| 4/20/2013 7:13:47 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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fourxdigger
Savannah, GA
28, joined Apr. 2013
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I'm 25 years old, I've been divorced for 2-3 months. Separated for 2 years-ish. Is it just me or do other people find it hard to find someone that is adequate? I don't want to seem picky, but having gone through what I did with my ex, I don't want to make the same mistakes. And it seems as if every woman I meet, shadow that of my ex. I don't know if it's just me being too scared to get screwed over again or what. Opinions?????
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| 4/20/2013 9:57:13 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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pickygirl72
Barrow, AK
45, joined Sep. 2011
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I don't want to seem picky
Did someone call my name?
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| 4/20/2013 9:59:59 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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fourxdigger
Savannah, GA
28, joined Apr. 2013
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Hahaha, nice. 
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| 4/23/2013 7:20:30 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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jensacrazylady
Lake Mary, FL
29, joined Apr. 2013
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I got married when i was 21 and divorced by 24 so it isn't a bad thing.
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| 4/23/2013 7:29:02 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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angel8087
Toledo, OH
28, joined Apr. 2013
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It's not just you. It's going on a year since my divorce was finalized and 3 years since the separation. Even now I have to keep reminding myself that my past is in my past and that my current bf is not my ex. And it's not so much about being picky as it is knowing what you want now and not settling for less. It just takes time to find the right person for you.
[Edited 4/23/2013 7:29:58 PM ]
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| 4/29/2013 2:04:13 AM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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ladyscorner
Paducah, KY
32, joined Apr. 2013
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No not just you...I married at 20 and divorced at 25. You have to get up every morning and say...today will be a better day. Be optimistic...and when you least expect it...someone wonderful will suprise you
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| 4/29/2013 2:16:06 AM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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anja_lou514
Kissimmee, FL
40, joined May. 2011
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Are you picking the same type of person?
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| 4/29/2013 8:01:58 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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danzig85
Long Island City, NY
30, joined Apr. 2013
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I'm 25 years old, I've been divorced for 2-3 months. Separated for 2 years-ish. Is it just me or do other people find it hard to find someone that is adequate? I don't want to seem picky, but having gone through what I did with my ex, I don't want to make the same mistakes. And it seems as if every woman I meet, shadow that of my ex. I don't know if it's just me being too scared to get screwed over again or what. Opinions?????
Just got to take it Day by day. I got married at 19. Divorced by 24. Was too young and too stupid. Now I just let whatever happens, happen.
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| 5/1/2013 9:18:16 AM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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stargazzer
Creighton, NE
67, joined Feb. 2007
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Your going through a trusting period & on avrage it takes 6 years to regain your normal trust again.
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| 5/4/2013 2:55:04 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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jamie197933
Indianapolis, IN
37, joined Jan. 2013
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No I very pickey to.after getting hurt ans being divorced dnt want some loser
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| 5/4/2013 5:59:00 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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ronleeseberg
Mauston, WI
49, joined Jan. 2012
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My first one was when I was 27 so do not feel like the lone ranger.
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| 5/4/2013 7:07:03 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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rdenison11
Stockton, CA
27, joined May. 2013
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it happens .... you may sub consciously compare the people your considering to date as you rex ... I have noticed that I do at time and then I have to stop my self its had to move on from the past ....
its like there is always something there sayin that its gonna happen agian
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| 5/5/2013 9:58:55 AM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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jrbogie1949
Red Bluff, CA
66, joined Mar. 2009
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I'm 25 years old, I've been divorced for 2-3 months. Separated for 2 years-ish. Is it just me or do other people find it hard to find someone that is adequate? I don't want to seem picky, but having gone through what I did with my ex, I don't want to make the same mistakes. And it seems as if every woman I meet, shadow that of my ex. I don't know if it's just me being too scared to get screwed over again or what. Opinions?????
to answer fairly i'd have to blow suds off a few cold ones with your ex. you know, hear her side of the story and get a better idea of who screwed over who. btw, you're buying the beer, k?
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| 5/6/2013 1:42:57 AM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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rickybobby1986
Borger, TX
29, joined Apr. 2013
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nope, not just you. im recently divorced and it 26 yrs old. i should have done it last year.
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| 5/6/2013 9:07:17 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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fourxdigger
Savannah, GA
28, joined Apr. 2013
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Jrbogie, I would agree with you if it weren't for her taking pleasure in drugs over her family. That being said, you would be better off smokin crack with her than drinking a cold one.
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| 5/27/2013 10:05:32 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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tcretiredhippie
Durand, WI
57, joined Apr. 2012
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Its you. Sorry
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| 5/28/2013 9:21:34 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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sllowery91
Chicago, IL
24, joined Jan. 2012
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I was married at 18 and divorced at 21. You have to look at the bigger picture, there are many reasons why a marriage fails.
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| 5/29/2013 2:44:59 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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skooter102
Plaquemine, LA
28, joined Feb. 2013
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Seems like the trend. I too, am very hesitant and leery of everyone it seems. Like ^she said, keep your chin up because there are still good people left. The main thing is to find out what type of person you're attracted to and find out why. Then you can unravel it and start looking for normal, whatever you definition may be, potentials.
