| 12/2/2010 7:43:59 PM |
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choosejoy
North Sioux City, SD
age: 42
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joy you feeling ok
yeah the cat cracked me up...and 1 rose is right 
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| 12/2/2010 7:46:53 PM |
Are flowers on the first date a bit much? |
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pook91
San Pierre, IN
age: 19 online now!
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NO!! They are absolutely perfect. I would love, love,love to receive flowers on the first date.. =) I actually just wrote a blog about it!! lmao. I'm lame I know. But whatever.
Keep doing what your doing, pal!!!
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| 12/2/2010 7:48:32 PM |
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misssbren
Garland, TX
age: 44
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dinner on a first date is common too but I still enjoy the dinner just as I do the flowers. Women used to expect these gestures and now so many of them are concerned with losing their independence and protect their hearts that it seems like many of the nice gestures men do are perceived as ulterior motives. That's a shame, I feel
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| 12/2/2010 7:49:57 PM |
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niceversa
Enumclaw, WA
age: 41
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| 12/2/2010 7:56:13 PM |
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letsgodancin
Springfield, MO
age: 47
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I love to get flowers...first date, third date...doesn't matter, it's very sweet. 
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| 12/2/2010 7:57:57 PM |
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starcity7
Boones Mill, VA
age: 58
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I don't think so
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| 12/2/2010 7:59:40 PM |
Are flowers on the first date a bit much? |
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paperrosy
Apache Junction, AZ
age: 62
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I recently met a guy for a 'coffee and meet' which usually lasts about 1 hr but we had so much fun just talking that it turned into a 5 hr thing..he asked me out the next day for a real date and showed up with a bouquet of spring flowers...just blew me away!! no guy has ever done that for me!!
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| 12/2/2010 8:01:14 PM |
Are flowers on the first date a bit much? |
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leggsallover
Bakersfield, CA
age: 52
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Try one of these
It says just enough
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| 12/2/2010 8:01:24 PM |
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brayson
Mobile, AL
age: 35
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A guy can bring me flowers any time... I much prefer Daisies
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| 12/2/2010 8:02:07 PM |
Are flowers on the first date a bit much? |
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happy2bnu
Tioga, TX
age: 56
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This really very interesting, I would like to thank you ladies for you insight. Knew ( thought flowers were still in vogue) never understood your side, not hrs first but rather when we (think) know each other!
Wow, this old dog learned a new trick!!
Thank you darlins ( not sending flowers to ya, cus I don't know ya)
Bobby in Texas
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| 12/2/2010 8:02:21 PM |
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rob2k
Mocksville, NC
age: 37
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I recently met a guy for a 'coffee and meet' which usually lasts about 1 hr but we had so much fun just talking that it turned into a 5 hr thing..he asked me out the next day for a real date and showed up with a bouquet of spring flowers...just blew me away!! no guy has ever done that for me!!
Happy for ya', wish you the best!!
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| 12/2/2010 8:03:57 PM |
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sedonaphoto
Sedona, AZ
age: 46
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So why do we need to put things in a box.
A gesture is just that. His path is his and your path is your.
Personally I see nothing wrong with it.
Two examples, date a gal for a week and brought her flowers and said happy anniversary, she freaked that ended quickly.
After a week brought a gal flowers and said a week ago we had coffee just wanted to say it's been a great week, she said aaww thanks sweetie and gave me a kiss.
People of like mind and hearts will eventually find each other.
OP do you and don't worry about all of the emotionally unavailable people!
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| 12/2/2010 8:14:42 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 51
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How about a single rose lake..........
Thank you, Nice. (I wanna call you windy!) If I didn't say it before, welcome back!
That's a beautiful rose.
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| 12/2/2010 8:15:49 PM |
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micmac01979
Boulder, CO
age: 31
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To the OP, if you like it, and it works for ya', then do it. Obviously, some women love it.
I wouldn't personally do that, for the reasons some listed. I give a woman flowers as a gesture of my feelings for her, not just some "generic" gesture because I'm a nice guy. But that's just me. If a woman gets flowers from me, she knows they're special.
If women seem to like it, and you like to do it, then do it. But if it seems to scare women off (i.e. you always give flowers on a first date and don't seem to get many second dates), you might give it an honest reflection. Some women do NOT like the implication that there's a romantic connection before two people even know each other. Kinda screams "desperate" to a lotta folks. But not everyone. If it works for you, more power to ya'.
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| 12/2/2010 8:19:44 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 51
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I have been in that situation before, I didn't really like receiving flowers on the first date. I want flowers to mean something special between him and me, least that is what they mean to me... and when you first meet someone, well...
