You have a hard time finding a white guy who dates black women?
I've come across plenty who are more than eager to date black women. Or maybe it's just that they are more interested in having sex with black women than it is about dating them. Either way, I see "race" as less of an issue these days.
| 5/27/2008 8:41:49 PM |
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mjkittredge
Nashua, NH
age: 27
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I have dated a black woman before. Her mother and father were an interracial couple so that made me feel comfortable.
One of the things I'd worry about, is that the girls whole family would be black, and if she wanted to involve me with them, that I wouldn't fit in well, I'd be too different. Imagine at Thanksgiving, being the only white guy sitting at a big table. Or at a barbecue, the one white guy in a sea of black folk. Could be EXTREMELY awkward. As far as this country has come, there are still a lot of racial tensions. If you talk to a potential guy about these things, maybe you can ease his mind.
Why guys haven't been going for you so far - it's probably just preferrence and bad luck. Keep trying. I think a lot of guys are curious about dating a girl of another race.
Just let em know you don't have a mean, 7 foot tall, 300 pound father or brother who would stare them down at the door. They probably picture Uncle Phil from Fresh Prince of Bel Air yelling at them.
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| 5/27/2008 8:46:30 PM |
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pumpkin_star_25
Rock Falls, IL
age: 25
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I grew up around my moms side of the family. Her mom was mexican and her dad was german. My cousins are all multi-racial. White, black, and mexican. You would fit right in!
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| 5/27/2008 8:47:26 PM |
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raven74
Kalamazoo, MI
age: 52
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I have dated a black woman before. Her mother and father were an interracial couple so that made me feel comfortable.
One of the things I'd worry about, is that the girls whole family would be black, and if she wanted to involve me with them, that I wouldn't fit in well, I'd be too different. Imagine at Thanksgiving, being the only white guy sitting at a big table. Or at a barbecue, the one white guy in a sea of black folk. Could be EXTREMELY awkward. As far as this country has come, there are still a lot of racial tensions. If you talk to a potential guy about these things, maybe you can ease his mind.
Why guys haven't been going for you so far - it's probably just preferrence and bad luck. Keep trying. I think a lot of guys are curious about dating a girl of another race.
Just let em know you don't have a mean, 7 foot tall, 300 pound father or brother who would stare them down at the door. They probably picture Uncle Phil from Fresh Prince of Bel Air yelling at them.
Been there done that... about the Thanksgiving dinner situation... but my family is very diverse... and at least in the area that I live... other families are too... so you shouldn't feel like you are the only one.
Plus what says that you or anyone else shouldn't experience what we "black" people deal with all day long? you get use to being the only and it isn't any big deal. I am comfortable around most people.
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| 5/27/2008 8:52:08 PM |
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raven74
Kalamazoo, MI
age: 52
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I grew up around my moms side of the family. Her mom was mexican and her dad was german. My cousins are all multi-racial. White, black, and mexican. You would fit right in!
My school where I teach art is like that... there is actually a name for the Mexican/Black blend here... Blexican. A young boy was injured on the playground one day... he appeared to be white... all colors of girls in his class were hysterically crying over his injury. When he returned to school... his Mexican grandma would bring him. Several of the girls that were crying... black, white and Mexican turned out to be related to him.
Its a beautiful situation !
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| 5/27/2008 8:59:04 PM |
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rcanel59
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 26
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i think that I relate to alot of black women really well for some reason....the black women i have dated have been pretty good relationships.
I love white girls, spanish girls, and that phillipina/hawaiin look also though LOL
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| 5/27/2008 9:06:34 PM |
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mjkittredge
Nashua, NH
age: 27
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I grew up around my moms side of the family. Her mom was mexican and her dad was german. My cousins are all multi-racial. White, black, and mexican. You would fit right in!
See, put something like that in your profile, tell a prospective guy that. I think it's reasonable for a white guy to think "has a black person in her family had a bad experience with a racist white person, and because of that will they judge ME based on that?" It happens, sad to say.
In a lot of cases, if you date a girl, she wants to bring you around her family, so these things have to be taken into account.
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| 5/27/2008 9:08:49 PM |
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chala95
Flushing, NY
age: 48
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Go, Pumpkin go!
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| 5/27/2008 9:51:40 PM |
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pumpkin_star_25
Rock Falls, IL
age: 25
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well damn too bad you weren't closer...cutie!!
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| 5/28/2008 12:43:36 AM |
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forbes1
Pensacola, FL
age: 25
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I'm a 1/2 black female who tends to prefer white men. I have a hard time finding a guy who dates black women! Some will say they have always wanted to but actions speak louder than words! Any insight??  
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| 5/28/2008 12:54:20 AM |
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pt37
Saint Joseph, MO
age: 37
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right here but i dont think of black white mexican i just meet people and if i like a woman i ask her out i dont care what people think i dont have time for that all people should reach out and meet all different types of people thats the only way this world will survive. peace and love
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| 5/28/2008 1:16:52 AM |
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outgoing37
Norcross, GA
age: 37
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I'm very diversed.
But with all respect.This topic is no better than comparing weight.This is kinda a racial profile.I wouldnt post this.To single out a different race is like..Singling out apples and oranges.Why cant we just have both..
I have dated many Black woman.Hell ive dated every nationality..We are all the same.Thats my view.I hate these kinda questions.No disrespect.
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| 5/28/2008 6:09:24 AM |
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bassguy66
Pepperell, MA
age: 41
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pumpkin, if i were u, i wouldn't get to bogged down in what color a man is. focus more on what type of a man u would like to get to know. best of luck. 
By far the best advice on this thread. After all...it's just skin. It's okay to want to be attracted to someone, but after that, I tend to set my sights on what lies (below) the skin.
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| 5/28/2008 9:53:34 AM |
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pumpkin_star_25
Rock Falls, IL
age: 25
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It was what was on my mind. You don't have to read it. It is what it is.....
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| 5/28/2008 11:22:01 AM |
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asianr1
Charlotte, NC
age: 38
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oh no not another WHITE OR BLACK thing again......f*ck that shit....
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| 5/28/2008 11:57:16 AM |
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eightinchbend
Gadsden, AL
age: 43
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i'm sorry i don't get into that.
Then, why bother posting? It does not help Pumpkin Star find answers to her question.
Pumpkin Star: What people say they like is one thing; proving it is another...regardless of what colour a person is.
Maybe it would be better to know the qualities of a person you'd like to date. You very well could find what you are looking for based on your specific preference, but after that.....what becomes more important to you?
I think who you surround yourself with helps too. The more inter-action you have with diverse people in general can give you a cross-section of personalities and how people think.
Just "get out there" and find the guy.
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