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| 6/10/2013 10:30:59 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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megs8268
Dallas, GA
28, joined Oct. 2012
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I think going through a bad marriage and a divorce shows you exactly what you don't want and what you will/will not put up with.
I have discovered that I'm much more critical of anyone I consider dating and that if they do any of the things I won't deal with it's just a no.
Having a child full time also causes me to be more critical. It's so much harder to trust someone or be ok with anything about them you don't like when it doesn't only affect your life.
Personally, I've decided to look at gaining that knowledge as a huge bonus though.
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| 7/5/2013 9:56:27 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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brandis123
Barstow, CA
28, joined Jun. 2013
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Join the club! We have jackets. Your not alone 
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| 7/5/2013 11:00:06 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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baby_pink86
Worden, MT
29, joined Jun. 2013
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it's not just after a divorce. Of course I compare people to my ex husband making sure that I don't follow that path again.
I also find myself comparing men to my ex boyfriend too. I dated him for 18 months, and in that time he promised me many things. Said he loved me, but in the end I realized I was a convenience for him. A warm body when he needed, he was never going to go get a house with me or marry me like he says he wanted to do.
So now, I worry about being used all over again. I tend to worry if I feel a guy is ignoring me, like they're just trying to play around with me like he did. I just have to take a step back and take a few deep breaths, literally and figuratively.
it's going to take a while, but keep you're head up and keep a positive attitude. You're not going to find the woman of your dreams overnight. 
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| 7/7/2013 1:10:19 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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i_am_andrew
Lilbourn, MO
29, joined Jun. 2013
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well i'm 27 I've been divorced for awhile. I was married for 10 years. its like all the rules have changed in 10 years, and all the girls my age want to be treated like crap. at least it seams that way to me. some of the guys that the girls around hear go home with are known to hit a women. they spend the night talking to the girls like there trash. yet it seems to work although i don't understand how. when i was dating back in the day if you came to a girl like that you would leave in a cop car or with a face full of pepper spray.
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| 7/13/2013 3:29:55 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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alicia1031
Temecula, CA
28, joined Oct. 2012
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no, im 25 and found that i also dont want to go through it again. so my standards have changed. at first i thought maybe i was just better at reading bs. but in reality you have been down the aisle. so you aren't disillusioned by marriage...not a bad thing
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| 7/13/2013 4:18:25 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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bier95
Clara City, MN
65, joined May. 2011
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Married 10 yrs and your only 27 ?????
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| 7/13/2013 4:37:40 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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i_am_andrew
Lilbourn, MO
29, joined Jun. 2013
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Married 10 yrs and your only 27 ?????
yep, I was married a few month before I turned 18 she was 16. I was told the only way I could see her after my birthday is if I married her. so i did
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| 7/15/2013 3:46:30 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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realnice88
Dundee, IL
28, joined Jul. 2013
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Im 25 and divorced. Been for a little over a year and separated for about 3.
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| 7/16/2013 8:13:43 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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wallbanger85
Plattsmouth, NE
30, joined Jun. 2013
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I'm 27 going through a divorce. Things always change don't worry you'll make it through. Who would of thought that 13 years later my high school sweetheart and I would be going back to just friends. But its life. It may take a bit but you will move on and find someone else. Be confident in yourself.
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| 8/4/2013 9:44:12 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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johnboy8705
Windsor Heights, IA
29, joined Jul. 2013
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Im 26 was married 1 month b4 i turned 25 and then divorced 2 months later.
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| 8/7/2013 1:18:40 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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txlaw69
Garland, TX
47, joined Dec. 2012
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Been divorced almost 7 yrs. Its hard but can get through it. Best of luck to you
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| 8/7/2013 6:10:25 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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just_ct_returns
Rome, GA
57, joined Sep. 2012
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It isn't that one has become hard hearted or picky.
We've all just become wiser. We have been down the path and walked the walk.
We may not know what we want, but we do know what we don't want.
So we do watch for the red flags and similarities in prospective mates because
we know that those characteristics are ones that don't tend to make us happy.
Easy Peasy. 
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| 8/8/2013 10:16:29 PM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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the48thronin
Dewey, AZ
32, joined Jun. 2013
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Ive been separated for 5 months just starting the divorce recently (finances) however the last three years has been like doing CPR (or for the folks that work in EMS a full code). Ive accepted that its dead the Docs called it and now after all the compressions, the broken ribs, medication interventions and sweat I can clean things up and move on with my life. That being said, the women that Ive met who have anything significantly in common with my ex have been... I wont say repulsive but... very unattractive at the least.
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| 8/9/2013 10:01:59 AM |
25 and divorced. Is it just me? |
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redtulipan33
Kissimmee, FL
27, joined Apr. 2013
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No its not u. happen 2 ever1!,
sucks tho but still hoping 2 find some1 much much better .
but hoping is just a waste of time
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