8/26/2008 6:07:44 PM |
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jadonh
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 33
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OK, I have a problem and need some advice. I am dating, a girl now in the airforce, Great girl treats me good. Basically all I want, However, so does her bestfriend, the only difference is I'm not sleeping with the best friend. Ok so here is the problem... When I met the best friend, I liked her and saw something that was incredible about her, and wanted to get to know her better. A few days later we were at a bar-b-que aND I Met her friend. The friend and I hit it off as well and ended up hooking up a few nights later. K I will give you made up names b/c I am starting to confuse myself. The girl I am dating will be Liz, and her best friend will be Sarah. So Liz and I are dating, but I really like sarah. Sarah knows how I feel and I think there is a possibility, however her best friend. What do I do???
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8/28/2008 10:37:40 AM |
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mezentiangate
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 55
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Been there done that .. for my own sanity I backed off both of 'em .. unless you're into threesomes, and they are too, and that happened too, or they are into sharing, and that wasn't what I wanted either .. tough call, 'cuz usually everyone gets hurt or pissed
of course a couple times the first one (liz in your case) might not mind losing you to her friend if she wants to move on ..
good luck!~!
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8/28/2008 10:43:52 AM |
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breeze341
Denver, CO
age: 41
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I can honestly tell you everyone is going to get hurt and pissed. First of all the two girls will no longer be best friends and you will be stuck right in the middle of it. If I were you I would walk away because I can guarrantee you, you will lose both of them anyways.
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8/28/2008 5:24:34 PM |
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jadonh
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 33
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Well thank you both for the replies. LOL I don't really do the threesomes anymore (my ex-wife was Bi). It seems to have played a part in our divorce. I have been contemplating walking away from them both, I'm just not sure how to do it i guess for a better lack of words. I have been single almost a year and half and it's nice having someone there. But I guess I have to man and do what's right by me as well as them. Once again, Thank you.
J.
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8/28/2008 9:29:56 PM |
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iroqnroll
Aurora, CO
age: 35
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The only way out is honesty, if your choice is to lose both, or divide their freindship, is to tell (Liz) how you feel about (Sarah) you know your gonna upset Liz, but maybe she wants to see her friend be happy and gives you her blessing.....or your in the same boat, she tells you to go to hell, If your willing to give up both, it wouldn,t hurt to tell her the truth and get her reaction. Worst case, your left without either, which it sounds like your almost ready to accept without saying a word. Just say what you mean, and go with the results, I know it's tough, I wish you good luck.
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9/2/2008 9:28:48 PM |
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jadonh
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 33
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It's done we are no longer a couple. Now for the next step
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9/5/2008 3:55:55 PM |
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taytice
Aurora, CO
age: 39
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You know there are millions of men and millions of women in the world
Why do people get in these situations
One her best friend? do you want to live with being the one who ruined their friendship?
Two Your living a lie already
Three break up with your girlfriend take a break from both for 6 months and in 6 months if she is such a great girl you can get with her.
But you wont listen I know but if you dont listen nothing good can come of this
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9/11/2008 5:04:33 AM |
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bossman2020
Denver, CO
age: 52 online now!
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ok jadonh if that is the problem well dump liz. and take sarah. if you keep 2 of them i would go nuts o. i would take sarah if you hit it of real good go for it. so what do i know not a thing. but that.
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9/11/2008 10:19:38 AM |
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nickleranch1
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 55
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This so sounds like something similar that happened to me many many years ago. I was dating a girl and one evening I met one of her best friends. I was attracted to her right off the bat. I wanted badly to ask her friend out, but never did and regretted for years. I think if I had it to do all over again, I would have to go with my feelings and ask her out. If it didn't work out well at least I took the chance.
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10/2/2008 10:16:09 AM |
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lyrea
El Paso, TX
age: 43
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first be honest,, and do what ur heart tells u.... but dont hurt the first girl and if they are buddies ur will end up alone
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