| 3/13/2010 3:09:18 PM |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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It comes naturally I know it. When your friends notice it I think that is an issue. That means that you have been controlled or forgotten who you are because of the person. If you want to change for yourself that is cool. As for me, I don't wanna change for a person cause that would be not so much truthful. For example, I love hanging with friends like having girls nights or hanging with the guys. I won't want to change that. I still wanna go out and party with my college friends, i might adjust how much I go out but I dont think I will stop completely. Then again, it depends on how much I like the person.
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| 3/13/2010 3:16:58 PM |
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_settee
Flower Mound, TX
age: 56
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Pink, you are changing every day..so am I...it isn't an indication of age or maturity, it is called experiencing life. If you are living it to the fullest, you are making changes. 
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| 3/13/2010 3:20:42 PM |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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that is true, im changing for myself but experiences and growing up. I think basically I'm trying to say is that I won't change who I am for a man. My ex tried to turn me into someone I wasn't and I didnt enjoy it. Why change when its better when people like you for who you are.
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| 3/13/2010 3:25:23 PM |
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kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
age: 55
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Ah, Youth. We change first and foremost because we are alive and to not change is to die. Second, the people in our lives evoke change. Change to please them, piss them off, learn from them or to try different things.
It is normal to want to have fun and to enjoy, but with someone in our lives, we change and sometimes put them and their fun and enjoyment ahead of ours.
There is a difference between changing for or because of the people we date and being controlled by them. Don't confuse learning or pleasing others with being controlled. Not at 20, at least.
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| 3/13/2010 3:30:36 PM |
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raith
Boise, ID
age: 49
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Change is all apart of the process.
~Raith
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| 3/13/2010 3:34:35 PM |
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i_am_bill
Astatula, FL
age: 50
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It comes naturally I know it. When your friends notice it I think that is an issue. That means that you have been controlled or forgotten who you are because of the person. If you want to change for yourself that is cool. As for me, I don't wanna change for a person cause that would be not so much truthful. For example, I love hanging with friends like having girls nights or hanging with the guys. I won't want to change that. I still wanna go out and party with my college friends, i might adjust how much I go out but I dont think I will stop completely. Then again, it depends on how much I like the person.
Changing your habits to suit a relationship and being controlled by a partner can be two totally different things.
Bill
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| 3/13/2010 3:34:52 PM |
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sedonaphoto
Sedona, AZ
age: 46
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You guys party in UT!
On topic, adjustments are cool but all out change naw that never works. In the end you wind up regretting it and hating the person. Years ago I gave up photography for a woman I dated. She was upset because 85% of my clients were and are women. In the age of digital she would instantly see my sessions, and she got very insecure and jealous! half of her clients are men but i was ok with that, in the end she made a slip about meeting a guy at his house instead of his office and it was down hill from there!
Be true to yourself if they love you they will understand!
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| 3/13/2010 3:38:16 PM |
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manicmantis
County Armagh, N. Ireland
United Kingdom
age: 42
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If he was the right man and respected me as much as I respect him, yeah I think I would change. Not me, just my lifestyle a little, maybe ?? ^_^ 
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| 3/13/2010 3:41:01 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
age: 62
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I've said it before, when you get into a relationship with someone there will be changes that come about naturally. Would I change to be the person they perceive as the perfect person?  NEVER. Tried that once. NOPE! Didn't like myself.
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| 3/13/2010 3:46:11 PM |
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definitely_ltr
Wang Thong
Thailand
age: 48
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You said it Gdaddy!
When a relstionship is honest and real then there is no reason for either person to make perposeful changes. they will come naturally as you BLEND your lives together. IF one person feels the need to make a change or is asked to make changes then it is not a true match and resentments or falsness will come into play.
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| 3/13/2010 3:50:37 PM |
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manicmantis
County Armagh, N. Ireland
United Kingdom
age: 42
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Well maybe not all are as possessive as me, or maybe I've been with too many untrustworthy gits that I just can't trust any more, but I know for a fact depending on his lifestyle there may have to be changes. Not to him but his lifestyle. Maybe I'm just slightly abnormal who know ey????????  
