| 3/1/2008 8:10:22 AM |
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smalltownwis
New Auburn, WI
age: 29
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He will not spend time with his girl and they are upset about it.  . How can someone put their feeling to the side about thier kids? I could never go months without my kids in my life.. Heck i cant go a weekend without my kids. He also never call or gos to school events. He dose everything for his girlfriends three boys. I think he should spend time with the boys but I feel he should not put the girls on the back burner. My eight year is taking it hard she was daddys girl. Misses him a lot. she was 5 1/2 when he left. When we were married was a good dad. The only thing he did wrong was yelling at them. instead of talking to them. He could make the girls laugh till they cryed in happness. that was so cute.  .
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| 3/1/2008 1:37:31 PM |
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genuinegal72
Queensland
Australia
age: 35
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Some are just plain cold about it and others may try to ignore it because it is too hard to deal with. My ex once told me that he had thought about suicide because he didn't want to hurt bub. He played alot of mind games etc and did not want to put him through that. That was not long before we broke up- after he became physically abusive. Mind you we were together for over 7 years and now has nothing to do with him at all. But then again he carried on like a spoilt child and had tantrums when he didn't get his own way. I think this is the first thing he has done without being selfish. It is a very sad situation but the outcome is for the best. My boys are happy!
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| 3/4/2008 8:58:38 AM |
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brendaj
Savannah, GA
age: 44
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My X moved next door to me & hasn't seen our daughter in 5 months(catch the next door part)& for the life of me I can not comprehend how anyone can be so heartless or hurtful to there own children, We also have a son, soon to be 21 who was the 1st to step up to the plate a couple of years ago, after the divorce to speak to there dad & they haven't spoken since. My son always was the little man of the house & has also always been more of a dad to his sister than a brother, & I am thankful that he's still there for her, but it's a real shame that kids have to grow up without a parent when theres no excuse for it. My friends say they are better off, because of the man he's become, but they don't realize what kind of emotional problems this has caused, & there's nothing worse than passing by him on the street & the look of hurt in my daughters eyes when he doesn't even wave. She's 14 now & tries to act like it no longer bothers her, but how can it not?
How can they live with themselves is the real ???
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| 3/10/2008 12:35:49 PM |
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dyezah
North Little Rock, AR
age: 36
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What comes around goes around...in karma & in kids.
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| 3/15/2008 7:11:24 PM |
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lisagi
Fairfield, CT
age: 89
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My older boy's father remarried two years after we split, as time went by he spends less and less time with his father because the jerks wife's kids take too much of his energy...Thankfully as time goes by my son is adjusting well.....Time does help, don't try to make it up to your child, they have to learn that the other parent is stupid on their own, your job is just to make sure you child has unconditional LOVE.......My younger son has had it easier than my older son, his father walked out when he was 9 days old, he's the most secure kid on the block and gives strength to his brother. There are just some people who can walk away from their children and not feel they did anything wrong, in the long run the children are better off. It just takes time and lots of love. And remember any man who yells at a five year old is to insecure to make a good parent
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| 3/17/2008 10:18:05 AM |
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djslim33
Utica, MI
age: 35
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I was wondering if your wanted the divorce or him?
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| 3/18/2008 3:15:55 PM |
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magtag
East York, ON
age: 41
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Most of us who love our kids to death will never understand why a parent can walk away.
The most important thing right now is that your kids have you. That they are loved fully and unconditionally by you. I would suggest that you do not make excuses for their father, but you also do not put him down or call him out on what he's doing to them. This will only result in you looking like the bad guy and harming your relationship with your kids. As they grow, they will understand what is really going on for themselves. ALWAYS tell them that their father loves them, no matter how you feel about it, no matter if he never sees them again. At very least they need to hear that.
I am sure your heart breaks for your little ones, and it's unlikely that it will stop breaking, but that unfortunately has to be your cross to bear. You can't let them see you feeling this, just love them like crazy and give them all the fun, "normal" times that they deserve. One day their father may just wake up to what a dumb ass he's being. If that day comes, proceed with caution and protect your girls, but don't keep him away or you will end up paying the price. If that day never comes, your children will still be able to grow up in a loving home with a loving parent that can bring them all the security in the world. They will figure out for themselves eventually what happened to their father.
Good luck to you and keep lovin' those kiddies!!
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| 3/20/2008 3:40:49 PM |
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lazarous67
San Jacinto, CA
age: 41
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it is (men) huh like him that give all fathers a bad rep. if he was here i`d slap him around, and tell him what he is missing out on. i love my son, and two days a week in never enough, and it is really hard to tell my son that he has to go back to his moms house. if boys like your ex could see the fun and frolick my son and i enjoy, and the way we love to make people laugh, maybe? just mabe they might want that for them and their sons(daughters).
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| 3/22/2008 8:35:46 AM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 49
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My X left the country.It would be better if he was dead then their would be closure.
That may sound rude to some of you but its so hard. My boys live with the fact that have a father who isnt around at all. Who up and left the USA. So yeah I'll stick with would be better dead then closure could happen.
[Edited 3/22/2008 8:37:14 AM]
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| 3/24/2008 8:07:37 AM |
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repochick
Rosemount, MN
age: 29
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My ex has never seem my child. He has other kids with someone else and to him that is his family and this child is not. I dont know how anyone can turn their back on a child and just walk away but this one sure did. He is a real peice of work to just disown, more or less, a child just because that child didnt fit into his plans on having the perfect family!
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| 3/24/2008 8:13:46 AM |
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cincin3500
Lapeer, MI
age: 35
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He has a relationship with someone elses kids???? I would suggest counseling for your kids. Those poor kids must really have a hard time trying to process his choices. But they are his choices, he is the adult, and he is accountable. Good luck
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