Now, if he were to bring something specifically curtailed to my unique personality, like a can of wet cat food, then, that would be a good beginning to a date.
Start it off with a good laugh!
Sorry folks, no first date flowers for me. It does hint (imho) of desperation.
What's the difference between flowers and the cat food? I mean I get that it means he was listening and remembered that you had a cat, and that makes it special.
But it's still a gesture or a gift on a first date, and if one hints of desperation, why doesn't the other?
All I'm trying to say is that some seem to place some sort of bad connotation with it. It makes me wonder if they'd be gracious about it, or if they'd bust his chops.
I love the other flowers you posted, too, Nice.
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| 12/2/2010 8:21:41 PM |
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justdancin
Tomball, TX
age: 54
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I like getting flowers & don't think there's anything wrong with getting them on a first date. It would probably be best to keep them simple initially though... Daisies or something 'cheery', rather than roses.
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| 12/2/2010 8:28:02 PM |
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latinroses
Redlands, CA
age: 43
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I think that is such a sweet gesture. Just a few flowers.
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| 12/2/2010 8:40:00 PM |
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soccerrocker21
Trenton, NJ
age: 29 online now!
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I wouldn't do it, not because there's anything wrong with it, but because it's not my style. Flowers from me in general are rare. I've heard that white or yellow roses or yellow daises are nice to give on the first date, because red means love.
If it's your style though, stick with it. You always hear people say don't do something you normally wouldn't. Well, don't not do something you normally would.
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| 12/2/2010 8:40:01 PM |
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zipperlynn
Porterville, CA
age: 40
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But it's still a gesture or a gift on a first date, and if one hints of desperation, why doesn't the other?
Flowers are, um... generic? Something every woman is "supposed" to like? Something like that.
Cat food shows a personality and a sense of humor. It's obviously not a gift you bring to every first date you go on.
Just my opinion though.
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| 12/2/2010 8:40:06 PM |
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lost_poet
Gresham, OR
age: 20
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As a girl that has never gotten flowers before, I say it would be a nice jester.
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| 12/2/2010 8:41:27 PM |
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micmac01979
Boulder, CO
age: 31
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Flowers are, um... generic? Something every woman is "supposed" to like? Something like that.
Cat food shows a personality and a sense of humor. It's obviously not a gift you bring to every first date you go on.
Just my opinion though.
Wait, you mean... you're not supposed to bring cat food to every first date?  Sakes alive, now ya' tell me.
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| 12/2/2010 8:44:35 PM |
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zipperlynn
Porterville, CA
age: 40
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Wait, you mean... you're not supposed to bring cat food to every first date? Sakes alive, now ya' tell me.
Now, that one - DEFINITELY depends on the female.
hahahaha!!!! 
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| 12/2/2010 8:48:19 PM |
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luv1955
Upland, CA
age: 55
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I think it is a very nice gesture. Maybe not on a first meet but on a first date it would say alot. Don't know that I would choose red roses.
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| 12/2/2010 8:50:59 PM |
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lita747
Monroe, MI
age: 28 online now!
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I had a man bring me flowers before, i met him from this site, we were taking both our boys to chucky cheese's and he had his son hold the flowers and give them to me at my door, i thought it was very thoughtful and cute.. If a guy brings you simple flowers it just shows they are caring and serious about the date, and no he didnt try getting in my pants either actually he was very shy even after seeing him more than a few times we only kissed.
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| 12/2/2010 8:54:17 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 51
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Flowers are, um... generic? Something every woman is "supposed" to like? Something like that.
Cat food shows a personality and a sense of humor. It's obviously not a gift you bring to every first date you go on.
Just my opinion though.
Maybe.
If he brought me cat food, I'd be dumbfounded. And I have a cat. I would still accept the can with grace, though.
But if I had my druthers? I want a gift, I don't want one for my cat.
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| 12/2/2010 8:57:59 PM |
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bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
age: 48
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I'm dumbfounded that some deem only certain kinds and numbers of flowers as acceptable.
Off topic:
Damn it! WHY am I not taken?
I SWEAR I don't do any of the heinous things being discussed in the forums tonight!
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| 12/2/2010 8:59:17 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 37 online now!
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Of course it is... This is the first meet, and ya don't even know if she will really like you, whether or not you two will actually vibe, etc.
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| 12/2/2010 8:59:30 PM |
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leggsallover
Bakersfield, CA
age: 52
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I don't own cats, i have 3 dogs, no canned food please, otherwise, they'll get diarrhea and our date will end up messy
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| 12/2/2010 9:00:12 PM |
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leggsallover
Bakersfield, CA
age: 52
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Of course it is... This is the first meet, and ya don't even know if she will really like you, whether or not you two will actually vibe, etc.