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| 3/13/2010 3:54:57 PM |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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changes will happen on their own. You need change to further a relationship and to gain trust. I just don't think it should be forced or expected of only one person, I think it should go both ways. It should be positive too, when its negative that is when the relationship goes sour and there is no trust.
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| 3/13/2010 3:57:07 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
age: 62
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You said it Gdaddy!
When a relstionship is honest and real then there is no reason for either person to make perposeful changes. they will come naturally as you BLEND your lives together. IF one person feels the need to make a change or is asked to make changes then it is not a true match and resentments or falsness will come into play.
That's my story and I'm stickin' to it! Everything you said is true
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| 3/13/2010 3:57:59 PM |
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definitely_ltr
Wang Thong
Thailand
age: 48
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Very true Pink, sounds to me tho' like you're asking IF it's OK to change so you can be trusted OR asking someone to change so they can be trusted?!?
Again, purposely asking or making the change (forced) is not a good thing!
For a true, mutual relationship to develop then there have to be a level of comfort in being your true real self with that person and NOT feeling the need for change.
Total acceptance!
[Edited 3/13/2010 3:59:32 PM PST]
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| 3/13/2010 4:00:51 PM |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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Very true Pink, sounds to me tho' like you're asking IF it's OK to change so you can be trusted OR asking someone to change so they can be trusted?!?
Again, purposely asking or making the change (forced) is not a good thing!
For a true, mutual relationship to develop then there have to be a level of comfort in being your true real self with that person and NOT feeling the need for change.
Total acceptance!
trust goes both ways. I feel that if they like me for me then I know I am not wasting my time. I am not going to change who I am as a person just so they are "satisfied" or just so they "like/accept" me.
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| 3/13/2010 4:01:10 PM |
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manicmantis
County Armagh, N. Ireland
United Kingdom
age: 42
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If we truly love each other we'll change to please ^_^
If we argue instead we're not right simple as that. Changes come naturally to us for those we truly love. 
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| 3/13/2010 4:02:06 PM |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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If we truly love each other we'll change to please ^_^
If we argue instead we're not right simple as that. Changes come naturally to us for those we truly love.
very well said.
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| 3/13/2010 4:07:01 PM |
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manicmantis
County Armagh, N. Ireland
United Kingdom
age: 42
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very well said.
^_^
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| 3/13/2010 4:14:23 PM |
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definitely_ltr
Wang Thong
Thailand
age: 48
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Sorry manic but I disagree.
If your in a mutually loving and respectful relationship that is compatible then there is no need for major changes. I'm not talking about putting the toilet seat cover down ot not putting your undies on the bathroom ledge to dry but major personality changes that just should be accepted. IF those are the changes that need to be made by either of the people then it is not a mutual, same book, same page, relationship!
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| 3/13/2010 5:44:42 PM |
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noswal09
Upper Darby, PA
age: 20
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if women don't want to change themselves then why do they want to change men so bad? stop being hypocrites.
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| 3/13/2010 6:19:16 PM |
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heat5
Baltimore, MD
age: 30
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Be yourself. Some minor adjustments are okay. I don't think anyone should make drastic changes just to please their partner.
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| 3/13/2010 6:20:46 PM |
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manicmantis
County Armagh, N. Ireland
United Kingdom
age: 42
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Sorry manic but I disagree.
If your in a mutually loving and respectful relationship that is compatible then there is no need for major changes. I'm not talking about putting the toilet seat cover down ot not putting your undies on the bathroom ledge to dry but major personality changes that just should be accepted. IF those are the changes that need to be made by either of the people then it is not a mutual, same book, same page, relationship!
