| 10/7/2013 2:45:09 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
51, joined Jun. 2013
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I was reading a woman's profile, and in it she said that there were an awful lot of men that were self employed on here. I, myself, am self employed. I have been off and on for 20+ years. I pay my own insurance, have my own town and county licenses, file 1099's and pay my taxes every season.
I'm curious as to what ladies think of us self employed guys. Some of us make a pretty good living, while others struggle. Some guys put self employed because they're crack dealers I'm sure, but there are honest contractors and sub contractors out there.
I prefer it. I take what jobs I want. Make my own hours for the most part, and if I want to take the day off to take care of a sick GF or just to f**k her all day, I can.
I imagine writers, musicians, among others reap the same benefits. I know it can be tough going as a couple, especially if work is slow. Lord knows me and my ex fought numerous occasions because of it. It is what it is, and I wouldn't change it for the world. No one looking over my shoulder. No boss to nag me. I'm a vet so my helth care is covered, and so is my families, should I ever decide to get married again. NO OBAMACARE in this house!!!! Jus sayin...Thought, complaints, boobies, whatever ya want, discuss...
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| 10/7/2013 3:21:16 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
57, joined May. 2009
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I don't think about it all that much. My late husband was a consultant, so self-employed. He also worked for others, so it was either/or, at times.
(VA covers vision and dental? I didn't think they did. I also didn't think they covered a vet's family, just the vet. Learn something new all the time.)
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| 10/7/2013 3:30:51 PM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
51, joined Jun. 2012
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My husband and I had a company together......
I will say this......it was rough.
All we talked about was .......work.
When he got home.......work. Dinner ? Work......."relaxing" ? Work....
In the 17 yrs of it ? Not one vacation.....never a break for me. He handled the labor part...God Bless him...Texas heat !
But once he was home ? His day was done.......mine wasn't.
I encouraged his breaks...he was a Trail Rider...and we invested quite a bit of $$ in that. I thought he deserved it . He would leave for a week or a few days at a time...While I handled the business.
We had many a "discussion" about the business....and it was draining.
I would not have an issue with a self employed man........as long as I wasn't involved .
But keeping my mouth shut on certain things would be ...........well, let's just say a true test of my inner strength 
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| 10/7/2013 3:33:17 PM |
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luckovich
White Plains, NY
36, joined Jun. 2013
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I assume self-employed to mean unemployed.
...or up-and-coming rapper.
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| 10/7/2013 3:39:15 PM |
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gotheon123
Apex, NC
48, joined Jul. 2013
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I wonder if I have what it takes to be a rapper.
A self employed one at that.
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| 10/7/2013 3:40:23 PM |
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jerseyjon
Mantua, NJ
46, joined Jul. 2010
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Self Employment means Unemployment lol
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| 10/7/2013 3:40:34 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
51, joined Jun. 2013
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I never said anything about vision and dental. Those aren't covered unluess you're retired military or deemed disabled. I was able to obtain glasses last year because my vision was so bad they deemed me an emergency case. Most vets have 90 days after service to get their teeth taken care of, after that, we're on our own.
Yes, a vets family is taken care of if they are married I do believe. It may be active duty only. I'm not sure. My ex wife had her own insurance plus her kids were covered by their fathers' insurance, so I never had to bother asking. It just seems like I heard that they did.  All I know is my "health" care is taken care of only with a small deductible for some meds.
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| 10/7/2013 3:41:56 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
51, joined Jun. 2013
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Self Employment means Unemployment lol
maybe for you, but I make more in one summer than you make all year, plus I make dreams come true for homeowners and business owners. What factory do you work in? Or are you typing this from mom's basement?
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| 10/7/2013 3:54:29 PM |
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mustangwriter
Boerne, TX
55, joined Nov. 2009
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I'm with you grneyes... Also self employed.
I make 75% of my income April-Sept.
I like to say being self employed...everyday I wake up unemployed.
I have 4 people that I employ (8-10 during the busy season) and their livlihood depends on me as well. That would be scary to most...but I know what I'm capable of.
Last Friday a new client called me (I didn't have to solicit) and wanted to contract my services after the first of the year. Thats approx another $25-$30k I'll make in January and February; my slow period after Christmas.