Just bring me tulips Best, they're my fav
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| 12/2/2010 9:01:07 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 37 online now!
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Just bring me tulips Best, they're my fav
ok, only after you deliver me __________ ____________ ___________ and _______________ 
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| 12/2/2010 9:02:45 PM |
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leggsallover
Bakersfield, CA
age: 52
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lol BEST...I know what u want 
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| 12/2/2010 9:03:56 PM |
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stobil
Gallatin, TN
age: 30
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I'd bring a picture of a flower.
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| 12/2/2010 9:04:37 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 37 online now!
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lol BEST...I know what u want
When you deliver _____________ _______________ _________________ and _______________
I will give you all the tulips, roses, and whatever you want
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| 12/2/2010 9:05:31 PM |
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fuddyduddie
Covington, GA
age: 46
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You dont always know someone wants, a lesson learned.
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| 12/2/2010 9:05:43 PM |
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bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
age: 48
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I'd bring a picture of a flower.
That would be both funny and thoughtful!
Now ask someone out!
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| 12/2/2010 9:13:14 PM |
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zipperlynn
Porterville, CA
age: 40
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Maybe.
If he brought me cat food, I'd be dumbfounded. And I have a cat. I would still accept the can with grace, though.
But if I had my druthers? I want a gift, I don't want one for my cat.
You should hear my Birthday and Christmas lists!!!! For my birthday this year, I received about 30 cans of wet cat food for older cats. Exactly what I requested.
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| 12/2/2010 9:16:47 PM |
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leggsallover
Bakersfield, CA
age: 52
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When you deliver _____________ _______________ _________________ and _______________
I will give you all the tulips, roses, and whatever you want
I'll take the "whatevers"
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| 12/2/2010 9:17:55 PM |
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stobil
Gallatin, TN
age: 30
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That would be both funny and thoughtful!
Now ask someone out!
Nah, it's all hypothetical.
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| 12/2/2010 9:20:42 PM |
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d_lady
Dallas, TX
age: 40
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It's a nice gesture, and might show you something about her: is she graceful? how does she accept your kindness? how guarded is she? Then again, running tests like that can chase someone great off - it's a little manipulative.
Personally, I'd think it was sweet, and would graciously thank him and put them in water and on display, but it would make me suspicious. I'd be watching for signs he's just looking for Somebody or wants to move too fast or is, I don't know, insincere. That's it - it would seem insincere to me coming from what amounts to a stranger.
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| 12/2/2010 9:27:48 PM |
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bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
age: 48
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It's a nice gesture, and might show you something about her: is she graceful? how does she accept your kindness? how guarded is she? Then again, running tests like that can chase someone great off - it's a little manipulative.
Personally, I'd think it was sweet, and would graciously thank him and put them in water and on display, but it would make me suspicious. I'd be watching for signs he's just looking for Somebody or wants to move too fast or is, I don't know, insincere. That's it - it would seem insincere to me coming from what amounts to a stranger.
Flowers really don't hold intrinsic meaning.
To make that assessment of a gift of flowers, you would have to know that he places the identical, subjective meaning on them as you, and you don't know that, unless there has been some discussion about it.
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| 12/2/2010 9:28:09 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 51
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You should hear my Birthday and Christmas lists!!!! For my birthday this year, I received about 30 cans of wet cat food for older cats. Exactly what I requested.
lol...I can't even think of something I want for myself as a gift that's reasonable to ask for!
So maybe cat food it is.
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| 12/2/2010 9:49:46 PM |
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urlastfirstdate
Sterling Heights, MI
age: 56
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...a single, perfect rose. Not too much, just a really sweet, romantic, hopeful gesture.
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| 12/2/2010 10:07:59 PM |
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bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
age: 48
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...a single, perfect rose. Not too much, just a really sweet, romantic, hopeful gesture.
As long as it's not RED! Red means 'Love'!!
{panic panic panic panic panic}
See how ridiculous it is?
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| 12/2/2010 10:10:05 PM |
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yajusneverkno
Oxford, AL
age: 43
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I feel likew it's a bit presumptous,,, flowers are for that special lady. You dunno if she's special or not on the first date 
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| 12/2/2010 10:11:58 PM |
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northphxhiker
Phoenix, AZ
age: 48
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stop at 7-eleven and get her a two dollar rose -its amazing how much she'll love the gesture
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| 12/2/2010 10:16:57 PM |
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leggsallover
Bakersfield, CA
age: 52
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stop at 7-eleven and get her a two dollar rose -its amazing how much she'll love the gesture
What? That you're a cheapskate?