I said change to please. The man I meet will be happy to change for me. He'll be happy that I care enough to ask him to give up all these dating sites and such. He'll be happy that I give up these dating sites for him. We'll both be happy to give up looking and chatting to others of the opposite sex unless we're conversing as a couple. If he ain't happy then yes I agree with you we ain't compatible ^_^
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| 3/13/2010 6:53:40 PM |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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my thing is that if i wanna go out and have fun i will. I will do it to an extent but I won't stop just cause he wants me too. Im in college, u cant blame me, I still wanna live the experience.
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| 3/13/2010 7:38:28 PM |
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manicmantis
County Armagh, N. Ireland
United Kingdom
age: 42
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You are a very independent lady and I admire that. There is a man out there that is willing to be independent with you. That is what compatibility is all about. We are all different, all individuals. The man for you I wouldn't be happy with and that is what life is all about, the same as the man for me would probably make you feel slightly suffocated. There is a man out there that doesn't want to change you how you don't want to be changed and he is the right one.
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| 3/13/2010 7:41:32 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 36
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You are 20, at this stage in your life, you are supposed to have fun and experience different fun activities so long as it doesn't put you in danger, nuff said.
[Edited 3/13/2010 7:42:24 PM PST]
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| 3/13/2010 7:44:29 PM |
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stumppy
Bath, PA
age: 64
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Manic....
I've been haphazardly following this thread and find some of your viewpoints dicomfiting.
It appears to me that you are saying that for a person to meeet your standards they must alter themselves to meet your guidelines for a S.O.
If that someone is so far off your criteria, why are you with him to begin with?
Stumppy
[Edited 3/13/2010 7:45:33 PM PST]
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| 3/13/2010 8:02:41 PM |
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okmrchris
Hicksville, NY
age: 48
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I've had a few girlfriends over the years who made me change in a good way. I don't mind that. Sometimes a good woman can be a positive influence on your life.
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| 3/13/2010 8:13:57 PM |
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manicmantis
County Armagh, N. Ireland
United Kingdom
age: 42
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I've had a few girlfriends over the years who made me change in a good way. I don't mind that. Sometimes a good woman can be a positive influence on your life.
Thank you. At least someone knows what the hell I'm on about. If you read my threads right you will see that a couple who is in love are willing to change for each other. BOTH! If the man who I'm with doesn't like it well he doesn't like me. If he ain' t willing to give up his slutty flirty life he ain't ready to settle with a woman like me. I'm just one type of woman and maybe I ain't your type ey????????  
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| 3/14/2010 8:14:03 AM |
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chilll_guy_zion
Tooele, UT
age: 22
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Its okay to make minor changes for a person like bad habits that you may have or putting aside insecurities or not party as much but I don't agree with changing completely who you are for someone because thats a pretty damn good indication that they never loved you for who you are they jyst love you for your pretty face or whatever and they're trying to mold you in a way that suits their needs and you shouldn't have to do that to a person to make a relationship work if they really love you they should love you for who you are not for what they want you to be.
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| 3/14/2010 9:28:54 AM |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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I figure that if I go out and at least one person knows where I am going then I'm fine. Lets say I was dating someone, I would tell him where I was going. But if he didn't care or ask I wouldn't volunteer information. I'm 20, I should allow myself to do what I want. I grew up with a lot of rules so I never had a lot of street smarts and experiences. That changed in college, I discovered who I was better, what I wanted, who I wanted to be friend with, just little things like that.
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| 3/14/2010 9:34:11 AM |
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isanah
Pensacola, FL
age: 49
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I said change to please. The man I meet will be happy to change for me. He'll be happy that I care enough to ask him to give up all these dating sites and such. He'll be happy that I give up these dating sites for him. We'll both be happy to give up looking and chatting to others of the opposite sex unless we're conversing as a couple. If he ain't happy then yes I agree with you we ain't compatible ^_^
I hope your prince shows up soon on their white horse! 
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| 3/14/2010 10:49:54 AM |
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barbaraajo
Reston, VA
age: 53
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No one can change me but me
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| 3/14/2010 11:50:02 AM |
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garyguitar01
Franklin, NJ
age: 54
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Changing FOR someone? No. I want and need to be me.
