| 6/8/2008 2:37:24 PM |
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nomadicangel
Philadelphia, PA
age: 49
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hhhhmmm hard to say --- what is interesting is some of the comments an d replies --- again if it were reversed --- people would be saying dump the guy he probably has a wife or a g/f --- but hhhmm she is shy and scared --- uuggghhh give me a break --- oh well gl either way.....
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| 6/8/2008 2:37:44 PM |
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painter41
Scranton, PA
age: 42
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wait for the date, but don't be so surprised if she cancels on you, it sounds like too many excuses to me. JMO 
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| 6/8/2008 2:38:51 PM |
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9erfan
Modesto, CA
age: 50
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norednckhere thanks for that dude That makes me feel better
There are some things that have gotten in the way,one being her working 12 hrs a day 10 am -10pm M-F and then I have my kids every other weekend form Fri eve-Sun eve.. but yea rednck I see your point
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| 6/8/2008 2:38:57 PM |
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obaby1954
Anchorage, AK
age: 53
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I say she sounds skittish. But then again, we all know that those pictures can be deceiving. I'd back off and if she is interested, she will let you know. Good luck
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| 6/8/2008 2:59:42 PM |
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kel66
Warrenton, VA
age: 45
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I'm sorry, I think it's time to move on to a more positive person. Three months to wait is a long time. JMHO. Good luck!
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| 6/8/2008 3:05:17 PM |
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misssmatch
Cleveland, TN
age: 51
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i agree...3 months is a long time to wait to meet someone who is local !! anyone can make time for a cuppa coffee...if they WANT to, that is...
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| 6/8/2008 3:05:56 PM |
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magtag
East York, ON
age: 41
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I have been chatting with this woman just about nightly,while she works her 12 hr shift. This has been going on for about 3 months now.We both live in the same town
I could be completely wrong, but there seem to be red flags going off for me here just in the portion I've quoted. If your chats have all been while she's working, you live in the same town and she is leary of the phone calls as well as meeting for three months time, it seems she may not be as single as she is portraying to you or she isn't really the person she says she is.
Again, I could be completely wrong, so I think I may go with Dutch's idea and ask about just meeting up for a coffee sometime soon and see how she responds. If she is interested and truly single, she will surely find 1/2 hour to meet up, no one's life is too busy for that. If she agrees, you can always plan a date at that meeting. If she cannot find the time, after three months, I would personally move along if in your shoes. I think she may be hiding something.
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| 6/8/2008 3:29:54 PM |
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chillytoes
Braidwood, IL
age: 46
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 if you want my take on it 9er, here it is...
Altho it isn't you that I've been chatting with, I have been chatting.
He's a very nice guy and I do think there might be some connection there.
At the same time, I've watched him move thru 3 different ladies while
chatting with me. Says he wants to meet me too. I'm thinking, while,
I've nursed his broken heart, tried desperately to raise his spirits,
given him an inside look as to why women do what they do, until I have
his eyes looking solely at me, I'm not going to meet him. I'll talk
to him on the phone, I'll play with him on the computer. But I'm not
to let him into my heart (further then he is already) until he's sure
he's going to take care of it. Funny things, hearts.........they tend
to be fragile.
Could be she's shy, could be she's talking to others, could be she's
got something at home and just looking for a distraction. Could it
be she doesn't trust you? JMO.....good luck to you.
Edited cuz I can't spell!
[Edited 6/8/2008 3:33:47 PM]
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| 6/8/2008 3:52:33 PM |
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sircharles60
Wiltshire
United Kingdom
age: 60
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I am going to paint a slightly different opinion here, may just be a possibility.
Imagine she started talking to you and at that time she was just seeking an email "buddy" then you both start to "click", what if she has no self confidence, a poor body image of herself, would she not be getting scared of meeting in case you did not like her. Her inability to cope with rejection may be something she fears. There could be any number of reasons including all those above.
You can either try to put her mind at rest by telling her you are meeting as just friends, and that you are not going to pressure her in any way, and then just as a joke say "Damn even if your married we can still be friends can't we" then jokingly ask her if she is, let her know though, that she has your friendship, irrespective of the answer.
It may be that she needs that friendship. I know some will say well she lied kick her to the curb, but what if she is in an abusive relationship, would'nt you want to just help her as a human being?
OK now everyone can tear strips off me 
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| 6/8/2008 4:09:26 PM |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 50
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God how I hate mind gamesand emotional abuse and thats what this woman is doing with you... Run man run...She has you dangling just where she wants you..
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| 6/8/2008 4:22:04 PM |
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catanddoglady
Tulsa, OK
age: 53
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This is my first time ever being on-line. If your summary is being accurately recalled, she appears to be very indecisive or is misleading you with your intentions of having a serious one-on-one relationship.
As a woman, I really do not have time for such nonsense in any man. I prefer a man that knows who he is and want he wants. Sounds like you know what you want but she may not know what she wants.
I would persue other ladies that mirror your interest and respond in the manner which you need. Three months is enough time to decide if you want to pursue meeting up with an individual. I am conservative in that way too. But I know that is plenty time to make a decision to move forward and take the next step.
We are all adults. I don't see anything wrong with meeting a gentlemen for a lunch or breakfast date in a neutral place and you could go dutch there would be no pressure that way.
I would use this time to reflect and determine if you really want someone as indecisive as she appears to be.
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| 6/8/2008 4:22:38 PM |
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rig216
Red Deer, AB
age: 46 online now!
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If the purpose of getting together is to enhance a friendship, then that should not prevent you to share a bowl of ice scream with someone else. I say move on, you've made an effort
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| 6/8/2008 6:28:46 PM |
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coppermare
Grady, AL
age: 48
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Sounds like she is MARRIED
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| 6/8/2008 6:37:36 PM |
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snowbird1961
Los Lunas, NM
age: 46
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9ers maybe she is just a little nervous. Give her time. But let her know you are not giving up 
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| 6/8/2008 6:39:39 PM |
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roggor
Eek, AK
age: 50
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She's a busy woman. Deal with it or look elsewhere.
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