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| 12/2/2010 10:21:53 PM |
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kdoodler27
Erie, PA
age: 37
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it depends on hw well you know your date,like if you have been talking on the phone for a while and all that and its the first date and time you meet sure why not? i mean if its clear you both like each other...i mean dont go too far wiht it but its a nice gesture
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| 12/2/2010 10:50:47 PM |
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leggsallover
Bakersfield, CA
age: 52
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Jesus people. It's a freakin flower ffs. It's not like u brought along the pope for a mass sermon to say a few hail mary's in hopes that shes a good little catholic girl.
Ya, i said it...Good little catholic girl, hell, we all know what they're like,
Toss that in with some wishful thinking and u just bought yourself an all nighter. Shoot, if that flower is a long stemed rose, u can use it to spank her for being such a naughty little catholic girl and end up on a second date
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| 12/2/2010 10:52:04 PM |
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photoartistguy
Minneapolis, MN
age: 41
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still have the catholic girl out fit
my gimp grows a great flower garden
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| 12/2/2010 10:53:25 PM |
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northphxhiker
Phoenix, AZ
age: 48
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What? That you're a cheapskate?
ok, so buy her a three dollar rose!
if you bring her a large bouquet on a first date -she may find that a bit overbearing, needy -even creepy.
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| 12/2/2010 10:57:04 PM |
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bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
age: 48
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still have the catholic girl out fit
my gimp grows a great flower garden
I wish I had room for a gimp. ~sigh
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| 12/2/2010 11:14:04 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 51
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| 12/2/2010 11:45:56 PM |
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sassybabeee
Henrico, VA
age: 59 online now!
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Its obvious you have never been to Miami - they sell flowers on every street corner..and they don't cost that much. Less than the cost of a dinner or valet parking.
You can buy flowers at Sams club really reasonable and there a few corners in Richmond you can pick them up and they cost less tha valet parking. But if you are hard pressed for money there is always the local cemetary
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| 12/2/2010 11:47:27 PM |
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photoartistguy
Minneapolis, MN
age: 41
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I wish I had room for a gimp. ~sigh
grop box works fine
get him to grow a garden and he feeds him self
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| 12/3/2010 12:17:29 AM |
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1mantis
Louisville, KY
age: 44
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I am not a flower person. Fresh cut flowers remind me of funeral homes. So if you plant it, I don't have any use for it. So flowers on a first date would not go well with me.Every one is different, many like it. Ask about before you go out a your first date and find out what she thinks.
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| 12/3/2010 5:13:32 AM |
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s_pearl
Cincinnati, OH
age: 47
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More than 3 weeks ago I went on a first date and he gave me a dozen long-stemmed red roses. I was so surprised! 15 dates later...he still brings flowers or a flower from time-to-time. I am still always surprised! For me, the giving of flowers is an outward expression of his heart. I think he has a beautiful, unselfish heart. For him, he says giving flowers (and other gifts I might add) makes him feel good. Whether or not he brings or gives anything - I still have the same smile, I still feel great being around him.
There are many different ways to communicate and express who you are. For some, it is in the art of giving. Sometimes it's in giving flowers. I say follow your heart. Be yourself. Don't second guess yourself or gauge your desires on the opinions of others. Hopefully both people on the date are simply being themselves - it's dating - not a life-long committment at this stage. Giving flowers does not equal getting sex or getting married. It's a simple gesture and expression of the heart. Be true to yours.
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| 12/3/2010 5:28:36 AM |
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dasnixter
O Kean, AR
age: 49
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What is a bit much? It is a value that changes w/individual.
I would consider it a gesture of good will, hope for a pleasant evening and a possible short term memento of a space in time shared...
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| 12/3/2010 5:30:19 AM |
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rob2k
Mocksville, NC
age: 37
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Sounds about 50/50 whether or not the op's giving nature will be appreciated on the first date.
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| 12/3/2010 8:06:04 AM |
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destinym
Savannah, GA
age: 42
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I feel likew it's a bit presumptous,,, flowers are for that special lady. You dunno if she's special or not on the first date
OP, you asked for opinions and everyone is going to have different ideas and reasons for them. Just do what you do and like to. OBVIOUSLY for the most part it is a nice gesture. But for those who think a person NOT liking to receive them on a first date reeks of skepticism, I look at it as simply practical
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| 12/3/2010 8:08:08 AM |
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pepper1967
West Springfield, MA
age: 45 online now!
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I give flowers EVERYTIME I go out on a date. be seeing you.
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