I love what I do and I'm good at it. I love the freedom of being able to come and go as I please, and that I'm not one of the 9-5 walking dead drones.
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| 10/7/2013 3:57:26 PM |
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wickedrider
Madison, WI
96, joined Mar. 2009
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self employment, if done right, and efficiently, and preferably legal, is really the most solid way to financial independence. you also know your business inside and out, because you've been with it all the way. you can train others right, without the pitfalls you had to endure, and you basically multiply yourself.
if someone says self employed, i give them the benefit of the doubt because it takes courage and tenacity which instills wisdom and solidarity later. you can't get that with employment these days.
that stopped in about 1982 when the steel mills shut down and everything was outsourced overseas, as everything steadily is going that way as we speak. even some Harley parts are not American anymore. but that engine is. that's still the heart of us that endured. everywhere else, people that supposedly had pensions are losing everything left and right. yes, it might improve a little, but job security never will again.
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| 10/7/2013 4:05:19 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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I prefer making my own money without some employer getting rich on the sweat of my labor.
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| 10/7/2013 4:09:43 PM |
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wickedrider
Madison, WI
96, joined Mar. 2009
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yep. been doing it for 40 years. back then i was "a fool", by everyone. maybe i was, but the things i got to do, and the experiences i had were something i would have never been able to imagine. can't buy that, it's got to be learned or experienced.
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| 10/7/2013 4:14:08 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
51, joined Jun. 2013
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I also get true joy when I finish a stone fireplace, or a deck and the smile on the homeowner's face makes it all worth while. I get to do something different with every job. (Although I hope I never see another roof as long as I live, unless it's my own).
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| 10/7/2013 4:27:24 PM |
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warmwinters
Toronto, ON
77, joined Jan. 2012
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"I prefer it. I take what jobs I want. Make my own hours for the most part, and if I want to take the day off to take care of a sick GF or just to f**k her all day, I can."
Coles notes translation: "I'm a goof and know that nobody wants me. I prefer rodents to women and like to flash old men in the park on Sunday after church"
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| 10/7/2013 4:33:15 PM |
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jerseyjon
Mantua, NJ
46, joined Jul. 2010
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maybe for you, but I make more in one summer than you make all year, plus I make dreams come true for homeowners and business owners. What factory do you work in? Or are you typing this from mom's basement?
I WORK FOR THE IRS? LOL kidding
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| 10/7/2013 4:47:12 PM |
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metu
Auburndale, FL
54, joined Apr. 2007
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yep. been doing it for 40 years. back then i was "a fool", by everyone. maybe i was, but the things i got to do, and the experiences i had were something i would have never been able to imagine. can't buy that, it's got to be learned or experienced.
Vincent!  When did you move from Orlando?
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| 10/7/2013 5:11:02 PM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
64, joined Oct. 2010
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I am completely self-employed and happy about it.
I could care less what anyone else thinks about it.
Am I my own boss? Not really! My customers are my boss.
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| 10/7/2013 5:24:16 PM |
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wickedrider
Madison, WI
96, joined Mar. 2009
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Vincent! When did you move from Orlando?
i'm here still. i go back and forth. both are my home town. good to see you!!! 
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| 10/8/2013 10:54:19 AM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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wow I have read 4 different women's profiles today alone that said "self employed means the guys broke and lives with his parents". Holy shit there are a lot of dirt bags on here. WHo knew? 
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| 10/8/2013 10:59:16 AM |
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kickedintheface
Biddeford, ME
31, joined Oct. 2013
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The only self employed man i met are drug dealers or do construction
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| 10/8/2013 11:13:41 AM |
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settee_m
Dallas, TX
63, joined Feb. 2013
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Self employed woman here....
I got tired of working for the man in 2002, changed careers and never looked back....
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| 10/8/2013 11:22:05 AM |
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hbguy311
Huntington Beach, CA
35, joined Aug. 2010
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A woman can't ballpark your income if you tell her self employed. That's one of the main reasons they won't date self employed.
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| 10/8/2013 11:25:21 AM |
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gamerepairpros
Cleveland, OH
38, joined Dec. 2012
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i dont' know if i'm considered self employed or not.
i have my own business but they are actual brick and mortar physical addresses not out of home or out of car type things......
