It seems we all have choices- We can either generalize our opposite sex- Or we can focus on the positives of those who don't fit the typical negative generalizations of those we deem are a disgrace to our opposite sex.

And it also seems- we can dwell on the negatives or our opposite sex or we can focus on the more positive things about our opposite sex.

So, there is never a reason to re-focus- if we are focusing on the right things to begin with!

I bet you hate me for always playing the devils advocate- Huh Eyes!

What better way of getting to know you is there than asking you questions...some of which will relate to sex, as others will relate to: food, general recreation, favorite music, etc? Shouldn't sexual compatibility be part of what you both seek?

Sexual compatibility questions shouldn't be asked until it is decided that you are compatible in other areas first. That's the problem that women like Eyes and I have. I don't wonder if I will be sexually compatible with a guy until after I decide that I like him for other reasons first.

Where did I generalize ? Where did I even imply that every man does this........or even every man I speak to does this ?

I didn't...........

Where did I once say it was a negative..............I didn't......it is merely a mindset I am not dealing with........

It isn't bad or good, I simply see it as a "oh hell" and a buh bye

The only one who may see it as a negative is the one who chose that behavior and is not able to speak to me anymore........I am not affected in one way or another......

I don't put much effort into this Fish, he doesn't even have a contact point yet. He is just or was just a #......

And you are correct he doesn't have to refocus...........that is my point........he can focus all of that on the right person...........and it isn't me.

By the way.............I am a very curious person, I love to know how ppl think...that is why I post threads.......not just jump from thread to thread playing "devils advocate" or dancing with damn pom poms and jumping up and down spouting platitudes that have shown their unworthiness in being spoken..........

U called it a "problem"
Curious. ..do u consider it a problem? Or it just came out that way.
Cuz alot of folks ..myself included. .consider sex being a big part of a relationship working or not.
I'm gonna be really bummed if it turns out she doesn't like sex as much as me or isn't willing to rub one out on the way home from walmart

U called it a "problem"
Curious. ..do u consider it a problem? Or it just came out that way.
Cuz alot of folks ..myself included. .consider sex being a big part of a relationship working or not.
I'm gonna be really bummed if it turns out she doesn't like sex as much as me or isn't willing to rub one out on the way home from walmart

Ok. Hi. Umm...what I am about to say is based on actual belief and is more than mere shameless butt-kissing to get myself back in your graces.

I agree with you. Having been all horn-dawged out, I have lost focus. My ability to refocus and the amount of time spent in lust-induced psychosis was and is based solely on what my motives are. If I am there just to get my perv on, I won't make it back. At times, in my youth, I would change my approach because I was determined to manipulate the situation to my benefit.

If I really want to know someone, it is important to me that I learn how to respect them. Without respect, there is no relation in my opinion.

I know, right? Looks so good typed out. Why am I single again?