| 4/22/2010 7:20:35 PM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 46
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Would you have divorced anyway? Has it been worth it to be out of a bad relationship? Were you the initiator or the victim who didn't want the divorce? If you could go back would you?
While getting him out of my life was the best thing that could ever happen to me, I miss the innocents of not knowing what post divorce is like. I've had some great opportunities and chances that I would have never gotten with him holding me back. I still wish that I could somehow not know the feeling I know now and still be single.
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| 4/22/2010 7:24:28 PM |
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librajason
Towanda, KS
age: 35
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If I knew then what I know now....I'da never married her.
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| 4/22/2010 7:29:44 PM |
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julymorning07
Saint James, MO
age: 58
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Based on just the scenario you give, I wouldn't go back for anything, and am glad it ended as soon as it did. I wasn't the initiator, but I didn't stand in his way, or try to save it. I was relieved.
At least I got a daughter out of it.
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| 4/22/2010 7:34:34 PM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 46
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If I knew then what I know now....I'da never married her.
Me either. I did get two daughters but I've often felt guilty for not choosing a better choice of father materail for my children.
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| 4/22/2010 7:43:04 PM |
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librajason
Towanda, KS
age: 35
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I just noticed this thread was in the divorced forum.....my mistake.
Saw on the friends thing that ya'd posted this.....I think I had a blond moment again.
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| 4/22/2010 7:55:01 PM |
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jennyann71
Clarksville, AR
age: 68
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No, I should never have left him as my friends it is a jungle out there.
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| 4/22/2010 9:50:56 PM |
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alwaystoolate
Kokomo, IN
age: 63
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I would have filed long before I did.
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| 4/23/2010 12:19:02 PM |
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bigmamano7
Olney, IL
age: 52
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several years ago when I married number 2 ex, what I know now about him that marriage would have never been. Vicki
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| 4/23/2010 1:39:15 PM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 46
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Hindsight 20/20 so they say.
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| 4/23/2010 3:19:08 PM |
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lotusfly9
Longmont, CO
age: 52
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Yes I still would, but know what you mean, well put. I filed for mine.
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| 4/23/2010 4:54:20 PM |
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stargazzer
Creighton, NE
age: 62
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I belived marrage was forever, now I know for some that is imposible. And no it does not take two to cause it, it realy does only takes one. But no one needs to stay if it goes bad, life is too good for that!!
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| 4/24/2010 6:26:43 AM |
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stigertails
McKinney, TX
age: 50 online now!
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If I kwen now what I did then------------- I would still have married and done the same thing that caused us to go separate ways. It was in her best interests and probably would have done it sooner. The ex is still a trusted and valued friend.
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| 4/24/2010 10:18:28 AM |
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younme36
Jenkintown, PA
age: 49
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i wish that i would have read the writing on the wall 17 years ago, while i was younger. starting over this late is quite an effort
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| 4/24/2010 9:22:14 PM |
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sunny651
Saint Paul, MN
age: 49
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I married my best friend it lasted 20yrs. I if new what I know now I would of pick the rock star. Instead of who I married.
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| 4/24/2010 9:22:59 PM |
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sunny651
Saint Paul, MN
age: 49
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i wish that i would have read the writing on the wall 17 years ago, while i was younger. starting over this late is quite an effort
Yes to that one
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| 4/25/2010 6:56:57 AM |
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owlwisdom
Las Vegas, NV
age: 41
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I have no regrets for getting married and/or getting divorced. I became a better person, figured out more of what I want by being involved and then separating from that involvement. It was a great learning experience overall.
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| 4/26/2010 4:16:50 AM |
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rutheone710
McHenry, IL
age: 39
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I would never second guess my decision. I have learned a great life lesson plus I have a wonderful daughter and my ex is one of my best friends so I guess in the end it worked out for the best.