I change all the time, in regard to my psyche, my environment, circumstances in my life, but to alter who or what i am for a person I'm dating? That's fake change, an affectation put on to please someone else, and just by it's nature it's only going to last for a short time and then you have to revert to who you really are or wind up resenting the other person.
Be who you are, change for yourself. That's the best you can do, and anyone you date has to accept you as you are.
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| 3/14/2010 12:34:27 PM |
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pokerface_68
Springfield, OR
age: 31
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I thought I had to for the last guy but, I ended up hateing myself with low selfesteem, I hated how I looked, my smile went away for awhile and I was sad all the time because he didn't like me anymore. He loved the person I was before I tried to impress him. Huge lesson learned with that one. Ya gotta stay true or your gonna be blue!
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| 3/14/2010 12:48:34 PM |
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manicmantis
County Armagh, N. Ireland
United Kingdom
age: 42
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I hope your prince shows up soon on their white horse!
To be truly honest. I couldn't give a shit
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| 3/14/2010 12:49:53 PM |
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rrrsmile
York, PA
age: 46
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There are somethings I will never change...I hope he will go with the flow on those.
Otherwise.....I'm Gumby Dammit!
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| 3/14/2010 1:03:16 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 51
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Ok, here is my stock answer about changing in a relationship. I should just copy and paste it into every thread about this.
Every single person you come into contact with affects some change within you, be it good or bad. When in a relationship, you change or your relationship dies because you are not growing together.
Change is neither inherently bad nor inherently good but it does indeed happen. It is the process of evolving. We want that.
When we are 20, we do the 20 year old stuff. When we're 30, the 30 year old stuff. And so on.
Asking someone to change some large piece of themselves is not really the bad thing. Expecting them to change some large piece of themselves as a condition of being with them...that's the bad thing. Your deciding to change some large piece of yourself is perfectly acceptable, and often is just a part of your evolution.
To be in a relationship, expect that you'll make changes within yourself. You do that because you want to, you do that because you're enhancing your relationship. You realize that the whole is better than two halves.
To say 'I'm never gonna change. S/He has to accept me as I am. and etc.' is both foolish and shortsighted. It implies you have no room for another person. That they must just stick to the shadows or the little corner or the little shelf and stay the hell out of your way until you deign to give them some time again. It also implies that you are the alpha dog and will brook no opposition.
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| 3/14/2010 1:21:40 PM |
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esmeraldar
Toms River, NJ
age: 61
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I think if you are in a relationship you are going to change a little. This might be difficult if you are older and set in your ways like I am. Making compromises are often necessary for a relationship to survive. I'm not saying that you have to become a completely different person. That probably won't happen. But if being a little less opinionated or possessive or whatever makes your relationship go more smoothly, what's the problem? Maybe there were things that you wanted to change about yourself anyway and having a new partner just makes you more willing to work on them.
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| 3/14/2010 1:37:57 PM |
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mendicant
Tulsa, OK
age: 81
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The survival of the species depends upon those who are most adaptable to change.
However, that doesn't mean you should try to remake yourself to fit the description of what someone else feels is acceptable or desirable in a relationship...
UNLESS:
1. You can see the benefit of the change (bathe more often, give up a harmful habit, learn something new, etc.) AND
2. You are changing for YOURSELF.
We all make minor adjustments in ourselves on a daily basis.
[Edited 3/14/2010 1:38:49 PM PST]
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| 3/14/2010 2:48:32 PM |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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I thought I had to for the last guy but, I ended up hateing myself with low selfesteem, I hated how I looked, my smile went away for awhile and I was sad all the time because he didn't like me anymore. He loved the person I was before I tried to impress him. Huge lesson learned with that one. Ya gotta stay true or your gonna be blue!
omg that happened to me too. i learned how to dislike him and everyone else in my life.
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| 3/14/2010 3:42:34 PM |
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manicmantis
County Armagh, N. Ireland
United Kingdom
age: 42
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I hope your prince shows up soon on their white horse!
