| 8/26/2008 10:04:17 AM |
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hiddengems2008
Westerly, RI
age: 42
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I agree with you Australia! In fact I think the paper tends to wreck things. It comes with all these hidden expectations...And then what? If you love someone you and if you don't you don't. Why do you need a piece of paper to declare it!
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| 8/26/2008 10:14:12 AM |
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jbnoosaheads
Queensland
Australia
age: 55
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hiddengerms thankuou thankyou thankyou your my girl.  and guess what, you are right 10 out of 10 for you. 
[Edited 8/26/2008 10:16:16 AM]
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| 8/26/2008 11:48:16 AM |
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beachluva23
Seaside Heights, NJ
age: 49
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Great answer, sapphire! Hell yes, I would marry again. If memory serves me correct, my daughter is living her own life as she is over 21. I think, anyway, I am still living mine. If i was worried about my material wealth I would stay single. But, those objects aren't very comfortable to snuggle up with at night, and they damn sure aren't worried/or care about me or happy to see me come through the door at night. A nice insurance policy in your childrens' name should suffice. I see too many people in this world who worry more about dead presidents than they do about living. JMO
I didn't say that one shouldn't have a soulmate to cuddle up with at night because of money. You misunderstood my orignial post. People can be just as committed to each other without a marriage certificate, and whatever a couple has accumulated together would of course, be theirs.
I am wondering why a piece of paper is needed to prove your love. Legally though, it opens up a can of worms b/c if things don't work out, you have to go through an expensive divorce all over again. Of course, we all enter into marriage (most of us anyway) thinking it will be forever, but many times, it doesn't. Why hurt finacially too?
Another thing: you can't "will from the grave". If you leave your assets to your new spouse w/ the understanding (even written in your will) that when he/she dies, your children will inheirit it then, be advised, your spouse can remarry and change your will. Many times, a new spouse will feel no obligation to your children b/c they aren't children you had together.
In a perfect world, we wouldn't have to worry about any of the ugly stuff, but alas....
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| 8/26/2008 12:22:26 PM |
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vale42
Findlay, OH
age: 50
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yes most definately but only for love no other reason,,, i am very secure where i am at now so marring for me is only for love and no other
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| 8/26/2008 12:58:17 PM |
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energy22
Philadelphia, PA
age: 47
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good advice, winesong, and I did, in fact, do that. I went to legal zoom and prepared my will after my divorce- it was surprisingly affordable and easy. And it put my mind at ease as far as my kids are concerned for guardians.
As to protecting assets, speaking with a financial advisor is a small investment for someone to make if they are concerned about where their monies will go in the event of divorce, etc.
Information is our friend, and to not ask the questions beforehand is foolish. There is a lot more to remarriage than just love.
as far as being remarried or living togeather for me its the commitment to eachother that counts paper or not,and i dont know is there still such a thing as common law remember that? in any event im with you in this miis excellent reply wills,financial advice thats the move
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| 8/26/2008 12:59:40 PM |
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lionessleo
Greensboro, NC
age: 43
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good advice, winesong, and I did, in fact, do that. I went to legal zoom and prepared my will after my divorce- it was surprisingly affordable and easy. And it put my mind at ease as far as my kids are concerned for guardians.
As to protecting assets, speaking with a financial advisor is a small investment for someone to make if they are concerned about where their monies will go in the event of divorce, etc.
Information is our friend, and to not ask the questions beforehand is foolish. There is a lot more to remarriage than just love.
as far as being remarried or living togeather for me its the commitment to eachother that counts paper or not,and i dont know is there still such a thing as common law remember that? in any event im with you in this miis excellent reply wills,financial advice thats the move
Not all states recognize common law marriages, North Carolina is one of them. With the right person I would get married again.
