| 10/3/2008 10:48:21 AM |
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rach08
Lakeville, MN
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all ages young and old idc i need to know becuz my mind has been so scewed and messed up by so many guys that i just need a straight answer does the way a girl dresses matter? does the way she does her hair and make up change ur opion of her? are u that shallow that weight changes your opion of a person?
-Rach
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| 10/3/2008 12:04:22 PM |
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mplsrabbit
Minneapolis, MN
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I think that probably at least 90 % of the guys and just as many, if not more women would have to answer yes to all of your questions whether they want to admit it or not. Even if they say no I'm thinking that it is still subconsciously involved in their opinions and decisions.  Most people don't like to admit it, but a great deal of their opinions are based on superficial qualities.
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| 10/3/2008 12:26:33 PM |
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alluwant17
Foley, MN
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I think that all people want to be accepted for who they are regardless if they are fat or skinny pretty or ugly.....but the people that ask these questions are usually self consious of themselves and want to reach for someone out of their "leaugue" if the party that is better looking answers the questions honestly they come off as a superficial pig...but something to ponder.....i know i am average looking....average weight...and if I wanted to date someone that was fit and sexy as all hell I would hope superficial things wouldn't matter to them...but I don't think I would date someone who was ugly and huge...its the way life is...idk if that made any sense I am just rambling.....so pretty much ummmm.....
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| 10/3/2008 8:50:18 PM |
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yus
Rochester, MN
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all ages young and old idc i need to know becuz my mind has been so scewed and messed up by so many guys that i just need a straight answer does the way a girl dresses matter? does the way she does her hair and make up change ur opion of her? are u that shallow that weight changes your opion of a person?
-Rach
looks don't matter to me at all...i know i know..im one in a million and all..but honestly its how i am..i know im only one person...but honestly i have to count for something ya know? If guys are only in it for the sex, or looks they really aren't worth your time....I work with a bunch of guys and all they do is look at women, and rate them as they are walking by.. It annoys me because its on the inside... I mean yeah i won't lie alot of them are beautiful women that walk by..but looks mean nothing to me...I go for the personality and whether we both can get along great! I hate men that treat women like they are things or a object.... I'm totally for the personality! Once you get to know a person, you see how beautiful they are not only on the outside but the inside as well...thats what i want out of a relationship anyway. Someone i can have a honest conversation with..someone i can be honest with, and just have fun with...there is a time and place for sex.. 2 people need to talk..so both feel comfortable.. so many things go into a relationship, and I'm one of those nice guys..but I do love women...but I also respect them for who they are....
YuS
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| 10/4/2008 2:05:07 AM |
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akog77
Minneapolis, MN
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It all depends on the person, most guys make this sort of comparison, if your healthy and fit this shows that you take good care of your body. If your talkin about looks, sure, most guys will want some one that they can be attracted to, (not barbie perfect 10's all around). But someone who is attractive and pretty and fit. From my point of view you have to be fit and pretty, but its the unique things (in personality and looks) that will stand out and set girls apart. So YES of course, like another person said before 90% of guys do and don't like to admit it, but its the truth. I wouldn't call it shallow though, its life.... ( and I dont think hair styles or make-up really make a difference, unless you dress slutty and extremely revealing or wear way too much eye shadow)...
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| 10/4/2008 2:47:14 AM |
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ownlife
Burnsville, MN
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Of course looks matter. Body language, health, clothing, can tell you a lot about a person! It's all part of that non-verbal communication.
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| 10/4/2008 3:00:18 AM |
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smugglersrun112
Byron, MN
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To some guys, looks do mater. It is in the male psyche to have visual representation of sexyness and or beauty. I am not saying this is for all guys but most. There have been many studies on this and the majority have been what I stated before. There are also guys that rely on personality and actions of the person to find out if they are a good match or not. But as I stated before, majority go on looks. Human sexuality is a tough subject that most people do not want to touch upon. It is acutally kind of a new subject, in the past 100 years or so. I do not think that how a person dresses or looks matters, it depends on what the person does and says that matters to me. If the person acts like a total a**hole, then they are not a match for me. If they act nice and kind and do things that will benefit themselves and others around them, then they are a match for me.
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| 10/4/2008 7:04:31 AM |
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scuffer
Saint Paul, MN
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wow-you need to unscrew your head....you be who you are-if no one likes it-tough!!