Your prince will show up riding his mistress
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| 3/15/2010 8:45:45 AM |
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carsonguy1951
Carson City, NV
age: 58
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Maybe there were things that you wanted to change about yourself anyway and having a new partner just makes you more willing to work on them.
I think that is a good approach.
I probably can't change things I don't want to change, but I probably can change things that I would have considered changing anyway. And with someone to help, all the better.
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| 3/15/2010 11:57:06 AM |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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there is always room to change something for the positive.
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| 3/15/2010 12:21:12 PM |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 47
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My stock answer for this is virtually the same as Miss Lake’s, but I might stick in a couple of more cents. People on DH are terrified to show any weakness and upon hearing the words “change” and relationship” in the same sentence automatically take a defensive posture and start chanting the “I’ll change for no one!!!” mantra.
Pfffft. Without change the relationship will fail……You ARE changing from a single person to someone in a relationship…..mix love in there and these are HUGE changes. To pretend they are not is self-inflicted blindness.
Secondly…….and this is just me. My Girlfriend inspires me to change…be a better man…..be a better Boyfriend. She’s never given me any ultimatums or instructions.
Wouldn’t that help a lot of couples?
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| 3/15/2010 12:55:09 PM |
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_dgl_
Springville, UT
age: 36
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Even those who may look at change in a relationship as a positive....will more times then not....never achieve that change. Most people do NOT change....at least not at their core.
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| 3/15/2010 1:03:22 PM |
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askmrknowitall2
San Jose, CA
age: 59
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You are doing exactly the kind of things a girl your age should be doing . Remember when you were in grade school and you used to love to sit in the sand box? When is the last time you thought about doing that ? Long time ago, Right. That's because there are stages in your life for doing everything. If you went back to a grade school now and sat in a sand box you would feel foolish. That's because you would be out of sink with your own reality. That's not what a woman your age should want to do. There will come a time when Parties will not have such a high importants to you. So, you're not aways changing for someone else, mostly youare moving to the next stage in your life. If you don't move when it's time you become out of sink with your own reality. That can be sad. Like the sand box story.
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| 3/15/2010 5:44:48 PM |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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You are doing exactly the kind of things a girl your age should be doing . Remember when you were in grade school and you used to love to sit in the sand box? When is the last time you thought about doing that ? Long time ago, Right. That's because there are stages in your life for doing everything. If you went back to a grade school now and sat in a sand box you would feel foolish. That's because you would be out of sink with your own reality. That's not what a woman your age should want to do. There will come a time when Parties will not have such a high importants to you. So, you're not aways changing for someone else, mostly youare moving to the next stage in your life. If you don't move when it's time you become out of sink with your own reality. That can be sad. Like the sand box story.
Excellent point. Some days I wonder of why I am on this site. lol I'm in college, I'm supposed to be studying, messing/playing around, going out every night, get involved in school activities and partying. These are my fun years where I get to be selfish and do whatever the hell I want without caring. Some days i wonder if I really want to be tied down. I want to have someone but I don't want to stop my fun youth. By partying and living my life/having experiences allows me to change, grow and learn. I love it. My mom always tells me that I am only young once and once its gone, its not coming back. I see all my friends (18-21) who have kids and they never go out like I do. I still wanna have fun with my life.
[Edited 3/15/2010 5:47:20 PM PST]
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| 3/18/2010 11:14:29 AM |
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askmrknowitall2
San Jose, CA
age: 59
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Excellent point. Some days I wonder of why I am on this site. lol I'm in college, I'm supposed to be studying, messing/playing around, going out every night, get involved in school activities and partying. These are my fun years where I get to be selfish and do whatever the hell I want without caring. Some days i wonder if I really want to be tied down. I want to have someone but I don't want to stop my fun youth. By partying and living my life/having experiences allows me to change, grow and learn. I love it. My mom always tells me that I am only young once and once its gone, its not coming back. I see all my friends (18-21) who have kids and they never go out like I do. I still wanna have fun with my life.
