| 8/12/2008 5:05:57 PM |
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betterdazes
Swartz Creek, MI
age: 47
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Do you think it is important to learn about past relationships with your new partner or do you feel the past should remain in the past?
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| 8/12/2008 5:06:54 PM |
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monty_python
Bridgeport, CT
age: 53
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Do you think it is important to learn about past relationships with your new partner or do you feel the past should remain in the past?
If you are going to measure a person by who they were and what they did before they even met you.........you are going to be a lonely person.
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| 8/12/2008 5:11:00 PM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 37
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it may give you some insight to some things but it is also what made them who they are.to know the past is one thing but it does need to stay there.
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| 8/12/2008 5:12:23 PM |
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judit0606
Big Stone Gap, VA
age: 51
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 Well, I leave it up to the individual to tell me about his "past".  AND, more times than not, I really wish that he hadn't!!!  I don't NEED to hear everything that's gone on in a man's past to get to know HIM in the present... Sometimes, it's just way TOO MUCH info for me. JMO PEACE
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| 8/12/2008 5:22:13 PM |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
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The past belongs where it is and today is your present and tomorrow may never come... Leave those things that have passed and gone right where they are... All that matters is this very moment discovering new people and liking them for themselves....
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| 8/12/2008 5:25:42 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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Do you think it is important to learn about past relationships with your new partner or do you feel the past should remain in the past?
The past should help dictate your future decisions and actions when you date future prospects and enter a new relationship. Some people don't learn from the past, some people do. The wise do. And the ones that don't, continue to make mistakes and blame others.
I wouldn't necessarily talk about the past with your new partner. They cannot change the past.
[Edited 8/12/2008 5:26:49 PM]
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| 8/12/2008 5:26:42 PM |
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notfit1
Titusville, FL
age: 47
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Why? Some of that stuff is better left unsaid. In the past whenever I was dumb enough to divulge tidbits from previous relationships it was usually thrown in my face sooner or later. Just the facts might work out, but do not elaborate.
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| 8/12/2008 5:30:33 PM |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 39
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My past is important to me and the choices I make in the future. I don't think much good comes of talking about past relationships. I honestly don't need to know. When I am dating someone, hopefully we are moving forward not backward.
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| 8/12/2008 5:35:42 PM |
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hippydave007
Boonville, MO
age: 40
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The reason we have history class is so that we know what happened in the past so that it is not re-created poorly again or it is in a good way. I bet the past of long time married couples would not scare us off like that story of a multi-divorced person. Many sides to the stories we hear. Go on a date and look them in the eyes, listen to the stories. Hopefully it is not the main subject on a first date. Everybody isn't incorrect. Maybe some are just not fit for each other. I am not scared but a little more self advised by the past of others, myself, and what they told me. Every second of our life forms us to who we are tomorrow.
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| 8/12/2008 5:44:41 PM |
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pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 50
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We ARE our past experiences and they make up who we are.
We have to learn from our past experiences and try not to make the same mistakes again. it's when we make the same mistakes over and over and over that we get stuck in the muck and pain.
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| 8/12/2008 5:45:37 PM |
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betterdazes
Swartz Creek, MI
age: 47
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You are all very wise...grasshoppers! =)
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| 8/12/2008 5:49:44 PM |
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mstme
San Antonio, TX
age: 52
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Talking about the past can give insight into potential problems that can occur in a new relationship with someone. Such as why the ex is an ex. You can if you pay attention maybe spot control issues, abusive tendencies, etc. This in turn might help you with the decision of whether or not to continue with the relationship.
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| 8/12/2008 5:52:04 PM |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 39
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The reason we have history class is so that we know what happened in the past so that it is not re-created poorly again or it is in a good way. I bet the past of long time married couples would not scare us off like that story of a multi-divorced person. Many sides to the stories we hear. Go on a date and look them in the eyes, listen to the stories. Hopefully it is not the main subject on a first date. Everybody isn't incorrect. Maybe some are just not fit for each other. I am not scared but a little more self advised by the past of others, myself, and what they told me. Every second of our life forms us to who we are tomorrow.
And for the most part, history classes tend to be kind of skewed and one sided. When it comes to past relationships, it is highly unlikely you are going to get the whole, true story. I think it is much more effective to observe and experience a person's actions and attitudes and form your own opinions.
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| 8/12/2008 5:54:07 PM |
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betterdazes
Swartz Creek, MI
age: 47
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The reason we have history class is so that we know what happened in the past so that it is not re-created poorly again or it is in a good way. I bet the past of long time married couples would not scare us off like that story of a multi-divorced person. Many sides to the stories we hear. Go on a date and look them in the eyes, listen to the stories. Hopefully it is not the main subject on a first date. Everybody isn't incorrect. Maybe some are just not fit for each other. I am not scared but a little more self advised by the past of others, myself, and what they told me. Every second of our life forms us to who we are tomorrow.
And for the most part, history classes tend to be kind of skewed and one sided. When it comes to past relationships, it is highly unlikely you are going to get the whole, true story. I think it is much more effective to observe and experience a person's actions and attitudes and form your own opinions.
Nice answer =)
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| 8/12/2008 9:27:41 PM |
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bekki_08
Ridgeland, MS
age: 39
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It is easy to be negative about past mistakes and unhappiness. But it is much more healing to look at ourselves and our past in the light of experience, acceptance, and growth. Our past is a series of lessons that advance us to higher levels of living and loving. The relationships we entered, stayed in, or ended taught us necessary lessons.
Some of us have emerged from the most painful circumstances with strong insights about who we are and what we want. Our mistakes? Necessary. Our frustrations, failures, and sometimes stumbling attempts at growth and progress? Necessary too. Each step of the way, we learned. We went through exactly the experiences we need to, to become who we are today. Each step of the way, we progressed. Is our past a mistake? No. The only mistake we can make is mistaking that for the truth.
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