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| 10/4/2008 1:05:35 PM |
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frznterp
Saint Paul, MN
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Looks matter to everyone, male or female. But they are only what initially attracts people. Everything else is what determines how much chance a relationship has to last.
Don't let the guys you've dated get you down. Trust me at your age the guys are a lot more confused than you are. So my advice is not too worry too much about it, or put too much into finding Mr. Right. Let the guys catch up to you, and just sit back and realax and enjoy the ride until they do. 
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| 10/4/2008 5:25:34 PM |
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rach08
Lakeville, MN
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wow-you need to unscrew your head....you be who you are-if no one likes it-tough!!
I wasn't asking for like a personal life changing decison or anything I am going to be who I am and that's the way it is thnk u scuffer
but I just wanted to kno if the guys out there who can't look past the outside of a person and look at wats on the inside if they really don't consiider themselfs shallow?
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| 10/4/2008 6:46:12 PM |
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akog77
Minneapolis, MN
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I completely agree with frznterp that its not only guys, its women as well
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| 10/4/2008 7:35:51 PM |
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scuffer
Saint Paul, MN
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SURE ITS A 2 WAY STREET-HOWEVER....im not gonna go out with some greasey,unclean nasty slimeball....but if hes hefty,an clean an a decent man....no problem.....
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| 10/4/2008 7:40:31 PM |
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rach08
Lakeville, MN
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SURE ITS A 2 WAY STREET-HOWEVER....im not gonna go out with some greasey,unclean nasty slimeball....but if hes hefty,an clean an a decent man....no problem.....
AMEN
its all bout how the girl gets treated
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| 10/4/2008 7:44:53 PM |
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yus
Rochester, MN
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yup and i believe women should be treated with the most respect! They deserve that! I hate people that hit or abuse as well..those people are losers!
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| 10/4/2008 7:47:24 PM |
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scuffer
Saint Paul, MN
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i went on 1 date since being on this site-omg...the man was just a horrid little nasty married troll....didnt bathe,didnt shave,(had hair comin out of every hole in his body)
his clothes were nasty,wrinkled an stinkin,then i saw the wedding ring..i thought-poor woman....ICK....then i got stuck payin the bill....friggen turd...lmao-he then emailed me-said he wanted to hook up again...well i gave it to him with both barrels-that ended that....so ive really backed off the dateing thing on here-that was over a year ago...scarey shit man....
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| 10/4/2008 7:56:22 PM |
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artistheman
Arlington, MN
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So, you can treat us guys like crap? I think that is bs! Of course looks matter. I am not gonna be with someone I cannot look at!
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| 10/4/2008 8:06:45 PM |
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scuffer
Saint Paul, MN
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WHAT DO YOU MEAN TREAT YOU LIKE CRAP???....really-its all about being decent an clean...trust me-ive got alot of years on you guys....all of you posting in here....gosh you all got your wholeeeeee lives ahead of you-think about it-by time i was 22 i was married an had 2 kids-top wage back then-7.00 an hour...by time i was 23 i was divorced-workin 2 jobs-raisin my kids alone-let me tell ya-my ex hubby was nothin to look at-but he was a great guy in the beginning-but then-his drugs an alcohol-came before feeding his kids-the the abuse started-then the cheating-i quit-plain an simple-hes still the same 25 yrs later...but his wife puts up with it....not me.
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| 10/4/2008 8:13:30 PM |
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artistheman
Arlington, MN
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Rach said its all about how the girl is treated. Thats all. Like any race or sex there are losers in each group. I think thats why most of us are here. We are sick of meeting losers at the bar. There are a lot of options out here and you can actually get to know someone before you meet them, which is cool. As for people posting fake pics and crap like that, what a bunch of bs. They are ruining this for all the rest of us. I think this can be a very effective way of dating if people are honest.
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| 10/8/2008 12:57:09 PM |
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lavia
Saint Paul, MN
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| 10/8/2008 6:02:49 PM |
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cobra73
Minnetonka, MN
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"Rach asks, are u that shallow that weight changes your opinion of a person?"
So if a guy won't date a women who is over weight, that makes then shallow, according to the post, correct? Well if you don't have a physical attraction, you don't stand a Snowball chance in H E L L on having that relationship surviving long term.
I'm only 5'5 and can't tell how many times a woman on a dating site or in person has said no chance to dating me because they were either my height or taller.
People need a certain criteria in their mind set about who they want and very rarely does it change.
