| 8/9/2007 6:01:21 PM |
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karebear87
Eau Claire, WI
age: 21
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Well copterdriver, it was on another site that well, maybe some use for dating, but I use it as a means of talking to friends from work and old schoolmates. It has a lot less spam than myspace but it isn't my favorite.
That was my first time getting hit up on Fscebook for a date though. Weird stuff.
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| 8/9/2007 6:02:29 PM |
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copterdriver
Saint Matthews, SC
age: 55
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it's your face kare... nothing but trouble from here on out... lol
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| 8/9/2007 6:06:23 PM |
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craftygirl002
Tacoma, WA
age: 39
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For what it's worth, I think some guys just feel the need to 'save face' and think behaving that way's an effective way to do so. I disagree with the behavior, but appreciate that they show me very quickly how they handle themselves. (Man I'm glad we can just block people and move on.)
As far as not dating men with children is concerned, good for you.  I think it's great that you recognize you're not at a place in your life where you want to deal with someone else's kids. Children bring a whole new set of challenges to dating and not everyone wants to deal with those challenges. I'm a bit surprised that anyone would be offended by your honesty. I would think it would be better to know that up front than to find out later.
In regards to telling him you weren't interested in dating someone with kids is concerned, maybe that is a bit too much info. If you said you were seeing someone, that should be enough.
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| 8/9/2007 6:08:09 PM |
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karebear87
Eau Claire, WI
age: 21
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craftygirl, thank you for your response
Although due to past experience, even saying "I'm seeing someone else" will trigger a response along the lines of "Well you can see me on the side" or "I bet it isn't serious" or "He doesn't have to know"
Cache 22....
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| 8/9/2007 6:13:55 PM |
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peaches73036
El Reno, OK
age: 40
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lol castor, I'd take the world's children if i could!! I love kids and have a total blast..children remind us to take life as it comes and blow big bubbles xD xoxoPeaches.
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| 8/9/2007 6:17:42 PM |
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castertroy
Howell, NJ
age: 38
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Don't get me wrong , i love my kiddos
My daughter lives with her mom , shes 10 and my son lives with me , he just turned 13
But when they bug me , mostly him as i don't see my daughter very often , i often tell him:
15 minutes of pleasure equate to a lifetime of pain
He stares at me as if he's puzzled , i tell him:
Don't worry , one day you will understand
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| 8/9/2007 6:24:59 PM |
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ktownmom
Kinston, NC
age: 21
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whats wrong with a guy with kids are u willing not to fidn truew love jsu casue the person has a kid its not like they are a murder they just have a kid whats teh big deal and by dating people without kids u are makeing the dating pool so small
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| 8/9/2007 6:27:40 PM |
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castertroy
Howell, NJ
age: 38
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Ktown
She is just 20 years old
Try to see things from her point of view
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| 8/9/2007 6:29:21 PM |
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ktownmom
Kinston, NC
age: 21
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yeha well im no but 21 and have 2 kids and if guys felt that way i would never get a date
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| 8/9/2007 6:29:25 PM |
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katebug
Brooklet, GA
age: 32
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I agree Troy. She has her whole life ahead of her.
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| 8/9/2007 6:35:16 PM |
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castertroy
Howell, NJ
age: 38
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Lots of guys Do feel that way
In fact , i always tell anyone i date upfront i have a 13 year old son who lives with me
Listen , someone asked me why am i still single
Here is the truth:
My Son:
He is every thing to me , if i am to be involved with someone seriously , she must be good enough to be a "Mother Figure"
I understand Karebear's decision to stick to her standards , i too have my own
Hence why i have been single for so long.
I don't particularly think of myself as a unattracive guy , i have half a brain , i do alright at work , and have everything to give to the RIGHT woman
But i WILL NOT , compromise.
Luckly enough for me , a cutie just so happened to come my way
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| 8/9/2007 6:38:05 PM |
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peaches73036
El Reno, OK
age: 40
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I totally agree, Kids must come first to those of us with them but, to others don't fault them just because they don't wish that role. carebear is much to young and at least she knows where she is in her life and able to speak her mind. xoxoPeaches.
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| 8/9/2007 7:11:59 PM |
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karebear87
Eau Claire, WI
age: 21
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I won't bash anyone who has children. Two of my girlfriends had kids when they were 16 and 18. It makes me feel sort of bad when I hear them say that guys won't date them because they have kids, and I try to comfort them. They give me shit too, for not wanting to date guys with kids. But I stick to my guns. It's a connection with another human being that I've never had. It doesn't make me selfish. I don't want to be #1 and come before a child. I just cannot put myself in a situation where there is another woman (aka, the ex, the mother of the child). It was too painful and I was way too young to deal with that. I need time and growing up before I can accept another woman's child.
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| 8/9/2007 7:17:43 PM |
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ktownmom
Kinston, NC
age: 21
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i understand where u are coming form but i also see it this way u may be over looking the love of your life just because he has a kid and that is worse than hacing to deal with baby momma drama belive me my hubby had a kid befor we got to gether but if u love the person that is all that matters
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| 8/9/2007 7:19:26 PM |
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karebear87
Eau Claire, WI
age: 21
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This guy obviously wasn't even worth anything if he was going to throw such a tantrum. But like others have said, at least I found out right away how he reacts when he hears something he doesn't want to hear.
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