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| 8/27/2008 12:52:24 AM |
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atlgarn
Longwood, FL
age: 53
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Just another side of things to consider please: the "legal" piece of paper does have the financial implications as some have noted above. It also has other implications as well. Consider the situation if you and your "soul mate" decided to live together whether or not your state or country recognized common-law marriages and one of you falls seriously ill. The live-in or common-law situation may not factor in when decisions regarding your health care and desires you may not have voiced to others than your soul-mate. If you have expressed your feelings regarding long term care, situational health crisis or wishes regarding prolonging your life with everyone in your legal immediate family then that is good. But it's better to at least have those wishes expressed in a Living Will along with a Durable Power of Attorney and a Health Care Power of Attorney or Surrogate, especially if you are not in a legally bound "contractual agreement" known as marriage.
I have seen many families torn apart over what to do as well as the "live in" suffer due to not being recognized by hospitals as having any right to decisions regarding loved ones' care. Families who have been estranged have more rights to those type of decisions than the loved one who may have been caring for the ill person for some time. It can be devastating emotionally as well as financially (depending on the circumstances)for the one "left behind" so to speak. So, you may or may not marry again, but be certain your wishes regarding finances, assests as well as debts, healthcare decisions and wishes are fully known and legally taken care of if you decide to marry or not. I believe sdcentaur addressed this in his post. I just wanted to take it a bit farther.
Best of luck to all when making life changing decisions.
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| 8/27/2008 9:19:06 AM |
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aliveankickinto
Tucson, AZ
age: 77
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I will NEVER get married again, ever, end of story. Once was enough for me & it was a BIG, BIG mistake.
 I felt like you do when I was 47. All kids gone. I was having fun single. I met a guy who was wonderful, I looked for months trying to find a creep in there, but there was none. We married and I had the best 24 years of my life. He passed 6 years ago, but I have wonderful memories. 
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| 8/28/2008 6:25:05 PM |
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janeree00
Fredericksburg, VA
age: 53
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no i would not marry again i love my life good job health is good kids r doing well now it's my turn i just have to find somone to do things with not be controlled by but equal not live together but be together
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| 8/28/2008 8:55:56 PM |
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bored50yearold
Front Royal, VA
age: 50
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Would I marry again, sure I would.
She would have to be very special, not looking the "soul mate" but someone that I could and would be comfortable with. I don't want to get old alone, I want to share life with her and have her share hers with me.
It's either that or find a total stranger every 20 years and give her a house and 2 two dogs.
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| 8/28/2008 9:14:21 PM |
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kafe
Harrisburg, PA
age: 49
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Two reasons why I would marry again: 1, marriage itself is symbolic; making a statement by it's very act of being. (that statement varies somewhat person-to-person, but basically involves an acknowledgement of special committment beyond any other) Also 2, for any potential future grandchildren, I would want for them to see me in a marital union so as to hopefully model for them an ideal. Above all else, I would marry again for love, knowing that I have worked through most past issues of broken promises, and have regenerated hope in new possibilities in a new life.
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| 8/29/2008 1:25:39 AM |
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bouquet
Temecula, CA
age: 63
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I agree with you Kafe . I am a very loving woman and I have been happilly married before until my husbands death . I wouldn't have missed the time we had together . My familly all has strong familly values and for me I need the respect of the man I love . I would never feel right in my heart if he didn't want to give me his name . Its the best thing in the world to share life and take care of eachother and both have someone to count on . Its what I need . 
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| 9/2/2008 7:22:14 PM |
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kafe
Harrisburg, PA
age: 49
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I'm very interested in more thoughts on this topic - anybody else going to jump in?
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| 9/2/2008 9:50:29 PM |
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laceyjane
Watkins, CO
age: 72
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After a good thirty year marriage my husband passed away from cancer. I swore I would never marry again. In July  I met a wonderful man,fell in love and we are thinking about marriage In October. Things change.
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| 9/2/2008 9:57:12 PM |
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stilldreaming
Elkton, VA
age: 45
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I would, and I was,and now I am heartbroken Marry for love,but cover yourself with a pre
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