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5/22/2008 8:25:39 PM	I Need Opinion's
ladeesarah Texarkana, AR age: 43	I received an e-mail from a fellow who asked to take me to the Olive Garden, like right now. I never spoke to this guy on the telephone, just exchanged a handful of e-mails. I said I couldn't, my daughter was out mud'n, it had just stopped pouring and thundering out. So when we next exchange e-mails, I asked if he would take a rain check, I like planned event's, I don't like anything that is rushed. I then received an e-mail back that he went to Wendy's instead b/c he didn't want to eat alone at the Olive Garden, then asked if I am high maintenance and that we weren't meeting for a date . I never thought of his request as a date, but a first time friendly meeting . First impressions do count and I wasn't going to run to take a shower, dress, run to get my daughter and drive off to Texarkana which is 25 miles from where I live . So with his return e-mail, I then ask my daughter if this man was asking me out on a date, She said, yes, it was a casual one. My question's are, was he asking me out on a date and was he being fair? Can high maintenance include someone's preparation time? How do you feel about making a good first impression? [Edited 5/22/2008 8:49:46 PM]
5/22/2008 8:39:18 PM	I Need Opinion's
bigdave501 Conway, AR age: 52	no It doesn't sound like you are high maintenance. You should tell him you need some more time and he should be able to understad that.
5/23/2008 12:03:42 AM	I Need Opinion's
tweetylee Bauxite, AR age: 49	I would think that most men would understand that a woman needs time to get ready, especially meeting the first time. Next time, tell him you would be glad to show up with dirty hair, no makeup, cutoff shorts, and a tee shirt. I bet that might just scare him at bit. Besides, he sounds very selfish and inflexible. This is a dating site, if he's not wanting a date, what is he doing on this site.
5/23/2008 5:57:55 AM	I Need Opinion's
ladeesarah Texarkana, AR age: 43	LOL, tweetylee that was a good response. It takes most women an hour to get ready, me included. I shower, get dressed, make sure the dog is fed and sip on coffee in between, which may include a phone call received or made. When I received that e-mail back from him, I was it all came from left field. Btw tweetylee, cut off shorts and a tee shirt can be made into a sexy outfit [Edited 5/23/2008 10:05:40 AM]
5/23/2008 6:22:28 AM	I Need Opinion's
imahoney Culpeper, VA age: 44	Oh sarah, He sounds selfish and classless. What a jerk, dump him. Beauty takes time. I had a guy meet me with food in his teeth. Who does that? First impression are very important.
5/23/2008 6:50:42 AM	I Need Opinion's
ladeesarah Texarkana, AR age: 43	I received an e-mail from him and here is the beginning of that e-mail. "Yes I'm sorry, you're right a first meeting and first impression are important." imahoney, the guy is not classless? No, he wasn't thinking too clearly, it had just taken him 30 hours to get home from a business trip he had in China. But being tired and blurting out words, especailly when written , reveals a person's state of mind and a look into their psych. I can weed'em out, it can be as simple as an e-mail exchange, if the e-mail's are good, take it up a notch and hook up via telephone, see where that all goes. This way, you don't have to run out to meet every Tom, D*ck & Harry I'm searching for long term compatibility and this guy is not my Holy Grail!!! [Edited 5/23/2008 10:08:59 AM]
5/24/2008 7:32:38 AM	I Need Opinion's
livewire3591 Poteau, OK age: 46	Dear Sharah A meeting like that is for later in a relationship. When things are more comfortable, maybe he just felt that comfortable with you.
5/24/2008 7:46:14 AM	I Need Opinion's
ladeesarah Texarkana, AR age: 43	It had nothing to do with the level of comfort he has w/me. The guy went on to state in his e-mail that he is VERY spontaneous and likes that in a woman. Listen, between you and I, there were a lot of assumption's on his part. For one, he had no idea where I was born, where I grew up, ect. When he mentioned the words "high maintenance" he isn't thinking Arkansas or South, he is thinking "New York City." Had the guy been just a little more patient, he could have learned a little more. In the beginning, I'm not inclined to take too much crap because somewhere down the road it may get bumpy and I'll have to deal with it as WE move along, it certainly doesn't have to start from the beginning. I am searching for my fairy tale, not his. [Edited 5/24/2008 7:51:13 AM]
5/24/2008 12:15:40 PM	I Need Opinion's
tweetylee Bauxite, AR age: 49	I dated a guy I met on MySpace for 3 months. Originally, emails and then in person, we clicked instantly. At least, I thought we did, he said we did. He even told me that I was the type of woman he could fall in love with. I told him we needed to go slow and he agreed. After the 3 months, he sends me an email and says that I have to be in control and he is not good at being submissive. First of all, after a 3 month relationship it is beyond tacky to break up by email. Second, I am a strong woman but not controlling. I sent the email to a few close friends and they all said he didn't have a back bone. The point is, I put myself completely out there for him and he just stomps on my ego. Someone told me that anyone can act like a nice person for a while but eventually their true colors come out. I hope that is what happened because I have always thought of myself as a kind and considerate person.
