| 5/17/2010 6:08:24 PM |
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arealnewbie
Atlantic Beach, FL
age: 58
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100 At family dinners, no one knows where to seat u, so u end up at the end of the table with all the kids-3 generations removed.
99 The dinner hour, after work, when he came through the door and made ur whole day/life worthwhile. Now the day drags on endlessly in the same mood as it began...
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| 5/17/2010 6:23:41 PM |
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deluxrider
Sheboygan, WI
age: 57
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98.) Crawling into bed alone everynight.
97.) Thinking... "I'll just ask him?" Then remembering I can't.
96.) Sitting alone and having a drink by myself on the deck at the end of my day filled with chores.
Oh well, I could take up all the "numbers" but will let others share. Now I'm going back to not dwelling on the worst things about being a widow. I have to dwell on the positive things in my life or it will bring me down. It's not healthy. I hope we all can do that. 
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| 5/17/2010 6:48:27 PM |
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deelightfulone
Covington, GA
age: 45
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95. No one to trust. 94. All the parties (work) everyone is coupled off. 93. No grandpa, for my grandbaby to share the cute little stories with.
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| 5/17/2010 6:55:46 PM |
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funnyface4him
Butler, PA
age: 43 online now!
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94. When you wake up from a night mare noone to hold you.
93. Noone answers you.
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| 5/17/2010 7:04:56 PM |
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newdirection6
Wellsville, OH
age: 56
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92. The dark night when you hear bumps in the night and no one to grab but the dog, then on goes the TV
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| 5/17/2010 7:23:58 PM |
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deluxrider
Sheboygan, WI
age: 57
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91.) No one to talk to but the dogs. They don't talk back. My lights go on and off also. I think it's the old wiring in the house.
90.) No one to fix the old wiring in the house.
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| 5/17/2010 7:37:12 PM |
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newdirection6
Wellsville, OH
age: 56
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89. No little gifs for the hell of it.
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| 5/17/2010 7:56:20 PM |
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funnyface4him
Butler, PA
age: 43 online now!
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88. Not being able to sleep in a bed
87. Not being able to sleep without a light on.
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| 5/17/2010 7:58:02 PM |
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funnyface4him
Butler, PA
age: 43 online now!
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86. Noone to call you dear or darling anymore.
85.Noone to notice that you dressed just for them.
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| 5/17/2010 8:25:29 PM |
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recluse22
Emmett, ID
age: 57
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84. No one to share a funny story with.
83. No one to share the beautiful sunset/sunrise with.
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| 5/17/2010 8:26:23 PM |
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recluse22
Emmett, ID
age: 57
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82. No more "private" jokes.
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| 5/17/2010 8:38:21 PM |
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1951countrygirl
Sherman, TX
age: 58
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I MISS .....
1. his snoring.
2. his singing in the shower. off key ..but it was sweet
3. his voice.
4. doing things together
5. him at the holidays... now they are just another day.
6. our talks together.
7. him giving me a kiss on the neck''while I am cooking.
8. going places with him.
9. holding hands
10. sitting on the porch and watching the birds fly by.
11. watching him play with the grandchildren
12. going to church together
Life is to lonely with out the one you love
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| 5/17/2010 8:56:27 PM |
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funnyface4him
Butler, PA
age: 43 online now!
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81. Noone to help you make the right decisions.
80. Noone to cook for
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| 5/17/2010 9:50:50 PM |
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connier
Nampa, ID
age: 62
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79. noone to discuss the neighbors with over morning coffee
78. noone to make you laugh at the restaurant by ordering a pine float and seeing the waitress'sw face [ a glass of water with a toothpick in it] , or his laughter when one actually knew what it was and brought him one with a tiny umbrella in it..
77. noone to lay on the floor watching tv with 4 cats laying on or beside him..
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| 5/17/2010 10:13:42 PM |
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arealnewbie
Atlantic Beach, FL
age: 58
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76 No one to send to the store for the onion u r missing for the dinner u r cooking for him.
Recluse, u can share ur private jokes with us!
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| 5/17/2010 10:22:29 PM |
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funnyface4him
Butler, PA
age: 43 online now!
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75. And a really big one..Noone to go to church with. Going to church together for me is a private thing two people share. When I go now I cry so much it's the hardest thing I do all week. And the funny thing is we didn't go to church together .
