| 6/26/2008 4:04:55 PM |
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brujacakes
Albrightsville, PA
age: 36
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ur profile or on the forums that you are interested in someone?
And why?
Do you wait till you've met once and agree you are both interested in each other?
Do you wait till you have dated several times, talked about exclusivity and decide together?
Do you just do it right away so as to build trust in each other?
But how does it make the other person feel when they see you being approached by others on the forums?
How do you feel when someone you are interested in is flirting on the forums with someone else?
Just curious as to how other people handle the situation 
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| 6/26/2008 4:47:49 PM |
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magtag
East York, ON
age: 41
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I have yet to meet anyone on DH in any kind of romantic way, so it is difficult to comment from experience. But...if I were to be in the situation you are talking about, I think I would leave things as they are until there was discussion of exclusivity and at that point, I would make my profile invisible for a time and eventually delete if I found that this was the one for me.
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| 6/26/2008 5:01:28 PM |
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dixiethelovebug
Auburn, GA
age: 44
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I have changed mine in the past after I had met and decided if I wanted to see where it would lead. I would put something like "I have met someone and want to see where it leads me." But also left the rest of my profile up. If it dosnt work out, then I just delete that portion.
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| 6/26/2008 5:04:15 PM |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 40
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Good topic bruja. One of the first guys I met on here deleted his profile after our second date and it scared the crap out of me. And with the one guy I dated on here that turned in to an exclusive relationship, it was a source of contention so I made my profile invisible while we were dating. I think the key is communication. I definitely wouldn't do anything until you talk about it with the other person.
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| 6/26/2008 5:11:12 PM |
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zeanah
Clarion, PA
age: 49
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I would not delete my profile until we both had agreed to a monogamous relationship. AND even then, I'd probably just put it as inactive or invisible until the relationship was really solid.
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| 6/26/2008 5:14:41 PM |
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roundhouse
Phoenix, AZ
age: 43
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Had me going there for a minute, until I read further.
You will know when. It will be crystal clear to you. Don't even sweat it, Girl!
Roundhouse in Phoenix, Arizona
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| 6/26/2008 5:31:08 PM |
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breeze341
Denver, CO
age: 41
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I have not put in my profile I am interested in someone. I won't until I know that I am in an exclusive relationship.
I have been talking to someone for a few months and both of us are interested in each other, and we do have a lot in common including our own personal business goals. We are working on a date to meet really soon and if we click in person as we have online, on IM, and over the phone, have already worked out how we will continue to see each other.
I believe one should date "several times" before thinking about being exclusive and it should be discussed together.
When you talk or meet with somebody you give them the benefit of the doubt. The trust builds as a relationship builds, so I would say it is not something that happens right away.
As far as the other person being approached on the forums and the flirting. It bothered me. I am a busy woman with a full time job, a partner in a business, as well as trying to get another new business going. I don't have time or care to play games. I am straight forward, so...I simply asked and we seriously talked about it. I know where I stand now and things will continue as they have been.
JMO only. I am not sure how someone else would handle it.
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| 6/26/2008 5:35:54 PM |
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chillytoes
Braidwood, IL
age: 47
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 I would think if I find the right one and he has found me
it wouldn't be necessary to be here any longer. Yes, the forums are
greatly entertaining but I think I would prefer to pass the time with
someone that is real and not virtual....JMO
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| 6/26/2008 5:39:57 PM |
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bry11ca
Canton, MI
age: 43
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Best to wait until you have some agreed upon exclusivity.
Bry 
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| 6/26/2008 6:02:35 PM |
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redneckhippy
Pottsboro, TX
age: 40
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ur profile or on the forums that you are interested in someone?
And why?
Never.
If it's just an interest, it might be best
to express that by sending a private email
to the person that you're interested in.
Do you wait till you've met once and agree you are both interested in each other?
Meeting once, doesn't constitute a relationship.
If it fails, having gone public with it, can blow up
in a big way.
Do you just do it right away so as to build trust in each other?
Might be a plan to wait until trust has been established
But how does it make the other person feel when they see you being approached by others on the forums?
Hopefully, when I do connect with someone,
they'll be secure enough, that forums chatter doesn't
bother them.
How do you feel when someone you are interested in is flirting on the forums with someone else?
As is my smart assed nature, I might jokingly
razz her about it during private conversation.
But, in all seriousness, I really don't give a
shit if there's a bit of, or even alot of flirting.
It's called trust.
Just curious as to how other people handle the situation
Well... curiosity can be a good thing.
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| 6/26/2008 7:03:32 PM |
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brujacakes
Albrightsville, PA
age: 36
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I would think if I find the right one and he has found me
it wouldn't be necessary to be here any longer. Yes, the forums are
greatly entertaining but I think I would prefer to pass the time with
someone that is real and not virtual....JMO
But what if it's a long distance relationship and dh is one of your main avenues of communication?
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| 6/26/2008 7:05:35 PM |
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brujacakes
Albrightsville, PA
age: 36
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Thanks you dang redneckhippy for all your simplicity......why make it more complicated than it has to be, right?
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| 6/26/2008 7:12:43 PM |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
age: 43
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well, I'm not in that situation...  ... but if I were....
I wouldn't change anything on my profile till I was in a committed relationship... dating exclusively... if someone else emails you while you are testing the waters with the guy, showing an interest, you can email back that you are currently involved with someone or pursuing another relationship.
I wouldn't put that I was interested in someone on my profile.... I'm interested in a lot of someones... I don't think there's room enough... lol... and that just muddies the water...
I personally wouldn't post it in the forums... just fodder for the gossip mills... but that's me...
I would probably be miffed about other people flirting with him on the threads... and I would talk to him about that. But that is my thing... for me to work on... 
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| 6/26/2008 7:15:40 PM |
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brujacakes
Albrightsville, PA
age: 36
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well, I'm not in that situation... ... but if I were....
I wouldn't change anything on my profile till I was in a committed relationship... dating exclusively... if someone else emails you while you are testing the waters with the guy, showing an interest, you can email back that you are currently involved with someone or pursuing another relationship.
I wouldn't put that I was interested in someone on my profile.... I'm interested in a lot of someones... I don't think there's room enough... lol... and that just muddies the water...
I personally wouldn't post it in the forums... just fodder for the gossip mills... but that's me...
I would probably be miffed about other people flirting with him on the threads... and I would talk to him about that. But that is my thing... for me to work on...
Makes perfect sense to me!
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| 6/26/2008 7:16:26 PM |
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grizz67
Bernville, PA
age: 41
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I dated a young lady from this site some time back. After we had mutually agreed that we would date exclusively I made a goodbye thread in my age group and made my profile invisible after some advice from other members. By making my profile invisible no one could write to me and I did not post on here, but when things unfortunately ended all I had to do was make my profile visible again instead of having to do it all over again. The invisible move is a first good step and commitment and if things progress even further, than I would delete the profile all together.
Make sure there is mutual commitment before making a move. That is my advice and opinion.
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