| 6/1/2008 2:56:43 PM |
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jldwolfe
Wytheville, VA
age: 30 online now!
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Is it wrong to have a friend with benefits ? The kind of person that you know dosn't make a good partner , but you both get along good in bed together . Is it wrong to want a FWB instead of a full on relation ship , at least while your getting your life rebuilt after a big change ?
I am not saying that is all I am looking for but the ideal sounds good on paper so to speak . What do you thing  or 
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| 6/1/2008 3:06:46 PM |
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heyppl
Saint Louis, MO
age: 27
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I have a friend with benefits and it is great cause he treats me like aman should treat me when we r together. It is a good relationship we have.
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| 6/1/2008 3:07:12 PM |
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hon024
South Bend, IN
age: 40
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I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with it, as long as both people feel the same way. If one person feels that way, they shouldnt lead the other one on if the other one wants a relationship.
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| 6/1/2008 3:08:14 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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People have different wants, desires, and needs. If the FWB relationship is discussed by both parties and it's mutually agreeable, then there's no problem with it.
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| 6/1/2008 3:18:54 PM |
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chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
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We are all human and emotions get in the way which causes jealousy. I don't f*ck my friends and BTW they are not friends because once you f*ck the relationship changes. It's a booty call and nothing more than that.
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| 6/1/2008 3:52:21 PM |
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
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The FWB relationship is very good for a guy. It's probably the most optimal relationship to be in and with as many women as possible. But that's the rub. Women are allowed to have many FWB partners also and some guys can't handle that equality.
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| 6/1/2008 3:54:20 PM |
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mjkittredge
Nashua, NH
age: 27
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We are all human and emotions get in the way which causes jealousy. I don't f*ck my friends and BTW they are not friends because once you f*ck the relationship changes. It's a booty call and nothing more than that.
Sometimes friends can still respect each other afterwards and resume the friendship. It depends on how you look at it, how you react to it.
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| 6/1/2008 4:23:01 PM |
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venice427
Los Angeles, CA
age: 40
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.... if you can work without feelings, its not that bad
especially , if shes a drama queen...
i was dating a lady, about a year ago.... but,
i refused to get , "caught up" in her world....
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| 6/1/2008 4:58:45 PM |
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beu24
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 49 online now!
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We are all human and emotions get in the way which causes jealousy. I don't f*ck my friends and BTW they are not friends because once you f*ck the relationship changes. It's a booty call and nothing more than that.
Well said
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| 6/1/2008 5:45:56 PM |
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mel8866
Nutley, NJ
age: 41
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They are not as easy as they seem. Feeling eventually develop, even though you try hard not to let them come to the surface. I have been in a FWB relationship for 18 months. It is on the verge on ending as I type. We were friends for 6 months before anything happened. Once it happened I figured it would last 1 or 2 months tops, but 18 months is a long time. My "friend" and I had constant communication everyday between texting, emailing, phone, dining together. It really started to feel like a relationship/relationship. He looked to me for emotional support and opinions, etc.... He was having difficulties with someone he messed around with awhile back and she started talking shit about him on the internet and destroying him. I stood behind him and defended him because he really is a good guy.
Then about 6 weeks ago he stated that he has been talking to this new girl and he would not feel right talking to her and continuing with me since he is "a one woman man." Without realizing it, my heart broke. However, he is still calling me everyday to talk about his problems, etc... and has come by 6 times for what many would call a "booty call" and even though I know this girl is in his life, I continue to let him in.
It is not good for me to continue they way it has been, but I broke the agreement when I fell for him.
Now we had an argument on Friday (first one ever) over this girl (because she wanted to talk to me because she heard some things about him and did not want to see him anymore because she did not know what to believe after what she heard about him, etc..., needless to say I let her contact me and then she started insulting me, so I told her like it was between him and I, I did leave out that he and I were together even when she came into the picture). He felt I should not have said some of the things I said, because what she heard from others pretty much shot his chance with her now, but I did not care.
And now I have not heard from him since I hung up on him Friday, even though I called him to apologize for the things I said to him and left that message on his voicemail. He hasn't called me back at all.
FWB's can get pretty sticky.
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| 6/1/2008 6:06:15 PM |
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
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FWB's can get pretty sticky.
Because Friends with Benefits is a misnomer. You are more than "just" friends and are pretty much in a relationship that no one else can really or would really want to get in the middle of.
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| 6/1/2008 6:36:05 PM |
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mel8866
Nutley, NJ
age: 41
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My advice from my experience is it may be possible as long as you keep you heart out of it and not have that person a constant in your everyday life.
It is just difficult to sit across a table or have a conversation with a person that you have been intimate with for such a long time and then knowing they have hooked up with someone else. My experience was less casual I guess than most FWB packages.
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| 6/1/2008 6:48:03 PM |
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sweetgrl4u24
Cohoes, NY
age: 24
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well i was friends with this guy for 5 years and then one day we ended up having sex and then everytime after that...then one day he stoped calling and i lost a really good friend...i mean the sex was great, but i lost a good friend cause he wanted a serious relationship and i did not cause he was my friend...so to answer the question FWB is good to certain part, but not with someone u have been friends with for years cause it can ruin a friendship!!!!
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| 6/1/2008 6:56:56 PM |
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paula0702
Piedmont, WV
age: 40
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I tried FWB once and it didn't work out too well for me. I was fine with the whole deal but he had a problem when he saw me out talking to other guys. I was not trying to pick anyone up just having conversation with any guy would flip him out. So needless to say he not only lost his benefits but a friend tooo.
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| 6/1/2008 6:59:39 PM |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
age: 42
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maybe it should be more of an acquaintance with benefits... not a friend... JMO
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