I always wanted too and he hated it. But I miss it and hate going by myself.
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| 5/17/2010 11:10:01 PM |
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pearlsnlace4u
Roundhill, KY
age: 56
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75. No one to share morning coffee with
74. No one to come up behind you in the kitchen and kiss you softly on the neck
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| 5/18/2010 12:19:26 AM |
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funnyface4him
Butler, PA
age: 43 online now!
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73. Not being Mrs. anymore
72. Your kids not having a daddy anymore.
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| 5/18/2010 5:59:24 AM |
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teddybo
Orlando, FL
age: 56
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that special "glow" in your heart is now gone
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| 5/18/2010 6:05:08 AM |
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looking4_prince
Twin Falls, ID
age: 57
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70..Having to find another special someone...
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| 5/18/2010 6:51:56 AM |
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recluse22
Emmett, ID
age: 57
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69. The feeling you have contracted leprosy.
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| 5/18/2010 7:37:23 AM |
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funnyface4him
Butler, PA
age: 43 online now!
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68.Realizing that living hurts. And what used to be right isn't anymore
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| 5/18/2010 7:44:27 AM |
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funnyface4him
Butler, PA
age: 43 online now!
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69. The feeling you have contracted leprosy.
Ohh I know that feeling. Noone calls anymore and when I do they tell me i need to get over it and go on with my life... I didn't have a cold.
Theresa
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| 5/18/2010 11:42:03 AM |
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postman4567
Laconia, NH
age: 67
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No-one to tell me I really need a haircut
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| 5/18/2010 11:43:53 AM |
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postman4567
Laconia, NH
age: 67
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101 At sad movies, I never cried - now I always do
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| 5/18/2010 12:03:52 PM |
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teddybo
Orlando, FL
age: 56
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just the real crappy feeling of loneliness and emptiness.
everything seems to be in the past
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| 5/18/2010 2:15:09 PM |
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2010regina
Orlando, FL
age: 53
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64.- No more helping him to groomed his beard.
63.- No more braiding his long hair
62.- No more domino nights with old music.
61.- No more 18 wheeler park at the corner waiting for Cuban coffee.
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| 5/18/2010 2:56:00 PM |
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sandy61939
New Port Richey, FL
age: 71
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The feeling that my life with him was so far in the past that it no longer feels real.
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| 5/18/2010 2:57:39 PM |
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librajason
Gateway, AR
age: 34
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.....feelin' like shit all the time.
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| 5/18/2010 3:38:42 PM |
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deluxrider
Sheboygan, WI
age: 57
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58.) "Trust" lost.
57.) "Secrets" lost.
56.) "History" lost.
This is such a "downer". Is it good to let it out? Probably. After this lets list 100 things to celebrate about our loved and lost!!!!!
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| 5/18/2010 8:35:29 PM |
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maggienmtx
Albuquerque, NM
age: 47
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55. (?)The feeling of being completely ALONE, and the unbearable silence that goes with it.
54. Being around other people (some you thought were your good friends), and being the reason they are uncomfortable and awkward. I want so bad to say "Just because it happened to me, does not mean it will happen to you!"
53. Having absolutely no idea what NORMAL is anymore.
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| 5/18/2010 8:49:07 PM |
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worseto
Strawberry Plains, TN
age: 43
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people feel sorry for you all the time.
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| 5/18/2010 8:58:21 PM |
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farmgirl417
Ball Ground, GA
age: 54
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51. Not being us anymore, just me.
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| 5/18/2010 10:37:38 PM |
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meanasue
Hale, MI
age: 54 online now!
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50. The smell of him just after a shower.
49. Sharing laughs over different things.
48. Seeing him at the dining room table with 4 or 5 of the grandchildren, a jar of peanut butter; all of them with their own spoon, dipping in and having a good time.
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| 5/19/2010 8:39:46 AM |
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teddybo
Orlando, FL
age: 56
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on top of the past grief from the loss
the real possibility of never sharing love again
to share a smile again
to share a hug again
to share a kiss again
to share a dance again
to share a drink again
to share a picnic again
to share your hidden secrets again
to share your frailities again
to share your strengths again
to share.....................
and to share share share share share share "LIFE" AGAIN !