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| 4/26/2010 3:49:48 PM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 46
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I wouldn't marry him if I had it to do over. I would have gone to school or the military and then gotten married. Hopefully I would have matured enough to choose a better type.
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| 4/26/2010 4:14:50 PM |
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jennyann71
Clarksville, AR
age: 68
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I would have still married at a young age""""" and we let each other grow and be who we were meant to be .""""" So I was blessed.
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| 4/26/2010 8:22:34 PM |
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somethingrare
Abilene, TX
age: 47
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If I knew then what I know now....I'da never married her.
I have to agree with this comment. Heck I wouldn't have even dated her to start with. I would have looked over at that other guy and said, "Enjoy the movie with her."
Its how we meet. We were standing in a line and this guy beside her asked her to the Movies. She looked at him and said, "Hold that thought." Then she looked at me and asked, "Would you take me to the movies?" I said "Sure." She turned to the other guy and replied, "Sorry I have a date."
That should have told me right off the bat to run.
I was a victim of her cheating ways and I initiated the divorce. I think I would have probably ended up with a lot better woman.
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| 4/27/2010 3:21:03 PM |
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solar_wind
New Haven, KY
age: 35
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I would have left him when my son was three weeks old. It would have saved us both from a lot of abuse.
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| 4/28/2010 5:43:13 AM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 46
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I just wish I'd had the ability to judge character then but I guess that comes with age.
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| 4/28/2010 4:42:43 PM |
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caressmesoftly
Las Vegas, NV
age: 47
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I'd still have married him, but I think I'd have ended it WAY sooner. It really wasn't that healthy for me or for my son, but we're both stronger for it, and he's now a better dad to my son for it.
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| 4/28/2010 4:50:34 PM |
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jennyann71
Clarksville, AR
age: 68
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Golly am I the only one happy with my first choice"""""" and I will always love him but He is my History and not my destiny"""""" but he keeps in touch from Iraq and has been there since the war began.
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| 4/28/2010 6:38:07 PM |
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redhot0402
Marion, IA
age: 34
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I would not change anything. I am stronger and smarter because of my marriage and I am able to face the challenges life bring me. Is it easy hell no but I can do it and I believe their is someone out there for me. Not to mention I have two amazing kids because I married him.
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| 5/4/2010 2:40:12 PM |
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mad4
Manassas, VA
age: 65
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i wish that i would have read the writing on the wall 17 years ago, while i was younger. starting over this late is quite an effort
It was 38 years, and I wish I had raised my children myself. The atmospher was pretty bad while they were growing up.
I tell young people not to stay in a bad relationship for there childrens sake.
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| 5/5/2010 5:16:15 AM |
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jjbriteyes
North Brookfield, MA
age: 46
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If I knew then what I know now.. I wouldnt have married my exhusband. I would have played the dating game.. not married the first pair of boots. 
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| 5/6/2010 2:16:32 PM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 46
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I think that's true for many of us that we wouldn't have done it.
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| 5/6/2010 3:15:41 PM |
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bethinmi
Milford, MI
age: 39
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I would have stayed with him. He was sick, but could have gotten better, and I could have helped him get better, get the help he needed. All he had to do was surrender to the fact he was sick. After all, nobody gets better if they don't first admit they have a problem. We could have then worked it out, gone on from there. I am over him, don't get me wrong-he will just always have a place in my heart.
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| 5/6/2010 6:58:24 PM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 46
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You couldn't have made him get the help he needed unless he wanted it. SO staying might not have worked.
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| 5/6/2010 7:21:03 PM |
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bobobop
Duncanville, TX
age: 47
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if i knew what i do now i would have got her and i would not love her as much as i did 
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| 5/7/2010 5:21:40 AM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 46
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I just wish I had of been as intelligent about relationships back then as I am now...not that I'm a pro now but I've learned a few things along the way.
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| 5/13/2010 9:25:58 PM |
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crzywhtgrl
Sylvester, GA
age: 50
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i would have divorced him ALOT sooner.
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