| 6/26/2008 6:59:10 PM |
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1romanticheart
Fort Worth, TX
age: 56
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Just found this site and it has been a year and a half and it gets easier but I'll never ever forget.
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| 6/30/2008 1:51:16 PM |
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1mauibabe1
Lahaina, HI
age: 52
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Don't try to forget. This is not being divorced. I know I will always love my late husband, but I know that I still have a lot of love to give to someone else... It will be different and special in its own way.... Do not compare what you felt with your wife to the other women you will meet. Just know that they are different and your love will be too....
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| 7/15/2008 5:20:11 AM |
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ohiohoney
Wooster, OH
age: 47
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I have been a widow since Oct. of 07 and it is very hard and somedays almost unbearable....
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| 7/16/2008 7:16:26 PM |
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oladyo
Haverhill, MA
age: 70
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I feel so bad for all of you 50s and 40s people. It really must be hard for you. I would suggest going to a bereavement group in your area. It helped me a lot to go and talk to other people who have lost their partners. I must admit I still have my bad moments. Weekends for me are the worse. I don't know why but that is when I break down a lot and I have talked to others who say the same thing.Does anyone else experience this? Anyways keep the Faith. We all will get through it. It is so nice to express our feelings here. Always remember you are not alone. Please post if you want to talk.
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| 7/18/2008 5:21:58 PM |
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swtdenial
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 31
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ive been widowed since 5/2004 lost him when he was 32 on his way home from a car accident so many things i wanted to say but never had the chance when will i stop being so bitter?
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| 7/25/2008 10:28:13 AM |
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imbecca
Raymond, MS
age: 56
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HI,Im new to this site too.Just found it today.My husband died Feb.2007.I am just beginning to get out.I miss him like crazy,I too feel guily about meeting new people.I am just wanting to meet someone to just be friends with.I think just baby steps at first is easier.It does help to talk about your feelings.My husband was my soul mate,my best friend.But with Gods help and friends and family I am able to go on.You can too.My husband took his own life.It is the hardest thing I have ever gone through,but each day is a blessing and we have to go forward. IMBECCA
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| 7/28/2008 3:33:44 PM |
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luvanurse54
Durant, OK
age: 54
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Becca, not only do you have to deal with the pain of death but the manner of the death as well. You sound like a strong woman and I know you will get stonger each day with God's help. So many of us who are here because we have lost our loved one to death, which is final. No opportunities for reconciliation, no opportunities to win them back. Its the finality of it that takes your breath away. I will be thinking of you. All of you! God bless.
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| 7/29/2008 9:01:05 PM |
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johnfowl
Dallas, PA
age: 47
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Lost my wife to cancer September 2005 at 45 years young and it has got better.
A counselor for the grief group I go to suggested that when you are preparing to try dating, recognize that a new love doesn't mean you can not still love your past spouse. Parents with multiple children thought they could never love someone like their first child but when the second comes, you love them just as much. She said to think of that comparison when you are concerned or feel wrong about dating or falling in love again.
God Bless,
John
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| 9/3/2008 2:03:15 AM |
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suzieqz
Jenkintown, PA
age: 55
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I looked @ what everyones had to say I lost Joey, I can say his name now and not cry ...but anyway losing him is a death, but he always will be there in my thoughts, where I look, but divorce is a death also both parties will never forget the good times but with them the bad times are facing them daily. I met joe when I was 19 and there were good times and bad but when they die we tend to only remember the good,which is good. So as one of the comments go it will get easier but you never forget so now live cause she wouldn't want you to bury yourself ;>)
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| 9/3/2008 8:55:12 AM |
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judy1958
Conyers, GA
age: 50
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welcome to all the newbies..i lost my husband August 6th 2005 and yes its easier now but i too will never forget nor even want to..we shared 31 years together and i never wanna forget that or him..he was then and still is a part of my life even though hes no longer with me..he was a wonderful man,father,papa and best friend..his memory lives on in me..
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| 9/7/2008 2:36:18 PM |
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rainbow59631
Bloomington, IN
age: 72
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It has been 38 yrs for me and it does get easier and I don't care how long it's been your spouse will always be in your life. Your children will keep him alive in your heart if nothing else does. I was widowed at 34 and raised my 5 children by myself. Never remarried but have always hoped for someone to fill my life. Keep the chin up and pray and you too will get through it. I agree support groups are great but at the time I didn't have time. Was a busy lady.
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| 9/7/2008 5:40:43 PM |
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vale42
Findlay, OH
age: 50
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i lost my husband aug 1st of 06 and then my dad nov 4th ,06 so double whammy for me,,, before that lost my 9 yr old son in 1992 cause of a heart condition,, i know it gets easier with time but now am tired of trying to dig my self out of what i feel like is a tunnel,,,,,,,,,,,
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| 9/8/2008 4:28:34 PM |
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ominvorous
Olympia, WA
age: 54
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I'm not sure but thoughout my life I've seen and talked with numberous widows. It seems as if a loss and the ensuing grief never disappears. One falls into that tunnel, the black hard lonely place over and over. A place, a song, a couple holding hands will put you into a dark space. You do become better at climbing out. You learn to choose very carefully those times to look down. You find a way to go forward (over around up )the rocks of bitterness anger dispair and pain. Some may find themselves trying to break those rocks into little pebbles, bits they can shake out their pants leg on to the ground of the prisonyard. The only advice : just don't dig any deeper, look up. Not everyone is the same and not everyone will find the same way out not even the next time. If something doesn't work try another path.
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| 9/12/2008 11:19:46 AM |
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wellshucks
Disney, OK
age: 62
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Hi, My wife passed away 2-10-07. You know, people say it gets better. Not true for me. I miss her more an more everyday. I hate to see night fall. That's when it's really tuff laying an thinking about the past, where we used to go, things we used to do.. I posted a picture, not sure if the fish scares off the ladies or if it's me. I wonder. Yellar gloves you think. Wellshucks i better quit writing. Goodluck all!!! Here's a for the ladies.
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| 9/24/2008 7:04:02 PM |
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sarahplaintall
Wheat Ridge, CO
age: 65 online now!
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I lost my first husband when I was only 17 (1961) married again at 23, divorced him, married again and lost him to Cancer, in 1992, after almost 20 years of marriage. Trust me, it gets "easier," but not better, but life will go on, even tho' at times you think it won't. The main thing is stay busy and laugh lots.
"Please Lord teach
Us to laugh again,
but God,
Don't ever let us
Forget that we cried."
Author Unknown
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