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| 5/19/2010 3:19:09 PM |
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achingjoints
New Paltz, NY
age: 68
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on top of the past grief from the loss
the real possibility of never sharing love again
to share a smile again
to share a hug again
to share a kiss again
to share a dance again
to share a drink again
to share a picnic again
to share your hidden secrets again
to share your frailities again
to share your strengths again
to share.....................
and to share share share share share share "LIFE" AGAIN !
^^^VERY WELL SAID TEDDYBO. I MISS HIM SO. IT ACHES TO BE HALF A PERSON BECAUSE WE WERE ONE. I DON'T REALLY KNOW WHO I AM ANYMORE.  I'M LIKE A LOST SHEEP TRYING TO FIND MY WAY AROUND.
AJ 
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| 5/19/2010 5:22:16 PM |
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phoenicks53
Surprise, AZ
age: 57
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47 Hearing the garage door open when she got home from work
46 Smelling her perfume
45 Having someone to joke around with
44 Grandkids not knowing there Gramma
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| 5/19/2010 6:27:57 PM |
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funnyface4him
Butler, PA
age: 43 online now!
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43. The phone calls from the mosoleum people. I don't know what it is but in the last 3 days I've recieved 5 calls from different places wanting to know about his gravestone. It kicks me in the heart everytime.
Theresa
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| 5/19/2010 11:43:22 PM |
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phoenicks53
Surprise, AZ
age: 57
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42. Phone calls during the day "just to say Hi"
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| 5/20/2010 5:12:17 AM |
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2010regina
Orlando, FL
age: 53
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41.- Not having special love.
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| 5/20/2010 6:35:05 AM |
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funnyface4him
Butler, PA
age: 43 online now!
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40.Goin to all of your kids things by yourselves. My daughter is in her senior year and so many things to share. It's like today is the regionals for trsck and field if she advances today she will be making it to states. I hope she does really good but most of all I hope she has fun and enjoys herself.But it's lonely being there all by yourself while all the other kids parents are sitting together and talking about their kids.
Theresa
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| 5/20/2010 6:43:02 AM |
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newdirection6
Wellsville, OH
age: 56
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39. Waking up and not getting a hug or kiss.
38. Pretending to be asleep and he brings up my morning coffee.
37. That morning delight of a quickie before going to work.
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| 5/20/2010 6:59:56 AM |
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recluse22
Emmett, ID
age: 57
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36. I have a family reunion coming up next month. She enjoyed those reunions and my family really loved her. It will be hard.
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| 5/20/2010 7:23:19 AM |
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62bobo
Marathon, NY
age: 62
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35--Just not having her there
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| 5/20/2010 9:13:49 AM |
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jw848
Chandler, AZ
age: 58
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34. The fact that she does not walk into the house at the end of the work day and immediately brighten your spirits.
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| 5/20/2010 12:17:31 PM |
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goldrush99
Pottstown, PA
age: 70
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His great sense of humor
Bringing me breakfast in bed unexpectedly
Sending me flowers for no reason
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| 5/20/2010 12:28:36 PM |
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phoenicks53
Surprise, AZ
age: 57
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33. Someone telling me they love me!
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| 5/20/2010 1:04:27 PM |
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softsuthernrain
Crestview, FL
age: 51
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Not having anyone to watch the hummingbirds with me anymore!
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| 5/20/2010 2:21:07 PM |
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maggienmtx
Albuquerque, NM
age: 47
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31. Making and sending out copies of his death certificate...for the various agencies that required a copy. I still cannot even LOOK at that thing. Won't do it! Worst thing was-- the week after he passed, my husband was due in court on a traffic ticket he disputed. I called the court and let them know he wouldn't be there because he had passed away. My word was not sufficient, so I suggested to the clerk that she read the obituaries. She told me that if I did not bring in an original copy of his death certificate that a warrant would be issued for his arrest. (!!!!!!!!!) I told her to go ahead and issue a warrant, and if he was ever picked up somewhere, could she please send him home to his grieving wife and kids??? Needless to say, I did not send a copy of the certificate to her. I know she was just doing her job....but.....whatever...