5/24/2008 12:18:13 PM	I Need Opinion's
jhny_777 Rogers, AR age: 55	For me for a first meet would be a cup of coffee or a drink and then from there see if you wanted the rest of the evening!Mabe that was his cup of coffee!Who knows! BVut a planned event is more natural!Sounds like he had one night out and wanted to max it then!To me Face to Face should be planned and if cold feet arise just call and cancell!!
5/24/2008 1:01:13 PM	I Need Opinion's
ladeesarah Texarkana, AR age: 43	tweetylee, oh yeah, people are on their best behavior when you first meet, but there are tell tale signs, just keep your ears and eyes open. Facial expressions are also important. As a general rule, submissive men don't have a back bone. There are some submissive men who will ask you if they can come to your house to scrub your floor's, LOL It happened to me once Lots of nuts out there, LOL Thanks for sharing. [Edited 5/24/2008 1:06:31 PM]
5/24/2008 1:05:52 PM	I Need Opinion's
ladeesarah Texarkana, AR age: 43	Jhny, you are right about this guy thinking "time management" issues. At our age, we know when red flags begin, if we don't see it, it's because we didn't want to see it. There are a select few who are new to the dating world and even those folks pick up on the game as it is being played out. [Edited 5/25/2008 12:30:05 AM]
5/25/2008 10:07:26 PM	I Need Opinion's
lilreba27 Atlanta, GA age: 48	ladeesarah Any tresure is worth the wait if this guy didn't want 2 wait 4 the pay off when the time was right then he would not have seen u 4 the gem that u r. U rock !!!! stay strong u got a good head on ur shoulders there r some good guys here & cing as how Texas is ur 2nd home u kno all about the hanging tree. If the guy is putting on an act & not bing his true self then TIME will tell that is why i will not b rushed by any guy....if u give someone enough ROPE they will HANG themselves sooner or later... Better we c the red flags sooner than later. Stay strong ladies & take it from Sarah wait 4 ur fairy tale not theirs if all is right it will b both ur dreams come true. U can not have a beautiful garden without doing a little weeding... Read between the lines girls I had 1 guy that told me I was not 4 real after 1 email or 2 because i would not give him phone # i told him it was a safety issue 4 us girls (he would not give his number HMMMMM married i think mayb) me not 4 real after mayb 2 emails HELLO!!!!!! u don't kno me !!!! i told him i do not lie & it was up 2 him what he believed that put him 2 stepping real quick!!! Again i will say 2 any man out there come CORRECT or DO NOT COME @ ALL keep on stepping & bite me if u don't like it!!!! no skin off my nose....i don't need that crap anyway...been there done that do not do Pete r his UGLY brother Repeat...!!!! Reba
5/26/2008 4:55:41 AM	I Need Opinion's
ladeesarah Texarkana, AR age: 43	Reba, you hit the nail right on the head "Come correct or do not come at all", everyone should read your statement before joining a dating site. There are a lot of nuts out there, lol When the right one comes along, you know it everything seems to stop there is no chaos and you're happy , I'll stop here, LOL Thanks for posting Reba, you are lots of fun and I can always count on you to say what's on your mind. Now when are you coming to TX? [Edited 5/26/2008 5:01:29 AM]
5/27/2008 11:46:26 AM	I Need Opinion's
lilreba27 Atlanta, GA age: 48	Well let me c about coming 2 Texas, heard u had a Bar-B-Que so if u, I, & russ01 & any other friends can hook up mayb we can make another have it @ a park & make a day 4 DH friends Hows that sound??? ???? Let me kno mayb this is something 2 work on LOL!!! Reba

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