| 9/27/2008 11:43:57 AM |
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hhrchevyman
Sun Prairie, WI
age: 64
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After 13 years life is starting to be fun again. Of course I still miss her and think of her every day but overall it's a lot better.
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| 9/27/2008 2:04:27 PM |
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connier
Nampa, ID
age: 60
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so could I ask, were any of you others given the opportunity of any grief counseling? I was not even aware they had any here when my husband left. but when I lost the boyfriend 3 months ago I was put in touch with a pastor at the hospital and will be starting this week. just wondered if anyone else had gone thru any..
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| 10/1/2008 10:53:33 AM |
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dianamh
Oroville, CA
age: 68
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It isn't ever easy, but you do get thru it.
I was widowed Oct. 1995 after 32 years of marriage. He was 21 years older than me and had dementia, so it was somewhat of a relief, but still hard. I remarried in 1996 .... a man that I had been engaged to in my early 20's..... he also was widowed. 2 1/2 years later he died of a massive heart attack at age 61. In answer to one person's question.... yes, counseling does help.
I was single for almost 8 years, met and married a wonderful man, but he died 10 months later....... had cancer that we were unaware of until he got sick .... 7 weeks later he died. It has been 2 years.
I am doing okay because of my circle of friends, a widow's group, and more counseling. Ready to start dating again, but who wants a woman that at age 68 has been widowed 3 times! Guess that is a little bit of self pity!
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| 10/3/2008 8:49:20 PM |
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jeep78
Williamstown, VT
age: 56
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Hi i am doing ok but it's hard  when i was in the car driving i like to hold her hand It was hard.
I went to the doctor i would go all the time with her this time i went by myself was not easy for me.
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| 10/5/2008 7:11:59 AM |
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nancy1948
Smiths Creek, MI
age: 60
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Hello all, well its been 15 years since my husband has died, And it REALLYYYYYYYYYYYY does get alot better, just wonderful memories, but am so busy, i really dont date , just work, and its not that i really want it that way, its just guess im to old for the every other weekend thing, so that kinda puts me out of the loop, but trust me, Youll all do just fine, hugs to all, nancy
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| 10/6/2008 2:00:20 AM |
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sharedmercy
Fort Wayne, IN
age: 53 online now!
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I know exactly what your going through Judy. Dec 2008, my husband of 30 yrs will be gone 2 yrs. It seems like yesterday. I too want my life back. I think of him everyday. He WAS the exactly the type of man I wanted. Many people thought we were dating because of the way we acted in public. We always laughed and said " we are". Now everyone says it's time to get back to living; I want to but I feel like a fish out of water. I went on a date and felt like there were 3 of us (my husband included). I miss him more than I could ever express. I don't want to go through all the 'newness' again with a total stranger.
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| 10/6/2008 12:24:56 PM |
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connier
Nampa, ID
age: 60
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the grief classes teach that mourning is for now, to get out all the anger and stuff, but grief lasts forever. and that you should never let anyone else tell you what or how you should be living your life and when it is time for you to get back to living. we all have to do it in our won time and way. so just tell them that you are working on it, and leave it at that.
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| 10/6/2008 1:40:29 PM |
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lazymae
Hartselle, AL
age: 60 online now!
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I felt like I was doing pretty good until this weekend and it was really a rough one for me. My husband passed away a year ago the 9th of this month and all weekend I kept thinking about the things we did on our last weekend together. We really had a good weekend and I try to remember the good things, but it still gets sad and hard to take sometimes. Time does help, but then we have to help ourselves as well. Or at least I know that I have to help myself, that old saying mind over matter. Like I said at first I do good most of the time, but do have bad times.
I have a saying that a friend of mine said when her husband died that has really helped me. It is "I am left with the blessing of life, it is mine to do with as I please; I can be miserable or I can be happy. I choose to be happy." I tell myself that every day and I am getting there and I know that one day again I will be truly happy.
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| 10/6/2008 2:51:12 PM |
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luckylouie42
Cedar Grove, WV
age: 66
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My wife died 15 yrs. ago. About 6 mo. or so after her death, It donned on me I am alone, she will never be back. I was still working then, and worked a lot, but it was not enough to fill the emptiness. So i started talking to women I met, complete strangers sometimes. i would meet at a store or something. And finally I went out with one of them. I felt very guilty at first. But then I realized that this is ok to do. I am no longer married. And as time went by it got easier to meet people, and go places. I have never looked for a woman like my wife. because I know there is no one. No two people are alike, but there are some good people out there. I have been burnt a couple of times, but I am learning. lol , But what i am saying is you have to try, and go on. And it is perfectly all right to do so.
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| 10/6/2008 4:33:54 PM |
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connier
Nampa, ID
age: 60
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going on is what they would want you to do. I took care of him the last 3 years of his life and we had time to talk about things and he did not want me to be alone. it was his one fear of dying, but he knew the boys would see i was alright. when I first started dating, yes there was alot of guilt and I even shut the computor off for a couple weeks and yes, I also hid out and locked myself in the house. but that helped nothing. but I have made it this far, and I am not trying to replace the man I loved, there is no such thing. you just look til you find someone that makes you happy and you do the same for him . then together you mske a new life. sometimes it takes a long time but you have to take life one day at a time.
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