| 9/8/2008 3:02:47 AM |
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beachmermaid50
Chandler, AZ
age: 52
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How many of you guys would date a lady with one or more disabilities? Which disabilities might you accept and which not? When would you think the lady should tell you she has one or more?
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| 9/9/2008 10:09:10 AM |
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247hustla
Avondale, AZ
age: 27
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Love doesnt have no face to it so if I was dating a woman with a disability then that would be that. If I met the lady over a chat line I think it would be only fair for her to tell me about her problems when she felt the time was right. Sooner in the relationship then later
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| 9/9/2008 2:56:13 PM |
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fancy1964
Tucson, AZ
age: 44
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  For me I have never been on a date, because I am what you call a wall flower . I have been, asked once. I do have a disability and I had it for very long time and I will always have this disability. When I did go out with somebody once they had insulted me in public, so I am afraid to go out again. I can't drink anymore, because I had gastric bypass, so I could at lest look better. but that didn't seem to  much. Check me out on my profile.   .
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| 9/15/2008 7:28:35 AM |
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marksukow
Phoenix, AZ
age: 33
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I dated a deaf girl, it was difficult, I know very little sign, We had to write everything down, it was worse than chatting on here!!!! Dating a deaf girl certainly had it's barriers. It was very cool to experiance the world through her perspective though. I now have a greater appriciation for what I have. I can only hope she is happy.
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| 9/27/2008 1:50:14 PM |
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tempehotodave
Chandler, AZ
age: 47
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I would date someone with a serious handicap, but I doubt that I could last in a long-term relationship. Since I usually assume that women are looking for long-term relationships, I wouldn’t ask a disabled person out unless I knew that she would be OK with a more casual relationship.
There was a really cute girl in a wheelchair who was knocked over by someone in a mosh pit. I was most impressed by her grace as people helped her back into her chair, and she went on about her concert watching business. I like dancing, climbing mountains, and so on, so there would be a large part of my life that she couldn’t be involved with. But, she liked the same kind of music I did. If there was something else exceptional about her, a casual relationship could easily happen, and maybe a long term relationship.
My last girlfriend, who I lived with for 6 years, had a minor heart condition that prevented her from climbing Squaw/Piestewa Peak. But, we trained for the climb by doing many short climbs, and eventually she was able to get up the mountain. I took pleasure in helping her deal with her (minor) disability.
My point is, a handicap is only ‘strike one’ for me. There is a whole game left to be played.
Which handicaps are too severe for me to deal with?
Bad appearance: Specifically, obesity. I have to be attracted to the person physically. Surprisingly, I’m not so put off by scars, missing limbs and the like, as long as she has some other very nice features. Warts and missing teeth… need to get those removed and replaced (er… something like that).
Smoking and other addictions.
HIV, herpes, etc.: I wouldn’t risk my health for even the most amazing woman. People with transmittable diseases should be using special interest dating sites or support groups to find partners.
When to disclose? Hmmm. Should these things be in your bio? I probably wouldn’t look at the rest of the bio if you put in there that you have diabetes unless you said it just right… “My ex-husband left me $42 million dollars, and I have diabetes.” If I see the word “photography” in your bio, than I will look at it, because photography is what I am fanatical about. Say the right word, and you have a base hit.
I would understand if you didn’t disclose your condition until a certain amount of communication has been made. If you e-mail 2,000 words, than it is past time to spill. Absolutely you should not finish a second date without advising of your condition if there is a possibility of a LTR.
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| 1/30/2009 5:35:00 PM |
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frodo88
Kingman, AZ
age: 20
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Being as I myself have a disability, it would be awfully hypocritical of me to say anything against dating a woman with one or multiple disabilities. If we like eachother, then we like eachother. My best friend is in a wheelchair, and I can honestly say that I don't give a damn! Not to mention, my dad's wife is disabled, too. So I don't see what the big deal is. Love is love, and if one cannot overcome something as superficial as a disability, then it's not love.