Final note, back when I was college, I learned of a study about beauty. Its amazing due to the fact many people believe beauty is taught. Well in this study (not sure how they selected) but anyways, there were approximately 5-10 what was perceived beautiful women and again perceive less then attractive women put into a nursery study, and as infants (yes, infants) were picked up by the various people. 4 out of 5 times the infants immediately stopped crying or fussing when approached and handled by the perceived attractive individual and the child fussed more when approached by the less perceived attractive one.
So are the infants shall?
And as for the overall question, yes to a certain extent the way a person dresses and presents them self makes a huge difference in how they are treated (unfortunately). Its a sad reality.
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| 10/9/2008 1:33:53 AM |
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allmymoods
Dickinson, ND
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I aggree with what is said above.
[Edited 10/9/2008 1:34:20 AM ]
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| 10/9/2008 6:24:15 PM |
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mnmatty2507
Owatonna, MN
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Honestly to me looks do matter but they are not totally number one in my eyes... I know alot of guys like it when the girl is hot and has that body all us guys want to have and she claims to be all that. Don't get me wrong I like it when the girl is hot,good looking and everything else but I've had my shares when they are I get treated like shit and all I meet them and we hangout and be friends and thats where that line was drawn. I like it when she has a good personality and is very friendly and outgoing and open minded with those good looks I'm not saying HOT HOT I am saying hot in her own ways and is sexy with them ways too. I know I am not the Hottest guy out there either but I am good looking,handsome and very friendly,outgoing,open minded and a family person too. I am adopted and have girls as friends and all but nothing to where it comes to going out and dating. So honestly to tell you the truth looks do matter but,its more whats inside that counts with the person you are with and if you have a shallow,bone headed not so friendly hot girl and only see her friends and not yours is kinda not what I think is right for a girlfriend I want a sexy,honest,outgoing,open minded family person and friendly gf more than anything with the looks to match
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| 10/13/2008 12:28:58 PM |
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marfull5
Eau Claire, WI
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I have to agree with this topic, Many men and women are shallow, but I don't feel that looks matter, I don't feel that race matters, I don't feel that the way a person dresses matters or their height. I am very short so that don't matter to me.
I only have a preference of Age, but sometimes it can be as young as you feel inside.
I know that sometimes I attract the older men, but I have found that many of them are just on here because their wives are not giving them enough in the bedroom.
I would have to say that Beauty comes within a person. You can be the world's ugliest person and be yet so beautiful. OR you could be the world's most beautiful person and be so UGLY inside.
So with that I say..Pick ME!
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| 10/13/2008 6:01:54 PM |
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leanandhard08
Saint Paul, MN
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so looks matter to the beholder. Some guys find BBWs attractive and that's what stimulates them, initially. Some women find black men attractive. Your mind is hard-wired to find a certain person attractive. The windows of what some people find attractive are narrower for some and wider for others. For some women a guy being emotionally and financially stable is as important as their looks. There is no universal definition of beauty that we can all agree upon.
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| 10/13/2008 7:20:41 PM |
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lisadomz
Burnsville, MN
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Wow. There seems to be a lot of opinions on this subject. I've been on both sides of the coin and found a man that can make me laugh, no matter what he looks like, is the more attractive guy. As far as attraction goes, of course to date someone you must find them attractive, whether it is their personality, looks or if your lucky a combination of both. As they say, don't always judge a book by the cover, or you'll never know what your missing. Good luck in your search for the right combination Rach!!
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| 10/13/2008 9:49:13 PM |
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mountainman7
Chattanooga, TN
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So, you can treat us guys like crap? I think that is bs! Of course looks matter. I am not gonna be with someone I cannot look at!
You better hope that someone isn't invisible then 
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| 10/13/2008 10:48:49 PM |
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lundprov
Minneapolis, MN
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I would just like a nice women to enjoy life with. Looks don't really matter as long as you are clean.
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| 10/14/2008 9:40:51 AM |
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rach08
Lakeville, MN
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completly agree tht person better b invisable well said
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| 10/14/2008 11:25:53 AM |
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rosemarylee
Little Falls, MN
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Ok Im going to be honest I have a few extra pounds and I didnt have to take out a loan to buy my clothes and because of that Iv been over looked more than once.But the way I see it is Im a good person with a big heart, and I deserve nothing less than that.