Your mom is wise. So let's use her wisdom. When you were in the 3rd grade you came home put your book on the table , and yelled. Hey Mom I'm going out side and play. your mother yelled back, do you have any homework. You said yes. She said, change your clothes , do your homework the you can go outside and play. You got mad , but you did it. It was your Mother's responsibility to teach you the right way to lead your life. What she was trying to teach you was that your responsibilities come first. Then and only then are you entitled to go outside and play (staying in sink your own reality). Now fast forward to now. If you are getting your homework done, keeping your grades up, passing all of your classes ( if not you are out of sink with your own reality) . Then and only then should you be partying ever night. So perhaps everyone is not trying to change you perhaps they are trying to point out to you that you have changed and the change you have made is for the worse.
Your responibility in College is to learn, not party. If you have these two backward then you are out of sink with you own reality
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| 3/18/2010 1:06:35 PM |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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Your mom is wise. So let's use her wisdom. When you were in the 3rd grade you came home put your book on the table , and yelled. Hey Mom I'm going out side and play. your mother yelled back, do you have any homework. You said yes. She said, change your clothes , do your homework the you can go outside and play. You got mad , but you did it. It was your Mother's responsibility to teach you the right way to lead your life. What she was trying to teach you was that your responsibilities come first. Then and only then are you entitled to go outside and play (staying in sink your own reality). Now fast forward to now. If you are getting your homework done, keeping your grades up, passing all of your classes ( if not you are out of sink with your own reality) . Then and only then should you be partying ever night. So perhaps everyone is not trying to change you perhaps they are trying to point out to you that you have changed and the change you have made is for the worse.
Your responibility in College is to learn, not party. If you have these two backward then you are out of sink with you own reality
I like going out and partying but not every week or every night. Maybe once a month just to have fun. I figure that if my parents are gonna pay for my education, I should get the grades.
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| 3/18/2010 1:08:22 PM |
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dreamcatcher00
Plainview, TX
age: 31
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It comes naturally I know it. When your friends notice it I think that is an issue. That means that you have been controlled or forgotten who you are because of the person. If you want to change for yourself that is cool. As for me, I don't wanna change for a person cause that would be not so much truthful. For example, I love hanging with friends like having girls nights or hanging with the guys. I won't want to change that. I still wanna go out and party with my college friends, i might adjust how much I go out but I dont think I will stop completely. Then again, it depends on how much I like the person.
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| 3/18/2010 1:41:17 PM |
Change for the person you are dating. |
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raen
Sunman, IN
age: 40
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mayb change the day i wash my sheets on....but as far as myself nah i love who i am and if he cant then he isnt worth my time
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| 3/18/2010 4:13:00 PM |
Change for the person you are dating. |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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mayb change the day i wash my sheets on....but as far as myself nah i love who i am and if he cant then he isnt worth my time
thats how i feel too. im not going to change my personality for anyone.
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| 3/18/2010 4:19:44 PM |
Change for the person you are dating. |
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pinkkisses1
Sandy, UT
age: 20
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As long as you change you're underwear, you're cool.
bahaha oh dont worry i do. that would be gross if it didnt.
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| 3/18/2010 4:30:43 PM |
Change for the person you are dating. |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 47
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Quote from pinkkisses1:
thats how i feel too. im not going to change my personality for anyone.
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We all change….every single second of every single day. Every person you meet changes you. The more you are involved with them, the more you change. To think that the person you are entering a relationship with does not impact you is crazy.
Entering into a relationship itself is change. Falling in love is change. Do you honestly think the couple that met two years ago and is raising a family now didn’t undergo change?
People confuse change with expectation. Expecting change is not so good. It’s even alright for someone to ask for change……expecting a change is different. OFFERING a change is wonderful.
I WANT to be a better boyfriend. I want changes that will enhance my relationship…..
Saying, I’ll change for no one and living up to that ideal will probably yield bad results.
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| 3/18/2010 4:31:10 PM |
Change for the person you are dating. |
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raen
Sunman, IN
age: 40
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i need proof sir 
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