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| 5/20/2010 4:29:20 PM |
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teddybo
Orlando, FL
age: 56
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just being ALONE
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| 5/20/2010 4:38:16 PM |
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phoenicks53
Surprise, AZ
age: 57
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29. Calls from sales people asking for my wife by name! I usually say you'll have to call heaven! Click
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| 5/20/2010 4:59:18 PM |
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recluse22
Emmett, ID
age: 57
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31. Making and sending out copies of his death certificate...for the various agencies that required a copy. I still cannot even LOOK at that thing. Won't do it! Worst thing was-- the week after he passed, my husband was due in court on a traffic ticket he disputed. I called the court and let them know he wouldn't be there because he had passed away. My word was not sufficient, so I suggested to the clerk that she read the obituaries. She told me that if I did not bring in an original copy of his death certificate that a warrant would be issued for his arrest. (!!!!!!!!!) I told her to go ahead and issue a warrant, and if he was ever picked up somewhere, could she please send him home to his grieving wife and kids??? Needless to say, I did not send a copy of the certificate to her. I know she was just doing her job....but.....whatever...
Maggie, my wake up call came when I found out that the company my wife had been so loyal to for 25 years canceled all of the life insurance policies they had on employees with 20+ years of service as a "cost cutting" measure. I am glad she never found out...
Bob
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| 5/20/2010 5:19:10 PM |
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cali1234
Exeter, CA
age: 62
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31. Making and sending out copies of his death certificate...for the various agencies that required a copy. I still cannot even LOOK at that thing. Won't do it! Worst thing was-- the week after he passed, my husband was due in court on a traffic ticket he disputed. I called the court and let them know he wouldn't be there because he had passed away. My word was not sufficient, so I suggested to the clerk that she read the obituaries. She told me that if I did not bring in an original copy of his death certificate that a warrant would be issued for his arrest. (!!!!!!!!!) I told her to go ahead and issue a warrant, and if he was ever picked up somewhere, could she please send him home to his grieving wife and kids??? Needless to say, I did not send a copy of the certificate to her. I know she was just doing her job....but.....whatever...
Maggie I was sooo tired of all the people that wanted a death certificate to prove death...I was like...ok???????????????? I still haven't taken one into my bank to get his name off my account, I won't till I run out of checks LOL...cheapskate here...
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| 5/20/2010 5:52:00 PM |
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arealnewbie
Atlantic Beach, FL
age: 58
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I couldn't get a cashed check by our bank of 30 years-even with the death certificate. They wanted the check reissued in my name. (all $137 worth)
I have enjoyed each and every one of these. They make me cry or laugh or both! We could all publish a book with these.
Now when we get close to #1, we are all going to have to vote for our favorite. More on that later!
Patty
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| 5/20/2010 5:56:40 PM |
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newdirection6
Wellsville, OH
age: 56
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26. Not liking to go to the hospital for test without him.
25. Sitting outside having a cold beer and holding hands under the moon.
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| 5/20/2010 6:11:13 PM |
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softsuthernrain
Crestview, FL
age: 51
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they sent the sherrifs dept to arrest my husband 2 years after he was killed cause he didnt show up for jury duty!! You sure need a sense of humor to deal with death!
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| 5/20/2010 8:49:33 PM |
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joni1955
Ridley Park, PA
age: 55
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69. The feeling you have contracted leprosy.
This is especially true in regards to your friends that are couples. No one wants you around without your other half.
24. No one to keep me warm at night, when it is cold. And, no one to put my cold feet on. I am so sadistic.
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| 5/20/2010 9:03:27 PM |
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maggienmtx
Albuquerque, NM
age: 47
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Bob! Nooooooooo! That is Bad on top of Bad. I am soooo sorry to hear that.
Cali and Patty ~ I have not done the bank thing yet. Earlier today, I was just thinking it was probably time to take care of it. =(
Softsuthernrain ~ I would have absolutey fainted. Right there on the spot!
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| 5/20/2010 9:04:02 PM |
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aztichr
Glendale, AZ
age: 55
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I hate not being part of a couple. I have learned to do for myself but not having someone to share my life really is difficult.
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| 5/20/2010 9:28:56 PM |
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recluse22
Emmett, ID
age: 57
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22. Not having to wait for her to finish dinner. She always ate much slower than me.
21. No one to dig their fingernails into my leg because I was driving too fast.
20. No need to set the alarm clock for 5:00am to get up with her, help her get ready for work, and start the car to warm up.
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