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| 10/15/2008 9:43:24 AM |
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teen4life
Saint Paul, MN
54, joined Oct. 2008
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Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but it is a biological thing. It's in the genes that men are wired to be visual. Therefore, men are very much concerned with looks. That's the bad news. The good news is that "good looking" is extremely subjective. A woman who to one man may not be attractive can be attractive to another man. Remember, most men are not looking for the next runway model they are looking for even just attractive enough. There is a Grand Canyon divide between a 10 and a 5 to borderline ugly and an ocean of wiggle room so roll on with confidence girlfreind.
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| 10/15/2008 11:17:41 PM |
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akog77
Minneapolis, MN
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Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but it is a biological thing. It's in the genes that men are wired to be visual. Therefore, men are very much concerned with looks. That's the bad news. The good news is that "good looking" is extremely subjective. A woman who to one man may not be attractive can be attractive to another man. Remember, most men are not looking for the next runway model they are looking for even just attractive enough. There is a Grand Canyon divide between a 10 and a 5 to borderline ugly and an ocean of wiggle room so roll on with confidence girlfreind.
Well said
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| 10/17/2008 12:28:49 AM |
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rednorse25
Minneapolis, MN
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Of course looks matter. And its not just guys, its women too. Pretty much all women have had the "tall, dark and HANDSOME" ideal since you were teenagers. But some of us are older now and the handsome or beautiful ideal doesn't seem as important anymore and what we really want is someone who will be there for us, grow old with us and maintain the same qualities we fell in love with at the beginning. Because after all, looks do fade, but its also the first thing we notice about the opposite sex; how attractive they are. No one looks over to the other side of the bar and says, "Check out the personality on her!" Doesn't work that way. Yes, looks matter.
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| 10/19/2008 7:19:45 PM |
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westola
Milaca, MN
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I dont care what anyone says looks matter to a extent if you dont find anything about that person attractive and cant stand to look at them hows your relationship ever going to work.
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| 10/19/2008 9:33:07 PM |
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scharffbillig
Pine City, MN
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i dont judge women based on looks at all..
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| 10/19/2008 10:19:20 PM |
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rach08
Lakeville, MN
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I dont care what anyone says looks matter to a extent if you dont find anything about that person attractive and cant stand to look at them hows your relationship ever going to work.
maybe that persons invisable... good luck with that one champ!
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| 10/20/2008 5:33:40 AM |
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lucky7708
Minneapolis, MN
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I remember the story of The Beauty And The Beast always touched me.
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| 10/20/2008 10:48:14 AM |
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westola
Milaca, MN
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maybe that persons invisable... good luck with that one champ!
Normally at least one person likes something about you. You just have to find the right person and thats the hard part.
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| 10/22/2008 6:24:07 PM |
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yadayada
Worthington, MN
47, joined Oct. 2007
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well maybe its just me but i like a woman to have all her teeth.
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| 10/22/2008 8:17:56 PM |
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frznterp
Saint Paul, MN
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well maybe its just me but i like a woman to have all her teeth.
No hockey women for you, eh? 
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| 10/22/2008 9:56:20 PM |
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rach08
Lakeville, MN
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well maybe its just me but i like a woman to have all her teeth.
Who are u sayin doesnt have all her teeth?
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| 10/22/2008 10:02:39 PM |
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daisypetal2007
Copperas Cove, TX
41, joined Jun. 2008
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It really has to do with what a person thinks is beauty. Some people like big eyes and some like a skinny butt. And truly does what other people think really matter that much?! If you love yourself and are happy with yourself it does not matter what others think. Enjoy life and let them come to you. A positive attitude is always sexy
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| 10/25/2008 5:05:14 PM |
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2k7dude
Hibbing, MN
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I would have to say yes... Without a doubt. Same with women, too. Let me tell you something, though. I am only going to go back 4 girlfriends here.... Sadly, I've had too many... lol. Anyway... Out of the 4, 1 had a bunch of piercings, but she was still rather pretty. The other 3 were very pretty... Very pretty indeed. 1 wound up putting on some weight because she had many mental issues, one of which was a type of Narcolepsy. She slept all the time... But she was what you might call "curvy". That was cool... I like curvy. The last 2 were athletic in build. Here's the problem... I'm not with any of them, and there's a reason for that... personality. "Beauty is skin deep, but ugly goes right to the bone." First and foremost... Personality! Well, I like to see a nice smile first. Without that, I'm probably not going to be considering anything more than a friend. Yes, teeth are important. If a woman is a 'Hockey Chick', well, I guess I'd have to think about that if and when it comes up.
I can't speak for everyone, but for me, personality is half your score. That and spelling. Very important to me.
