I didn't understand Bob to be saying that. I think there is within all of us qualities and attributes that we don't necessarily know we have. And when someone else sees it and can point it out to us, that's a good thing. It doesn't mean they're trying to make us over or change us in any way, they're just looking at us and seeing that we're more than we think we are, that we're capable of more than we think we are, and that they see those qualities and attributes and really like them.
If I can look at someone and say, my god, he is such a good man, but he doesn't think he's all that good or unusual or different, my being able to show him why I think he is, may just be the catalyst he needs to see that yeah, he is a pretty good man and can accomplish whatever it is he's been contemplating. Isn't it nothing more than having someone who loves you for all your faults and flaws be in your corner?
I didn't think Bob said that, either, lol... I am saying that at times people seek only to remake their partner in their own image of who he/she should be--it seems a fine line to me, between what Bob's take on it and my own.
My point overall is that a positive and uplifting envronment/atmosphere can give most anyone the space to seek out and promote the best in themselves, without feeling like they ar being cornered to change for someone else.
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| 10/22/2009 1:45:26 PM |
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venussmiles
Jacksonville Beach, FL
age: 54
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Stone - If this is your perfect partner, they wouldn't try to change you nor you her.
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| 10/22/2009 1:54:37 PM |
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irresistiblered
Longmont, CO
age: 45
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Yes...correct.
Here is the thing...we all have these amazing qualities in us. Some of them we nurture and strengthen, because of the life we had led...some of them stay dormant, because we had never had an opportunity to make anything of it.
A true partner is the person who knows us the best. S/he won't make a farmer from someone who has the uncanny ability in picking the right kinda investment in the stock market.
They encourage and help us strengthen those abilities which had been non-essential, therefore a dwarf hidden in a potential giant.
No one likes a partner who wants to change us...so we keep our guard up so high that we refuse to give a chance to the man or woman who wants us to grow and be all we can or may be.
This is what all this subject is about.
This what partnership is ALL about....being with a PERFECT PARTNER whom not only can tolerate and love us, despite of it all, but also help us grow to the giant that we are meant to be...TOGETHER.
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| 10/22/2009 1:59:39 PM |
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yourfriendbob
Fayette, OH
age: 55
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Bob will say it simpler then.
It's about support, being in your corner, having your back. Believing in you when it's hard to believe in yourself.
Not remaking you to suit them.
But being that catalyst, that spark, that muse, that inspires you.
But, it's something that both of you have to do for each other.
Hope that clears it up.
If not, scroll on. After all, it IS about everyone's personal needs.
(Dios, the New Testament wasn't subject to this much debate.)...
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| 10/22/2009 2:00:52 PM |
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surrealone
Overland Park, KS
age: 39
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I'm supportive ... as long as she's not an athlete ... because I don't want to be an athletic supporter... 
--- SR1
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| 10/22/2009 2:02:07 PM |
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venussmiles
Jacksonville Beach, FL
age: 54
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Bob *curtsy*
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| 10/22/2009 2:03:58 PM |
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irresistiblered
Longmont, CO
age: 45
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(Dios, the New Testament wasn't subject to this much debate.)...
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