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| 10/8/2013 11:27:35 AM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
64, joined Oct. 2010
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The only self employed man i met are drug dealers or do construction
You shouldn't just limit your dating to your drug dealers or guys that fix up your house!  
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| 10/8/2013 11:29:19 AM |
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spookem
Lexington, KY
60, joined Jan. 2013
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The only self employed man i met are drug dealers or do construction
and or drawing disability.....seems to be a lot of that here
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| 10/8/2013 11:44:39 AM |
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settee_m
Dallas, TX
63, joined Feb. 2013
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A woman can't ballpark your income if you tell her self employed. That's one of the main reasons they won't date self employed.
On the contrary, I admire men who are self employed....
Don't know any drug dealers, but have met and dated men who are self employed...
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| 10/8/2013 11:55:15 AM |
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6969foryou
Sacramento, CA
38, joined Nov. 2012
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I prefer making my own money without some employer getting rich on the sweat of my labor.
If everyone had that mentality we wouldn't have a labor force...
I'am sure you have a helper or a parttime employee..
Just remember to treat your employes fairly... Don't be the boss that treated you so bad that made you turn to self employment...
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| 10/8/2013 1:15:11 PM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
34, joined Jul. 2012
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I can't say I've met anyone on here who was self employed, but some do very well for themselves. As long as the man is hardworking and does something legit (nothing under the table) I'm cool!
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| 10/8/2013 1:49:56 PM |
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jrupp0604
Stoughton, MA
66, joined May. 2011
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He is a man who can set his own hours, and is easier to date  
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| 10/8/2013 2:10:24 PM |
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hbguy311
Huntington Beach, CA
35, joined Aug. 2010
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I can't say I've met anyone on here who was self employed, but some do very well for themselves. As long as the man is hardworking and does something legit (nothing under the table) I'm cool!
So if he scrubbed the floors and toilets at McDonalds 45 hours a week, you'd be in a relationship with him? PLEASE!
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| 10/8/2013 3:08:31 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
51, joined Jun. 2013
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If everyone had that mentality we wouldn't have a labor force...
I'am sure you have a helper or a parttime employee..
Just remember to treat your employes fairly... Don't be the boss that treated you so bad that made you turn to self employment...
normally I do my own thing, but if it's a big job, I will hire a kid or a friends kid to give them some cash and teach them the benefit of a hard days work. I have other contractors that I work with and I sub off them also if I don't have any jobs to do.
When I bid a job, I require half payment up front as that covers all my guys' labor and materials to do the job. That way they're never screwed. I've been screwed by contractors so many times, and have had to wait for my money weeks after the job is done. I won't do that to my guys. Plus when the job is done, and I get the final payment, it's MINE!!! ALL MINE!!! MUAHAHAHAHAHA(evil laugh) lol
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| 10/8/2013 3:10:02 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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I can't say I've met anyone on here who was self employed, but some do very well for themselves. As long as the man is hardworking and does something legit (nothing under the table) I'm cool!
Half of the benefits of being self employed is being able to do some jobs for cash without big brothers hand in your pocket, if ya know wut I'm sayin...shhhhhhhhhh
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| 10/8/2013 3:12:36 PM |
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dorval
Danville, IL
97, joined May. 2009
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nothing like a big armed blue collar worker to rock your world..........I have met a few, you guys are awesome........
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| 10/8/2013 3:13:37 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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| 10/8/2013 3:18:13 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
51, joined Jun. 2013
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there's really a place called Chicken, AK?
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| 10/8/2013 3:21:58 PM |
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hbguy311
Huntington Beach, CA
35, joined Aug. 2010
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On the contrary, I admire men who are self employed....
Don't know any drug dealers, but have met and dated men who are self employed...
Well you are not most women. MOST women do not admire a self employed man unless they already know his income and how steady/guaranteed his work is.
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| 10/8/2013 3:29:54 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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HB exactly. My buddys wife left him for a dude with a cushy factory job with benefits, a 401 k ect...she chose stability over peace of mind and time to spend with her significant other. it's one of the cons of our business, I will admit that. Women want to be secure. They don't like not knowing when the next job is coming. It's a hard life in the beginning. Lord knows me and my ex wife struggled. My ex was always just happy that I was getting some work. One of the things I loved about her. She supported me. She was a strong woman, a good woman that always had my back. It's just too bad things went sour.