Also, if a person doesn't take care of themselves... wow... The things I like to do in the bedroom can NOT be done if she doesn't shower... It's a combination of so many things, but in the end, to answer your question... Yes, looks do matter to all of us at some level.
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| 10/26/2008 5:10:11 PM |
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steve_60
South Saint Paul, MN
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looks don't matter. but what attracts a person to another person is different some guys might think you are drop dead gorgeous and other guys might think you are a plain jane. It all comes down to a persons perception of attractiveness does that make any sense???
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| 10/26/2008 5:52:26 PM |
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nerull
Minneapolis, MN
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I would say yes as well BUT like most others have said women are just as guilty as the guys are. now believe you me i could go on and on about this subject for hours possibly days, everyone is guilty of turning another person down due to looks or physical appearance of some sort, and saying physical attraction means nothing to you is a blantant lie cause there aint a single person who would willingly date a 800 pound chick with 26 kids that hasnt showered in 4 months and has dog tags with the name Big Bertha on them JUST cause she has a cute small and likes movies same goes for you girls. Now ima stop before i get my happy a** in trouble lol sorry for the little ramble
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| 10/26/2008 6:06:23 PM |
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scuffer
Saint Paul, MN
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naw your right....mainly bout the shower an kids ooooofda....we all have our limits....but steve your right also.....
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| 10/28/2008 10:09:02 PM |
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rattlehead10
Burnsville, MN
45, joined Oct. 2008
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If a woman looks like Medusa or in other words like Margret Thatcher, I will not even want to try a relationship with her. I'd rather date Brett Micheal's from Poison back in his 80's make up days. He looked pretty hot like a women, at least better looking then Thatcher! "Dude looks like a Lady!" LOL! Maybe I should see a shrink?? NO WAY!!!! I'd even scare them too!
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| 10/29/2008 1:19:20 AM |
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grumpeolmn
Rochester, MN
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Wish there was a magic answer to this question on both sides of the fence. Personally, I never ask out a barbie doll, way out of my league. Weight, well lets get real here, I've been up and down, same deal if they are heavier than me, no if I'm to big for them, then I don't ask either. Biggest thing is if you do what you do, don't expect them to fall in love with your life, and if you're happy doing what you do, why should you change to make them happy? Sure answered a lot of questions there didn't I? guess I'll keep lookin too All I know is the couples, that really last in this world have something in common, and it has nothing to do with appearrance.
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| 10/29/2008 1:33:11 AM |
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speeder1989
Anoka, MN
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yes and no me personally i don't really mind looks at all as long as the girl is clean and doesn't really have greasey hair I'm for the girl i mean i dated a girl a few years ago and it was the worst couple of months of my life I'm a clean freak
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| 10/29/2008 6:50:43 AM |
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rach08
Lakeville, MN
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Wish there was a magic answer to this question on both sides of the fence. Personally, I never ask out a barbie doll, way out of my league. Weight, well lets get real here, I've been up and down, same deal if they are heavier than me, no if I'm to big for them, then I don't ask either. Biggest thing is if you do what you do, don't expect them to fall in love with your life, and if you're happy doing what you do, why should you change to make them happy? Sure answered a lot of questions there didn't I? guess I'll keep lookin too All I know is the couples, that really last in this world have something in common, and it has nothing to do with appearrance.
amennnn i lik to hear that
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| 10/30/2008 7:13:01 AM |
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iammeg
Duluth, MN
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It is true that the majority of men will first be attracted to the external shell. Over time some of them do learn after heartbreak that the shallow facade counts for little in a true relationship.
On the other hand the majority of women will first be attracted something external also: women tend to be more concerned about his earning potential, his finances, his car, etc. They too over time and heartbreak eventually learn about what really matters in a true relationship.
In a true relationship what matters is the heart and soul of a person. Are their personal values compatible with mine? Do we enjoy spending time doing similiar things? Is there trust between us?
Not saying that one personal value is right or wrong ... but that having extremely different values can cause great dischord in any relationship.
The External does matter in the initial attraction ... but then the real substance of the relationship should develop.
[Edited 10/30/2008 7:13:53 AM ]
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| 11/27/2008 12:25:25 AM |
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carthun18
Saint Paul, MN
34, joined Nov. 2008
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Looks do matter to women and men alike there has to be physical attraction no matter what. thats what starts everything if you seen two men standing by the bar and one was butt ugly and the other could pass for a model wich one would you chose to talk to. It after you get to know some one is when it really matters. Guys are the same way. But thats not saying looks me everything but it does start the whole process.