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| 1/30/2009 6:07:55 PM |
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sweetmale45
Phoenix, AZ
age: 46
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Being as I myself have a disability, it would be awfully hypocritical of me to say anything against dating a woman with one or multiple disabilities. If we like eachother, then we like eachother. My best friend is in a wheelchair, and I can honestly say that I don't give a damn! Not to mention, my dad's wife is disabled, too. So I don't see what the big deal is. Love is love, and if one cannot overcome something as superficial as a disability, then it's not love.
Amen frodo88, very well said and a Big Thank You!! for your response. I totally agree with you and couldn't have said it any better.. Very 
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| 1/31/2009 6:07:50 AM |
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kantc
Bullhead City, AZ
age: 50
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not knowing, I could not say
these days so many things get classified as a disability
just to get taxpayer funded income
for the most part, you should always state it up front
why wait and then cause issues later?
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| 1/31/2009 9:08:56 AM |
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mjsrose
Goodyear, AZ
age: 47
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Sweetmale you took the words right out of my mouth.
frodo88 i am with you on that.
It is good to know that there is still some good people out there.
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| 2/7/2009 7:56:51 PM |
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gina_marie
Phoenix, AZ
age: 46
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When to tell is a tough call to make. Putting it in your profile scares people away before they have a chance to know you but trying to keep it a secret is not right either.
We are not our disabilities. We have them, they dont "have" us and I believe it is important to share this info with a potential partner.
For me, I would rather know sooner than later so that I have the opportunity to really get to know the total person. After all, how we deal with adversity and challenge says a lot more about us than the disability itself and we all have some form of disability dont we?
Some are just more obvious than others!
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| 2/8/2009 8:52:07 AM |
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beachmermaid50
Chandler, AZ
age: 52
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i appreciate you pointing out that those of us with disabilities are NOT the disability. We are people first and like to be honored as that. If i stated in my profile that i survived brain surgery with a list of disabilities, i think men would pretty much run the other way. When people meet me, they cannot tell what I have deficits of and since i am rather intelligent, the thought of being mentally limited does not come up. Having experienced brain surgery and then subsequent rehab and extreme life style changes has made me a more sensitive and caring person and one that tends to enjoy some of the simpler things in life. I celebrate each day as a wonderful gift since my early death had been something to consider before the surgery. The ideas that people without disabilities have about us with disabilities is often times fueled by misinformation or complete lack of any positive experiences. And the thing is, no one ever has a guarantee that they will continue life as they are. Their lives could change in the blink of an eye and then find themselves severely disabled. I like to find the silver lining in life's experiences and have to deal with my limitations on a daily basis 24/7. My life is quite full and very happy. One of my disabilities prevented me from meeting at the bowling alley. I do plan on attending the upcoming event and look forward to meeting the fun people from this site.
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| 2/8/2009 9:19:34 AM |
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notoysallowed
Phoenix, AZ
age: 58
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It is very hard to comment on this topic because of the Wide range of Disabilities. Now a topic along the same lines would be, if a women became disabled during a relationship (Would you stay with her or leave her) Thanks --Later
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| 2/15/2009 8:19:10 AM |
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mikey85213
Mesa, AZ
age: 62
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Being as I myself have a disability, it would be awfully hypocritical of me to say anything against dating a woman with one or multiple disabilities. If we like eachother, then we like eachother. My best friend is in a wheelchair, and I can honestly say that I don't give a damn! Not to mention, my dad's wife is disabled, too. So I don't see what the big deal is. Love is love, and if one cannot overcome something as superficial as a disability, then it's not love.
Amen guy... love is love
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| 2/28/2009 11:05:17 PM |
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mitchell9460
Tempe, AZ
age: 48
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Is "ugly" considered a disability? Because if it is I should be given some kind of award for all the "disabled" women I've dated.
The last girl I dated looked just like Zera from Planet of the Apes. I was scared to take her on a date for fear a cop would write me up for not having her on a leash.
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| 3/8/2009 6:33:56 PM |
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toolmantim63
Mesa, AZ
age: 46
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most of the persons, i have know with a disabilities,are better than most of us of many levels,over comeing a disability,makes them srtong inside,and very good at see the world as most of us should.the only disability that is unaceptable would be ,not having the ability to love....
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