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| 10/8/2013 3:34:19 PM |
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dorval
Danville, IL
97, joined May. 2009
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HB exactly. My buddys wife left him for a dude with a cushy factory job with benefits, a 401 k ect...she chose stability over peace of mind and time to spend with her significant other. it's one of the cons of our business, I will admit that. Women want to be secure. They don't like not knowing when the next job is coming. It's a hard life in the beginning. Lord knows me and my ex wife struggled. My ex was always just happy that I was getting some work. One of the things I loved about her. She supported me. She was a strong woman, a good woman that always had my back. It's just too bad things went sour.
sometimes it works that way.........possibly there is a time when that strength you thought she had just fails...............unfortunate, but she did give everything she could and it is great that you did appreciate that.
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| 10/8/2013 3:37:35 PM |
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hbguy311
Huntington Beach, CA
35, joined Aug. 2010
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OP, once again, it all comes back to and down to MONEY. I understand that people don't want to admit this and will ignore all the facts, which, quite frankly, means they are lying to themselves. It doesn't make any sense to me but then again, it doesn't have to.
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| 10/8/2013 3:38:41 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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her strength failed because of a narcotics addiction I couldn't get her to quit. I tried for 3 long years getting her treatment, counseling, etc...broke my heart to see her that way.
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| 10/8/2013 3:40:04 PM |
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dorval
Danville, IL
97, joined May. 2009
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her strength failed because of a narcotics addiction I couldn't get her to quit. I tried for 3 long years getting her treatment, counseling, etc...broke my heart to see her that way.
I understand 
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| 10/8/2013 3:55:35 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
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anyway...enough about my heartbreaks. I'm curious how writers survive. I've always thought about writing. I have even started a few things. It takes a lot of solitude and time for thought. I'm sure in between both books, or articles, poems, etc...it must be tough, especially with an editor on your a** for a deadline.
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| 10/8/2013 3:58:11 PM |
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hbguy311
Huntington Beach, CA
35, joined Aug. 2010
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anyway...enough about my heartbreaks. I'm curious how writers survive. I've always thought about writing. I have even started a few things. It takes a lot of solitude and time for thought. I'm sure in between both books, or articles, poems, etc...it must be tough, especially with an editor on your a** for a deadline.
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| 10/8/2013 3:59:31 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
51, joined Jun. 2013
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lmfao i was actually thinking about funny farm with chevy chase.
or secret window with johnny depp
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| 10/8/2013 4:03:14 PM |
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hbguy311
Huntington Beach, CA
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| 10/8/2013 4:33:35 PM |
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grneyedluvr3
Sebastian, FL
51, joined Jun. 2013
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$50-75k.....
You're not making a lot of money for anybody!
enough for me. I ain't here to impress anyone.
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| 10/8/2013 4:33:57 PM |
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hbguy311
Huntington Beach, CA
35, joined Aug. 2010
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Tater, $19-$26K a year goes farther where you live than where I do but it would be extremely difficult here to get any woman to take you seriously if you are in your 30's only making that much a year. I think the absolute bare minimum that would get your foot in the door with a woman would be $40,000 a year to start with a lot of room for improvement IMO but hopefully $19-$26k works out for you.
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| 10/8/2013 8:50:09 PM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
34, joined Jul. 2012
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So if he scrubbed the floors and toilets at McDonalds 45 hours a week, you'd be in a relationship with him? PLEASE!
He wouldn't be self employed in that case, the employees clean the bathrooms.
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| 10/8/2013 8:56:06 PM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
34, joined Jul. 2012
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Half of the benefits of being self employed is being able to do some jobs for cash without big brothers hand in your pocket, if ya know wut I'm sayin...shhhhhhhhhh
Lol, you got a point but I've known ppl who only did side jobs whenever they felt like it, but otherwise didn't like to work. That's different...
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| 10/8/2013 9:04:57 PM |
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hbguy311
Huntington Beach, CA
35, joined Aug. 2010
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^^^
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| 10/8/2013 9:07:27 PM |
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damsel876
Osceola, AR
30, joined Jul. 2013
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Ambitious is the key.
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| 10/8/2013 9:07:54 PM |
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settee_m
Dallas, TX
63, joined Feb. 2013
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Yes, it's true....all women are gold digging wh*res....
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