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| 11/27/2008 9:33:39 AM |
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tarrant220
Saint Paul, MN
34, joined May. 2008
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Whoever says looks don't matter is, no offense, a liar. There HAS to be a physical attraction there SOMEWHERE for things to click. Someone can be the coolest person in the world with the best personality around, but if they are butt ugly things usually aren't going to work. Same goes if you flip those around as well.
There needs to be a balance and for me personally, personality is something that can make a person more physically attractive in my eyes, but there still needs to be something there to build that opinion off of.
This is usually the case with most people, it dosen't make them shallow nor does it make them not nice people, it simply makes them normal.
Granted some people value an outer package more then the inner, those people who go to the extreme we call shallow....the trick is, is to find someone who balances them out evenly.
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| 4/25/2009 6:39:47 PM |
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septjan
Lake Benton, MN
55, joined Jan. 2009
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i think that a man or a women should look there best when they go out on a date more and more we should try to keep our self in shape. not only for looks but health reasons.
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| 4/29/2009 11:35:44 PM |
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letusing
Saint Paul, MN
61, joined Feb. 2009
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To some; i refur to it as EyE candy everyone's looking for something on here and we each have our ido's its cool though I just like a man to treat me well and spoil me with lot's of TLC!and TCB yahoooooooo!and in return i shall spoil him to. im not a sz #2 but i have a good heart thanks nice posty Mr!Happy hunting to all!letusing
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| 5/5/2009 11:03:41 PM |
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sincere_45
Milaca, MN
51, joined May. 2009
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for things to click. Someone can be the coolest person in the world with the best personality around, but if they are butt ugly things usually aren't going to work. Same goes if you flip those around as well.
There has to be some physical attraction,otherwise what would spark your intrest in that person in the first place? If a woman doesn't make an effort to take care of herself,and has no self respect about her appearance,what is she going to bring into the relationship?
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| 5/7/2009 7:04:26 PM |
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dogjohnheil
Minneapolis, MN
59, joined Sep. 2008
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i think and notice seeing a pic has a lot to say. but haveing to put on a face to be someone no, how can you paint or dress your heart 
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| 5/7/2009 10:34:03 PM |
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dizzymaiden
Cohasset, MN
49, joined Apr. 2009
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yea i think people are stuck on looks, many (not all) want someone they can show off and it's sad to say. i'm glad the Lord loves me for who i am, flaws and all i still am perfect in his eyes and ya know love, his eyes are the only ones that truly matter *S besides alot of perfect looking people are so insecure and scared that one day their looks will be gone. who knows just be content in who you are love *S plus i'm a chubby girl and love it *L 
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| 5/9/2009 7:29:25 AM |
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napatodd03
Hector, MN
51, joined May. 2008
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while it shouldn't be the case..we are a very visual race. And looks are the first input we have of one another. That goes for men and women..weather we want to admit it or not. So, yes, if you dress to extremes, go the goth route or some other 'personal' statement(piercings and tattoos)you may very well chase some very nice people away. I personally try not to judge the book by the cover...height, weight, and such as I have been prejudged many times on looks
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| 5/21/2009 9:21:38 PM |
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letusing
Saint Paul, MN
61, joined Feb. 2009
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while it shouldn't be the case..we are a very visual race. And looks are the first input we have of one another. That goes for men and women..weather we want to admit it or not. So, yes, if you dress to extremes, go the goth route or some other 'personal' statement(piercings and tattoos)you may very well chase some very nice people away. I personally try not to judge the book by the cover...height, weight, and such as I have been prejudged many times on looks
Go on with ya! bad self A M E N! now! this gentleman makes sence darn good since i here ya1 LETUSING!,,, 
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| 5/21/2009 9:23:58 PM |
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ryan445
Fargo, ND
41, joined Mar. 2009
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I think that probably at least 90 % of the guys and just as many, if not more women would have to answer yes to all of your questions whether they want to admit it or not. Even if they say no I'm thinking that it is still subconsciously involved in their opinions and decisions. Most people don't like to admit it, but a great deal of their opinions are based on superficial qualities.
As far as people you "don't know well or total strangers" he's a 100% correct..
when you've gotten to know someone and begin to care for them even a little bit, then "no", at that point gaining or shedding weight, ect., ect. no longer matters that much.
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